Scorpio 360

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yourmoonbaby
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Hi all-

So I have been seeing this Scorpio man for a year and half. We met through mutual friends but the relationship has always been romantic and never friendly. In fact, he told me he will just be "just my friend" because he has too many feelings for me. Anyway, we have yet to become official due to a variety of reasons (long distance, career changes, relocation and past relationships). The hesitance was mostly on my part because I had vocalized that I was still not over the 4 year relationship I had recently gotten out of at the time. There was a lot of risk involved in starting something new and I wasn't ready to make anything official yet. My Scorpio struggled with that (obviously) and always pushed me to get over my ex and be together with him. From the first day I met my Scorpio, he told me that he loved me, wanted to marry me and requested that I moved to his city to give the relationship a real shot. For a very long time, I continued to push him away--not because I didn't love him, but because I felt like his intensity was pulling me out of my crab-like shell so quickly. And I wasn't ready for it yet.

Our relationship has had a lot of "break ups" due to the frustration of being so far apart and me not being ready to commit. However, after our hiccups we always come back to each other to apologize and admit how much we love each other and don't want to let a connection like this go. It seemed like every fight was a test and only made us stronger after. Eventually I got over my past relationships and we knew that the only way we could make things work is if I would relocate--which he had been asking me to do since day one. In the spring, I decided that it was time to take things seriously and I finally agreed to begin job searching in the city he lived. I told him that essentially we had to sh*t or get off the pot when it came to our relationship. We had to get out of the limbo we were in, otherwise, we would begin to hold each other back from letting anyone else in our lives. My Scorpio interpreted this as an ultimatum (my fault) and he got cold feet. He started to push me away and said that moving wasn't what was best for me and my career. Essentially, he ended things but did it in a very confusing way. He was emotionally distraught over the fall out. He told me he cried and he loved me and wanted to marry me someday--but right now he just wasn't mature enough to be he man that I deserved. He said he would feel guilty if I moved solely just
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to be with him and he still lived his life as a man-child. He voiced that his greatest fear in life is growing up, so anything having to do with that (relationships, moving, marriage, house) all scare him to death. He said that I'm way out of his league and when me moving actually became a reality he realized that he is not the best thing for me right now. Mind you--he still contacts me and lets me know he loves me, no girl will ever replace me, and he will find me in the future so that he can marry me.

I'm confused and very upset at his behavior. Although, part of me just thinks its karma and he turned the tables on me after I was scared to commit. I??ve tried out to reach out in a kind and understanding way to let him know he is a positive influence in my life and I do want him to remain a part of it. I told him the only reason i pushed for a relationship was because I thought that was what HE always wanted--and out of a fear of losing him I was willing to make a sacrifice and move for him. Lately he has been really quiet and it doesn't seem like he wants me to be a part of his life. I think he is finally done. It kinda feels like I got punkd?? haha.

Also--I guess this is a 180 not a 360 🙂
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yourmoonbaby
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So what do you think...? What would make a scorpio man go from 100% intensity of wanting to be together and then getting cold feet? And why would he lead me on for so long? Do you think his excuse of not being "good enough" is just a cop-out so he can remain single? Is this all another scorpio —test— Any insight helps. It pains me to let a connection like this go but I don't want to seem desperate by continually reaching out if he's done. The strangest part is that he tells me, my family, his friends and other girls that he still loves me and will never get over me. Sometimes I think his brain is messed up.
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Hi all-

So I have been seeing this Scorpio man for a year and half. We met through mutual friends but the relationship has always been romantic and never friendly. In fact, he told me he will just be "just my friend" because he has too many feelings for me. Anyway, we have yet to become official due to a variety of reasons (long distance, career changes, relocation and past relationships). The hesitance was mostly on my part because I had vocalized that I was still not over the 4 year relationship I had recently gotten out of at the time. There was a lot of risk involved in starting something new and I wasn't ready to make anything official yet. My Scorpio struggled with that (obviously) and always pushed me to get over my ex and be together with him. From the first day I met my Scorpio, he told me that he loved me, wanted to marry me and requested that I moved to his city to give the relationship a real shot. For a very long time, I continued to push him away--not because I didn't love him, but because I felt like his intensity was pulling me out of my crab-like shell so quickly. And I wasn't ready for it yet.

Our relationship has had a lot of "break ups" due to the frustration of being so far apart and me not being ready to commit. However, after our hiccups we always come back to each other to apologize and admit how much we love each other and don't want to let a connection like this go. It seemed like every fight was a test and only made us stronger after. Eventually I got over my past relationships and we knew that the only way we could make things work is if I would relocate--which he had been asking me to do since day one. In the spring, I decided that it was time to take things seriously and I finally agreed to begin job searching in the city he lived. I told him that essentially we had to sh*t or get off the pot when it came to our relationship. We had to get out of the limbo we were in, otherwise, we would begin to hold each other back from letting anyone else in our lives. My Scorpio interpreted this as an ultimatum (my fault) and he got cold feet. He started to push me away and said that moving wasn't what was best for me and my career. Essentially, he ended things but did it in a very confusing way. He was emotionally distraught over the fall out. He told me he cried and he loved me and wanted to marry me someday--but right now he just w
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Sorry--guess a simplified question would be why would a scorp pressure you into commitment and relocating only to change his mind when it becomes a possible reality?



Because you HAVEN'T relocated yet. Back up the "shit or get off the pot" WITHOUT the ultimatum, get a job, make the move.

ACTIONS...and nothing less. Most Scorpio's see actions as the real thing.
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Posted by yourmoonbaby
Sorry--guess a simplified question would be why would a scorp pressure you into commitment and relocating only to change his mind when it becomes a possible reality?



Because you HAVEN'T relocated yet. Back up the "shit or get off the pot" WITHOUT the ultimatum, get a job, make the move.

ACTIONS...and nothing less. Most Scorpio's see actions as the real thing.
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yourmoonbaby
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Posted by LetltB
Posted by yourmoonbaby
Sorry--guess a simplified question would be why would a scorp pressure you into commitment and relocating only to change his mind when it becomes a possible reality?



Because you HAVEN'T relocated yet. Back up the "shit or get off the pot" WITHOUT the ultimatum, get a job, make the move.

ACTIONS...and nothing less. Most Scorpio's see actions as the real thing.
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I appreciate the brutal honesty and it makes perfect sense. I needed someone to lay it to me straight. Actions speak louder than words.
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I am a Scorpio female and have been involved with a scorpio male in the past and all I can say is think long and hard before you up and change your life for this man. He was originally a friend before we became romantically involved and by the time we did, he had moved away for work. I don't know if it was the situation or what, but I soon realised he was possessive, jealous, controlling and to be honest a very vindictive, narcissistic person. He also tried to make me move to him, but it became very clear that it was so he could control me. He tried turning me against my friends, talking down to me or belittling me so I'd lose my self worth, he wanted me to move there and not work so I was unable to make friends or "meet anyone else". He even went as far as suggesting I become pregnant to him, because at this stage I was organising my travel plans, so that we could be together and have a family. Hmm how did he put it "wouldn't you prefer to have a cute little baby then to travel?" UMmmmm NO! I'd tried to call it off nicely on numerous occasions but he would beg for forgiveness or try to hold things over me. I finally had enough and didn't care if he was going to try to emotionally blackmail me to stay with him (even though we weren't officially together, I told him to get lost and that's when he really went Cray cray. Sending me abusive, cryptic messages that were threatening. Didn't specifically say what he was going to do but said things along the lines of "that's fine, i'll be down there soon. Too bad I know where you live". I went to the police about it but they said they could do nothing unless he specifically said what his intentions were (Yeah great law system we have). Anyway, I don't know if this is all scorpio men, but I would never get involved with one again based upon this. I had to completely block him from my life and he still found ways to contact me and still does to this day, a year later. Think long and hard before you go changing your life for this man.