Scorpio friend and I got in a big fight..

A Scorpio friend and I got into a big fight a month ago... I lashed out from a dark place and she said we need space. I agreed. After a few weeks I wrote her a letter highlighting the strength she has given me as a friend and how much I appreciated our time together. We have been friends for years. At the time of the fight she iced me on social media, but forgave me and said we needed 4 weeks.

The letter I sent said only open when she was truly ready.

That was last week, still haven’t heard anything. Fighting the urge to reach out.

Thoughts?

Posted by dilettante

i agree w/ @mareinfame

but... also, maybe the letter pissed her off even more lmao

its happened to me before. i forgave someone & bc they kept talking, they dug themselves deeper into the hole.

also also... if this happened last week & she asked for 4 weeks... give her 4 weeks.

Sorry, a little context. Our last communication was August 1st. Fall out was July 23rd. She asked for space until the end of August to consider boundaries. The letter was a reflection of some of our best moments, and an explanation for our worst. Ending with an appreciation for what she has done for me and how I’ve found strength in our friendship. I had lost faith in myself and I’ve found it during our time apart.

We were best friends leading up to everything. I want to respect her need for the time to heal. I think some more time will be appropriate. Perhaps I’ll reach out next week to let her know I’m thinking of her.

any updates @op ? I hope it all works out well for you both

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Posted by dilettante

i agree w/ @mareinfame

but... also, maybe the letter pissed her off even more lmao

its happened to me before. i forgave someone & bc they kept talking, they dug themselves deeper into the hole.

also also... if this happened last week & she asked for 4 weeks... give her 4 weeks.

Sorry, a little context. Our last communication was August 1st. Fall out was July 23rd. She asked for space until the end of August to consider boundaries. The letter was a reflection of some of our best moments, and an explanation for our worst. Ending with an appreciation for what she has done for me and how I’ve found strength in our friendship. I had lost faith in myself and I’ve found it during our time apart.

We were best friends leading up to everything. I want to respect her need for the time to heal. I think some more time will be appropriate. Perhaps I’ll reach out next week to let her know I’m thinking of her.

I appreciate this might not be the normal you but you in a time of stress.

All i will say is all that drama is probably draining for you and her. You can't behave like this anymore....to anyone.

I don't have people like that in my life. Its too destabilizing.

You have reached out to her. Now let her be the one to get in touch. Don't reach out again.

I know you might feel you are being nice but its not. Its pushy.

And really don't do this shit .....cop on.

The life long friends scorpios have are the stable ones ..the ones that don't pull stunts.

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I agree to an extent. She knows I’m fairly detached from my emotions. Me sending her a letter is my ultimate form of vulnerability at this time. She knows I have never done that before for anyone.

It may have been overwhelming for me to open up as much as I did considering I’ve never really shared my deep emotions with her.

I do agree with the destabilization, it’s extremely hard for both of us and I know neither of us can go through it again.

Posted by tctaap

any updates @op ? I hope it all works out well for you both

Nothing at the moment! I’m going to give it a little more time.

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Posted by tctaap

any updates @op ? I hope it all works out well for you both

Nothing at the moment! I’m going to give it a little more time.

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geez don't wait too long

Posted by Foxy777

Posted by tctaap

any updates @op ? I hope it all works out well for you both

Its been 3 hrs.

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LOL ok thanks

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I’m a Virgo!

I appreciate the kind words. I’m going to wait until the beginning of September and reach out.

Scorpios are the scum of the earth and cannot be trusted. I understand your need to talk about it... But they're just like that. Fk them.

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Scorpios are the scum of the earth and cannot be trusted. I understand your need to talk about it... But they're just like that. Fk them.

🤔 Where did THAT come from? OP stated it was he that was being hurtful... and is now apologizing.

Not sure how that makes his Scorpio friend the scum of the earth. Unless this is just you projecting, I’m at a loss as to why you said that...

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It's just a fact. Sorry you're in denial.