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Dec 31, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 585 · Topics: 81
Ok we've been together for almost 4 years and now engaged. We have a beautiful little 6week old Aqua baby girl. Everything is Good but Scorpio is quiet now. He doesn't communicate with me like we used to. He works at night and sleeps during the day but he worked nights before the baby was born and we still communicated really well. Sometimes he seems distant. When i ask him whats wrong he always says nothing and asks me why do i always assume something is wrong,...He says he talks to me more than anyone of his friends, family and his employees at work... my question to you scorpios... are you quiet for the most part or talkative?
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Dec 31, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 585 · Topics: 81
Thanks for your responses, i guess i will back away and let him deal with what he needs to deal with, either this is a (quiet) side that i have never seen about him or somethings are on his mind. You're right, the more i ask scorpio doesn't matter how different i ask him i get the same answer and irritation, so i'm backing away.
ScorpioTiger, are you "Elliot of Most High Scorpios?"
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Dec 31, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 585 · Topics: 81
correction- "Elliot of the High Scorpios's" this dude was one of the most intelligent Scorpios on dxp
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Jan 27, 2010Comments: 0 · Posts: 1236 · Topics: 58
It's the baby.
No one else wanted to say it, but I think it is. But don't worry the child is a good thing.
Here's what I think is happening: six weeks isn't enough time for the fact that someone's LIFE depends on you to sink in in a guy's head.
Don't talk to him an awful lot about domestic stuff. Don't fret. Don't panic. That'll only create more distance.
Think back to before you had the baby and carry on as normal like things were then.
It's got to be you, him and the baby, not the wife/girlfriend and the baby like most new dads will see things (and use that as a form of distance).
So, you know, taking it into consideration that you're a new mother yourself, try to maintain a calm for yourself, your guy and your baby.
Scorpios CAN BE quiet, but see this for what it really is, which is a man realising that he's living for someone else now. Not just himself.
And remember: babies are intuitive. A screaming baby will keep screaming if it feels you panicking just as a child will want to find about the things tha daddy and mommy hide from him/her.
By the way, I could be cmpletely WRONG about EVERYTHING I've said, but the aqua at the end of your name gives me a wee bit of confidence that you won't dismiss me because I'm male (and don't even have kids myself).
Just don't panic, give love to those who need it (your child and his/her daddy) and f**k what the neighbours/family have to say.
Good luck.
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Jan 27, 2010Comments: 0 · Posts: 1236 · Topics: 58
Er, by the way Blue Aqua, you might not want to go over to the aqua board... I, er, kinda didn't know the post was this serious (baby and all) so I, er, um... PERSONALISED it... ye-ah.
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Mar 13, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 764 · Topics: 33
Please support him more. I'm not sure about the planet transit at the moment because I feel very tense inside and I want to disconnect with every one around me. I know I'll be driving my Aqua boyfriend crazy soon with my distant attitude but honestly I love him and I think he will understand it.
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Jan 28, 2010Comments: 0 · Posts: 6890 · Topics: 172
i agree, it's the baby. you were with him for four years, you said you've never seen him behave this way before so you have to ask yourself, what's changed? you have a baby.
is it his first child? he may be overwhelmed, scared, confused...
if he said he's fine, i'm not sure i would push it. the baby is only 6 weeks old. let him adjust.
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Mar 28, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 363 · Topics: 21
Another approach to this. He could be feeling a bit 'neglected' because of the baby. You now have to share your time. Sometimes I myself don't like to share.
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Jan 27, 2010Comments: 0 · Posts: 1236 · Topics: 58
Aaaaaaand the thread is hijacked lol