Scorp/Cap - Can it work?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by scorpchick76 on Friday, January 13, 2012 and has 8 replies.
Just wondering if anyone has any insight into this pairing...
me - nov 3 1976
him - dec 24 1982
we've been getting along well when we're together and I can tell that he likes me though from everything I've read he's exhibiting typical capricorn behaviour and saying that work comes first and that he can never be enough for me (even though I haven't asked him for anything other than spending time with him having fun) though his actions betray his words... he's away a lot which doesn't bother me but I'm wondering if it's actually possible to get a capricorn to let down his walls over time... any input would be appreciated...
me - nov 3 1976
him - dec 24 1982
we've been getting along well when we're together and I can tell that he likes me though from everything I've read he's exhibiting typical capricorn behaviour and saying that work comes first and that he can never be enough for me (even though I haven't asked him for anything other than spending time with him having fun) though his actions betray his words... he's away a lot which doesn't bother me but I'm wondering if it's actually possible to get a capricorn to let down his walls over time... any input would be appreciated...
Why do walls have to be brought down, at all?
If your intentions are more than just spending fun time, then perhaps this should be revealed to him, so that you will come off true, rather than a manipulator.
It seems that people (mainly women) have a hard time in just letting it flow, letting nature takes it course ... there is always an agenda to push the man, though the opposite is presented to the man in order to trick him.
It's a no-wonder why men are so elusive ... why not just not think about what you can gain from him, and actually be that fun person you are presenting to him to see where the chips fall?
If your intentions are more than just spending fun time, then perhaps this should be revealed to him, so that you will come off true, rather than a manipulator.
It seems that people (mainly women) have a hard time in just letting it flow, letting nature takes it course ... there is always an agenda to push the man, though the opposite is presented to the man in order to trick him.
It's a no-wonder why men are so elusive ... why not just not think about what you can gain from him, and actually be that fun person you are presenting to him to see where the chips fall?
P-Angel... I've browsed these boards for quite some time and I've always wondered why your replies have to be so confrontational and assuming. I'm not manipulating him in any way...
I'm not into playing games... in fact from what I've read about this combo it's always hard to start because both are afraid to say what they feel so I let him know first... in a very non-confrontational way that I liked him and that I want to have fun with him when we can together (he's out of town a lot and very dedicated to his work) and asked that he not push me away (which he's admitted to doing in the past when things started to get too real) and in return offered to be more open with him... I don't demand any more of his time than he has to give and when we are together it's great I'm just wondering if there is ever going to be a chance that he actually lets me in rather than keeping me an arms length away even though I can know he likes me... he loves to cook for me and hang out and while we've kissed we haven't slept together yet...
He is so worried as coming off as selfish and of me getting hurt because in the past he was apparently deemed not good enough by others and he's holding on to this in a sense that he can never be enough for me (even though I've asked for nothing from him)
I don't know - I'm trusting my instincts that we're moving forward slowly but in a good way but then there's that tiny part that wonders maybe I'm reading it all wrong...
btw - I'm beyond games - spent way too much of my youth immersed in them (I was an expert I fully admit) but now I'm just tired of hiding/ of not saying what I feel... I can see the progress I've made after many years of introspection... not all scorpios are damaged as these boards seem to indicate, some of us learn from our pasts.
elle - what's the compatibility with two aries moons? how does that effect us? (I don't have his time of birth u
I'm not into playing games... in fact from what I've read about this combo it's always hard to start because both are afraid to say what they feel so I let him know first... in a very non-confrontational way that I liked him and that I want to have fun with him when we can together (he's out of town a lot and very dedicated to his work) and asked that he not push me away (which he's admitted to doing in the past when things started to get too real) and in return offered to be more open with him... I don't demand any more of his time than he has to give and when we are together it's great I'm just wondering if there is ever going to be a chance that he actually lets me in rather than keeping me an arms length away even though I can know he likes me... he loves to cook for me and hang out and while we've kissed we haven't slept together yet...
He is so worried as coming off as selfish and of me getting hurt because in the past he was apparently deemed not good enough by others and he's holding on to this in a sense that he can never be enough for me (even though I've asked for nothing from him)
I don't know - I'm trusting my instincts that we're moving forward slowly but in a good way but then there's that tiny part that wonders maybe I'm reading it all wrong...
btw - I'm beyond games - spent way too much of my youth immersed in them (I was an expert I fully admit) but now I'm just tired of hiding/ of not saying what I feel... I can see the progress I've made after many years of introspection... not all scorpios are damaged as these boards seem to indicate, some of us learn from our pasts.
elle - what's the compatibility with two aries moons? how does that effect us? (I don't have his time of birth u
updated with birth places and *my* birth time but not his
Sun Scorpio 11.29
Moon Aries 6.52
Mercury Scorpio 9.14
Venus Sagittarius 17.06
Mars Scorpio 17.51
Jupiter Taurus 28.03 R
Saturn Leo 16.20
Uranus Scorpio 7.44
Neptune Sagittarius 12.32
Pluto Libra 12.45
Lilith Taurus 11.01
Asc node Scorpio 3.30
Sun Capricorn 1.55
Moon Aries 7.24
Mercury Capricorn 19.56
Venus Capricorn 14.06
Mars Aquarius 10.48
Jupiter Scorpio 29.36
Saturn Scorpio 2.19
Uranus Sagittarius 6.30
Neptune Sagittarius 26.58
Pluto Libra 29.05
Lilith Capricorn 20.43
Asc node Cancer 4.10
Sun Scorpio 11.29
Moon Aries 6.52
Mercury Scorpio 9.14
Venus Sagittarius 17.06
Mars Scorpio 17.51
Jupiter Taurus 28.03 R
Saturn Leo 16.20
Uranus Scorpio 7.44
Neptune Sagittarius 12.32
Pluto Libra 12.45
Lilith Taurus 11.01
Asc node Scorpio 3.30
Sun Capricorn 1.55
Moon Aries 7.24
Mercury Capricorn 19.56
Venus Capricorn 14.06
Mars Aquarius 10.48
Jupiter Scorpio 29.36
Saturn Scorpio 2.19
Uranus Sagittarius 6.30
Neptune Sagittarius 26.58
Pluto Libra 29.05
Lilith Capricorn 20.43
Asc node Cancer 4.10
"saying that work comes first and that he can never be enough for me"
He feels this way and said this for a reason. Listen to what he tells you, regardless of his actions. He's not going to change his mind on this.
He feels this way and said this for a reason. Listen to what he tells you, regardless of his actions. He's not going to change his mind on this.
Posted by lnana04
"saying that work comes first and that he can never be enough for me"
He feels this way and said this for a reason. Listen to what he tells you, regardless of his actions. He's not going to change his mind on this.
Isn't that the opposite of what is typical - actions speak louder than words? He cares for me... and he shows me without words... he's been independent for so long that it seems like it's his protection (speaking as a scorp I recognize this mechanism well)... he's just so worried about *me* that I'm not sure he knows what he wants or what he deserves - it almost seems like he has this deep rooted - I don't *deserve* anyone mentality.. who knows... he's gone for a while so I'll have patience and see what happens - from everything I've read though he seems completely cap through and through...
anyone have insight into our two aries moons?
Posted by scorpchick76Posted by lnana04
"saying that work comes first and that he can never be enough for me"
He feels this way and said this for a reason. Listen to what he tells you, regardless of his actions. He's not going to change his mind on this.
Isn't that the opposite of what is typical - actions speak louder than words? He cares for me... and he shows me without words... he's been independent for so long that it seems like it's his protection (speaking as a scorp I recognize this mechanism well)... he's just so worried about *me* that I'm not sure he knows what he wants or what he deserves - it almost seems like he has this deep rooted - I don't *deserve* anyone mentality.. who knows... he's gone for a while so I'll have patience and see what happens - from everything I've read though he seems completely cap through and through...
anyone have insight into our two aries moons?click to expand
Actions may speak louder than words with some, but this is a Cap and if he's telling you something it doesn't mean ignore it just because he's being nice. I'm sure he cares for you, Caps care for everybody(little secret), especially those that manage to get close. I just don't want you to mistake this care for something more or get too caught up in his "potential." Whatever his deep rooted mentality/insecurity is, is something he'll have to get over on his own.
Posted by oldskoolflavor
life's a journey .. i'll let you find out
it seems like in the past this might have been true but recently... not so much - where are these people hiding?
actually - I really only want *this* cap to be all over me... gah - I hate waiting (typical scorp - heh!)
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