Scorpio advice for a confused Cappy?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by cappy1980 on Friday, August 26, 2011 and has 2 replies.
I think I might need an astrological perspective because all other rationalizations have failed for me. lol. I'm a Capricorn, Scorpio (moon). My ex is a Scorpio, Scorpio (moon). Lots of Scorpio going on 
I have always struggled to understand my ex. We've been on and off for two years. We never really officially broke up, merely going back to each of our respective countries which has made our friendship/relationship a bit murky. However, though we've maintained a very close relationship both when we were together and apart, its been a bit rocky. Recently I went for a visit, where he was acting psychotically jealous to any guy who would flirt or talk to me. He would hold my hand all the time, and would act like a boyfriend to such an extreme that his family thought we were together again.
He told me we can't be in a relationship now, though we are still attracted to one another, because he has commitment issues that he wants to work out with a therapist, which I'm very supportive of. Even though I love him alot, I don't want a relationship with him right now either because he has some issues he needs to deal with. However, he also said to me in a drunken jealous rage that he is in love with me and wants me to move to his country. eek!
After all of the jealousy, being confused about how he was acting (extremes of hot and cold!!), I decided i needed a break to figure out what I need. He had given me an ultimatum before that if I stopped speaking to him he would not continue the friendship if I tried to come back later (which i think is bollocks). It's been to emotionally hard for me but I know he this amazing person who I love very much and would want to work it out if it's possible. Now, I would like to go back and try again after I've thought about everything in this break, but now he's being rather distant and evasive, and I'm unsure what I can do. I'm not sure if he's being revengeful, completely over it, or hurt. I'm a strong Cap and I hate giving in, and I've had to for most of the relationship. I was willing to do it because we are both stubborn and it was the best thing to do to make the relationship work. So any suggestions on what I can do...should I give up my strong willed ego and stubborness to extend an olive branch or is it just better to walk away and cut my losses? Scorps are hard for me because I prefer to be dominant and in this case it's just impossible. Any insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Tha
I have always struggled to understand my ex. We've been on and off for two years. We never really officially broke up, merely going back to each of our respective countries which has made our friendship/relationship a bit murky. However, though we've maintained a very close relationship both when we were together and apart, its been a bit rocky. Recently I went for a visit, where he was acting psychotically jealous to any guy who would flirt or talk to me. He would hold my hand all the time, and would act like a boyfriend to such an extreme that his family thought we were together again.
He told me we can't be in a relationship now, though we are still attracted to one another, because he has commitment issues that he wants to work out with a therapist, which I'm very supportive of. Even though I love him alot, I don't want a relationship with him right now either because he has some issues he needs to deal with. However, he also said to me in a drunken jealous rage that he is in love with me and wants me to move to his country. eek!
After all of the jealousy, being confused about how he was acting (extremes of hot and cold!!), I decided i needed a break to figure out what I need. He had given me an ultimatum before that if I stopped speaking to him he would not continue the friendship if I tried to come back later (which i think is bollocks). It's been to emotionally hard for me but I know he this amazing person who I love very much and would want to work it out if it's possible. Now, I would like to go back and try again after I've thought about everything in this break, but now he's being rather distant and evasive, and I'm unsure what I can do. I'm not sure if he's being revengeful, completely over it, or hurt. I'm a strong Cap and I hate giving in, and I've had to for most of the relationship. I was willing to do it because we are both stubborn and it was the best thing to do to make the relationship work. So any suggestions on what I can do...should I give up my strong willed ego and stubborness to extend an olive branch or is it just better to walk away and cut my losses? Scorps are hard for me because I prefer to be dominant and in this case it's just impossible. Any insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Tha
I'd say walk away and cut your losses. That ultimatum sounds like it's his way or the highway, which really isn't fair. If you've given into him before and didn't get what you wanted out of it, then I'm not sure as if much would change. It sounds like he wants you to completely submit, and for what? That's just too risky for someone that's off/on and has commitment issues. You gotta be getting something more out the deal imo.
Leave Your Feedback
We'd love to hear your thoughts! If you're not logged in, you can still share your feedback below. Your input helps us improve the experience for everyone. To post your own content or join the conversation, please log in or create an account.
Related Topics
Lust it is amazing to observe how many of our personal goals and undaunted passions are driven by pure lust. when
@brandon24
Joined: Apr 18, 2011 · Topics: 50 · Posts: 185
@westside
Joined: May 22, 2011 · Topics: 200 · Posts: 3539
i keep reading that geminis are notorious for wincest. and i agree with this statement completely, because i find i
@westside
Joined: May 22, 2011 · Topics: 200 · Posts: 3539
I'm sure you've always heard people claim that their zodiac is IT.. For example if the question is : what sign is the be
@Stormn
Joined: Aug 24, 2011 · Topics: 4 · Posts: 64
@disenchanted
Joined: Dec 02, 2010 · Topics: 14 · Posts: 29
Fellow Aries, what are your power signs? (named by me) Mine are: CMM322 - Aries Moon/Venus/Merc, Pisces Sun, Gemin
@LostPisces
Joined: Jun 13, 2006 · Topics: 77 · Posts: 3103
Fellow Taurus, what are your power signs? (named by me) Mine are: CMM322 - Aries Moon/Venus/Merc, Pisces Sun, Gemi
@LostPisces
Joined: Jun 13, 2006 · Topics: 77 · Posts: 3103
Fellow Gemini, what are your power signs? (named by me) Mine are: CMM322 - Aries Moon/Venus/Merc, Pisces Sun, Gemi
@LostPisces
Joined: Jun 13, 2006 · Topics: 77 · Posts: 3103
Fellow Cancer, what are your power signs? (named by me) Mine are: CMM322 - Aries Moon/Venus/Merc, Pisces Sun, Gemi
@LostPisces
Joined: Jun 13, 2006 · Topics: 77 · Posts: 3103
Fellow Leo, what are your power signs? (named by me) Mine are: CMM322 - Aries Moon/Venus/Merc, Pisces Sun, Gemini
@LostPisces
Joined: Jun 13, 2006 · Topics: 77 · Posts: 3103