Scorpio Changes his words and lies

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by misslibrascorpio on Monday, December 4, 2023 and has 15 replies.
I met this Scorpio around August of this year.

I have never dated a Scorpio and his intensity scared me off after a few weeks. I decided to not continue dating. Mind you he was coming over every day and

helping me with things in my place but there was one incident that made me feel awkward and it was super intense.

Fast forward a month he started looking at my stories (my pagy is public). Because of this I was curious to

know why since I decided to end things. I reached out to him and it was a mutual feeling of wanting to see each other and try it again.

I was leaving on vacation and he came late at night to see me and he got upset I didn’t want to have sex. He was expecting it but I did not feel like having sex. I was going to be gone for two weeks and I needed him to just be there as a friend for that moment. He was acting as if I disappointed him and why wouldn’t I want to have sex with my “man”. He wasn’t my man, we were still dating. This lead to us breaking up our dating status and while I was out of country I was so hurt but made the effort to stay in communication with him and just try to repair what happened or at least make him understand where I was coming from.

I found him on a dating app (I created a fake profile). I wanted to see how quick he was to get back on the scene. However when I returned from my trip he did delete and we started all over again, like this honey moon phase but this time I noticed I had no issue voicing things I didn’t like but things were going well. He was coming over all the time again, taking me out to dinner and date nights and him staying the night. It got to a serious point that I spent Thanksgiving with him and met his family.

They were all lovely people and I had a great time. The Sunday after thanksgiving I had a serious talk

With him about dating and moving to

The next step. He basically was trying to avoid that conversation.

Monday after thanksgiving he’s acting very very distant and not messaging me during the day. He comes over that night to tell me “I feel our connection would die in the future because I keep doubting our compatibility”. This entire time he was not sure of me

or us being in a relationship but I just met his family and he would come stay at my house.

He said that night he wasn’t ready to be in a relationship and we basically ended things and I asked him to leave.

He’s back on hinge and his profile is ALL ABOUT WANTING A RELATIONSHIP. He is ready to meet

his queen, monogamy, etc. At this point I see a huge liar and a coward.

He blocked my IG page for no reason and now has unblocked me and made his page public. Make it make sense?!

I want to embarrass him and make him feel small for lying to me and wasting my time.

So I should burn his clothes he left here and never trust a Scorpio again?

I am not bruised, I am irritated because I have never met a person to spend money, time and take me to meet his mom and dad to say the next day he isn’t ready for a relationship.

That’s a facade.

Posted by misslibrascorpio
So I should burn his clothes he left here and never trust a Scorpio again?
I am not bruised, I am irritated because I have never met a person to spend money, time and take me to meet his mom and dad to say the next day he isn’t ready for a relationship.
That’s a facade.

"He wasn’t ready to be in a relationship" is a cliché and translates to "he wasn’t ready to be in a serious relationship WITH YOU".

How did the Thanksgiving go? What made you have "the talk" with him immediately after? Was he distancing from you at that point? Could it be that seeing you around his family (and his family seeing you and giving feedback to him) changed his mind?
He was all in until he was out. Something happened during the visit to his parents. He doesn't see you as long term material anymore.

Cut him loose and find your person somewhere else.

I was all in on someone years ago and one bad date with her having a shitty attitude and I was out quickly.

Every date is a job interview with a 90 day probationary period.
Posted by Undine
Posted by misslibrascorpio
So I should burn his clothes he left here and never trust a Scorpio again?
I am not bruised, I am irritated because I have never met a person to spend money, time and take me to meet his mom and dad to say the next day he isn’t ready for a relationship.
That’s a facade.


"He wasn’t ready to be in a relationship" is a cliché and translates to "he wasn’t ready to be in a serious relationship WITH YOU".
How did the Thanksgiving go? What made you have "the talk" with him immediately after? Was he distancing from you at that point? Could it be that seeing you around his family (and his family seeing you and giving feedback to him) changed his mind?
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To be honest I was very respectful and was making conversation. I was next to him the entire time and laughing and dancing. Being with him at his families house and sharing that intimate time felt good. We went home back to my house and the next day we were great.

His wife (soon to be ex wife lol) didn’t click with his family and she had nothing in common.

I don’t think it was his families event that made him change.

It wasn’t until that Sunday after thanksgiving when we had that talk.

Maybe he wasn’t ready for a relationship with me but he sure faked it pretty well.
Posted by WarAngel79
He was all in until he was out. Something happened during the visit to his parents. He doesn't see you as long term material anymore.
Cut him loose and find your person somewhere else.
I was all in on someone years ago and one bad date with her having a shitty attitude and I was out quickly.
Every date is a job interview with a 90 day probationary period.
I think in a Scorpio’s world everyday and every minute is a job interview. He definitely looked and reviewed everything I did, say, feel, project.

I didn’t give him attitude but he took me to this bar were I ended up feeling so uncomfortable and the drinks were disgusting but I wanted to give the place a chance but I later confessed I didn’t like it and he could tell.

Maybe that’s what set me him off 🤷🏻‍♀️
Posted by misslibrascorpio
Posted by WarAngel79
He was all in until he was out. Something happened during the visit to his parents. He doesn't see you as long term material anymore.
Cut him loose and find your person somewhere else.
I was all in on someone years ago and one bad date with her having a shitty attitude and I was out quickly.
Every date is a job interview with a 90 day probationary period.





I think in a Scorpio’s world everyday and every minute is a job interview. He definitely looked and reviewed everything I did, say, feel, project.



I didn’t give him attitude but he took me to this bar were I ended up feeling so uncomfortable and the drinks were disgusting but I wanted to give the place a chance but I later confessed I didn’t like it and he could tell.



Maybe that’s what set me him off 🤷🏻‍♀️
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You're giving us one side of the story, but I can definitely see family being an important part of the decision-making process. If my family doesn't care for the woman I'm dating, it's not going to work out. Hispanic culture is like that. 💯

I'm always paying attention because this is the most important decision I'll ever make in my life. Many have tried, only four - have seen my family.
This just sounds like both of you want control of the relationship.

He wanted to move at his pace (intense for you) and you have your pace. Lots of talking past each other and expectations on both ends.

Only one person can have the reigns here.

Posted by misslibrascorpio
Posted by Undine
Posted by misslibrascorpio
So I should burn his clothes he left here and never trust a Scorpio again?
I am not bruised, I am irritated because I have never met a person to spend money, time and take me to meet his mom and dad to say the next day he isn’t ready for a relationship.
That’s a facade.


"He wasn’t ready to be in a relationship" is a cliché and translates to "he wasn’t ready to be in a serious relationship WITH YOU".
How did the Thanksgiving go? What made you have "the talk" with him immediately after? Was he distancing from you at that point? Could it be that seeing you around his family (and his family seeing you and giving feedback to him) changed his mind?
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To be honest I was very respectful and was making conversation. I was next to him the entire time and laughing and dancing. Being with him at his families house and sharing that intimate time felt good. We went home back to my house and the next day we were great.
His wife (soon to be ex wife lol) didn’t click with his family and she had nothing in common.
I don’t think it was his families event that made him change.
It wasn’t until that Sunday after thanksgiving when we had that talk.
Maybe he wasn’t ready for a relationship with me but he sure faked it pretty well.
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His behaviour doesn't scream "fake" to me. We don't know if something put him off. Or if that something had to do with you dating a technically married man....

Looking at your pictures, it reminds me of a true story. A colleague of mine who was very gifted was dating the most beautiful woman from our uni. Until his mother and sister put their feet down and declared that his girlfriend was too hot for him! He actually broke up with her!

You never know what counts as a red flag to someone....smile
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So I should burn his clothes he left here and never trust a Scorpio again?
I am not bruised, I am irritated because I have never met a person to spend money, time and take me to meet his mom and dad to say the next day he isn’t ready for a relationship.
That’s a facade.


"He wasn’t ready to be in a relationship" is a cliché and translates to "he wasn’t ready to be in a serious relationship WITH YOU".
How did the Thanksgiving go? What made you have "the talk" with him immediately after? Was he distancing from you at that point? Could it be that seeing you around his family (and his family seeing you and giving feedback to him) changed his mind?
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To be honest I was very respectful and was making conversation. I was next to him the entire time and laughing and dancing. Being with him at his families house and sharing that intimate time felt good. We went home back to my house and the next day we were great.
His wife (soon to be ex wife lol) didn’t click with his family and she had nothing in common.
I don’t think it was his families event that made him change.
It wasn’t until that Sunday after thanksgiving when we had that talk.
Maybe he wasn’t ready for a relationship with me but he sure faked it pretty well.
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His behaviour doesn't scream "fake" to me. We don't know if something put him off. Or if that something had to do with you dating a technically married man....
Looking at your pictures, it reminds me of a true story. A colleague of mine who was very gifted was dating the most beautiful woman from our uni. Until his mother and sister put their feet down and declared that his girlfriend was too hot for him! He actually broke up with her!
You never know what counts as a red flag to someone....
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That's a coincidence, I was also looking at her pictures!
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Short nails=good girl. Did you notice as well...?
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Posted by misslibrascorpio
So I should burn his clothes he left here and never trust a Scorpio again?
I am not bruised, I am irritated because I have never met a person to spend money, time and take me to meet his mom and dad to say the next day he isn’t ready for a relationship.
That’s a facade.


"He wasn’t ready to be in a relationship" is a cliché and translates to "he wasn’t ready to be in a serious relationship WITH YOU".
How did the Thanksgiving go? What made you have "the talk" with him immediately after? Was he distancing from you at that point? Could it be that seeing you around his family (and his family seeing you and giving feedback to him) changed his mind?
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To be honest I was very respectful and was making conversation. I was next to him the entire time and laughing and dancing. Being with him at his families house and sharing that intimate time felt good. We went home back to my house and the next day we were great.
His wife (soon to be ex wife lol) didn’t click with his family and she had nothing in common.
I don’t think it was his families event that made him change.
It wasn’t until that Sunday after thanksgiving when we had that talk.
Maybe he wasn’t ready for a relationship with me but he sure faked it pretty well.
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His behaviour doesn't scream "fake" to me. We don't know if something put him off. Or if that something had to do with you dating a technically married man....
Looking at your pictures, it reminds me of a true story. A colleague of mine who was very gifted was dating the most beautiful woman from our uni. Until his mother and sister put their feet down and declared that his girlfriend was too hot for him! He actually broke up with her!
You never know what counts as a red flag to someone....
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Well it’s his loss. Should I ask him if he wants his things back? Or do I just toss them?

Posted by misslibrascorpio
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Posted by misslibrascorpio
So I should burn his clothes he left here and never trust a Scorpio again?
I am not bruised, I am irritated because I have never met a person to spend money, time and take me to meet his mom and dad to say the next day he isn’t ready for a relationship.
That’s a facade.


"He wasn’t ready to be in a relationship" is a cliché and translates to "he wasn’t ready to be in a serious relationship WITH YOU".
How did the Thanksgiving go? What made you have "the talk" with him immediately after? Was he distancing from you at that point? Could it be that seeing you around his family (and his family seeing you and giving feedback to him) changed his mind?
click to expand


To be honest I was very respectful and was making conversation. I was next to him the entire time and laughing and dancing. Being with him at his families house and sharing that intimate time felt good. We went home back to my house and the next day we were great.
His wife (soon to be ex wife lol) didn’t click with his family and she had nothing in common.
I don’t think it was his families event that made him change.
It wasn’t until that Sunday after thanksgiving when we had that talk.
Maybe he wasn’t ready for a relationship with me but he sure faked it pretty well.
click to expand

His behaviour doesn't scream "fake" to me. We don't know if something put him off. Or if that something had to do with you dating a technically married man....
Looking at your pictures, it reminds me of a true story. A colleague of mine who was very gifted was dating the most beautiful woman from our uni. Until his mother and sister put their feet down and declared that his girlfriend was too hot for him! He actually broke up with her!
You never know what counts as a red flag to someone....





Well it’s his loss. Should I ask him if he wants his things back? Or do I just toss them?

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Yes, bag them and ask him to collect by....or they'll be discarded.

Then place the bag outside your door before he arrives.
Posted by misslibrascorpio
So I should burn his clothes he left here and never trust a Scorpio again?
I am not bruised, I am irritated because I have never met a person to spend money, time and take me to meet his mom and dad to say the next day he isn’t ready for a relationship.
That’s a facade.

This is typical player nothing more

You bit the bullet
He’s hoping you chase and chase. Gives him the upper hand. Show you the good life and then end it all at a moments notice to really get you hooked.

Don’t play his game.

Give him exactly what he wants. A breakup. Act like he doesn’t exist. Go on with your life.
Also people are allowed to change their minds.

It doesn’t matter how many friends you’ve met, family you’ve hugged, dinner dates you had, conversations in the midnight hour…

People are allowed to change their minds