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Scorpio gone silent
** On Monday, he requests that we chat the next evening. Tues, never heard from him, so on Weds, I text to ask what happened, he gives long apology, says he fell asleep, and will "track me down" again to chat that night. I replied that Im going to a concert that evening,
Sensible or not, this is viewed as you rejecting him
Was going to post the same. Your comment sounds like you are *kindly* refusing him.
Secondly, (as he explained) he fell asleep. If he felt no obligation to call you, I don't think he would bother explaining. I never do... I have a Leo guy who is into me, I never give him excuses because I don't want to encourage any hopes.
Sensible or not, this is viewed as you rejecting him
Was going to post the same. Your comment sounds like you are *kindly* refusing him.
Secondly, (as he explained) he fell asleep. If he felt no obligation to call you, I don't think he would bother explaining. I never do... I have a Leo guy who is into me, I never give him excuses because I don't want to encourage any hopes.
For someone that says she doesn't want to be with this guy you sure as hell spend a lot of time posting about him and trying to figure him out. 'Just friends' don't count the hours it takes to get a response from each other. Stop bullshitting yourself. You're still interested in him.
Since you are...do you have any idea how condescending you sound towards him? "He was still not taking responsibility...", "He broke the trust, not I. There are consequences for every action we take...", "I just could not accept something so unacceptable". Honestly...your posts wreak of it. It sounds more like a mother talking about her preteen son than a woman talking about a man she considered dating.
You're the one that said hes going through a lot right now. Either be legitimately understanding about that or get off his nuts already.
Since you are...do you have any idea how condescending you sound towards him? "He was still not taking responsibility...", "He broke the trust, not I. There are consequences for every action we take...", "I just could not accept something so unacceptable". Honestly...your posts wreak of it. It sounds more like a mother talking about her preteen son than a woman talking about a man she considered dating.
You're the one that said hes going through a lot right now. Either be legitimately understanding about that or get off his nuts already.
Posted by LadyLeo
I am surprised to hear this. A rejection? Is he that sensitive? I just gave it as information. Boy...how to understand this man?!click to expand
Scorpios ARE very sensitive and paranoid as well. We do read in between lines.
Why would you mention about the stalker again? I don't think he has any interest in the stalker; he has had concern as to the relationship between you and him. Stalker story is past.
What you can do is apologize for intruding into his privacy. He may have lead you to believe he is single, which is dishonest (in a traditional sense), however, do you know the amount of Western population hiding their paper-arrangement? The marriage is over. What is left is the dependency due to financial reasons/obligations.
Let me ask, LL... would you prefer living with a room mate or your ex if there is no choice other than sharing?
Most people prefer living with their ex, because they know the ex. They can put more boundaries than with a stranger. Although marriage ends, friendship/familiarity is the part that stays. So do not judge him for his lie please. We all can have lies to keep things moving.
Having to live with EX is a curse in most scenarios, because the new person you meet, will definitely judge you. The ex will not like the idea of you bringing someone else... and so on. See it in terms of practicality.
How to fix your situation?
What I like about Leos is they are *sunny*. That's the way I see Leos. I have a number of life-long friends and a significant number of past lovers from your zodiac.
Keep your good faith, your sunny side, and your direct honesty. Don't try to explain yourself so much to Scorpio man, there is no need. Just go on with the way you are. Be modest however about his *lie*. It is scary that people nowadays have so much access to online private data that you do not know how much of it is accurate or how it can reflect you to others. There is no boundary of discretion in between. In the olden days you would ask friends or aquaintances about this new man or woman, but today, meeting someone at the other end of the world has become pretty much normal and there is no other way than spying on them through online sources. It is quite naturally that we want to know more about the background of a guy. I'm sure your Scorp can understand that.
What you CAN do is accept him for the situation he is in. Pick on clues how he sees his marriage/separation. If you see future prospect for yourself and him, then alow yourself to know each other better. New Canadian laws, for example, encourage divorce even if you live together with your ex and you can continue living with your ex. A decade ago, couples had to show proof they were physically separated (living in separate residences for at least a year).
What I also LOVE about LEO is that they just gush out all their feelings for you... that made me always feel secure being with them.
What I like about Leos is they are *sunny*. That's the way I see Leos. I have a number of life-long friends and a significant number of past lovers from your zodiac.
Keep your good faith, your sunny side, and your direct honesty. Don't try to explain yourself so much to Scorpio man, there is no need. Just go on with the way you are. Be modest however about his *lie*. It is scary that people nowadays have so much access to online private data that you do not know how much of it is accurate or how it can reflect you to others. There is no boundary of discretion in between. In the olden days you would ask friends or aquaintances about this new man or woman, but today, meeting someone at the other end of the world has become pretty much normal and there is no other way than spying on them through online sources. It is quite naturally that we want to know more about the background of a guy. I'm sure your Scorp can understand that.
What you CAN do is accept him for the situation he is in. Pick on clues how he sees his marriage/separation. If you see future prospect for yourself and him, then alow yourself to know each other better. New Canadian laws, for example, encourage divorce even if you live together with your ex and you can continue living with your ex. A decade ago, couples had to show proof they were physically separated (living in separate residences for at least a year).
What I also LOVE about LEO is that they just gush out all their feelings for you... that made me always feel secure being with them.
side note:
When I get upset with the man I care the most, I do block him too, but it doesn't keep for long that I see myself foolish for doing something so radical -- just because I like him 🙂
I don't do the blocking thing to a stranger... I just ignore them. The 'blocking' to me is another indication you affect him on a more emotional level.
When I get upset with the man I care the most, I do block him too, but it doesn't keep for long that I see myself foolish for doing something so radical -- just because I like him 🙂
I don't do the blocking thing to a stranger... I just ignore them. The 'blocking' to me is another indication you affect him on a more emotional level.
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Full retreat is when we you can't find us at all.
Like...."dropped off the face of The Earth"
>>>>>after being confronted with the lie about his being legally seperated, not divorced yet. After the confrontation and a few emotional emails from each of us, I forgave him,
Obviously you haven't, or you'd not mention it now.
he forgave me for researching public records to confirm he was still married
No, he didn't.
>>>>>>>he agreed to be friends
How original.
>>>>>>>>as he needs to resolve his issues.
But he can't in the near future.
This all occured after his heavy intense scorpio pursuit of me. I mean, he was wickedly chasing me.
>>>>>>On Monday, he requests that we chat the next evening. Tues, never heard from him, so on Weds, I text to ask what happened, he gives long apology, says he fell asleep, and will "track me down" again to chat that night. I replied that Im going to a concert that evening,
Sensible or not, this is viewed as you rejecting him
or...
"can live without him/don't need him to have fun."
Not my idea -just tellin' ya.
>>>>>>>and also told him about the stalker from the date sit that is harassing me
For attention?
Either he sees through this
or
suspects you believe it is HIM
or
...it IS him.
>>>>>>>>> He never replied.
Not surprised.
>>>>>>>> I wouldve thought he'd care that I was being stalked.
What can he do? Unless he's the one doing it
it just seems like a SMOKE-OUT or an
ATTENTION-SEEK.
>>>>>to request communication then bail....that's odd.
It's all he can do in his impoverished, married state
especially after "lying" to you.
Of course, you changed the game when you mentioned
- the concert
- the stalker