Scorpio love: I feel so ashamed that I cant let go

Posted by FireDragonScorpio
yeah...don't take the fooling around with an older scorp option. we will break your spirit and your dick too and then keep you as a pet which we will take out only on occasions when you match our outfits and furthermore, you will become addicted to bad treatment very quickly.
in a sense that is what is happening with you OP. when scorps really fall for someone, it's like an addiction in that we aren't always realistic about the object of our desires. and if a love relationship finishes and we don't want it to, then our feelings become even more exaggerated and it becomes obsessional.
it seems we all love unattainable people. sometimes i think dating is like loads of circles of people chasing after someone who is chasing after someone else. it's worth considering a 360 degree turn to actually consider the person who is chasing us...the one we wrote off cos of the person we were too busy running after.
i think sometimes its cos of the comfort zone you get into when you're in a relationship. when it ends, someone has stolen your cosey slippers and no other pair will be the same cos you had worn them in to perfection.
have faith. you will find another pair of slippers just as good if not better than the old pair which let's face it, were getting a bit smelly and used and needed replacing!

Posted by beccy
and who knows, perhaps truly letting go of her will actually bring her back. right now, she's pretty sure of what's going on in your head and probably likes that you're always there on the backburner but that's crap for you. give her a wake up call. sometimes people have no clue how much they value someone til they're not around any more.

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true!

Posted by Scorporella
When we love, we love with an intensity and a depth that is beyond this world. When we take the chance and let go completely, open ourselves, our hearts, to another, it is forever. We never quite get over that one love in which we take that chance with and open up to. We continue to love that person, long after the relationship ends. In fact, when we love to that depth, I don't think we ever stop loving that person, but we do learn how to go on. And you will too.
You mentioned that you don't think you will ever find love again, but you will, when you are ready to. You may never find something that equals the love you felt for this girl, but it will be special and unique and deep. We can nurse a hurt though for a very long time. And it sounds like you opened yourself completely to this girl, and for a Scorpio, that's an amazing feat in itself, and not one that is ever undertaken lightly. You will eventually let go, but you will never stop loving her.

Posted by Iamnobody
I read somewhere that when a scorpio falls in love our love can be so limitless sometimes bordering on obsession. This might sound weird but i've felt that "crazy obsessiveness", and i'm so ashamed of it. I am still in love with my ex after 3 years of being apart. We dated in 2008, broke up in early 2009 and remained acquaintances. But my feelings obviously got in the way, and hers... well maybe she just liked the attention. We fell out after a huge argument caused by a dramatic incident where she drunkenly kissed me in front of the person she was with. For a year we just fell out of each other's lives but due to a mutual friend, this year we got back into contact around june. I told her I owed her an apology, apologized and she accepted it. Our mutual friend later told me she still had feelings for me but I pretended that I didn't, as after everything that happened with her (I bared my soul to her one night, drunk, because of her mixed signals and got rejected because she was with someone else) I became deathly afraid of being vulnerable. Especially if her feelings for me were just fleeting, or only nostalgia. So she got over me and til now i'm still pretending, and she decided to stay with her partner. It drives me crazy that I feel this way because each time I give myself a reality check, I don't see it happening for us again. But I still love her and its almost impossible to let it go. I haven't been with anyone else since, don't know when I will again. I dunno, should I seek help?