Scorpio friend

I have a scorpio friend who recently broke up with her bf.

She started dating again (covid 19 dates) and has met a few guys but there's one guy that she really, really likes. He seems to be perfect for her. He's older, has a steady job and loves to pamper her.

What I don't understand is that she asked the guy to take a break so she could think things through (I think she got scared since this guy seems too good to be true) but the funny thing is that the next day, she calls him up saying she wants to get back together but he tells her that a day is not enough and if she wanted to take this break, she should take it because he wants her to focus on herself.

He seems to be serious about her but I am confused as to why she asked him for a break and less than 24 hours, she wants to get back together with him?

I know she's afraid to get hurt and she has the right to take things slow, take breaks, etc

Any idea why she suddenly changed her mind? Trying to understand ... She seems really bummed out. She really likes this guy.

she's a scorpio with Venus in libra

Posted by Wildd_Flo

“I have a scorpio friend who recently broke up with her bf.

She started dating again (covid 19 dates) and has met a few guys”

She’s not ready for any relationship as of now. Her insecurities are taking the wheel.

That's exactly what I think and I told her to take things slow and focus on her career.

Plus her ex was a complete jerk to her.

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Before even finishing reading your post I knew she had some libra in her damn chart. 😫

My venus isn’t in libra but my rising and 4 other placements are in libra. I’m indecisive af. 🤦🏼‍♀️ She probably still has feelings for the ex but also developing feelings for the new guy. Emotional limbo is absolutely uncomfortable for us.

I would love help her but I believe these things are so personal...she knows herself better than anyone else so I guess time will tell.

Its been a week since they stopped talking (with the new guy) and she seems really bummed out.

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Posted by Wildd_Flo

“I have a scorpio friend who recently broke up with her bf.

She started dating again (covid 19 dates) and has met a few guys”

She’s not ready for any relationship as of now. Her insecurities are taking the wheel.

That's exactly what I think and I told her to take things slow and focus on her career.

Plus her ex was a complete jerk to her.

If she doesn’t take the time to create a genuine relationship with herself first, she’s going to be stuck in a vicious cycle of needing affection and than self-destructing in the process. She’s going to drag down anyone who’s involved with her as well.

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I would like to tell her this because she's also playing with the guy's emotions (I am sure she's not doing it intentionally) but I'm not sure how to mention this to her.

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Posted by PhoenixStorm

Before even finishing reading your post I knew she had some libra in her damn chart. 😫

My venus isn’t in libra but my rising and 4 other placements are in libra. I’m indecisive af. 🤦🏼‍♀️ She probably still has feelings for the ex but also developing feelings for the new guy. Emotional limbo is absolutely uncomfortable for us.

I would love help her but I believe these things are so personal...she knows herself better than anyone else so I guess time will tell.

Its been a week since they stopped talking (with the new guy) and she seems really bummed out.

It’s probably for the better, she’s probably trying to force herself over her ex and that’s why she’s out dating again. That’s a shitty way to heal though honestly.

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You are right...

I wish I could tell her these things....I told her to focus on her career and just take some time to heal. 😢

But she's still out there...dating....

Posted by Wildd_Flo

There are too many people walking around as a half or less and not a whole. Taking time to be alone is necessary, it’s the one time you’re able to connect with who you truly are, your soul and disregard any outside influence. You don’t want to be a combination of bits and pieces of others put together to make you. No, you need to be you.

I can survive being single and achieve goals. I can be in a relationship and still achieve goals. I can love someone wholeheartedly for who they are but, also love myself.

the way you wrote this is exactly what I have been trying to tell her but it doesn't come out right. maybe I should print this and let her read it. 🙂

I think she needs to slowdown.

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“I have a scorpio friend who recently broke up with her bf.

She started dating again (covid 19 dates) and has met a few guys”

She’s not ready for any relationship as of now. Her insecurities are taking the wheel.

That's exactly what I think and I told her to take things slow and focus on her career.

Plus her ex was a complete jerk to her.

If she doesn’t take the time to create a genuine relationship with herself first, she’s going to be stuck in a vicious cycle of needing affection and than self-destructing in the process. She’s going to drag down anyone who’s involved with her as well.

I would like to tell her this because she's also playing with the guy's emotions (I am sure she's not doing it intentionally) but I'm not sure how to mention this to her.

She’s playing with his emotions. It seems he takes her more seriously than she does to him.

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He really likes her. She was talking about him last week and how he told her to take the break and to figure out what she wanted because he's ready for a serious relationship....

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Posted by Wildd_Flo

“I have a scorpio friend who recently broke up with her bf.

She started dating again (covid 19 dates) and has met a few guys”

She’s not ready for any relationship as of now. Her insecurities are taking the wheel.

That's exactly what I think and I told her to take things slow and focus on her career.

Plus her ex was a complete jerk to her.

If she doesn’t take the time to create a genuine relationship with herself first, she’s going to be stuck in a vicious cycle of needing affection and than self-destructing in the process. She’s going to drag down anyone who’s involved with her as well.

I would like to tell her this because she's also playing with the guy's emotions (I am sure she's not doing it intentionally) but I'm not sure how to mention this to her.

The guys is smart

She’s dealing with a real man. She either needs to decide she is in or out. Instead of break she needs to say I need to process it’s not a break.

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Yep, she met a good guy ...at the same time, I don't think she should force a relationship she's not sure about...but I really hope it works out.

Happy endings are the bests.

Posted by Wildd_Flo

“I have a scorpio friend who recently broke up with her bf.

She started dating again (covid 19 dates) and has met a few guys”

She’s not ready for any relationship as of now. Her insecurities are taking the wheel.

no offense, but i don't exactly see you as the poster girl for healthy relationships..............

Posted by Pulsy

I am a believer you don’t have to be perfect aka whole until u can in a relationship

Nobody ever is if you really think about it.

In fact u can grow from a relationship .

When Scorpio is overwhelmed with emotions we feel we need space. I have aske for it not meaning to ask for a break up. She might have just needed time to process n this is something she will need to discuss with this man

And maybe even say she need to slow it down. No need to throw away a healthy good man.

Did she tell you why she asked for space in the first place or are we assuming?

She said she got scared. She said he seems too good to be true.

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Posted by Wildd_Flo

“I have a scorpio friend who recently broke up with her bf.

She started dating again (covid 19 dates) and has met a few guys”

She’s not ready for any relationship as of now. Her insecurities are taking the wheel.

That's exactly what I think and I told her to take things slow and focus on her career.

Plus her ex was a complete jerk to her.

If she doesn’t take the time to create a genuine relationship with herself first, she’s going to be stuck in a vicious cycle of needing affection and than self-destructing in the process. She’s going to drag down anyone who’s involved with her as well.

I would like to tell her this because she's also playing with the guy's emotions (I am sure she's not doing it intentionally) but I'm not sure how to mention this to her.

The guys is smart

She’s dealing with a real man. She either needs to decide she is in or out. Instead of break she needs to say I need to process it’s not a break.

Yep, she met a good guy ...at the same time, I don't think she should force a relationship she's not sure about...but I really hope it works out.

Happy endings are the bests.

How will she now if she doesn’t give it time!!— All she has to do is gave a mature discussion n state she wants the pace slower

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I think they should have done that. Take things slow...but they would spend a lot of time together ...all in one month.

At the very least he's taught her that there are quality men out there. Perhaps that's his purpose in her life.

Sometimes you meet perfect people but timing is off. This may be one of those times.

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At the very least he's taught her that there are quality men out there. Perhaps that's his purpose in her life.

Sometimes you meet perfect people but timing is off. This may be one of those times.

Send him over here.

I’m ready lol

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Posted by Chessmess

I have a scorpio friend who recently broke up with her bf.

She started dating again (covid 19 dates) and has met a few guys but there's one guy that she really, really likes. He seems to be perfect for her. He's older, has a steady job and loves to pamper her.

What I don't understand is that she asked the guy to take a break so she could think things through (I think she got scared since this guy seems too good to be true) but the funny thing is that the next day, she calls him up saying she wants to get back together but he tells her that a day is not enough and if she wanted to take this break, she should take it because he wants her to focus on herself.

He seems to be serious about her but I am confused as to why she asked him for a break and less than 24 hours, she wants to get back together with him?

I know she's afraid to get hurt and she has the right to take things slow, take breaks, etc

Any idea why she suddenly changed her mind? Trying to understand ... She seems really bummed out. She really likes this guy.

she's a scorpio with Venus in libra

Because she does not know her arse from her elbow. People who break up from relationships and then dive straight into dating to commence a new relationship without taking a sufficient enough break to heal and to get their shit together are a complete mess despite them appearing to be normal.

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I have a scorpio friend who recently broke up with her bf.

She started dating again (covid 19 dates) and has met a few guys but there's one guy that she really, really likes. He seems to be perfect for her. He's older, has a steady job and loves to pamper her.

What I don't understand is that she asked the guy to take a break so she could think things through (I think she got scared since this guy seems too good to be true) but the funny thing is that the next day, she calls him up saying she wants to get back together but he tells her that a day is not enough and if she wanted to take this break, she should take it because he wants her to focus on herself.

He seems to be serious about her but I am confused as to why she asked him for a break and less than 24 hours, she wants to get back together with him?

I know she's afraid to get hurt and she has the right to take things slow, take breaks, etc

Any idea why she suddenly changed her mind? Trying to understand ... She seems really bummed out. She really likes this guy.

she's a scorpio with Venus in libra

Because she does not know her arse from her elbow. People who break up from relationships and then dive straight into dating to commence a new relationship without taking a sufficient enough break to heal and to get their shit together are a complete mess despite them appearing to be normal.

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I’ve been trying to tell her to focus on herself. Her friends have said the same thing.

She just has this thought that she’s getting old and she won’t find anyone.

She’s only in her late 20s.

Posted by Chessmess

I have a scorpio friend who recently broke up with her bf.

She started dating again (covid 19 dates) and has met a few guys but there's one guy that she really, really likes. He seems to be perfect for her. He's older, has a steady job and loves to pamper her.

What I don't understand is that she asked the guy to take a break so she could think things through (I think she got scared since this guy seems too good to be true) but the funny thing is that the next day, she calls him up saying she wants to get back together but he tells her that a day is not enough and if she wanted to take this break, she should take it because he wants her to focus on herself.

He seems to be serious about her but I am confused as to why she asked him for a break and less than 24 hours, she wants to get back together with him?

I know she's afraid to get hurt and she has the right to take things slow, take breaks, etc

Any idea why she suddenly changed her mind? Trying to understand ... She seems really bummed out. She really likes this guy.

she's a scorpio with Venus in libra

She self sabotaged herself.

Insecurities for the better of her

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Posted by Chessmess

I have a scorpio friend who recently broke up with her bf.

She started dating again (covid 19 dates) and has met a few guys but there's one guy that she really, really likes. He seems to be perfect for her. He's older, has a steady job and loves to pamper her.

What I don't understand is that she asked the guy to take a break so she could think things through (I think she got scared since this guy seems too good to be true) but the funny thing is that the next day, she calls him up saying she wants to get back together but he tells her that a day is not enough and if she wanted to take this break, she should take it because he wants her to focus on herself.

He seems to be serious about her but I am confused as to why she asked him for a break and less than 24 hours, she wants to get back together with him?

I know she's afraid to get hurt and she has the right to take things slow, take breaks, etc

Any idea why she suddenly changed her mind? Trying to understand ... She seems really bummed out. She really likes this guy.

she's a scorpio with Venus in libra

She self sabotaged herself.

Insecurities for the better of her

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Yes.

I hope she’s able to heal from her last relationship and realize that she met a really good guy.