Scorpio and romance = apple and tuna?

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Versuvius on Saturday, May 2, 2009 and has 31 replies.
Scorpios are known to be reserved and mysterious and they dont' go putty over compliments/flirtatious girls. They are not generous with compliments either and that makes them mysterious. I'm not saying Scorps are not ramantic, but their romantic notion is much tuned down compare to other signs.
For Scorpios out there, what's the most romantic thing you've ever done for you partner? How would you imagine your wedding be like?
What's the most romantic thing that your scorpio has done for you?
Are scorpios even into romance at all? or they just go "yucks" over it?
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Mine was there for me when my Mum died recently. We'd been out briefly last year, it hadn't worked out, but the vibes were beginning again... He knew my oven was broken, and when he heard about my Mum he asked me over 'so he could cook' for me.
He cooked for me, then held me close for two hours - no demands, just silent caring.
That was pretty romantic. And we're together now; he's growing me some herbs so he can make me a herb garden... Actually I find that pretty romantic too. He has very little money (tough but underpaid job) and it has taken him a long time to believe that I don't really care about that. We're not at a stage of life where I want him to be the Earner...
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Your scorp is really sweet and considerate. I think he really cares about you...
Our relationship has gotten very routine and bored lately. Our dates involves dinners, movies and sex, all of which I would be the one making decision, what to eat, which movie to watch, I can even predict which sex position is coming next.
I am usually the one creating the ideas like surprise breakfast in bed with a flower, surprise birthday celebration 2 days earlier, gave him a nicely wrapped present on valentine's day when he least expect it. I cooked him dinner too.so far, i feel like i'm the one putting in effort to create some fun in this relationship. honestly, i'm a little bit tired and it's time i get some suprises too...
Don't get me wrong,i care for him and he cares about me a great deal too. But i'm just wondering if i can expect my scorpio to "jazz things up" somewhere in our relationship or do I have to start thinking that I will always be the one putting all the interesting bits into our relationship and he will just enjoy it for the rest of our relationship.
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Versuvius- if you want excitement and commitment at the same time date an aries man. most of scorps are pretty boring in every day life and not very spontaneous. i think they too much of control freaks to enjoy letting go until they choose to. i'm dating one and i'm getting tired of being the initiator of things. they can do some romantic things once in a while. all that scrop mystery is a nice scemesmile
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Posted by ariesgirl402
Versuvius- if you want excitement and commitment at the same time date an aries man. most of scorps are pretty boring in every day life and not very spontaneous. i think they too much of control freaks to enjoy letting go until they choose to. i'm dating one and i'm getting tired of being the initiator of things. they can do some romantic things once in a while. all that scrop mystery is a nice scemesmile


well, that last 2 sentences of yours give me some hope. Don't want a bf that is too mushy...but it would be nice to get surprises once in a while.
I realise no scorpios have answered my question or said anything about how they are being romantic to their partner. the posts here are mostly ppl saying how their scorps treat them.
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SAV's story is a perfect example of Scorpio romance.
Being in a stable relationship should be enough. Believe it or not Scorps don't like drama (or I don't). When I'm in a comfortable routine I'm in heaven. Comfortable=stable and that means I'm trusting the other person enough to relax and I'm in it for the long haul.
Flowers, breakfast in bed ... all that jazz is nice but a little shallow no? We'll be there when the going gets tough, stand by your side when the world is against you, go to the ends of the earth if asked ... that is how we show our love. Perhaps we just assume you know that because we are there night and day.
I'd hope that would be enough. Maybe it's not *shrug* There are so many effed up people out there cheating and lying. I'm just happy to have a normal functional relationship. I don't need the frills.
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I know Satori. I've never understood when people break up because it got too routine or too boring. Is a few flowers and simple little gestures really going to be the make it or break it in a relationship? Seriously? That's really outragously hard for me to understand.
I've gotten flowers here and there and I always though "oh that's nice" but it never made a huge impact on me. It's the little things like watching a movie together snuggled on the couch and being able to look over and know that person is here sharing this moment with you. Comfortable and relaxed. It makes me feel so secure and grateful which makes me feel love/devotion.
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any male scorp out there want to say something?
yes, if the going gets tough, of course anyone would stand by their loved ones. i think my scorp is not the creepy romantic kind (how creepy can it be?stalking creepy?). he will be like ginger or satori. very steady. with that said, so i can never expect something out of the blue from him?
ok....if you love someone, won't you want to do something really special for him/her?
what's the specials when it comes to scorpios?
or scorps have no specials on their menu?
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I personally don't think I'm romantic. Well I don't see myself as romantic. I don't have a set romance package that I use on women. I go with the flow and follow my instinct, intuition, inspired by my partner's nature. I don't know if my exes would say the same. I can say I'm poetic on the way I speak though. I'm soft spoken, simple and calm. I try to please my partner always but I go according to her nature. So the way I was when dating Scorpio wasn't the same as with Taurus, Virgo or Leo. I write poems and I often wrote special poems for them on the spot. They liked it. I think one of my best piece was written to a Leo. I'll post it for a few minutes and then hide it for privacy. I made it part of my personal collection that I'll use later on and I would like to keep it that way. I'll unhide by request it's not a problem but I won't just leave it on the open. I think it's really a nice poem.
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You know...if you don't read all these, you can never really know how intensely Scorpio feels when in love. a person can only experience it.
I am an open book to my bf. I can somewhat feel that he loves me very much, but i can never be sure cos he hardly talks about it.
so i won't be expecting 4th-of-july sort of romance. I'll be getting treetrunk-til-we-merge-into-Chimera romance....
lol!
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I think that's mostly what it is. I speak more about love on message boards, off the internet I tend to just love. It shows in my actions towards my partner. I hug, cuddle and caress more than I speak. As you said if you stick around eventually it may come out little by little to where you'll end up knowing but I don't think it will ever be an extravagant display right at the beginning.
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"with that said, so i can never expect something out of the blue from him?
ok....if you love someone, won't you want to do something really special for him/her?"

Scorps are unpredictable. My guess is when you stop wondering if he'll surprise you and get into a routine he'll do something out of the blue. smile Yeah, it's frustrating but ya gotta love it Winking
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Posted by satori
LOL, I love this. Soo Scorpio;
Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.??
by Neil Gaiman (born 10 November 1960)


I love that too!
I think Scorpios are aware of what others mean by romance, I just think perhaps for them it's... dunno, almost superficial? I think years ago I would have found this quite difficult to 'get' but now I just love it. I love the peace and calm at the heart of the storm. Just after my Mum had died, I woke in the middle of the night crying. I absent-mindedly said, "I could really do with a cup of tea." He went downstairs (in the freezing cold!) and made me a cup of tea - at 4am. Despite me telling him it could wait...
Last year, when it didn't work out, he told me very seriously, "You need more than I can give you - you need someone with the money to wine and dine you and bring you flowers..." So perhaps that's something he'd do if he had the money. But what's more romantic than growing me a herb garden?
We seem to be in that happy place where Scorpio and Virgo calm each other's souls. The other night we lay on the couch and watched TV and he fell asleep in my arms. I've never seen him so relaxed. And he told me the next day that after I'd left he went to bed, fell asleep and woke in the same position after the best night's sleep he's had in years.
Now to me, that's precious. You can have excitement (we do, actually!!) but at the end of the day, can you be quiet together? I suspect that's probably how Scorpios measure love as well. I don't feel any need to h
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I don't feel any need to have The Talk, or hear him say "I love you" - I know he cares by his actions.
And I'm finally grown-up enough for that to be enough.
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yeah, i understand things better now. i was studying both our charts yesterday.
................me.............him
sun...........cancer.........scorpio
moon.........sagittarius......virgo
venus ........cancer....... capricorn
mars..........scorpio .......scorpio
rising........scorpio.......don't know
my moon in Sagittarius is probably the reason why i got restless and wanted fun romance, and can't take routine and boredom too long. i mean, i sometimes find a sense of security in routines, but i would want to get away to smell some freedom. he on the other hand, will be all about responsbilities and routines. look at his moon in virgo, venus in capricorn...he's sooooo earthy....lol
SAV, like your guy, i now see that mine loves quiet moments too and he cares for me by his actions. but after what i did to him, the guilt is heavy on my chest, i dont' know how to be with him without feeling bad. worst, he said he is not blaming me. i would like it if he's blaming me.it will be easier to take the guilt off. then perhaps there will be a fight between scorp and cancer...and we shall see who win in this round....LOL!!
oh guys, join the fun in this thread: Cancer vs Scorpio.Get.Set.Fight!
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V, I'm Sag Moon and Scorpio Rising as well! Just give yourself time... I have known that restlessness in relationships. It sucks sometimes, doesn't it? But take time for YOU. Go out to quiet country places, acknowledge the restlessness in your spirit and then dig deeper and Be Still and feel the peace underneath it all. For me, my restlessness used to dominate my character until I realised that even deeper, there was a calm river flowing.
Can't put it any better than that.
I'm not an astrologer but there seem to be things in your charts which would go well.
Just talk to him. Explain. And then quietly be there for him. Or else find happiness with someone else - I truly hope you do find what you are looking for, whoever it's with.
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What did you do to him? Is that your hidden post? I think there is a lot in that phrase you used, ' i would like it if he's blaming me.it will be easier to take the guilt off. then perhaps there will be a fight between scorp and cancer...and we shall see who win in this round....LOL!!'
This might even be your own Scorpio part creating drama. But more worryingly, you are talking about needing to be blamed in order to deal with your guilt. That's not HIS job, it's yours. Seek help if you can't shake guilt. Don't look to him to solve what's inside your own head. As for going off and seeking excitement, well you can do that can't you? You don't have to be joined at the hip! Go off (with his agreement), have adventures and then come back, snuggle up and tell him about them...
But you seem to be looking forward to the idea of conflict... perhaps that's a need of yours. I sense that you will regret it if you manage to engage him in it, though.
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Oooo is chart as a lot of "laid back intensity" going on. Scorp, Cap, and Virgo. All my favs of the zodiac. If he had an Aries rising I'd fight ya for him Tongue Sheesh. He sounds pretty dreamy to me. You're a lucky girl. He's probably more proned to be the serious type with the earth in his chart and let's face it.... Scorps are stoned faced alot too.
From his chart I can say that he doesn't show alot of affection in the commercial sense. It's deeper then that. Buying things, being cheesy, and over the top are something that he probably frowns on. Too cliche.
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Maybe this is miniscule but once I was with my Scorp and a few friends. We were going into the subway to take the train (walking down the steps) and I realized I don't have a MetroCard. So I screamed out at my boyfriend, "Babe.... you got me?" and he turned around (at the bottom of the steps) with his arms wide open and goes of course babe! LOL
He was ready to catch me, but I just needed a swipe. It was a natural reaction from him and it showed me that he really does care for me. I thought it was adorable. =)
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I dont know whats going on with my scorp....we hit it off... he was calling and we were hanging out..laughing and just totally vibing....he finally opened up and invited me to his home ..he is a single dad..I methis kids. He would leave expensive jewerly and things out..I guess testing me.. he would let me have access to the house...he finally came out of his comfort zone and came to my house,,,Im so falling for him. he is perferct...and then he disappeard..no calls, no tex..no nothing...I worked up enough nerves to go to his house without calling..I thought he would flip out..I didnt care, I just wanted to know what was going on... he answered the door and was calm, and loving...said he was just busy and had been out of town...(might I add, he has never told me what he does for a living.) he says I have plenty time to find out.. I said in my fun, loving, silly but desperate voice...ummmm...did you dump me? he gave me a sexy smile and said "no...just been out of town" so he hugged me. made sure I had his number...repeated it 3 times and I went on way.
So now I just wait....it's driving me crazy....So I start dating and hangin out more with my friends..pretty much going on with my life...but I dont undersatnd...the silent treatment..but I'll wait...by the way Im a Sagg.
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Posted by satori
LOL, I love this. Soo Scorpio;
Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.??
by Neil Gaiman (born 10 November 1960)


I really love this. smile
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am a scorp male, and that is my chart...
Sun ------- Scorpio
Moon------- Cancer
Mercury---- Scorpio
Venus-------Virgo
Mars--------Sagittarius
Jupiter---- Libra
Saturn------Libra
Uranus----- Scorpio
Neptune---- Sagittarius
Pluto-------Libra
Lilith------Libra
Ascnode---- Leo
probably its the aries rising and cancer moon, am pretty romantic, and this is what people i have dated, have told me.. getting flowers, cooking a surprise dinner/bfast, gifts out of the blue, long letters, some sexy lingerie and such like...well thats what i do.
but i find, being just curled up watching a movie together, or having a long conversation into the night, a lazy walk in the evening, a non reason hug, a quiet easy drink together are probably the things i find more romantic... Guess, we also love the fact that we have the "we would be there for ya, let the sky fall on our heads" attitude.. (secretly). We are often proud to be in love, cause we believe that we got the best woman.
And once we get her, we think, "well, i shall be there for her , through ups and downs, through the most trying of times, and what more could she want".. and then we sit back and enjoy the quiet afterglow of the burning embers in the fire place (oh did i mention that we just made love to you on that rug on the floor...).
And probably, you, who wants some more fun and jazz in the relationship, might not see that we are by nature quiet and laid back when we are happy and satisfied... and might wonder if we really really love ya so?.. well we do, else we wouldnt be with you, we would also at times make your life miserable..if we arent happy enough.
and to be honest, i used to be a more closed up person.... but i believe that like someone mentioned, we scorps love to heal ourselves and others... and the key to healing at times is opening up... and now that i have realized it, am more comfortable doing spontaneous stuff.. Probably we scorps hold back quite a bit, but he can reason... so explain in the kindest of ways without hurting his feelings (remember, he thinks you are happy as hes).. and he would understand.
Oh and we love the chase, knowing ya... inside out.. once we know ya well, and once we can control you, at times the mystery in "you" might wane.. and we might become a tad restless.. but if a scorp is sure about ya, then be sure you have more than just mystery in those eyes. smile A content scorp, in my opinion is a keeper.
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And yea, we arent generally moved much by compliments and surprises... we tend to take compliments with a pinch of salt, or otherwise it might be stuff we already know. We like normal people do love surprises.. but then, thats why we chose ya.. so there! Winking
Also with time, we mature, and we change, and we become better.... err.... like normal mere mortals Winking
good luck V..

p.s: an inside tip, make him want you.. we end up taking things for granted at times, and then we know you would be arnd. But that doesnt mean you eye someone else in front of him.. (that would be it!) .. but get back to working on being that eternal mystery we so love to crack.. (WARNING - do it only if you are sure about the strength of the relationship) .. we are at heart simple people smile
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thanks oliveskin, maybe i'll date you instead. with your cancer moon and all, it's probably easier...

"we would also at times make your life miserable..if we arent happy enough."
what do you mean by this? how am i suppose to know if he's not happy enough? how can i tell when he's all mysterious and stuff? he won't speak his mind like i do, he keep it all inside and it's hard to guess his emotions. as far as i remember, he display only this emotion: happiness. i remember seeing his sad face for just 1 second, i gave him a hug and then it is gone. it became reserve and there was, again, nothing on his facial expression. there never was worries, frustration, anger, hardly sadness and definitely, you can't tell if he's not satisfied with the relationship.
so really, i dont' know how to tell if he's happy enough or not.
right now,i'm trying my best to work this relationship out. I would ask him to rank the relationship on scale of 1-10, but am afraid of taking the blow...lol
another questions, cancerians do not take criticism well. what about scorpio?
reason for this question is that his room is in such a mess (dusty,dirty,untidy) there's no way i'm having sex in a room like that. so how do i tell him that? make him get that, i can't have sex with him in a room like that...i hate going to his house and his room and he constantly invite me there. i'm running out of excuse not to go to his place. his housemate's room is sooooo much better, i wish i'm his gf instead.
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"Scorpios are known to be reserved and mysterious and they dont' go putty over compliments/flirtatious girls. They are not generous with compliments either and that makes them mysterious. I'm not saying Scorps are not ramantic, but their romantic notion is much tuned down compare to other signs."
Wow I never find this in the two scorp men I have known quite the opposite. VERY romantic, expresses their feelings and definitely proclaims his love and his feelings freely.
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You are luck QS, i did have to "dig" the 3 words out of mine...lol
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V, i guess just ask him directly... "are you happy with us"? Hold him frm behind , peck his neck when hes comfy, and explain why ya wanna know. Ask him if something has changed,, but without sounding too clingy.... but just warm smile.
And i guess he should tell you...he is usually honest, and at times brutally so. (this is relative, but some genuine warmth and just the feeling of unconditional love should prompt a scorp to open up). And if you want to make it work with a scorp, be game to take the brutal direct truth. We make life miserable in the sense that we would probably remind you, subtley and otherwise about things that arent right with you (the brutal truth again!).. We might ignore you in a very weird way, in a way that you cant put a finger to it... well lotta games we play.
About his place... well i dunno how close you both are in that sense, i mean, does he hate it when you ask him to do a chore with that "falsetto" anger? Well if no, go ahead and be the master Winking... He would obviously be hurt a tiny teeny bit, but i guess if hes really into you, he shouldnt have an issue. I guess we like things clean, and tidy and with some order, but the thing is when it gets back to being dirty we are at times too lazy (or cannot be bothered) to get it set again. May be you could suggest that you clean up the place together... just to get him going.. spill some water on the bed and the floor accidently so that he will have to clean up.. and then in most cases he would do the whole place. And we do a job really well, so once initiated, he should be good at it.
Once clean, ask him to keep it that way, and tell him why. tell him you would love it on his bed, more often... provided he keeps the place this way (squeaky clean).
And criticism laced with reason and no finger pointing will be taken well... we probably know what we lack... we dont need you to sit on us and nag and criticize about it. but if put right, with warmth and enough love (again)... we will take it. (coz probably we already know whats wrong with us)
good luck again
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Posted by oliveskin
am a scorp male, and that is my chart...
Sun ------- Scorpio
Moon------- Cancer
Mercury---- Scorpio
Venus-------Virgo
Mars--------Sagittarius
Jupiter---- Libra
Saturn------Libra
Uranus----- Scorpio
Neptune---- Sagittarius
Pluto-------Libra
Lilith------Libra
Ascnode---- Leo
probably its the aries rising and cancer moon, am pretty romantic, and this is what people i have dated, have told me.. getting flowers, cooking a surprise dinner/bfast, gifts out of the blue, long letters, some sexy lingerie and such like...well thats what i do.
but i find, being just curled up watching a movie together, or having a long conversation into the night, a lazy walk in the evening, a non reason hug, a quiet easy drink together are probably the things i find more romantic... Guess, we also love the fact that we have the "we would be there for ya, let the sky fall on our heads" attitude.. (secretly). We are often proud to be in love, cause we believe that we got the best woman.
And once we get her, we think, "well, i shall be there for her , through ups and downs, through the most trying of times, and what more could she want".. and then we sit back and enjoy the quiet afterglow of the burning embers in the fire place (oh did i mention that we just made love to you on that rug on the floor...).
And probably, you, who wants some more fun and jazz in the relationship, might not see that we are by nature quiet and laid back when we are happy and satisfied... and might wonder if we really really love ya so?.. well we do, else we wouldnt be with you, we would also at times make your life miserable..if we arent happy enough.
and to be honest, i used to be a more closed up person.... but i believe that like someone mentioned, we scorps love to heal ourselves and others... and the key to healing at times is opening up... and now that i have realized it, am more comfortable doing spontaneous stuff.. Probably we scorps hold back quite a bit, but he can reason... so explain in the kindest of ways without hurting his feelings (remember, he thinks you are happy as hes).. and he would understand.
Oh and we love the chase, knowing ya... inside out.. once we know ya well, and once we can control you, at times the mystery in "you" might wane.. and we might become a tad restless.. but if a scorp is sure about ya, then be sure you have more than just mystery i
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OS ^^^^^
Not sure what happened ...but on above post I had noted ....where can I get one of these??? Winking Tongue
PD
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hey PD
(^^) you mean a birth chart or a scorp of tht ..err .. kind?

...just need to kiss the right frog... they are all arnd...might be just in that backyard of urs :o)
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Posted by oliveskin
hey PD
(^^) you mean a birth chart or a scorp of tht ..err .. kind?

...just need to kiss the right frog... they are all arnd...might be just in that backyard of urs :o)




Both!!!! smile
I will head out to the pond to find a charming frog.
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