Scorpio guy disappeared on me .. Help!

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PinkiePie
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I'm a Virgo woman, I'm really crazy about a Scorpio man.

I met him one year go he was my work colleague, At the time I was engaged but I was generally interested in him, We speaked but not on a regular basis.

We both left works and we were not speaking for months.

About 3 weeks ago he talked to me on Facebook, Asked me how I've been, And he knew from me that my engagement did not work out about 3 months ago.

The next few days he started to talk to me more often, Then he texted me on a daily basis and started giving hints that he likes me.

I was not interested at first as I just got out of a serious relationship, Also that fact that he is 34 and I'm 24 kinda scared me.

He asked me to meet and hang out and I said okay and we picked a day.

3 days before this days he confessed that he loved, And that allegedly he loved me since the day he met me even though I was engaged.

I told him that he was special to me but maybe the time is not right and that I just need a while to figure out my feelings.

He said that he understands and that he will wait, He even said he wanted to marry me and that he was sure I was the one.

I was happy over the moon he was so kind and charming, I got attached too quickly but I needed to be sure that I love him before telling him anything.

I met him and we talked, He asked me wha happened with my ex for the engagement not to work out, I give him an idea about what happened, And I talked about the things I like and dislike in a relationship and so did he.

It was a nice time, When I got home I called him asking him to call me when he got home but he did not.

The next day I told him where he was I was just checking on him.

He told me that he fell asleep the night before and that he was sorry.

I said it was okay I just felt worried is all. That day he was off from work however he did not text me as usual.

I felt something was wrong. After a few hours he texted me asking if I was upset with him, I waited for a couple of hours replying "Yes". I was kinda upset for him not texting me and not calling the say before but nothing too big I was barely upset.

And that was it he did not even read the message until NOW.

Next morning I called him no answer, Called him later in the evening no answer, I texted him that I called him to check on him and apologied if I bothered him and nothing.

The next day I called a couple of times, The day after I texted him on Facebook telling him I was genuinely worried and I need to know why he disappeared,

He does not respond to anything.

I'm going crazy I miss him soooo much, And I tend to take the blame for whatever goes wrong so I'm starting to think it's something I did but I'm not sure as to what it is.

I miss him and mostly I need some closure. What should I do to have him speaking to me :/
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You may be dealing with a narcissist ...comes in only to get admiration and then leaves you hanging in despair .... Energy vampires and it will never go anywhere ... Recognize when someone is stringing you along only for admiration ... You want closure you may not get that... Or you might either way you can't control that or him only your actions ... Period.....
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Evan1211
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Guys are idiots in general. Scorpios are procrastinators and can get bored very easily. I really don't feel like he was being honest. To me if I were to tell someone I want to marry them ( I'm a Scorpio btw, ) there would never be any questions or lingering moments as to leave my other half wondering wtf is going on. We like persistence. And we always show how we feel. It's a blessing and a curse . Also we love deep. Over the moon deep if we really love someone. My guess is he had another agenda or maybe he just wanted sex. I'm hoping that's not the case, but you even said yourself you were unsure of how you really felt or where this was going.
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Games ... Ignore this guy ... Wants some attention ... Give him nothing ... If you a Scorpio you know how to use your stinger ... But not in the petty way ... But In the noble way... Knowing you hold the power and you don't need explanations from peasants ... You are the king or queen of your throne ... Give this person no power ... In fact strip it away by standing in your beautiful (scorpion) power ... Use it... Door slam this person out your life completely .... I love my stinger my Mars is in Scorpio ... I will disappear give no energy .... That's my stinger and it's potent
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Shaymaci
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You just went through love bombing.

Let him go. He's either a sociopath, narcissist, or both.

Trust me, it will save you a LOT of hurt in the long run. I'm speaking from a great depth of experience with them.

As I was almost killed, while pregnant, because my ex narcopath wanted to abuse me.

Run run run sweetie.


Are you a psychiatrist to call him a sociopath or a narcissist or whatever ?

That's incredible that you can diagnosed someone just because they " disappeared "
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Nope. I'm smart.

Love bombing is a technique they use right before they disappear. Which he did.

And she's become a "source of supply", which is supplying him attention and admiration to make HIM feel wanted.

Educate yourself sweetie.

Again, I have a great depth of EXPERIENCE.

As in, I dealt with it firsthand, not out of a book. ?
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Shaymaci
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Posted by Rozaeon
Posted by shaymaci
Posted by Rozaeon
Posted by shaymaci
You just went through love bombing.

Let him go. He's either a sociopath, narcissist, or both.

Trust me, it will save you a LOT of hurt in the long run. I'm speaking from a great depth of experience with them.

As I was almost killed, while pregnant, because my ex narcopath wanted to abuse me.

Run run run sweetie.


Are you a psychiatrist to call him a sociopath or a narcissist or whatever ?

That's incredible that you can diagnosed someone just because they " disappeared "
Nope. I'm smart.

Love bombing is a technique they use right before they disappear. Which he did.

And she's become a "source of supply", which is supplying him attention and admiration to make HIM feel wanted.

Educate yourself sweetie.

Again, I have a great depth of EXPERIENCE.

As in, I dealt with it firsthand, not out of a book. ?
Hahaha oh wow, you are indeed incredible

Clearly you don't know anything about him, who he is, his background, what his habits are etc nothing. So your " judgment " is based on nothing, just what the OP told in her post, that's all. But you are above us all, you know everything, because you have great EXPERIENCE ^^

That's just bullshit, it's even pathetic, get over yourself really
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What she told is enough.

I never claimed to be above anyone else. But since you wanna put me there.. —
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Shaymaci
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Posted by Rozaeon
Posted by shaymaci
Posted by Rozaeon
Posted by shaymaci
Posted by Rozaeon
Posted by shaymaci
You just went through love bombing.

Let him go. He's either a sociopath, narcissist, or both.

Trust me, it will save you a LOT of hurt in the long run. I'm speaking from a great depth of experience with them.

As I was almost killed, while pregnant, because my ex narcopath wanted to abuse me.

Run run run sweetie.


Are you a psychiatrist to call him a sociopath or a narcissist or whatever ?

That's incredible that you can diagnosed someone just because they " disappeared "
Nope. I'm smart.

Love bombing is a technique they use right before they disappear. Which he did.

And she's become a "source of supply", which is supplying him attention and admiration to make HIM feel wanted.

Educate yourself sweetie.

Again, I have a great depth of EXPERIENCE.

As in, I dealt with it firsthand, not out of a book. ?
Hahaha oh wow, you are indeed incredible

Clearly you don't know anything about him, who he is, his background, what his habits are etc nothing. So your " judgment " is based on nothing, just what the OP told in her post, that's all. But you are above us all, you know everything, because you have great EXPERIENCE ^^

That's just bullshit, it's even pathetic, get over yourself really
What she told is enough.

I never claimed to be above anyone else. But since you wanna put me there.. —
No it's not ^^

Oh of course you didn't claim to be above anyone else by saying to me that i have to educate myself
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It is. Research love bombing.

Advice for anyone.

Knowledge is power ?