Scorpio = extremely guilty feeling after breakup?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by lammal23 on Tuesday, October 21, 2008 and has 6 replies.
Is it normal for a Scorpio to make you feel extremely guilty for breaking up with them? The Scorpio I was with wasn't trying to unleash his stinger on me but he said to me, "No other man is going to know or love you like I did, because I took the time to actually get to know you." Ok, granted I give him credit wanting to talk through relationship problems and trying to get past our differences. But that is all he ever wanted to do. And I don't feel like he loved or truely knew me like he said, because about 90% of the time he was being paranoid and insecure.. thinking I was cheating or didn't love. What is a Scorpio's idea of loving someone and getting to know them? I'm confused.
lammal, I would suggest that you take several hours and read through some of the historical threads in here ... because what you've just asked is something that nearly all women ask who have ex-Scorp-men ....... and so the answer to your questions have already been answered.
First, guilt is self inflicted. No one can make you feel guilty, only you can. That is only if you deep down feel as though you did something you are not proud of and know was wrong.
Secondly, Scorp males, when young, are insecure, they just hide it very well. That insecurity leads to paranoid and jealous behavior. Trusting someone means letting go and losing control of your heart. Losing control is not what scorps embrace. The books say it takes someone with a lot of patience to deal with a scorp, that is very true. It is a long battle, but once you get their trust, you have something that is real and very rare (OK I am a scorp so I am biased). Many do not have the stamina to get through this phase. Is it fair..hell no, but that's the way we are wired. It make us lonely and those that touch us gun shy. The good news, is that as we get older we tend to overcome this problem.
Secondly, Scorp males, when young, are insecure, they just hide it very well. That insecurity leads to paranoid and jealous behavior. Trusting someone means letting go and losing control of your heart. Losing control is not what scorps embrace. The books say it takes someone with a lot of patience to deal with a scorp, that is very true. It is a long battle, but once you get their trust, you have something that is real and very rare (OK I am a scorp so I am biased). Many do not have the stamina to get through this phase. Is it fair..hell no, but that's the way we are wired. It make us lonely and those that touch us gun shy. The good news, is that as we get older we tend to overcome this problem.
"Is it normal for a Scorpio to make you feel extremely guilty for breaking up with them?"
Yeah. In fact it would be abnormal if they didn't. They're used to being the dumper, not the dumpee. Throws 'em for a loop every time.
Yeah. In fact it would be abnormal if they didn't. They're used to being the dumper, not the dumpee. Throws 'em for a loop every time.
i think most dumpees make the other feel guilty in some ways. it's just a defence mechanism to disperse their hurt.
top tip: don't feel sorry for them. if it wasn't meant to be then that's just the way it goes.
as for the 'no-one will ever love you like i did' line........GOOD!!! cos it was obviously the wrong kind of love!
having said that. it hurts to hurt someone. the dumper never gets the sympathy vote though which is unfortunate.
top tip: don't feel sorry for them. if it wasn't meant to be then that's just the way it goes.
as for the 'no-one will ever love you like i did' line........GOOD!!! cos it was obviously the wrong kind of love!
having said that. it hurts to hurt someone. the dumper never gets the sympathy vote though which is unfortunate.
"i think most dumpees make the other feel guilty in some ways."
finally, something sensible.
finally, something sensible.
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