Scorpio Friend Advice
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by CapricornLaurie on Monday, March 10, 2014 and has 7 replies.
I have this scorpio friend that has been going through a rough time. This economy hasn't been good to her and has forced her to move back with her family, since she has a son and another baby on the way.
I'm planning on visiting her soon since she is one of my closest friends and I'd like to give her some advice on how to improve her life and move forward.
Being a capricorn, I know I have the tendency to be brash and forward when giving advice. I might even get frustrated if I feel like my advice isn't being seriously considered.
But this is one of my closest friends and I really want to help her out of her situation. But I know that Scorpios can get offended and even cut people off if they feel like they're a negative influence on their lives. (I've seen her do this to other friends)
I'd just like some advice on how to approach her in a way that Scorpios find helpful.
I'm planning on visiting her soon since she is one of my closest friends and I'd like to give her some advice on how to improve her life and move forward.
Being a capricorn, I know I have the tendency to be brash and forward when giving advice. I might even get frustrated if I feel like my advice isn't being seriously considered.
But this is one of my closest friends and I really want to help her out of her situation. But I know that Scorpios can get offended and even cut people off if they feel like they're a negative influence on their lives. (I've seen her do this to other friends)
I'd just like some advice on how to approach her in a way that Scorpios find helpful.
@GetMisted No she hasn't asked for my advice and to be honest she's not the type to ask. Not that I want to set up a full intervention on her life but maybe some inspirational thoughts? It hurts me to know that she is struggling like that esp. when I've seen such fire and determination in her before. I feel like some of that has dimmed and I'd like to spark some back in her.
@Whatu thanks for your insight. Unfortunately I don't think astrology is her cup of tea.
@Whatu thanks for your insight. Unfortunately I don't think astrology is her cup of tea.
Posted by GetMisted
Has she asked for your advice? If not, I don't recommend giving it.
I agree with this. She is an adult...she'll figure it out Im sure. No one is exempt from the highs and lows of life, so its a temporary moment. Help by enjoying her, lifting her spirit, and having fun. It could be more offensive or insulting than anything else, especially if it appears you are coming from an angle where it would or could never happen to you+ words can only help so much.
@Impulsv and Inana04 thanks so much for your thoughts. Her situation is somewhat similar and I wouldn't want to make her feel bad or like I'm judging her. I think you're right, as much as i might want to help her and give her the ABCs on how to fix things, I can't. We live far from each other now so I'd like to visit her and keep her spirits up.
Being light, airy, and positive are not my strengths as a Cappy but at least now I'm conscious enough about it to try.
I'm going to stay positive and pray that my friend gets over this hump in her life.
Thanks for the feedback!
Being light, airy, and positive are not my strengths as a Cappy but at least now I'm conscious enough about it to try.
I'm going to stay positive and pray that my friend gets over this hump in her life.
Thanks for the feedback!
Thanks @GetMisted great feedback. I'm glad I went on this board to get some different perspectives.
One of my lovely besties is a cap and she had me cracking up with wedding spreadsheets when I was her bridesmaid...!
Just knowing that you are supporting her will help- I'm sure she values that most of all! And you are a great friend to be so concerned
But to be aware we have a big nasty ole Saturn hovering over us at the moment and depending on when she is born its going to be around for a while yet. I believe its in the middle of its transit so if she was born around the 10th November she'll be feeling it full strength. If she was born later the glare/ intensity is yet to come.
The lucky first decans it has passed over, but all scorp's (and risings) will still be affected until mid 2015.
Also there has been a venus, mercury and currently a mars return (and scorps are somewhat Mars influenced) so astrologically speaking it is a bit of a shit storm for scorps.
Whether you believe that ^^ or not, I know that when you hit rock bottom a little softness means everything. Temper the cap charge and let her breathe.
Good luck and I hope your friend gets things sorted
Just knowing that you are supporting her will help- I'm sure she values that most of all! And you are a great friend to be so concerned
But to be aware we have a big nasty ole Saturn hovering over us at the moment and depending on when she is born its going to be around for a while yet. I believe its in the middle of its transit so if she was born around the 10th November she'll be feeling it full strength. If she was born later the glare/ intensity is yet to come.
The lucky first decans it has passed over, but all scorp's (and risings) will still be affected until mid 2015.
Also there has been a venus, mercury and currently a mars return (and scorps are somewhat Mars influenced) so astrologically speaking it is a bit of a shit storm for scorps.
Whether you believe that ^^ or not, I know that when you hit rock bottom a little softness means everything. Temper the cap charge and let her breathe.
Good luck and I hope your friend gets things sorted
On one hand, it's good you care about your friend and plan to be proactive with helping her.
On the other hand, do NOT go there and dish unsolicited advice. Bringing up advice out of the blue with Scorpios = at best they will look blank at you, at worst they will think you're pitying them or somehow find them incapable of dealing with their shit. It will not go over well.
Just be around her, bring some humor..talk light stuff with her and throw a "You know I have your back, if you ever need to reach out to me, I'll be there". Don't bring up the "if you need some help"..they are allergic to the "Help" word.
I can actually picture a Scorpio drowning and refusing to yell for help until the last moment. They have to means to sort their lives out..just by knowing you are in their corner it helps them tremendously. Nothing more than that.
I have 3 Scorpio gfs..I'm a Virgo who needs to fix people and help them..you have no idea how bad this mindset is until they tell you straight up "Back off woman! I am in charge of my own life"
On the other hand, do NOT go there and dish unsolicited advice. Bringing up advice out of the blue with Scorpios = at best they will look blank at you, at worst they will think you're pitying them or somehow find them incapable of dealing with their shit. It will not go over well.
Just be around her, bring some humor..talk light stuff with her and throw a "You know I have your back, if you ever need to reach out to me, I'll be there". Don't bring up the "if you need some help"..they are allergic to the "Help" word.
I can actually picture a Scorpio drowning and refusing to yell for help until the last moment. They have to means to sort their lives out..just by knowing you are in their corner it helps them tremendously. Nothing more than that.
I have 3 Scorpio gfs..I'm a Virgo who needs to fix people and help them..you have no idea how bad this mindset is until they tell you straight up "Back off woman! I am in charge of my own life"
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