Hi All, I am looking for some realistic advise regarding a Scorpio male I've known for 4 years. We met and the attraction was instant. After we locked in eye's and I couldn't run fast enough before he was next to me. We ended up exchanging numbers and he texted me every day all day and we learned a lot about eachother. He told me he was divorced, father of 2 and the break up was bad. He was very aggressive with feelings and yet wanted to take things slow. Well things boiled over after 3 months and he iced me out after an emotional fall out. I was devastated but cut off all contact. The next year he reached back out to me. He was different; more cold and not the same. I didn't trust him and was hot and cold again so I wasn't surprised when he iced me out again. I let him go again. Following year, to the month, he reaches out again! Now seemingly warm and wanting to play catch (baseball) and hang out. We met up and of course we were affectionate and had a great day...until he brought up his "ex wife and kids" and suddenly got very weird in general. I sensed his walls go up so I kept it light. He then started pressing me about whether or not getting married and having more kids was still a deal breaker. I confirmed that getting married and having a family was! I would not sacrifice that (Which was weird because when we first met he was first to talk about marriage and kidsand was also pushing kids and having a blended family. I sensed hew was hiding something but didn't push it. Just said I am not changing my mind and that I was confused why he had changed his mind. Like I said, he seemed darker than before. I knew he was hiding something. We kissed and ultimately went our separate ways. I felt the ice coming. He texted me a few days later that he didn't think he could give me what I needed and blah blah! Fine.. I let him go again And cut off contact. Well I came to learn that had been married the entire time (separated when met). He broke it off with new first to work things out. 2nd time was a test..so when he reached out the 3rd year in a row and tried to apologize and give me a bunch of BS; telling me how much me misses me and knows her messed up...,I let him have it! I told him I found out evewrything and that he was a selfish man, horrible human, brought me into a horrible situation. I was ashamed of him and to leave me alone, focus on his kids and being a husband to his poor wife!! He admitted to everything and tells me he never meant to hurt anyone, that he has been miserable in his marriage and going through a lot professionally (he is a Cop) that he is sorry he hurt me. I told him to leave me alone, work on his marriage and himself and never reach out to me unless he found himself NOT married and in a place where he was a better person; not hurting everyone around him. He said "Ok. I understand. I will leave you alone". It's been a year and he just messaged me this, "I filed for divorce. I wanted you to know. Can we catch up? Games!? Love?
