Scorpio attempt at attention?

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Hey guys and girls. Quick question.
Would a scorp girl ever attempt to make a guy jealous? She kinda messed up and I know it all and have now backed off. Don't have time for immaturity nor mood swings and bs games.
And now there is this vain attempt at getting my attention instead of just manning up to her own bs.
So, would this be something a scorp would do?
Thanks, I figured that much... Then I might aswell right her off. This is one bull who doesn't take bs from anybody, especially not an immature stinger. Bah, to dust...
Omagall,
lol. lol. lol. now you remember what I have said before. lol.
You are not yet there....I told you that.


Omagalll,
Did you do something to make her jealous too? If she intentionally did it to make you jealous.
Then She tried to test the water now how clear it is. lol. If you can't handle her BS then
She can't handle yours too. My advice, Talk to her and she will tell you the truth.
I did intentionally to my ex Taurus bull at work before it's because he did it for me many times
and when I saw a man who owned the company and flirting with me then I grab it and flirt back and
he went home and mad. lol. Scorpio will just respond...in a perfect timing.
shes damaged goods like a lot of scorpio women
@ M143
She avoids us talking face to face at all costs. She can't even look me in the eyes anymore... Says a lot doesn't it...
I did nothing but be myself. I randomly contacted her and we would chat for hours on end. We spent time together and then the week of her birthday she was all over me. I made sure she had a birthday she will never forget and 2 days later I was nothing to her...
I don't play petty games of jealousy. I never have. I have enough self respect and respect for others that the minute I have an interest in someone, no one else matters. I don't even look in the direction of another. Whereas she, on the other hand have been raking them in the past year. And I know about all of them... She told me straight to my face about them and then would break down every time she found out they where totally fucked up and treated her like shit. Even if it was only a day or two.
Now that alone is total fucking bs.
So, a month ago she moaned to mutual friends of ours about the fact that I don't leave her alone. I found out 3 days later and just stopped contacting her flat out. A week later she ran to the same mutual friends in tears and a flat spin because I don't talk to her anymore. What the fuck does she want... lol
I haven't contacted her since. She made 2 attempts, (wow), and the third attempt was mine for the taking, and exactly one day after I talked to her she starts the same bs again.
Now, really, why would ANYONE do this to someone else? I don't do this to her, not fucking once. But she plays this sick game. And frankly, a scorpio stinger is nothing to bull once you have torn him apart. I am so worn out atm that I feeling like raging one last hit, but not at getting her in my life... Rather removing her from it.
We taureans also have fear of rejection and disclosure... We don't treat people like shit though... As a matter of fact the exact opposite would happen. And yet, look at what happens. Funny. And then they complain to the world 'he doesn't care anymore'. Well, duh, that's what happens when you fuck around.
@IrresistableScorp
Hmmm, thanks. I understand. I really appreciate your input.
Just a question. Do you mean that even if I avoid her she will remain on this destructive path till exposed for what she really is or more precisely, what she is doing?
Ok, I see what you mean...
It has gotten worse after I ignored her. But what the hell was I to do. I made sure she was treated like a queen with her birthday, and prior to that she was treated no worse either. And then she simply cuts me out as if nothing I have done made was worth a dime.
But I understand what you all are saying. Some of our mutual friends have also backed off saying that they can't be around her when she is so destructive and they also think and feel that she must just plod one till she realizes how much she has thrown away in friends, trust and future relationships, since she is going to start building a rather bad rep for her behavior.
Ok, so call her on her bs... How do you do it with someone who doesn't even answer her phone? I am not the type to just plop out a text... I do face to face, so that I can see the truth and the lies.
Posted by IrresistableScorp
You text her and say: why don't you cut the bullshit and talk to me like an adult. Piss her off Hehe


I would love to see the look on her face when to recieves and reads that text. haha
Omagalll,
It seems she is confused. She is keeping you in the loop but obviously she is just scared to be alone.
while she is playing her ass and you still accept her... I must say it's sounds amazing but playing
a bad game. What do you expect from her? A change? I guess you're just half way battle when it comes
to this Scorpio girl. I remember she put you into Friend zone before. I advised you to take it deeply.
If you think you're an ATM, then I guess you know what to do. My Ex Taurus said that his wife was ATM
and when He told me to quit my job.. I replied and said... he will call me a Bank sooner once I do.
Scorpio likes powerful men. Money & Love and all luxuries in life...once you can offer that to your
Scorpio girl.. She will stick with you and have eyes on you. So hard to be a Scorpio. lol
Hahaha Really M143?
She already gets what she wants. What do you think I did on her birthday? Take her to a cheap skate drive through for a happy meal?
I am a Taurus, we also love to live in the lap of luxury. I made sure she was treated like a queen on her birthday. I also made it very clear that this is not a one time a year thing. This can be a once a month, once a week, once a day type thing. She already knows she can have that, because I have proved that on more than one occassion already.
And love, what more does she want? Do you want to see the texts, or hear from our mutual friends about how I treat and care for her. You know what, after not seeing or talking to her for a month, we went to friends of ours for a BBQ, and (like always) I made sure I took everything she needs... At that while still feeling like shit. She doesn't eat this, and she doesn't like that etc... And when It came to serving dinner where do you think she got what she loves?
I take care of those whom I care for, I spoil them rotten. My own mother has on many occasions went off at me for doing this for people, always warning me that they don't deserve it and nor reciprocate it ever. And maybe she was right.
And a strong man, really? I know you don't mean going to the gym etc... But she knows she can cry in my arms, and really on me to fight for her, because this has happened before as well.
Everyone flakes out, because they don't match the requirement, to whom does she return? And yet, she still, knowing all this, treats me like an option when I know I am consistent, loving and caring towards her needs. Maybe this is my problem. She still wants to stuff around, and I am way to early for her to settle down. But if I move on, there is no turning back...

Omagalll,
Awww!!! what a lady. lol. So it's her loss not yours. lol.
ok. Move on now. I know Taurus are Stubborn and pretty sure you have a hard time letting her go.
I know your story. lol. You desired her.
Every second away from her and not hearing from her has been a painful but healing second. And no, I don't let go easily, but if you could see what I see (more recently I told her the same), you would also find it hard to leave.
What most people think about Taurus is that since they are materialistic, they only look at looks. We don't. We might see the looks initially, but in a very short time we see into the soul. That is also why she doesn't look me in the eyes anymore. She knows I can see through her. She has told me it before. I also know she does the same. Only difference is I have nothing to hide...
I couldn't care less about keeping score. What I am saying is that I make sure that she gets what she is looking for. Score keeping are for the selfish.
I am saying, if it meant anything that I have been there and consistent, why the state of chaos?
We saw each other at a friends again last week Friday.
Prior to that, one month. I actually called her Saturday to find out if we can go for coffee and possibly a movie or something afterwards.
She keeps digging to find out what is going on in my life from friends. She doesn't ask me.
What is she hiding? How about her true feelings? You scorps don't keep people around if you have no interest in them. So what is this?
Nope, not a single one. I recently moved to the same city as her since I got work here (how I met her) and I haven't really met any people that interest me.
Also, like I mentioned before, if I meet someone that interests me I don't even look in another direction.
Besides, you Scorps pickup on this so easily, I wouldn't risk it for the world Tongue
But... Scorps also have a tendency to convince your self about just about anything, whether it is the truth or not...
Well, one of our mutual friends has mentioned to me that she isn't being her 'self'. That she has the 'standard' that needs to be met for her parents to approve of her. The thing is, everything that is suppose to be 'the best' is currently crumbling to pieces because none of it is real.
I have convinced her to further her studies, she has a new job, new house etc... Yet, on her parents recent visit, they apporoved of nothing of this... More precisely, her mother approved of nothing. Even going off at her when she saw where she works... (Which I don't get since she works for a respectable project manager in the retail industry doing new business designs, construction and layout. Also, I got her to agree to studying Project Management as the pay is good and she is exceptionally intelligent and insightful, born to lead and control.)
And no, I didn't push her, I gave her a view of life in this domain, as I am a PM myself. When she went for the interview initially she actually called me afterwards to ask my opinion on taking the job. Her Mother said no, me and her father said go for it, and she did.
Anyway... I think she is seriously confused 'having' to live up to someone else's dream for her instead of following her own heart.
Secondly, I also think that I fall partly in this domain. Because; "What if my parents don't like him, then I have spent all my emotions on him and I have to let him go"... Which I think is bs. Because if your parents want to discard you for living your own life in a way that makes you happy... We'll yeah... I have my opinion. Now I get that her parents are important, no arguments their, but the reasoning of decisions based on this... Utter bs.
This is what I think though, but our mutual friends say this is what is happening. She is seeking independence, yet the life style she is pushed towards costs way to much for her so her parents still pitch in, and the fact that it is crumbling to pieces, because it is so damn fake, isn't making it easier on her. But it is still her choice. And she still chooses to be so unhappy and in chaos instead of being her self.
I have told her so many times before. There is nothing more beautiful in this world then when she is just her self, dropping her guard and just being her amazing self. I have seen this once or twice. A secret side that I deeply love that few people will ever see.
But, she probably thinks that once she has now finished her studies she will be able to make her pare
... parents happy by satisfying the 'standard' her self. Yet, she is sadly mistaken. It doesn't work that way. Living a life for someone else is not living a live at all...
Yes I do. The process is just killing me and my feelings, but I still care... I don't just forget...
I don't know how to be there for her when I am not allowed to even talk to her. She pushes me away, probably in the hope that I will just disappear, she can blame me for just leaving (instead of just being honest with me and asking me to leave or asking me to stay) and she can move on with her life as if I never happened, yet I get the feeling that this isn't really helping at this point. It might actually be making it worse.
I have told her so many times, in person, in texts and on the phone. I have consequently showed her as well. I really do tell her when things happen that make me melt or when I think of her etc... But one seems to get seriously desensitized when you don't even get a thank you for it anymore.
I am really really lost, I don't know what to do anymore. Most people are telling me to just back off and forget about her... If only so easy... Sad
Argh, I hate this feeling...

OmagaIII, do I have it right that you work in the construction industry like myself?
Nope, I am more ICT and infrastructure Projects. But I do business/corporate and medical as well as education projects aswell.

Omagalll,
You sounds amazing... But I don't know the real score.
...Update time... -_-
Ok so, I think everyone here knows the deal already and how I feel about this Scorp. I have avoided contact and just gone on my merry way.
Guess who calls me, (Yes you read right she called me out of nowhere) and invites me to go have something to eat (Yes she asked me to join her...)??? Oh, and she actually picked up the bill stating that I have been doing it every time we have been out before.
And her whole attitude and demeanor has changed. Back to the girl I fell for in the first place.
We didn't really talk about the reasons for me avoiding her, but I think she is very aware of why it happened. (Some of the stuff she randomly told me made this clear.)
Anyway, we had a good 2 hours together. She mentioned a few things that I was a bit dumbfounded at and was kinda probing, like she was trying to find out if there was someone else. Although I told her that if you are interested in someone or with someone, why go mess around somewhere else???
During the conversation she placed her phone in my hands and showed me photos she had taken during the past 2 months of no real contact.
She also picked up my phone and played around with it, which I expect she thought I might have appealed against (if I was scared she was going to find something...) but I didn't. She also told me (totally randomly mind you) that she was going to a wedding this weekend with some guy. Didn't seem happy or unhappy about it. She also mentioned that they are staying over, but that she told the guy the only way she is staying over is if she can get her own place to stay otherwise she drives back immediately after the wedding.
So I am kinda confused and in need of advice... Any help on how I should proceed?
Its venus retrograde I think... Till the 31 January?
I recently did a similar thing without really thinking my actions through, got in touch with a guy that had been very keen on me but that I have 0% interest in.
In my case I was just being curious and slightly nostalgic, but I should have realised that he would think there was something more to it.
He said afterwards that he wondered about my change of heart... So of course now I feel bad/ awkward that he's misinterpreted things. He's an aries- jumping into things is what they do...
So, if I was you I would play the wait and see card- see if she keeps up the contact or just fades away again...
Ah, ok.
I have asked for an approach and it seems that there is a resounding answer Tongue
Two close friends have mentioned to me before as well to leave the ball in her court and see what she does with it. So I should continue on like I have for the past 2 months or so and see if she makes an attempt another once or twice.
Good advice or not so much?
I would definitely wait... You bulls are good at that Winking
Like I mentioned there is venus retro... going back to old lovers, but will it last...?
And Saturn is heavy on all scorps- but direct on the second decans at the moment I think (those born 2-12 Nov)
At the top of the page IS asked if you knew her venus? As that might also be influencing things...
Ok.
Well here is her chart.
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Scorpio 26.41 Ascendant Libra 12.17
Moon Leo 13.18 II Scorpio 17.15
Mercury Sagittarius 1.27 III Sagittarius 14.13
Venus Capricorn 13.19 IV Capricorn 8.05
Mars Scorpio 9.59 V Aquarius 3.02
Jupiter Cancer 10.08 R VI Pisces 3.19
Saturn Capricorn 10.53 VII Aries 12.17
Uranus Capricorn 3.17 VIII Taurus 17.15
Neptune Capricorn 10.32 IX Gemini 14.13
Pluto Scorpio 15.36 Midheaven Cancer 8.05
Lilith Scorpio 1.40 XI Leo 3.02
Asc node Aquarius 20.21 XII Virgo 3.19
Posted by OmagaIII
Nope, not a single one. I recently moved to the same city as her since I got work here (how I met her) and I haven't really met any people that interest me.
Also, like I mentioned before, if I meet someone that interests me I don't even look in another direction.
Besides, you Scorps pickup on this so easily, I wouldn't risk it for the world Tongue
But... Scorps also have a tendency to convince your self about just about anything, whether it is the truth or not...



WOAH!
That last line. Not so with all Scorps.
Why? because we are NOT confined to stereotypical descriptions. That's something that you
ironically, chose to convince yourself of.
What I personally do is to impartially collect data, analyze it, scrutinize it, set it aside in their proper place, then reconstruct.
And perform follow up cross-examinations of the construct until I am satisfied that I have exhausted all my resources and options to prove and disprove the construct.
Whether it be my own ideas or the ideas of others.
What most people see when they see my post are but a small partial example of that method in action and they may or may not see the much larger picture that lies behind the minute detail they can see.
Happens all the time.
As for bulls, not too bright. They end up as hamburger meat in the end.
It's a known fact that they made cattle prods and bull whips for a reason.
That being said, may she crack the whip and pop you in the balls and may
you sing like Michael Jackson.




Hahaha then you really don't know yourself do you? What, and it is ironic that most of your 'logical' 'reasearched' conclusions are the same?
Give me a break lol
She has openly done this.
Btw, in your own post you contradict your self lol
Now scuttle off to sowhere you won't get dust in your eyes hahaha
Posted by OmagaIII
Hahaha then you really don't know yourself do you? What, and it is ironic that most of your 'logical' 'reasearched' conclusions are the same?
Give me a break lol
She has openly done this.
Btw, in your own post you contradict your self lol
Now scuttle off to sowhere you won't get dust in your eyes hahaha



That was intentional.
To get you to show yourself for what you really are.
and you mooed.
LOL
Whahaha
Whatever. Winking
Wah hah ................................ Wa hah
It's not going to last.
Remember I said that when you two part ways.
WAH ........................................... HAH!
Nuff said...
next customer.
It was over almost an hour ago... But I guess...
Nevermind
Big Grin Big Grin Big Grin
Posted by OmagaIII
Hey guys and girls. Quick question.
Would a scorp girl ever attempt to make a guy jealous?
So, would this be something a scorp would do?



I used this on another thread..and it's TRUTH

okay, Mr F is probably more on the money... I contradict myself due to the leeb influences I have- especially my venus... Libran's can never make a solid decision! Tongue
But your girl has cap venus, so I'm guessing she isn't as wishy washy...
Third decan, so the worst is yet to come re Saturn return...
If I was you I'd find a nice little virgo with a scorpy mars and sagi venus to keep you occupied!
Posted by OmagaIII
...Update time... -_-
She also picked up my phone and played around with it, which I expect she thought I might have appealed against (if I was scared she was going to find something...) but I didn't. She also told me (totally randomly mind you) that she was going to a wedding this weekend with some guy. Didn't seem happy or unhappy about it. She also mentioned that they are staying over, but that she told the guy the only way she is staying over is if she can get her own place to stay otherwise she drives back immediately after the wedding.
So I am kinda confused and in need of advice... Any help on how I should proceed?


^^^That right there...I sensed this is what she's been up to. Puts you on a backburner then gives you two hours of her time and throws in "oh by the way I have a date with another guy......."
Watch out fella, I got her number and it's not what you perceive it to be...AT ALL.
You are a plan B..(she scopes your phone to MAKE SURE you are still a plan B)unless this guy doesn't do it for her, then you become plan A again.
Question is..aren't you better than that? ...and you said NOTHING.
smh
Posted by OmagaIII

Two close friends have mentioned to me before as well to leave the ball in her court and see what she does with it. So I should continue on like I have for the past 2 months or so and see if she makes an attempt another once or twice.
Good advice or not so much?



I guess you know the answer to this now don't you? She got herself a date for a wedding and is keeping you on a back burner.
Get rid of this one, trust me.
@LilliLou
You mentioned the third decan and whats still to come. What do you mean?
Should I head for cover and practice dodging techniques? Tongue
Well, it is a week on and everything is calm, except for my heart and mind driving me up the wall. But whatever, time might heal both, although with this Scorp I ain't so sure :/
Ok, so guess who called me more times in the last 4 days than an entire year of knowing each other?
She has been calling me no less than 4 times a day since Tuesday, and last night she actually came by my place to have coffee, which she invited her self to lol, and 3 hours later she left for home. We had a few good discussions including what happened over the weekend and the fact that she told they guy off after the wedding since she really isn't interested in him or anything he wants for that matter. She went because she thought they where friends.
We hit a few hard points when we started talking about what she is doing and the fact that it is messing up everything around her. And she, again, said that she realizes that she keeps facing consequences and that she knows it is her fault.
Anyway, she is still weary and still tries to find out why I stopped contacting her. She knows that it comes from her side but she isn't asking for the reason straight up. Anyway, I treat her no different then before, except for the fact that I don't contact her.
So now I want to know, what is going on? I have made my decision on how I am going to treat the situation as I am pretty much done being kicked around by a girl that either doesn't know what she wants or has for that matter. (It is a given that I still care and still want her) Any bad behavior will put her out the door faster than she would realize what had just happened.
I am taken a back by her efforts, and I do appreciate it, but what is going on???
Anyway, she told me that she really just isn't ready yet and that she still wants to be a kid, (24yo mind you), and that her parents have these set requirements for her. So yeah, we had a bit of a chat, overall had some good fun. And not even 2 mins after she left, she called me again. Don't mind one bit, but what is this, and where is it coming from, and why only now after a year of being there for her and treating her like a queen should and deserve to be treated?
Is she missing the attention and the fact that she feels like someone, because she is someone when she is with me, or what gives?
This sounds harsh but she is a hot effin mess (emotionally) who has no idea what she wants! You cant help who you fall for but you deserve someone much better....shes keeping you around as a plan B. She probably knows you have feels for her by now so why mention that shes going out (the wedding) with some other guy? Thats disrespectful and rude IMO just cut off all contact for atleast 2 weeks and if she contacts you, just call her out on her BS. You have venus aries just like i do. You are level headed and know exactly WHAT you want in love, use that to your advantage. Shes going through stuff i understand but that doesnt give her the right to treat you like that.
Well, apart from telling her straight up that I am interested in her, and on Wednesday in one of the insane amount of calls I did so again, I have taken her to dinner and luncheons, spoiled her while at work, always make sure that when we are out she has what she needs so that she doesn't feel uncomfortable or awkward at all. It is in these types of situations that on more than a few occasions she actually fell asleep in my arms and presence.
When she was with me she told me she just isn't ready, although I think there is fear hidden in it. But I know she has to work through it, and I am willing to stand by her, but I am at a point where as much as I do care and I know she knows, I can't wait forever, and I am sensing that is what is going to happen. And I also think since I am starting to feel this way, on top of my emotions already, that she has picked this up. In that regard we are exceptionally in tune with one another, something I have never ever experienced before. This might have prompted a change on her part since she is fully aware of what she does.
Scrops have a very strong sense of what THEY are doing. And from my experience with her, if you don't realizes this they can move the blame to you and discard you like it is nobodies business. I am not playing games, especially not with someone so deeply buried in my heart and soul. So on most of these games I haven't responded, and there where a few already. From her close friends calling me up all the way to her playing with my phone after the NC. I am not going to lie, and I am not going to buckle on bs.
But when NC started I had to decide on what I deserve and she obviously realized that the house of cards was going to fall.
If I mean something, great, if I don't then leave me be.
@omagaiii: i guess, at some point you realized you've done too much for her, that the only next possible step to do is to stop. Leave her alone and walk away. Its not like you're giving up or that you shouldnt try. You have to draw the line between deperation and determination....feel free to correct me if im wrong^ lol
@aftershine
Nope, you are correct. My motives have been very clear from the start. You can't tell me your not ready and then later I find out she had the hots for a guy till she found out he was a drug addict. Doesn't add up. Also, I am a very giving individual, always have been, always will be. I know where to draw the line, and I expect the line to be draw for me from time to time as well. How am I to learn what I should and shouldn't do if nobody teaches me. But...
If I have given my self in everything that I do, and you accept it, take it all and don't show appreciation, then you no longer deserve what I am willing to give freely. Sounds harsh, I know, but why keep giving to people who couldn't care less about you in any case? Then you are a user and abuser...
Its not harsh at all IMO. I really hope she realizes that you are the one for her smile but if she doesnt then dont beat up yourself over it, its her loss and you sound like an amazing guy you'll eventually find your queen, a willing one lol. Good luck Winking
@aftershine
Thank you for your kind words smile
I really hope so too, but, whatever happens now, so be it. I also feel I have made myself loud and clear enough, and I have taken enough of a beating in the process. Time tells and heals all.
So let's see... hehehe
Its so annoying when ppl say ohh you're dealing with an immature scorp or an unevolved scorp. How do you know? Right. You dont. Ppl are so annoyin. Im like your lady love. Yup. 100% scorpio. Uniterested in the terms evolved and unevolved! Take that!
@NinaBee2002
Firstly... Jump off a bridge, you would do the world a favor... Secondly, I have never see jack from you and now you want to dish out bs? And lastly, who the hell are you? If people annoy you GTFO. Because your p! poor attitude tells me that people aren't the problem, you are.
OmagaIII, I think you need to move on from this chic..make her history! I dated a Taurus guy once and he was awesome...very caring, dedicated and loyal. The only issue I had with him, was his jealousy and he was highly emotional, but that's because Taurus individuals are very passionate people when they love you. I didn't realize that until we broke up, but we are still the best of friends even til this day. He's just as dedicated as a friend, so guess what? HER LOSSSad
Clearly you took that personally. Oh well. I dont go around wishing death on ppl behind my computer screen. You're crazy. As for who I am well you know who I am, NinaBee. Duh. Go bully someone who will actually get afraid. I would give you the benfit of the doubt, mercury is getting ready to go retrograde, but id rather not. You can do me a favor and never address me again because i dont want to talk to you. Ever. #Numnum
@Ninabee2002
Hahaha deal weakling. You don't post bs when I ask questions and other people confirm and I won't bother looking in your direction. I really hope you have more substance than this. Otherwise I fear disappointment will always be a part of your life, for which you blame others.
Anyway, nice to have cleared you out of my way. Fair well. Winking
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