Scorpio Guy Friend sloooowly Becoming a Lover???

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Blueprism28 on Tuesday, July 28, 2015 and has 5 replies.
I would appreciate some honest feedback from Scorpio males as well!
Thanks!!
Back in April we started texting in a very casual way. We have a mutual friend. I first asked him to hang, went to eat and it was a good start getting to know each other. I've noticed Scorpio's being slow or cautious and he's even described himself as that at one point.
My question is, if he's been hurt before from relationships in the past, Can Scorpio want a relationship with a good woman who is proving she can be trusted??
We've hung out a lot since then. I did start liking him & I felt some kind of vibe that he was interested or attracted to me, cause he always asked what I was doing for the weekend or texts me randomly about what he is doing. Subtly hinted once that I was cute, and tried to cross the touch barrier when we were at the movies. Honesty our hangouts are casual, like Movies, Friday night at lounge events, working out together & we recently had a movie night at his place. We were talking about it for a while but I wasn't sure if I wanted to be vulnerable. Of course I ended up going over, we did watch most of the movie and then he flirted with some candy lol, and we ended up making out on his bed and went to only second base. Then I had to stop & ask him what he was looking for! He didn't exactly say anything straight forward about dating me but he does like me. My fear is that I'll be just a fling and that's what I expressed and told him that's what I don't want. I made it clear I can't have sex cause of mistakes I don't want to repeat from my past. I told him I see him as friends, but only because I'd rather take things slow too and not be quick to label things. I made the impression through text that I wanted to be near him again. He is a typical Scorpio, quiet but at times loves to start conversation. Goes out with his friends/drinks but he is a good guy. Responsible and goofy funny personality. I'm wanting to be the one that he can trust. He does have other female friends. He never asks me personal or deep questions when we hang and I've expressed that fact. He doesn't always like to talk about himself. I'm thinking insecurity & he might be afraid of anything progresing towards actual dating!?? It's been a few weeks since the hangout at his place, he has been spending time with friends that are from out of town and he has been sick so I know it's not like he's avoiding me. I want to date. Not sure if I should wait or just be friends??
He also mentioned that he was not attracted to his other female friends.
I am a Taurus 😄
hat is the most practical approach! 😃 And yes I am slow at first. He's definitely moving a long quickly & then let's some time pass. Just not sure if he's capable of a commitment to dating if he's been hurt before. Thanks for responding 😊 m
Posted by Rabbit
Posted by flowingwater
Posted by Rabbit
Make your expectations clear to him.

Ask him what his intentions are and to be clear about.

If they are not the same expectations, then try to compromise.

If neither of you are willing to, or cannot, compromise...then you have the answer to what you should do, yeah?

This was really sweet advice smile

Well I don't mind giving advice to non-whackadoodles.

This poor Taurus is just confused because she's moving at Taurus speed and he's on overdrive turbo boost Big Grin
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Yes you're right, I am hesitant because I'm not sure either that he's the kind of man I need him to be, for me. I am however showing him that I care about him, care to text and see how he is doing. I really think that he is the one slowing down and not pursuing me to date, I think he is just ok with casually getting to know me at his own pace and probably is just ok with sex, he knows I can't give that, so he is keeping his scorpio distance right now, he still texts and checks in with me but is not making solid plans to hang yet. ( he knows I want to hang & said he would follow up) but hasn't yet.
I know I need to move on from expectations as my friends have already mentioned to me!
Thanks for all of your feedback, I apprectiate finding out a little bit of what goes on in a scorpios mind, and of course everything else that I don't know God does know so I should really just put my trust back in Him 😉 >Posted by Impulsv
Yes a Scorpio is capable of commiting if we have been hurt before. He is probably holding back too because he senses ur hesitation so taking it down to ur comfy pace. Internally it migh drive him nuts lol
We tend to mirror so relax enjoy the ride Ull see it returned. I sensed tons of hesitation urself n some guardedness about getting hurt in ur post. Afraid to start without knowing the outcome hence wanting to know now if he'll commit.
Time can only tell me dear!! Enjoy the now!
I'm rooting for u too. Scorpio Taurus connection is special smile