Scorpio girl and moving forward.

Hey guys/girls.

So after a few weeks of struggling with myself and trying to figure out where I stand with the most amazing girl I have ever met I am conflicted, like seriously conflicted. I care so much for her but I just am not feeling anything from her anymore 11 months later and I feel so lost it hurts.

Anyway, I decided to give it a rest. 2 weeks ago after a phone conversation with her I sent her a text the next morning telling her how valuable I think she is and how amazing and beautiful I find her. I told her, like before, how I miss her and think of her. Up till this writing I haven't gotten anything back, not a call, or text or anything. I saw her briefly on Friday, and she was all smiles when she saw me, but we didn't have time to talk or anything, so I am lost, totally. Like bermuda triangle lost.

Frankly, I don't know what to do, so I am standing down. I don't think I can handle much of this nor will I be able to stay objective about us or my feelings feeling like I do.

So, any advice there would be great.

But then...

I still care and don't want to just abandon everything, I can't, she means to much. So, with her birthday comming up next month, I was thinking if it would be a good, or absolutely horrible idea to get her a gift or something? On the one side I feel that I will be setting my self up to be disaapointed by her, and on the other... I care, and I don't know in how many ways I can still show her that I do. I have said, I have helped her, I have caught tears, and have helped in bad situations, I have picked her up, I have treated/spoiled her, backing every single word with actions.

What do you guys/girls think?

Hey guys/girls.

So after a few weeks of struggling with myself and trying to figure out where I stand with the most amazing girl I have ever met I am conflicted, like seriously conflicted. I care so much for her but I just am not feeling anything from her anymore 11 months later and I feel so lost it hurts.

Anyway, I decided to give it a rest. 2 weeks ago after a phone conversation with her I sent her a text the next morning telling her how valuable I think she is and how amazing and beautiful I find her. I told her, like before, how I miss her and think of her. Up till this writing I haven't gotten anything back, not a call, or text or anything. I saw her briefly on Friday, and she was all smiles when she saw me, but we didn't have time to talk or anything, so I am lost, totally. Like bermuda triangle lost.

Frankly, I don't know what to do, so I am standing down. I don't think I can handle much of this nor will I be able to stay objective about us or my feelings feeling like I do.

So, any advice there would be great.

But then...

I still care and don't want to just abandon everything, I can't, she means to much. So, with her birthday coming up next month, I was thinking if it would be a good, or absolutely horrible idea to get her a gift or something? On the one side I feel that I will be setting my self up to be disappointed by her, and on the other... I care, and I don't know in how many ways I can still show her that I do. I have said, I have helped her, I have caught tears, and have helped in bad situations, I have picked her up, I have treated her, backing every single word with actions.

What do you guys/girls think?

Hey there! For almost a year and you have recieved nothing in return? Why do you keep trying for such a long time? Could it be the idea in your head that you have? Why get her a gift when it seems that she hasn't appreciated what you have done thus far? I am sure someone will tell you to keep going for it but I would disagree. That's just me. You are putting so much time and energy into someone that is not giving it back to you. You sound like you have given her your heart and she gave it back to you. Maybe you should back off for a while and just let her be. Maybe she will come around at some point, you think?

I do actually. That is why I am asking...

Why do you want to keep trying to shard with someone who is not giving you the attention that you deserve back? It's been almost a year and it doesn't take that long for us ladies to respond to someone that we like or we are interested in. You seem like a wonderful and genuine guy and I hate to hear that you're hurting but don't you want and deserve more? You deserve so much more and someone who will not want you to guess how she feels because she expresses that to you freely. No, I wouldn't get her gift. I could be wrong and there may be others that will suggest otherwise but you seem to have done so much for so long. That's not fair to you. Right?

Posted by Impulsv
I know excactly what ur going through. Sometimes these connections are only meant as Freindship. I'm sure she cares for you but maybe she's not ready or willing or doesn't see you romantically. It is perfectly healthy to take a break to heal n if in future u can cont as friends perhaps. I've been there I chose Freindship despite being on break now for my healing. I understand that capacity of love n valuing the person that it's still worth it for you to remain friends. As to a gift I sent the Taurus a card. That's all you need to show token if appreciation , as a Freind. He valued it I'm sure she will too. U don't need to spend money on her a simple card speaks volumes for someone who understand value of Freind.
Then back off regroup take as many months to heal. Either that or flat out tell her u want to date her if ur confused but if she says no back to previous plan.

Great advice. Sorry I couldn't put it that way but at work now and can't think too deeply just yet. Yes! Take some time and regroup.

I have a few threads that list every thing... But thanks for your concern.

@Impulsv

Ah, I get what you are saying. Question on that though. I have been consistent in everything I do and say, I am generally really conscious about consistency. Do you think this will prove otherwise?

Thanks, now that is something I can work with 🙂

Posted by OmagaIII
Hey guys/girls.

So after a few weeks of struggling with myself and trying to figure out where I stand with the most amazing girl I have ever met I am conflicted, like seriously conflicted. I care so much for her but I just am not feeling anything from her anymore 11 months later and I feel so lost it hurts.

Anyway, I decided to give it a rest. 2 weeks ago after a phone conversation with her I sent her a text the next morning telling her how valuable I think she is and how amazing and beautiful I find her. I told her, like before, how I miss her and think of her. Up till this writing I haven't gotten anything back, not a call, or text or anything. I saw her briefly on Friday, and she was all smiles when she saw me, but we didn't have time to talk or anything, so I am lost, totally. Like bermuda triangle lost.

Frankly, I don't know what to do, so I am standing down. I don't think I can handle much of this nor will I be able to stay objective about us or my feelings feeling like I do.

So, any advice there would be great.

But then...

I still care and don't want to just abandon everything, I can't, she means to much. So, with her birthday coming up next month, I was thinking if it would be a good, or absolutely horrible idea to get her a gift or something? On the one side I feel that I will be setting my self up to be disappointed by her, and on the other... I care, and I don't know in how many ways I can still show her that I do. I have said, I have helped her, I have caught tears, and have helped in bad situations, I have picked her up, I have treated her, backing every single word with actions.

What do you guys/girls think?

*reading, searching for the statement "I asked her out on a date"*

After 5 years of friendship with a Bull, he says to me one day "I've always liked you... but I never thought I had a chance because you never seemed intersted in me"
"Really? I had no idea. Why didn't you tell me how you felt, or ask me out?"
"I thought you could tell...."

So, my question to you, have you told her in very simply language how you feel? Forget the flowery compliments and everything else you think is showing her how you feel. We appreciate these things, but unless there is a clear understanding about what you want/feel for her, you're just an amazing friend that makes her feel good.

Posted by ellessque
you did the same thing in your first thread.

she friendzoned you in the very beginning, but your aries venus wasn't having none of that. now you are 11 months in pining over this woman....

Ah, I see.

Hahaha, thanks for the assumptions guys 😛

Really? She can barely tell me to my face we are just friends. She doesn't even tell our mutual friends we are 'just' friends, she always goes on about how we share so much together how we can spend hours on the phone and hours together just talking about everything and anything. So no, I don't think you know.

Also, I have been telling her for a good deal of 6 months that I am seriously into her and we need to setup a date. And every time she agrees but only once has flaked out while the other times stuff did come up which we openly discussed.

I started this thread, because I care but if I continue at this pace I will be friendzoned. Let me give you an example. We recently talked and she actually neglected to mention a critical detail about a guy friend who came by. Now I am not mad about it, but she keeps on asking other guys to do favors for her and the like. This guy actually made a move on her before, after trying to get her to have a few drinks with him, and she blew him off and told him that they are just friends(This happened about 3 months ago). Then she calls him (today) to go mow her lawn and he pitches up... That is friendzoned.

She doesn't do this with me, it is just that she retracts when I lay my thoughts and feelings on the table. I know she doesn't resent me or anything, but I am getting mixed or no signal from her, but if I call her a day or two later she still answers and we still chat. I called her about an hour ago and we talked for 2 hours non stop. No weird pauses or anything of the sort.

I just don't get why she is this way, that is why I started the thread...

Most of the Scorps on here come and post threads about a Taurus guy not opening up, being distant, etc.

And here I am posting the exact opposite...

So why is this?

Well, you'll note that even above I mentioned that I have texted her my feelings. A few times, 5 or more times, when I have called her I told her how much I like her and think of her and miss her and like to be around her.

And when we see each other, 2 out of 3 times I also tell her. She just goes silent. She doesn't push back or change the subject etc. We just keep the flow, we have only once in the past 11 months had an awkward silence. But what does happen is that afterwards, she will be gone for like 2 weeks or something. I can't text her or call her or anything. Then she resurfaces and everything is fine again for a while. More recently it did get very weird, but 3 weeks later and it was gone and she was right next to me, eventually, at a BBQ.

I just don't know how to go about this... :/

Haha ok.

Firstly, no I won't know because non of the threads about the opposite of this on the other threads makes Scorp behaviour anyway clear at all, neither how interest or non-interest is show.

So I do perceive some of the info as quite hypocritical. Saying one thing while standing behind the door. Scorps seem to be just as good at this as they claim Taurus to be.

Anyway, I'll back off in anycase. Figure I have a good idea of what will happen in anycase either way...

Thanks, I guess.

Posted by OmagaIII
Hey guys/girls.

So after a few weeks of struggling with myself and trying to figure out where I stand with the most amazing girl I have ever met I am conflicted, like seriously conflicted. I care so much for her but I just am not feeling anything from her anymore 11 months later and I feel so lost it hurts.

Anyway, I decided to give it a rest. 2 weeks ago after a phone conversation with her I sent her a text the next morning telling her how valuable I think she is and how amazing and beautiful I find her. I told her, like before, how I miss her and think of her. Up till this writing I haven't gotten anything back, not a call, or text or anything. I saw her briefly on Friday, and she was all smiles when she saw me, but we didn't have time to talk or anything, so I am lost, totally. Like bermuda triangle lost.

Frankly, I don't know what to do, so I am standing down. I don't think I can handle much of this nor will I be able to stay objective about us or my feelings feeling like I do.

So, any advice there would be great.

But then...

I still care and don't want to just abandon everything, I can't, she means to much. So, with her birthday coming up next month, I was thinking if it would be a good, or absolutely horrible idea to get her a gift or something? On the one side I feel that I will be setting my self up to be disappointed by her, and on the other... I care, and I don't know in how many ways I can still show her that I do. I have said, I have helped her, I have caught tears, and have helped in bad situations, I have picked her up, I have treated her, backing every single word with actions.

What do you guys/girls think?

If she doesn't put in the same effort as you why do you give a shit? Are you going to marry this girl, I don't think so... Why don't you get a girl who appreciates you... or you can act like a complete scrub. The truth hurts but it looks like she doesn't give a fuck and is a cold heartless bitch. bang a girl thats hotter than her and throw it in her face

then she will come running back to you and thats when you pounce. and then bang her and never talk to her again. scorpio women are all about karma!!! they'll really appreciate it trust me.

Hahaha OMW...

Now I am not the guy to do that... but considering the thread about a typical scorp... it might actually work... 😛

Posted by OmagaIII
Well, you'll note that even above I mentioned that I have texted her my feelings. A few times, 5 or more times, when I have called her I told her how much I like her and think of her and miss her and like to be around her.

And when we see each other, 2 out of 3 times I also tell her. She just goes silent. She doesn't push back or change the subject etc. We just keep the flow, we have only once in the past 11 months had an awkward silence. But what does happen is that afterwards, she will be gone for like 2 weeks or something. I can't text her or call her or anything. Then she resurfaces and everything is fine again for a while. More recently it did get very weird, but 3 weeks later and it was gone and she was right next to me, eventually, at a BBQ.

I just don't know how to go about this... :/

What is the confusion about? If a man is professing feelings for a woman regularly and she is not communicating the same, I would think it is quite evident that the feelings are not mutual (at least to the extent that you would like them to be).

Yes, you highlighted how much you tell her you like her. You also highlighted that she has a tendency to lead men on, playing on the fact that she knows they like her to to get what she wants (e.g. mows her lawn). Perhaps your benefit is a nice ego stroke vs a freshly cut lawn.

Just because she was more direct with the other dude when she declined his invitation, doesn't mean she is not doing the same thing to you. What she is doing to you is worse. She is giving you the hope that there is a chance. You may have a better personality than the other dude, which is why she opens up to you more, but you have also been friendzoned. Sorry.

You clearly want to hear something like "hang in there...we Scorp gals are slow to trust, blah, blah, blah" but seriously, this isn't about that.

And FYI, she didn't "neglect" to mention anything when it came to this other dude. We don't miss/neglect details. Trust that, if nothing else.

Posted by ellessque
you need to go back and reread your original thread. ALL the tell tale signs are there. You just are not seeing it because you are completely wrapped up in this woman. You are coming on too strong. If a scorp woman is into you....you will KNOW IT.

This.

It most certainly wouldn't take you 11 freakin' months and 15+ post on a astrology forum later.

You sound like a nice guy, just take a step back.

Omagalll,

hi. evolved scorpio here.

Your problem: She is not interested anymore. Scorpio once done and have less love... won't bother

themselves at all.... The scorpio only sees the ''black and white''.

I had a suitor taurus before.... he kept calling me and visiting to the office.

Even how much I told him.. I respect you and let's be friends. The more He pursue bravely. lol

until I never talked to him even I received lots of calls and msgs. I didn't reply even one.

Why would a scorpio bothers you if she is not ''in love'' with you.

My advice: DON't CONTACT HER. JUST GO ON WITH YOUR MYSTERY.

scorpio loves mysterious people.... that's the time You have chance of having her back.

STOP PROBING YOURSELF. WE HATE THAT!!!

Thanks guys 🙂

Like I said, I will back off.

She did neglect information on her part, because everyone else had been posting it all over the web making painfully obvious what she wants nobody else to know. Anyway, not going in to the details.

Thanks for the input. Look, I don't want a specific answer, I had already decided to back off. I just thought I could get objective insight from Scorps, which I realize now isn't possible at all...

You might think you'r clear cut... But your not. Scorps are mostly exactly the opposite of what they say/show the world. And this is also painfully obvious. You just need a little bit of common sense and a brief scroll through these forums to see it. For people that are strictly black/white, you love hanging your self in the gray areas hahaha

But I am not bothered by that, all our actions have consequences. Despite all this, I know who I would like to have in my life and how much she means to me. But this is not my call anymore. I'll leave her be and go my own way. She knows everything she needs to know. She keeps asking our friends about me as well, so what ever. She has contact and follows up on a lot of things, I know because we have good mutual friends that are there open and honest to both of us.

Anyway, thanks for the help, especially M143, you gave me a critical insight, into something I haven't thought of 🙂 That is generally why people ask questions, not to be ridiculed by what you think is going on, or interpreting things you'r way.

Thanks for all the comments 🙂 We live, we love, we learn.

Posted by OmagaIII
Most of the Scorps on here come and post threads about a Taurus guy not opening up, being distant, etc.

And here I am posting the exact opposite...

So why is this?

Such a shame there are not many bulls like you 🙂
I agree with the other scorpio ladies, after all your efforts if nothing has changed, maybe it's because she simply doesnt see you as anything more than a friend. Walking away will be good for you, (getting some perspective on the whole thing) and will give her an opportunity to miss you. If she values you (even as a friend) she will reach out. If not, fuck it, you deserve better...and at least you will know you're barking at the wrong tree! But if she turns out to view you just as a friend...are you going to be ok with that?
Oh and the present...dont do it...you're giving too much of yourself already, always being there for her and all...

Thanks 🙂

Well, knowing myself. No... I care way to much, it will just kill a part inside of me. I do value her more than that and I have refrained from most behavior that would only land you in the friendship circle. And she acknowledges all of them. She couldn't even, in front of me and other friends of ours, describe our bond as just being friends. We have had a 'date' or two. And we have had some one on one time as well. Moving to something that you have shown you don't want or exceeded is just not going to work. I don't think it is fair towards myself to settle for anything less than what I want.

Posted by OmagaIII


I could get objective insight from Scorps, which I realize now isn't possible at all...

You might think you'r clear cut... But your not. Scorps are mostly exactly the opposite of what they say/show the world. And this is also painfully obvious.

Hmph. I appreciate the insight on who we are and what we are all about. I had no I idea....*off to ponder the BS of a rejected man*

Never give up young Bull. Never. Give. Up.

Hahaha, really?

😛

@Impulsv

Ah, thanks. 🙂 Appreciate the input. I would rather not do anything than do something that isn't me... So no, the card idea, although good, would have me settle for less and I would have to be false to myself. Not only will I know it, she will to. She is amazingly intuitive. One of many reasons why I am interested in the first place.

Rather be a first class of your self, then a second class of anything/one else... I won't lie to myself, and I won't lie to her. To date I haven't and I won't in the future, whatever is the future, either. Sounds bad and all, but I currently don't have the heart to do that, it might change... or ... no... Not gonna happen.

If she wants guy friends doing her bidding she can have them, I am not just a friend. I never was just a friend, and she knows me. But I have learned a lot, and I have gained some insight into aspects of myself that needs attention as well as thoughts and feelings on her part, which stem from both of our actions. (Yes, we do actually talk about stuff like this, last night we skimmed the surface again when I called her.)

I do care, I do miss her and I do think of her and I would love to have her as a part in my life. No doubt, but it ain't gonna happen, so I bow out. I usually don't even take this much, I am never this calm, she just has an effect... Time to slow down to the 'dead' pace bulls are notorious for and then have my mind and feet move in a different direction.

man up and talk to her straight. or even better, write her a love letter. you're a good writer omaga. pour your heart out in the letter then disappear and get on with your life. forget about her. either she will tell you no, i don't see you like that or she will reach out. at least you'll know. if you lay your cards on the table, there will be less regret. don't buy into the negativity of her being unsure or her mirroring you. 🙂 just be true to your feelings for her and swallow your pride if you really love her

Omagalll,

Remember that I am not a BULL. I am currently dating and living a bull tonight....

I don't think so you can stand Scorpio..? There is more to it.

But I suggest... if you already did your best why going to do the same.

Stop doing what is not working... reverse psychology. I know Taurus are just but intelligence? use it.

If nothing happens again ''just read my first advice''

It might hurt you but I actually helping you out and have her back....

I am not ridiculous person... as a Scorpio I am a strong individual and kicked lots of Taurus men in

my life.... again, There's more to it more than your eyes have meet.