Reconciling with a scorpio

It's been two months now since I stood up a scorpio guy cause he made me angry because of his lousy attitude. He talked to me angrily and I explained why I was angry.
We see each other regularly at this dance venue and after that incident we were both ignoring each other. He ignored me first (cause I assume he expected that I'd try to make up for it) and then he tried to flirt. I ignored the flirting cause I'm tired of his games.
Now I'm not angry anymore and I feel a bit bad that it ended in a bitter way. We were both angry and I don't really like the tension which still exists. Our relationship was mainly flirting and dancing and we just went out once (which was pleasant) and after that it's been all stress. We're both too stubborn.
Anyway, now I'm thinking to talk to him and apoligize if I offended him or acted childishly for no reason. What do you think? Is this an unnecessary move? I want to get him out of my system.

Yes, I think I'll approach him. At least for my own sake.
I also dislike the tension.

yes emeraldgem (guility)....I'm hopeless, I know.
I think I managed to make him believe that I'm not interested. But I must admit I feel a but sad about it.
I seem to have this pattern and am always able to make the other person believe I don't care. I feel sad in a way cause I wish I could express how I feel rather than fight the feeling.

'I hope you're not always so obsessed with people you know so casually.'
Never thought of it that way, but this seems my romantic pattern.

I guess I need Dr. Phil.
I don't think I would throw it away in someone who would care less. I never did, but I have wasted alot of energy and time.

Thanks for your thoughts emeraldgem. It's making me think of another prespective.

i feel you bestwoman....i think we are so in love with the idea of being in love

bestwoman,

Go ahead and approach him. What do you have to lose? If he's receptive, good. If he isn't, so be it. It's done. You will have cleared your conscience and hopefully will be done with him. Personally, I don't see anything you've done wrong to have to apologize to him for. You simply decided that you will not play any games with him. If that offended him and you want to clear the air on that point, then tell him you thought there was a connection, wanted there to be a connection, however, he didn't seem to agree, or at least his actions didn't encourage you think so. If he wants to discuss further, fine. If he doesn't, you've done all you're going to and can keep the door open for future discussion and/or have no hard feelings. Keep your dignity and keep smiling.

'Go ahead and approach him. What do you have to lose? If he's receptive, good. If he isn't, so be it. It's done. You will have cleared your conscience and hopefully will be done with him.'

I do want to do that, but I haven't decided what I will tell him. I just thought to tell him that I think this tension is not pleasant and that I hope he doesn't have bitter feelings towards me. That if I offended him, it was because of miscommunication and that I had no intentions to do so.
Then I WILL not flirt with him, cause this is usually hs approach and I WILL not call him. I'll just try to be friendly when I see him.

bestwoman,

I know you will work this out for yourself. But imo, all you have to do is tell him what is on your mind. How did you offend him? You will just not tolerate somebody playing with your head or your heart. I'm guessing you still like him (and that's ok!) or you really wouldn't care what he thinks about you. You've done nothing wrong. If you misinterpreted his actions towards you, then ok, now you know. But don't be afraid to approach him if this is really bothering you. Look at this way, so you were wrong (which maybe you weren't, but you're past that now), you're wiser about it now and won't be caught off guard anymore. If he starts giving you dubious signals that confuse you, then in your friendly, tactful manner, put him on the spot and get clarity right then. Don't lose the moment thinking you may figure it out later or get another chance. This way, you will have let him know that you won't be confused again, because he'll see that you aren't playing his game.

'If he starts giving you dubious signals that confuse you, then in your friendly, tactful manner, put him on the spot and get clarity right then. Don't lose the moment thinking you may figure it out later or get another chance.'

Yes, this is what I want to do. I am not afraid to approach, but maybe not sure what will come out of my mouth. I just need closure to this issue (in my mind). I will only listen if he talks clearly and explains how he's thinking (which I doubt he'll do). If he starts playing around, then I'll know its over for me cause in my mind I know I have given him the chance.

I phoned him. He knew I was going to phone cause I had lost his number, so I emailed telling him that I wanted to call him.
He was o.k. giving me the 'cool' attitude. I did some small talk and then I told him that I wanted to clear things since there has been tension lately. He said 'what tension?'. I told him that we both have been ignoring each other and that I didn't like it that way and it stupid. So he told me that he didn't feel any tension expect when we danced (cause I resisted being close to him), but otherwise he felt nothing. He said theat he stopped feeling at all. He said it must be me.
So I told that's what I felt and since he's cool and has no hard feelings then that's great. He told me I was 'too sensitive'.
After that he mentioned that he was going dancing and implied that I should go. I told him I had other commitments. Then he told me that next time he sees me I should add some weight cause he wants to feel my softness. I just ignored this talk. He also tried to talk towards sexy talk cause he just got out of the shower, but I then I opened the subject about the tension.
I think this guy has serious issues. He pretending to be 'cool', not have a serious conversation, and trying to talk sexually in an unsuitable time, and then implying to meet him and dance. I thought it was a bit strange. Or he just want to have fun, but I am the serious conservative type (and it shows).
I feel good I tried to talk to him (even though I got nothing out of it), but at least now I know I gave it a shot and tried to speak my mind.

"I am not afraid to approach, but maybe not sure what will come out of my mouth."

bestwoman,

Maybe you shouldn't put too much thought into what you are going to say. You know what is in your heart and on your mind. Just be yourself. Let the chips fall where they will.

oh, looks like we were posting at the same time, so mine is answering your previous post.

I just read your last post. Good. You got something out of it. So he says he didn't feel any tension, who cares? You're feeling better and that's the point. He's knows you are the serious conservative type, BW, I have no doubt about that. He may just want you to lighten up and likes to tease you. It may be harmless, and the only way to know is to get to know him -- if he lets you and you can deal with the journey. Scorpios are very serious as well, but they do have a way of throwing you off track if they don't want you to know that side of them.

For what it's worth, I'm proud of you. :::smile:::

Thanks pathfinder.
At least now I know if he approaches me again, I'll just tell him no thanks.
He either doesn't care and is superficial (which I don't want) or he has personal issues (he has to deal with that himself).
A bit disappointed, but I have made up my mind.

Atlantic Myst, he has a lonnnggg wayyyy before even coming close.

lol, Atlantic, one-night stands may not be hard to do, but keeping him is something else.

bestwoman, one thing maybe to keep in mind--there is nothing superficial about a scorpio man. They can be comedic, but they are not shallow. Only if you REALLY are indifferent to him would I say that you can resist him if he is truly interested in having you. Whether it?s for the long or short term, his interest will be apparent and focused. I don?t mean that just because he is a scorp that he is irresistible, but generally speaking. Lots of us have trouble resisting a man we have been emotionally involved with (doesn?t have to mean intimate with), whether or not they returned our affections in the way we desire. So regardless of his issues, or nonchalance, don?t play with fire, ?fire? = YOUR own heart and emotions if he is not offering what you want. There?s nothing wrong with NOT putting yourself in a situation you know you can?t play with. But it looks to me that you will guard your heart and with your mindset, you won't go wrong.