Scorpio husband's deadbeat friend

My dh has this "friend" (I use the term lightly) who brings him, and us by extension, nothing but misery. The guy is single, misogynistic, very rude and loud and just a miserable person. When my husband told this friend he was going to marry me, the friend actually told him that he (my now-husband) should go around and fuck at least a dozen Asian women THEN see if he wanted to marry me (the friend has a thing for Asians, I think). Then the friend bailed on attending our wedding, which hurt my husband a lot. Still, whenever this friend calls, my husband will chat with him like all is well, and the friend pulls more shit that hurts him and the cycle begins again.

And now it is affecting us. Last night, my husband ordered the Mixed Martial Arts pay per view, invited some of his friends, including this asshole. The asshole said he'd love to come, which made my husb very happy since they hadn't seen each other in awhile. Night comes, my husb's friends come - guess who NEVER shows? Or calls? Or picks up my husb's repeated calls and texts? It put my husb into a horrible mood, which he then tried to take out on me, and I told him to stop that shit. He then said that probably the guy was sick or something came up. And guess who calls around noon? Asshole. His excuse? "Eh, thought about it and didn't want to bother." His EXACT words, according to my husb. To his credit, husb then said, "Well, then we won't bother continuing the conversation" and hung up. But then 15 mins later, asshole calls again and my husb listens patiently to whatever is being said, and by the end of the call, all is well between them, but now my husb is depressed and hiding in his room. I know better than to bother him - it'll be sting city and I'm not really in the mood for all that.

I do not understand why he continues to allow himself to be victimized by this idiot. Also, I am 6 mos. pregnant, and I'm not trying to deal with all these stupid Scorpio mood swings, esp. when it's over a waste of time as this guy is. He's not an "old" friend - he's the roommate of a guy my husb went to school with. They reconnected on Facebook and started hanging out because they lived in the same area. And my logical Virgo brain doesn't get why this idiot gets chance after chance and I - the wife, mother of the children - have to bear the brunt.

Is this a Scorpio thing to never let a friend go, no matter how shitty they treat them?

You sure they're not DL——??

Is this a Scorpio thing to never let a friend go, no matter how shitty they treat them?


No, because us Scorpios always wear the pants in the Friendship. We don't tolerate our friends bossing us around or handling us.

What is your Husbands full chart? He probably has other signs in his chart which alter his personality. And what's the sign/chart for the "asshole friend"?

lol @ UCMe

haha, that didnt cross my mind...but a possibility for sure.


Speak to the dead beat privately.

I mean seriously Lady_M, her hubby is putting way too much emotion in A FRIEND! Second, this friend keep bailing out on things, um perhaps he dont wanna be around HER! So many things my eyebrows are raised too.....


Sound like LOVERS to me...

I think the issue is more between you and his friend than him and his friend. I don't think that his friend has that much of an impact on his personal well being and even though his friend has some bad qualities, overall he is okay with the friend. It is not the nature of a Scorpio to be at someone's disposal. Scorpios often have a solid stand in any friendship or relationship. So if the friend is still around it's because overall he is okay with him. Another thing too. His mood swings are not all due to his friend. It's part of being a Scorpio, even if you two were in a dessert island by yourselves, those watery motions would manifest from time to time.

The friend's bday is in mid-October, so I guess he is a Libra. My husband has a Virgo moon, Cancer rising, Merc, Mars in Scorpio.

The friend does not care for me, but he does not care for most people. When it was known he wasn't coming last night, one of my husb.'s friends said "Wow, we actually have a chance at a good time now."

I don't know what DL means, but I know my husb. does not like men in that way.

I don't think that his friend has that much of an impact on his personal well being and even though his friend has some bad qualities, overall he is okay with the friend.

ditto and on the mood swings - he's a water sign ! mood swings are part and parcel 🙂

LMAO@You sure they're not DL——?? WOW WOW WOW OUCH!

I dunno, this kind of thing makes me speechless, I would be suspicious as well, I guess they have this bromance thing going on, his friend is avoiding him for a reason, maybe they have been intimate and his friend simply doesn't want anything to do with him, you said his friend is misogynistic which means intense dislike of women birds of a feather flock together... your hubby chose to get married, he went against the man code

Also it seems his friend is punishing him for choosing you over him, I dunno just too weird.

Wierd. Yes Scorpios are very loyal friends and we do overlook our friend's flaws and try not to judge but, we don't allow them to treat us like shit and we normally don't give a damn when they cancel because we have so many friends that it really doesn't matter. Come on now, we know how indecisive librans are anyway but I have never known any to be so unlikeable.