Scorpio introduces me to friends...but a little early? Cap woman

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by capcap000 on Sunday, December 25, 2016 and has 16 replies.
I recently met this dreamy Scorpio man. Smooth and handsome, extremely charming. We went on what I would say was an unofficial date. Neither of us called it one but it felt like one and there was some flirting leading up to it. The whole date I was definitely feeling him, he had his intense scorpio stare going on and I loved and returned every second of it. We got along very well, no awkward silences, laughed a lot, and ended the night with a hug. This didn't surprise me he seems like the gentleman type I don't think he wanted to pressure me in anyway. The next day he texted me frequently throughout the day, not particularly wanting a long chat but to just momentarily talk and check in, asking me how my day is going ect... later on in the evening he asked me to come hang out with him and his friends. I thought to myself "why not" Im really into this guy and really thought it was sweet of him to think of me. It went well but I found his friends talking to me more than he was. One of them was his best friend, who I got along with really well and felt good about. He told me that my scorpio guy showed him my art work (im a visual artist) and that made me a little excited because I felt that meant he was proud of my art. His other friend made a comment that kind of made me wonder, he said "we've spent a lot of time talking about you" I just laughed and asked what they were saying and he danced around the question and I let it go.

What is confusing me is that It seems a little soon because this was only our second time hanging out, we have never even kissed. And again that night he didn't try anything with me, understandably since his friends were around. I guess I'm a little confused about what this was about and as to whether or not he is into me? I felt like this was really a date with his friends more than it was a date with him. I wonder if he invited me to come because he was unsure of me and wanted his friends opinions or because he was actually into me. In general I find him a little hard to read so if any of you scorpios or scorpio experienced have any wisdom they can pass on I would be very thankful!

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Sounds like he's really into you, if you don't like the pace back it up that's it.
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Posted by capcap000
I recently met this dreamy Scorpio man. Smooth and handsome, extremely charming. We went on what I would say was an unofficial date. Neither of us called it one but it felt like one and there was some flirting leading up to it. The whole date I was definitely feeling him, he had his intense scorpio stare going on and I loved and returned every second of it. We got along very well, no awkward silences, laughed a lot, and ended the night with a hug. This didn't surprise me he seems like the gentleman type I don't think he wanted to pressure me in anyway. The next day he texted me frequently throughout the day, not particularly wanting a long chat but to just momentarily talk and check in, asking me how my day is going ect... later on in the evening he asked me to come hang out with him and his friends. I thought to myself "why not" Im really into this guy and really thought it was sweet of him to think of me. It went well but I found his friends talking to me more than he was. One of them was his best friend, who I got along with really well and felt good about. He told me that my scorpio guy showed him my art work (im a visual artist) and that made me a little excited because I felt that meant he was proud of my art. His other friend made a comment that kind of made me wonder, he said "we've spent a lot of time talking about you" I just laughed and asked what they were saying and he danced around the question and I let it go.

What is confusing me is that It seems a little soon because this was only our second time hanging out, we have never even kissed. And again that night he didn't try anything with me, understandably since his friends were around. I guess I'm a little confused about what this was about and as to whether or not he is into me? I felt like this was really a date with his friends more than it was a date with him. I wonder if he invited me to come because he was unsure of me and wanted his friends opinions or because he was actually into me. In general I find him a little hard to read so if any of you scorpios or scorpio experienced have any wisdom they can pass on I would be very thankful!



It's rare that a Scorp will seek out anyone's approval when they are interested or dating someone. If we like you that is all that matters. Everyone else's opinion be d*mned. At least I know that's how I roll.

He probably had plans to hang out with his friends as he stated and didn't want to cancel on them and also wanted to see you again. Don't over think it. I'm sure it meant nothing beyond that.

As for the friend chatting you up, that probably has nothing to do with the Scorp and more with the friend just being friendly/social given their personality. A Scorp will always fall back and observe you. His friends gave him the opportunity to do so.

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I dated a Scorpio and he was never the center of the spotlight when his friends were around. That was just his personality.
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Posted by communicator
Sounds like he's really into you, if you don't like the pace back it up that's it.


Hello thank you for your response! It's not the speed I'm confused about maybe it's more of the order of things? Also something weird happened today he suddenly stopped texting me!
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Posted by capcap000
I recently met this dreamy Scorpio man. Smooth and handsome, extremely charming. We went on what I would say was an unofficial date. Neither of us called it one but it felt like one and there was some flirting leading up to it. The whole date I was definitely feeling him, he had his intense scorpio stare going on and I loved and returned every second of it. We got along very well, no awkward silences, laughed a lot, and ended the night with a hug. This didn't surprise me he seems like the gentleman type I don't think he wanted to pressure me in anyway. The next day he texted me frequently throughout the day, not particularly wanting a long chat but to just momentarily talk and check in, asking me how my day is going ect... later on in the evening he asked me to come hang out with him and his friends. I thought to myself "why not" Im really into this guy and really thought it was sweet of him to think of me. It went well but I found his friends talking to me more than he was. One of them was his best friend, who I got along with really well and felt good about. He told me that my scorpio guy showed him my art work (im a visual artist) and that made me a little excited because I felt that meant he was proud of my art. His other friend made a comment that kind of made me wonder, he said "we've spent a lot of time talking about you" I just laughed and asked what they were saying and he danced around the question and I let it go.

What is confusing me is that It seems a little soon because this was only our second time hanging out, we have never even kissed. And again that night he didn't try anything with me, understandably since his friends were around. I guess I'm a little confused about what this was about and as to whether or not he is into me? I felt like this was really a date with his friends more than it was a date with him. I wonder if he invited me to come because he was unsure of me and wanted his friends opinions or because he was actually into me. In general I find him a little hard to read so if any of you scorpios or scorpio experienced have any wisdom they can pass on I would be very thankful!



It's rare that a Scorp will seek out anyone's approval when they are interested or dating someone. If we like you that is all that matters. Everyone else's opinion be d*mned. At least I know that's how I roll.

He probably had plans to hang out with his friends as he stated and didn't want to cancel on them and also wanted to see you again. Don't over think it. I'm sure it meant nothing beyond that.

As for the friend chatting you up, that probably has nothing to do with the Scorp and more with the friend just being friendly/social given their personality. A Scorp will always fall back and observe you. His friends gave him the opportunity to do so.

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Thank you so much for you in depth response! I also have a question for you. Today he stopped texting me, I invited him to a gallery show I'm having and he responded with three words (stating he's out of town) and stopped texting me. He usually isn't a great texter but it wasn't uncommon for him to send me little check ins throughout the day. Today I heard nothing from him! I haven't said anything since but I wanted to plan something with him this week. Not sure how or if I should go about it now.

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Posted by pinkbird03
I dated a Scorpio and he was never the center of the spotlight when his friends were around. That was just his personality.


Thank you so much for the insight! It's comforting to know!
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Posted by Astrology101
Too soon to tell... I think.

You mentioned: His other friend made a comment that kind of made me wonder, he said "we've spent a lot of time talking about you"

I think he was trying to hint that your Scorp guy has been talking to them about you. But we don't know, he could be just trying to make your Scorp Guy uncomfortable as well. You could have asked them.... what they had been talking about you... but the moment has passed. And I think you should let it be.

Well I know one thing... guys will hold onto girls who get along with their friends... so I think it was great for you to meet his friends.

But, I think this was just a date/hang out. I think you need a lil more time to know if he likes you. But I'm guessing he is interested.. since he seems to want to talk/hang out with you.
Unforntely when I tried to ask him what they were saying he changed the subject and avoided the question. But something odd happened today he stopped texting me!

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I recently met this dreamy Scorpio man. Smooth and handsome, extremely charming. We went on what I would say was an unofficial date. Neither of us called it one but it felt like one and there was some flirting leading up to it. The whole date I was definitely feeling him, he had his intense scorpio stare going on and I loved and returned every second of it. We got along very well, no awkward silences, laughed a lot, and ended the night with a hug. This didn't surprise me he seems like the gentleman type I don't think he wanted to pressure me in anyway. The next day he texted me frequently throughout the day, not particularly wanting a long chat but to just momentarily talk and check in, asking me how my day is going ect... later on in the evening he asked me to come hang out with him and his friends. I thought to myself "why not" Im really into this guy and really thought it was sweet of him to think of me. It went well but I found his friends talking to me more than he was. One of them was his best friend, who I got along with really well and felt good about. He told me that my scorpio guy showed him my art work (im a visual artist) and that made me a little excited because I felt that meant he was proud of my art. His other friend made a comment that kind of made me wonder, he said "we've spent a lot of time talking about you" I just laughed and asked what they were saying and he danced around the question and I let it go.

What is confusing me is that It seems a little soon because this was only our second time hanging out, we have never even kissed. And again that night he didn't try anything with me, understandably since his friends were around. I guess I'm a little confused about what this was about and as to whether or not he is into me? I felt like this was really a date with his friends more than it was a date with him. I wonder if he invited me to come because he was unsure of me and wanted his friends opinions or because he was actually into me. In general I find him a little hard to read so if any of you scorpios or scorpio experienced have any wisdom they can pass on I would be very thankful!



It's rare that a Scorp will seek out anyone's approval when they are interested or dating someone. If we like you that is all that matters. Everyone else's opinion be d*mned. At least I know that's how I roll.

He probably had plans to hang out with his friends as he stated and didn't want to cancel on them and also wanted to see you again. Don't over think it. I'm sure it meant nothing beyond that.

As for the friend chatting you up, that probably has nothing to do with the Scorp and more with the friend just being friendly/social given their personality. A Scorp will always fall back and observe you. His friends gave him the opportunity to do so.

Thank you so much for you in depth response! I also have a question for you. Today he stopped texting me, I invited him to a gallery show I'm having and he responded with three words (stating he's out of town) and stopped texting me. He usually isn't a great texter but it wasn't uncommon for him to send me little check ins throughout the day. Today I heard nothing from him! I haven't said anything since but I wanted to plan something with him this week. Not sure how or if I should go about it now.

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1) how did the night with his friends end?

2) how has the conversation/time spent together been since then?

3) he stated he's out of town and is probably busy with that*

*Depending on the Scorp, and the circumstances some tend to shift focus. For example, if I were out of town you wouldn't hear from me until I returned. You would have received a simple 3 word text as well just so you don't feel ignore, but don't expect me to sit on my phone chatting with you via text if you're not a significant other, and even then....you'll probably get a good morning/good night only. I like to focus on where I am and who I am with.

None of this means I've lost interest. Again, if something hasn't shifted for another reason. Wait until he returns to see if he reaches out and move forward from there.



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It's rare that a Scorp will seek out anyone's approval when they are interested or dating someone. If we like you that is all that matters. Everyone else's opinion be d*mned. At least I know that's how I roll.

He probably had plans to hang out with his friends as he stated and didn't want to cancel on them and also wanted to see you again. Don't over think it. I'm sure it meant nothing beyond that.

As for the friend chatting you up, that probably has nothing to do with the Scorp and more with the friend just being friendly/social given their personality. A Scorp will always fall back and observe you. His friends gave him the opportunity to do so.

Thank you so much for you in depth response! I also have a question for you. Today he stopped texting me, I invited him to a gallery show I'm having and he responded with three words (stating he's out of town) and stopped texting me. He usually isn't a great texter but it wasn't uncommon for him to send me little check ins throughout the day. Today I heard nothing from him! I haven't said anything since but I wanted to plan something with him this week. Not sure how or if I should go about it now.



1) how did the night with his friends end?

2) how has the conversation/time spent together been since then?

3) he stated he's out of town and is probably busy with that*

*Depending on the Scorp, and the circumstances some tend to shift focus. For example, if I were out of town you wouldn't hear from me until I returned. You would have received a simple 3 word text as well just so you don't feel ignore, but don't expect me to sit on my phone chatting with you via text if you're not a significant other, and even then....you'll probably get a good morning/good night only. I like to focus on where I am and who I am with.

None of this means I've lost interest. Again, if something hasn't shifted for another reason. Wait until he returns to see if he reaches out and move forward from there.



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1) how did the night with his friends end?

I feel like it ended well! Got along with one friend really well the other was kind of a weird guy but I still feel like we got along. He was quiet most of the time and playing pool so I hardly had a chance to speak to him.

2) how has the conversation/time spent together been since then?

So he texted me right when I got home that night saying merry Christmas and I said the same and thanked him for inviting me out with his friends, told him I had a good time. Got no response and the next day heard nothing, which was Christmas Day so I expected that. Yesterday is when I texted him about my show which he said he would be out of town for. I eventually told him "no worries hope the rest of your day goes well" and he said "thanks you too" and that was it. And that's all that happened since.


3) he stated he's out of town and is probably busy with that*

He's not out of town until Jan. But he works retail, maybe he's been busy with that it's a crazy time of year for that industry? I wanted to invite him to get coffee with me sometime this week but I'm a little confused with his feelings! Also I'm a typical cap, always worrying and when I like someone I'm all in. I'm afraid if I ask him out I'll come across as being clingy. Also I have never been on a date with someone who hasn't tried something by the second date even if it's just a gentle kiss! But I have never been with a Scorpio before either. But slower moving than a cap!?? Hahaha!

Thanks again for your thoughtful responses! Really helping me figure this guy out lol!
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2) how has the conversation/time spent together been since then?

So he texted me right when I got home that night saying merry Christmas and I said the same and thanked him for inviting me out with his friends, told him I had a good time. Got no response and the next day heard nothing, which was Christmas Day so I expected that. Yesterday is when I texted him about my show which he said he would be out of town for. I eventually told him "no worries hope the rest of your day goes well" and he said "thanks you too" and that was it. And that's all that happened since.



Jesus, this is over a span of a few days? It's the holiday and you just met. I think the whole introduction to his friend may have confused things. It's the holiday and only been a few days. He's probably busy with that the season. I know I didn't answer my phone on Christmas because I was with my people and frankly didn't want to bother with anyone else. That was all that mattered. Perhaps he has the same frame of mind. Come to think of it the Scorps I know we're the only people that didn't send out messages or call on Christmas lol. They sent messages the next day.

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3) he stated he's out of town and is probably busy with that

He's not out of town until Jan. But he works retail, maybe he's been busy with that it's a crazy time of year for that industry? I wanted to invite him to get coffee with me sometime this week but I'm a little confused with his feelings! Also I'm a typical cap, always worrying and when I like someone I'm all in. I'm afraid if I ask him out I'll come across as being clingy. Also I have never been on a date with someone who hasn't tried something by the second date even if it's just a gentle kiss! But I have never been with a Scorpio before either. But slower moving than a cap!?? Hahaha!
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1) This may sound weird coming from a Scorp, but try to find some grey when it comes to pursuing a relationships This "all in" with someone you just met sounds unbalanced/extreme. I understand it. However, I tend to only go "all in" when it comes to personal goals and I am in a committed relationship with someone. Not with someone that sent me a few cute text messages.

2) Asking him out won't make you sound clingy. Sweating a few days of silence when he's out of town does.



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Too soon to tell... I think.

You mentioned: His other friend made a comment that kind of made me wonder, he said "we've spent a lot of time talking about you"

I think he was trying to hint that your Scorp guy has been talking to them about you. But we don't know, he could be just trying to make your Scorp Guy uncomfortable as well. You could have asked them.... what they had been talking about you... but the moment has passed. And I think you should let it be.

Well I know one thing... guys will hold onto girls who get along with their friends... so I think it was great for you to meet his friends.

But, I think this was just a date/hang out. I think you need a lil more time to know if he likes you. But I'm guessing he is interested.. since he seems to want to talk/hang out with you.
Unforntely when I tried to ask him what they were saying he changed the subject and avoided the question. But something odd happened today he stopped texting me!

He's freinds revealed too much so he's backing off

He'll be back
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Thanks for your insight! I had a friend say the same thing. I asked him to coffee yesterday night he replied tonight saying he wasn't sure if he had plans? I haven't replied not sure what that means. ?‍♀️

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2) how has the conversation/time spent together been since then?

So he texted me right when I got home that night saying merry Christmas and I said the same and thanked him for inviting me out with his friends, told him I had a good time. Got no response and the next day heard nothing, which was Christmas Day so I expected that. Yesterday is when I texted him about my show which he said he would be out of town for. I eventually told him "no worries hope the rest of your day goes well" and he said "thanks you too" and that was it. And that's all that happened since.



Jesus, this is over a span of a few days? It's the holiday and you just met. I think the whole introduction to his friend may have confused things. It's the holiday and only been a few days. He's probably busy with that the season. I know I didn't answer my phone on Christmas because I was with my people and frankly didn't want to bother with anyone else. That was all that mattered. Perhaps he has the same frame of mind. Come to think of it the Scorps I know we're the only people that didn't send out messages or call on Christmas lol. They sent messages the next day.

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3) he stated he's out of town and is probably busy with that

He's not out of town until Jan. But he works retail, maybe he's been busy with that it's a crazy time of year for that industry? I wanted to invite him to get coffee with me sometime this week but I'm a little confused with his feelings! Also I'm a typical cap, always worrying and when I like someone I'm all in. I'm afraid if I ask him out I'll come across as being clingy. Also I have never been on a date with someone who hasn't tried something by the second date even if it's just a gentle kiss! But I have never been with a Scorpio before either. But slower moving than a cap!?? Hahaha!



1) This may sound weird coming from a Scorp, but try to find some grey when it comes to pursuing a relationships This "all in" with someone you just met sounds unbalanced/extreme. I understand it. However, I tend to only go "all in" when it comes to personal goals and I am in a committed relationship with someone. Not with someone that sent me a few cute text messages.

2) Asking him out won't make you sound clingy. Sweating a few days of silence when he's out of town does.



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Thanks I think you're right I'll just try to take things as slow as possible and try to be patient which is something I know I need to work on. I ended up asking him for coffee last night he replied tonight saying he wasn't sure if he had plans? I haven't replied not sure what it means. It's not a yes or a no so ?‍♀️


But I have a friend who is really into astrology as well and told me this. would love to know your thoughts.

Scorpios always have to be in control and like to have a sense of mystery about them. He may have caught himself opening up a little too much. Maybe he felt like he was making too much of an effort and that you were gaining the upper hand. He could have been getting ahead of himself, caught it, and decided to step back as their emotions are intense. Scorpios are the sign of obsession, and this is often the only thing that can break down their cool calm facade. He might need time to recharge, reevaluate, and make a new plan to regain control.
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I think it's strange he didn't send you a Christmas text. I send Christmas texts to people I said Merry Christmas to the day before. A girl I'm interested in will definitely get one because it's a good excuse to talk to her.

Honestly, that makes me wonder if he has another woman in his life right now.
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I think it's strange he didn't send you a Christmas text. I send Christmas texts to people I said Merry Christmas to the day before. A girl I'm interested in will definitely get one because it's a good excuse to talk to her.

Honestly, that makes me wonder if he has another woman in his life right now.
Well we hung out Christmas Eve into Christmas morning so we kind of already exchanged that in person. We shall see!
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OP,

Just stop. Stand still and allow your brain to relax. Then back it right up. Rewind the last week and get some perspective.

I've read this thread just now. Phoenix offers good advice here to you, and when you mentioned being 'all in' I also thought 'whoa!!!!' You have known this guy for all of a few hours.

You had a date which wasn't even a date first time round.

Then for date two which wasn't date two you spent most of the time talking with everyone but this guy.

You asked him to come to your art show but he's away.

Now you're panicking as you've not heard from him in the last three minutes!

You're even questioning his 'feelings' for you and want to know how he 'feels' about you. It's been five fucking minutes!!! What do you want from him? A declaration of love and for him to put a ring on it?

Just stop. Leave it alone. Back away from the Scorp guy... Do not pursue this guy. Do not 'check in' with him by sending bullshit messages asking how his day is which only serve to remind him you're waiting for him and hoping he will ask you out again.

You asked him out albeit to your art thing. He said he couldn't make it. He didn't follow that up immediately with an alternative. The ball is now in his court to follow up. If he wants to follow up he knows what to do and where to find you.

Meanwhile, continue your life, date others, have other options to focus on. Consider what it is you want from life right now and what you can offer, and what you would like in return. Then go and find someone who matches that.

You haven't even mentioned what you or this guy is looking for. This is THE most crucial factor in ALL of this. Not the other bullshit waffle which is of low significance such as what his friends said etc.
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