Scorpio Communication

I think Missy has mentioned how she doesn't care too much for texting.

I've also noticed that other Scorpios seem to prefer the phone or face-to-face conversations over e-mail or texting.

Is this a Scorpio thing, or a strange female thing??

It's not so much texting, phone calls or face to face interactions..it's communication as a whole...We just don't care to make an effort to text or phone anyone or meet up unless we really have to...that's the point I was trying to get across..I could quite happily go without phoning anyone EVER...people call me all the time, EVERYONE complains how I never phone or text them...I just don't..they are used to it by now..and I am used to the abuse..lol..it's not because I am unable to speak or am busy or anything, I just don't get the urge to...

When someone else phones me, I'll quite happily answer the phone and chat away for hours on end...

We just don't care to make an effort to text or phone anyone or meet up unless we really have to...

That's the way my daughter is, too. She rarely initiates a call, letter, e-mail, or any other form of communication...

who sends pictures to 25 people—

Uh... me!

Huge extended family, strung all over hell's half acre, but we try to keep everybody in the loop...

I hate text messages..sooo tedious not to mention impersonal...

My leo sister is a serial texter..oh my god..Gah!..I hate it..I just don't respond until she phones me..

LOL! I don't think so.

*I have a Scorpio friend that hates talking on the phone as I do at times. She won't answer it unless she knows it's about something important. However, she doesn't mind emailing or texting.

*I have another Scorpio friend who texted me over 30 times (one after the other) over a 48 hour period. Most of the messages that I did bother to read were incoherent mumbo jumbo though. She also enjoys talking on the phone a lot and has to have someone to talk on the phone with when she goes for a walk everyday.

Im a scorp and I hate texts. I will exchange texts for small talk or for quick convo. But I cannot stand when people try to have extended conversations or discuss important issues via text or email. Very impersonal. Not to mention, things easily get misconstrued.

My Scorp prefers one on one convo over text and phone calls... if it's just random bs on the phone thats fine (but not for too long, unless he can afford to stay up til 3am..).. jokes through text he appreciates...

But god forbid you start talking about something serious on the phone. I've been advised to write a list and request to see him in person when things are really bothering me, because he hates fighting.

I'll tell you one thing... if he calls me at 1am, by 3am he's pretty tipsy and wont shut the hell up.

P.S.- I used to send him philosophical quotes through text that would confuse the shit out of him... it was usually random and he had a love/hate relationship with that. He found it mysterious... lol but at the same time it would piss him off cause he really wouldn't know where my head was at and why I was saying what I was saying. =)

Ew texting! I got into it for awhile but really I got so damn BORED with it. The time it took me to text a convo back and forth I could have gotten it out face to face within 5 min. Stupid waste of time.

I'm a "moody" communicater. I will shut everyone out if I don't feel like talking. My friends get pissed at me and honestly I don't get alot of phone calls anymore because there are times I won't pick up for days. Eh whatever. I guess if I feel like talking I'll call them. At least it's on my terms. 🙂

I definitely am for texting!! I am not a fone person though..Cant chat on it for long!..just a bit of time..exchange the usual hellos..and then be done with the message for wich the phone call was made.

texting sure is fun if the other person is interested in it too..As a matter of fact..that was the medium my girl n me got together!!!

I'm the same deemnsout and gingerscorp. Sometimes I just withdraw and don't want to be bothered to communicate with friends. Most of them understand and don't take it personally.

In general I don't like texting, although I like how my boyfriend and I send a couple texts back and forth throughout the first half of the day because we're thinking of each other during work hours. That's about it. I don't have conversations on texts, just as you mentioned missmorals, I have a sis who does this and it annoys me. I just call her. I prefer face-to -face conversations because, haha just as defense said, I like to be able to read between the lines and it's easier to tell the person's true intentions and feelings when you can look at them and observe their behavior and expressions and gestures. Phone conversations are fine but I only engage in those with a couple of people I'm very close to for the most part.

but the face-to-face convos and reading between the lines are not for the sake of drama. more so for the ability to detect if the person is saying what is on their mind or if there is something else that they are not saying, I'm interested in the truth.

I prefer phone to texting but I'm not much of a phone person. I like face to face though. I actually like to watch people, no matter how weird it may sound. It's true. I stop seeing a Taurus earlier this year and the major issue was communication style . She was a very nice lady but that woman would text everything you can possibly imagine. Her Blackberry was a body part. I put it to an end when she texted me, while we were sitting at the same dinner table last January.

LMAO @ Xfoosme..hehe...Texting is just plain rude...I only use it to say things like "I am on my way now" or "I am outside the restaurant" things like that..

Ray, that is not right..I don't blame you for ending things..what a moron!

Posted by missmorals
It's not so much texting, phone calls or face to face interactions..it's communication as a whole...We just don't care to make an effort to text or phone anyone or meet up unless we really have to...that's the point I was trying to get across..I could quite happily go without phoning anyone EVER...people call me all the time, EVERYONE complains how I never phone or text them...I just don't..they are used to it by now..and I am used to the abuse..lol..it's not because I am unable to speak or am busy or anything, I just don't get the urge to...

When someone else phones me, I'll quite happily answer the phone and chat away for hours on end...

I fully support MMs approach. It's not so much the means of communication; it's rather the necessity combined with the practicality of means being used. Sometimes a text might do better than a phone call. Sometimes face-to-face might be better than an email, or vice versa. It depends on previous outcomes with that person. Most times I will not initiate conversation unless necessary.

"Say what? Was she trying to be funny? What did the text say? Pass the potatos?"

I really don't remember, I have an emotional memory, I would say. I remember things that moves me in some kind of way. Text messages simply don't. I know it was some kind of compliment though.

"Ray, that is not right..I don't blame you for ending things"

Don't get me wrong though, she was a nice woman but too computerized for my taste. I tried telling her few times but all she would say is ... I know I'm a texter, I love it, that's what I do, I'm a texter. So it's fine though, I'm just one individual. See what makes someone a good person or not is what they do in general and not how well they serve one individual.

Ah you have such a way with words ray..sigh...

::still waiting for that merc in libra loan::

I like that..emotional memory...I think that's why I don't remember just about everything like say for example a gemini or a virgo who just soak in every bit of information out there..crappy or not..God! imagine a mind with that much gigabyte..lol. A virgo who I absolutely admire is Stephen Fry...when interviewed once by a presenter who said "you are THE most intelligent bloke i've ever met", he promptly replied by saying "I don't think I am intelligent, I just have a very good memory"...I think that holds true for Virgo's.

I think I need a memory upgrade..

Anyways, I digress....communication..yes carry on...

" I like that..emotional memory...I think that's why I don't remember just about everything like say for example a gemini or a virgo who just soak in every bit of information out there..crappy or not..God! imagine a mind with that much gigabyte..lol. "

Haaha ... I have a two good friends like that. One of them is really precise, he'll remember anything. He'd be like remember when we went to this place May 7th 1994, I'd be like ... Alright, I remember going there once, but why on earth would you remember that it was May 7th 1994 for — lol I can't just remember things like that for no reason. I also often have to resort to music to retrace an event.

Yes music is a great medium for remembering things...I don't think I could ever be a singer..If I start pounding out a ballad, I'd start crying..emotions at times get the better of me if the song is fantastic...god what a cry baby!..My memory is really quite crap actually..long term is fine but short term is rubbish!.I have selective memory..

"How i hate looking in the eyes.Its so stressing for me,so if someone is looking at me too intensly i have an urge to put hand on his eyes to make them stop,or shout at them to stop.Its so cheap and cheesy,like taken out of Z-list romantic comedy."His magic stare"hahahaha!Dont stare,dont exercise your "magnetic look "on me coz it only makes me laugh and i see it as faking"mirrors of the soul"or "windows of the soul".Some people were definately told that they have "magic stare"and they try to use it on their victims hehe and only make them uneasy.."

That's interesting. I understand why someone would be uneasy by eye contact. I don't really get like that though, I actually felt like people thought I was ridiculous in my Sociology class last year when we discussed "the code of the street" and I said I don't feel weird making contact with people while walking down the street. Since then I thought about it more and now I just don't do it mainly because the study made sense, it can be provoking or inviting. Besides that, I guess if you are really creepy then I'd be uneasy, but that's only because you are creepy. LOL

Personally, when I notice someone is staring into my eyes, I feel kind of at ease (excluding combative situations). Just as much as that person is trying to read me, they are letting me read them as well. I find it funny when a person walks into the room and doesn't look at me, I mean he/she doesn't have to, but when I am the only person in that room it's just amusing to me to be completely disregarded. It happens in my office A LOT.

"Roses really smell like boo booooooo."

On another note, when my Scorpio stares at me, I get excited. My loving stare seems to make him feel stupid though. 😢 He says I look at him like a cute puppy... like aww stupid dog and he backs up because he gets the feeling I'm going to start petting his head. It's just he's so perceptive... I try to explain that when I make that face it's cause I am admiring him, but he doesn't get it. Why is that?

"Though i felt a bit sorry for this poor Taurus.Im sure she cared about you more then you think.And there she went down coz of texting"

I think she cared as well and I did too, she was a nice person and also she did ask me, if I liked her. I had to be honest and tell her I couldn't feel a connection between us. So I didn't proceed because I wasn't getting a connection really but I believe that her texting was not helping at getting a connection. She would text anything, she would text me while I was driving on the highway on my way to meet her. I'd pick up her text messages sent, right in front of her. It was frustrating at times, why didn't you call? I can't pick up text messages while speeding on the highway. However I can pick up the phone and talk though, eventhough I rather not while driving.

Posted by machiavelli bull
Hi Vivalapisces.It really makes me uneasy when someone is trying to look into my eyes-i feel they are like an intruder and it annoys me to no end.And i feel anger cos i sense that someone told them its their best trick to pull a woman so i will prove them that no it isnt,for me its a sure fire way to make me angry and to snap"What are you staring at".I sense it as cheap trick and it annoys me to no end.Its almost painful expirience for me when someone tries to look into my eyes while talking,i look away in a split second.And im quite annoyed.

I see it as a way of building trust, or letting a person know that I am not full of shit. I have been told that I have "honest eyes," but I'm sure that's common with Pisceans. there is actually a thread on pisces eyes in our section. If I feel a certain way, you'll see it... I hate it sometimes. I don't sit there and forcibly try to get people to look me in the eye though, I just make eye contact when I speak, and don't mind it when people do the same. It's natural for me I guess... but like I said if I'm not crazy about a person I don't want to make eye contact with them, probably because then I just might dislike them more and he/she can see it. So I can understand why you wouldn't like to do it at all if I don't like to do it in certain situations.

Posted by DyarStra??_e


I've also noticed that other Scorpios seem to prefer the phone or face-to-face conversations over e-mail or texting.

Based on my experience - I agree. All Scorpios I knew, preferred face-to-face way of communication and were kind of reluctant to put things in writing unless forced to by circumstances (long distance). Sometimes I had a feeling that there was a certain fear in it. Like whatever they write is some kind of proof which can be used against them at some point. At least to the moment when they reached certain level of comfort, trust and security in a relationship.

Personally (but I'm only Scorpio rising, not Sun) - I don't like texting or spending hours talking on the phone (I have the smallest possible cell phone plan available and never used it). I believe in face-to-face way of communication as I can see reactions to my words. I also like email, mostly because gives us certain level of comfort and security. The most intimate and personal facts about people I usually find out from them through the email.

Posted by machiavelli bull
Hmm..Vivalapisces its intersting what you say.I dont like it even in intimate situation,i mean really intimate.I actually hate it.I dont know how to express it.Tauruses are very closed and shy people even though we seem to be so straightforward. Maybe its a difference between water and earth sings.We arent intuitive people.I cant read into emotions.Its very difficult for me.i must hear words to believe what person feels.I dont like to guess.And what if i guess wrong?And you know that the best liars look you straight into eye without even 1blink.so i dont know if its really so honest or proves honesty.

Before I continue I just want to clarify that if it's a stranger I would probably wonder wtf they are looking at too... but in conversation with a person I know, or with someone helping me at a store or something, I'm fine. Intimately I'm fine too, I'm with a Scorpio, so yeah I think how that is relevant to eye contact is self-explanatory.

I am saying that eye contact can convey honesty because my eyes particularly emit so much emotion. If I'm sad, at one glance you see it, even if I try to hide it. So I'm sure if I'm lying, my eyes are screaming it. It definitely depends on the type of person you are inside though, eye contact doesn't mean you are an honest person, but if you're being dishonest, I think you are more than likely not going to look me in the eye (not referring to strangers). I find it interesting as well because I have a Taurus rising, but then I have Sun, moon, and mercury in Pisces... so I'm thinking that may have something to do with it lol. I asked my Taurus friend about this subject, and she says if it's a stranger she'd be like wtf are you looking at... just like you. LOL Also that she doesnt like it very much in intimate situations as well, but in conversation she's a little different.

"i can have a conversation with eye contact...that lets me know that the person is listening to me
and the other way too."

I can dig that. It's good to know, since I am an eye contact type of gal. Go to know for the future, I wouldn't want to make someone very uncomfortable with that.

What I think is pretty crazy is that I have a friend that can read eyes, like from pictures, and she's been pretty on point so far. CIA tactic type of shit... craziness.

i have to go with this being a female thing. i'm a libra, and i HATE texting! it's so stupid, if you want to talk to me, fucking call me, if you don't have the time, wait until you do. simple. don't get me started on IMing. god, my former friend (leo) always used to IM me while i was doing something important online. i would tell her, if you want to talk to me, call me, because i'm doing something important online now. she would always say, "i can't, i don't have the time". this annoyed the everloving shit out of me. this, and many other reasons are why we aren't friends anymore! but yeah, i really don't like communication though technology, it's just not for me. i just got used to e-mail last year, only because i was getting a piece of custom jewelry made, and it was done out of my state. i definitely prefer phone or face to face communication. technology sucks! 😉

Posted by machiavelli bull
Ray but how she was supposed to know that you were on the highway?Maybe she didnt know it and had best intentions,this is how Tauruses and women generaly show their closeness,by talking.You should be honest with her and tell her staright:Listen dont be angry but this texting of yours is very annoying to me,and if you please stop it".Im sure she would understand- i would.But the problem with Scorpio is that they arent much talkative people in general,and Taurus sees it as lack of interest,and im sure her texting was a way of assuring herself that you care or think of her,this that she asked you if you like her,says that she was questioning your interest in her.And im sure she fell into this trap of trying getting your assurance and intesified her actions,which in result pushed you further away.Really sad.I think you should maybe talk to her and tell her straight what went wrong.But im sure she would get a bit angry,cos she would think that if you really cared you wouldnt leave from such minor issue,cos im sure that she considers her texting a minor issue.

I see what you're saying. I never doubted her intentions though, she was really a nice person. Always. Her texts were not annoying though, I just think they weren't helping with us getting a connection. I really stopped because after 4 months, I was still not getting a connection with her. I felt like it wasn't going anywhere. She asked me once if I liked her and I told her that I wasn't getting a connection and so far there was a lot of texting on her side and I couldn't get a vibe from that but I thought that she was a really nice person. She said I know, I know, I'm a texter, I'm really a texter, that's what I do. She was smiling as well and seemed happy saying that, so I didn't push any further in that sense. I don't really like trying to make people change their ways, especially if I see them being happy with their ways and it is of no harm to anyone. So I never really got back to that. At the end though I wasn't getting that connection. She also have her Venus in Gemini and had a tendency to take things lightly but at the end seemed happy with the way she was. I always say what makes someone a nice person is really what they do in general and not how their nature serves one individual. She was a really nice woman and happy with the way she was, I just didn't get the connection I needed t

Machiavelli,

I didn't think she had any fault and didn't try to change her at all. I didn't have a connection with her and can't force myself to have one. I was being honest when she asked me. I couldn't lie about that. I really didn't have a connection with her and can't proceed in a relationship when that in non existent. As stated earlier, I think she was nice for who she was. No one is at fault but ... we didn't have a connection. Something that couldn't be fabricated.

Honestly, I think things should be communicated (having a problem with the texting), so with that I agree with machiavell. BUT I don't agree with changing a person. If she likes texting, he could mention it that it is an undesirable characteristic, but to try and change someone isn't the best thing for a relationship. I'm not saying that people don't change for eachother in a relationship, and that there isn't compromise, but I don't think we should expect someone to change for us. We change for ourselves, and to expect something like that is like setting yourself up for disaster. So he just knows what he wants and doesn't. Kind of cut and dry, but it is what it is.

So he just knows what he wants and doesn't want*

"if you said in the beginning that you didnt feel connection with her i wouldnt comment ,but you said that you ended it coz of texting.So ive felt that i have to comment on this coz for me is unimaginable to write off person without explaination for such a minor and fixable thing."


I see. Yes I did put emphasis on the texting on my initial post. I didn't get a connection from the very beginning and if it was a few years back I wouldn't have started the dating but this time I decided to give it a try, thinking I could be wrong by not even trying since she was really a nice woman. Maybe something would come out at a later time. I ended it after four months still not getting a connection, the texting at the table didn't help coming to that.

She also had a Scorpio moon and was very secretive. Her venus was also in Gemini and she would take things quite lightly. After four months I got a basic understanding of her nature and enough to make a decision. I think you can only get the best of someone when that person can totally be herself around you, when her nature is natural fit to yours. So I rather let someone be and not try to change, as long as what they do is not compromising my values, principles, beliefs and the relationship. It's fine but I need a connection to go on.

I'm currently speaking to another Taurus from my home town (long distance)and this one has Gemini moon and her communication style is so different. I don't know if it's due to my airy Libra moon and mercury but we're so much more in sync. She's much more engaging and speaks to no end. She feels much more comfortable in her own skin as well. I came to understand that no one is fully their sun sign.

"Honestly, I think things should be communicated (having a problem with the texting), so with that I agree with machiavell. BUT I don't agree with changing a person."

Me too, I addressed the texting once but you should see the smile in her face explaining her texting. She was really happy being that way. There is no way I would keep bringing that up. I think any more tries in that sense would make her feel like an handicap or something, just for texting. It's just how she is, she's happy communicating in that way.

Posted by machiavelli bull
I mean nicer in a way that he started to listen to this what i say-and answer my smses f.egz.And a lot of small things which he couldnt do he suddenly knwe how to do it.And he said"now you dont need me anymore"-after ive got this job i mean.Ive left coz boss tried to sleep with me.And then it became the same like before.I didnt want much,i wanted to feel im nr.1 adored and if he tells me that some dinner with friends is more important then message from me then well...then dont expect nice treatment from me afterwards..Unaswering texts is a sign of disrespect.Major.

My bf is a Scorpio and he's the same way. He asked me not to answer texts or calls if I'm with a bunch of people because it is rude. I realized he was right when I noticed how I felt when people did it to me. We both compromised to make eachother happy, but neither of us changed. I don't mind text messages, and it depends on his mood, but if I text him and he knows he won't answer for a while, he'll just let me know he's busy sometimes. Better than before trust me. I understand how you feel about it being rude not to, because it takes a few minutes to let a person know you are busy and that you will speak to them later, but I also realized that it mostly had to do with my own baggage, insecurities, and trust issues. Once I told him that, and made it clear that it's not his fault, and I'm sorry that it isn't fair that I am like this, he compromised... I appreciate that from him.

From what you said I noticed that he seemed to change once you were doing good for yourself (eg- having a job and probably feeling happier and more secure yourself, which new jobs usually do). Sorry to hear about your pigheaded boss, but this is just a small observation. From what I've read, and experienced, they like it when you are independant and showing strength. It's kind of a weird topic when I think about it, because yes I have felt disrespected for him not answering, but then again demanding someone answer you at the drop of a dime isn't very fair either. I'm not making excuses for this behavior, but sometimes people are just busy. It confuses me, because I think in my case it's about feeling "special," as far as being so important to a person that they will interrupt whatever they are doing to say hi. That is nice and all, but sometimes it is inappropriate, so both sides are asking for the other to

And by answering texts or calls when with a bunch of people, I mean in a group convo or a convo with one or two friends. It "disrupts the flow."

both sides are asking for the other to do something that they aren't comfortable with**

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Posted by Rays Heart
"Honestly, I think things should be communicated (having a problem with the texting), so with that I agree with machiavell. BUT I don't agree with changing a person."

Me too, I addressed the texting once but you should see the smile in her face explaining her texting. She was really happy being that way. There is no way I would keep bringing that up. I think any more tries in that sense would make her feel like an handicap or something, just for texting. It's just how she is, she's happy communicating in that way.

Yes, that's how she is. I think in a relationship we can tune eachother into what we like, but they can't be so far off as to completely re-wire them. I respect that you didn't try to change her. A LOT of people take that road.

Once my bg got mad that we were with a group of his friends, and I was so drunk, that I wanted food that minute. (I felt like I was going to blow...) Anyways he fought with me about getting food even if we're in NYC and there are freakin food carts everywhere. I put him in his place, and the ass says to me "Listen! You eat when I eat, you sleep when I sleep!!!!"

I flipped out and he started laughing... he wasn't serious... well not 100% serious at least. LOL I don't mind surrendering to him sometimes, but if I really disagree or I feel like shit from something he has done you best believe I'm going to give him hell. Maybe he was joking, or maybe he's a dictator. You have observed that particular sting monger, so you have to make that assessment.

Once my bf* not my background. UUUGGGghh I hate typos.

He has some characteristics, but the good comes out in Chunks. Mine said the same thing except instead of bastard he said asshole. In the beginning of our relationship he put me through hell, and he still does sometimes, but I am learning not to let it bother me so much since they pretty much are all tests. Last night he told me he was monitoring me concerning how I get involved in my parents divorce.

Nice huh? lol I got positive reinforcement though, but I am intrigued by his choice of words. Tell you the truth his worth may sometimes seem like "law" but about 99% of the time his advice and predictions of how things will play out are on point. So figure... why not pay attention? LOL The hard part is learning to read when he's being critical because he's observant, or he's just plain hating on something. What's up with that? Do other scorpio's in here hate on things so hard? He realized it and doesn't like it... I'm curious.

worth= word