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I met a scorpio man who is yes, single and intense and extremely interested in me. Perfectly my type so far. We shall see!!! Meanwhile the other scorp has popped his ugly head up as he can smell when I am getting involved with someone. LOL!!! Left the Aries alone to his drama. Just seeing what this scorp is about and enjoying every bit so far.... Any percautions?
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LOL!!! There is nothing more than a mutual friendship between myself and the old scorp. He still claims to love me but he and I haven't been involved for awhile, so that isn't a problem at all. He just seems to call all the time and want to hang out now. The part of knowing eachother is never more true. We are so similar in a lot of ways but very different in others. He is really intense and it kind of scares me. I am just kind of go with the flow until "I know for sure." Plus I have had a couple of unfortunate involvements lately. 2009 will be different for me. I am making major changes and I hope things work out because he seems sincere and definitely has the qualities I am looking for so far. Wish me luck. Any advice on what to do or what not to do?
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Funny, the first scorp and I met when we both were separated from our spouses. I got the divorce he never did and they still haven't. I decided not to play the game of in between but in the process we got really close and love eachother deeply. I will always care for him, but could never be with him. He will never get that divorce and I actually encouraged him to try and work it out since there won't be a divorce, which he has and since then separated again, but still trying. I do admire his staying power even if it is not with me. I guess that is how I know I love him. I am unselfish when it comes to his well being because he is that way with me except for the fact that I will be with someone else it freaks him out, so I keep him out of my dating life even when he asks. The new scorp has already started with the power trip but it doesn't bother that bad yet. After being dating a couple weeks he asked if I loved him. I said "I could see myself falling for him." I guess that wasn't good enough he is acting kind of wierd now. I asked if he loved me, "He said he is definitely falling in love with me." How is that possible? A couple of weeks? That has never happened to me but I do like him a lot. He is being wierd and I admit that kind of freaked me out so I have pulled back a little. I told him we were probably moving this too fast. Why don't we just take our time. He said he didn't think we were but okay. He too is divorced more recently than I am.
Signed Up: Jan 14, 2008 Comments: 0 ยท Posts: 1233 ยท Topics: 77
hi qs!!! i'm so glad there is a drama on the board again! i missed it in a way. scorp wheel goes around and around lol so, are you still involved with an aires or he's gone? so, 3 scorps are trying to battle it out. i agree with satori "Cut the cord completely with the old scorp or new scorp won't trust you." unless you tell the new scorp that if you feel he needs to know. how long that's being going on?
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Hey Ariesgirl! There is no cord with old scorp!!! LOL!!! Nothing more than a friendship that will probably be there for a long time... No need to tell knew scorp anything. Oh, I left the Aries with the pregnant ex-fiance drama behind. Not worth it. Glad I did cause I am liking the scorp man I just met. For now, anyway. How are you doing?
Signed Up: Nov 21, 2005 Comments: 0 ยท Posts: 3537 ยท Topics: 116
QS I just can't do it... A scorpio man? HELL NO!!! not for me. I feel the strength between us both will be the same and it won't be challenging enough for me. Since dating my Gem I find him and the friendship to be the most challenging and intriguing. Even thought we've had our issues and difficulty understanding each other at times. I can honestly say finally we are at a place where we are understanding each other way better than a year ago. Not to mention that I had to sting his ass a couple of times. But he still comes back.
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qs- i'm glad the pregnant gf aries drama is over for you. it's like take him and take the ex and the kid with him. it's too much to deal with. i noticed that scorp ppl tend to keep friends with the exes. i'd doing really good with my scorp. we're kind of settled in and spend almost every night together and cook and watch tv like an old married couple lol now, if i have an issue with him i just tell it straight to his face and we work it out. hopefully, we can move to the next level some time soon.
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scorplady - Gemini? I will take another scorp any day over a Gemini. LOL!!! There has never been a deeper emotional and telepathic connection for me with other signs. Even the wonderful Libra men in my past. Ariesgirl - Yeah, that whole drama with the ex and the Aries, was way too much. He is a good guy, and a good catch, but he didn't know what to do with himself and I couldn't wait around to find out. It is true, we scorps can remain friends with exes. He and I do chat at times and I admit, I am still friends with a couple of ex-partners so that is true. Yeah, The old scorp was the first scorp I had ever been involved with. This new one is great and available like me so I can see great things happening. Secret - He is a little younger than me. Freaks me out as I have only dated men older than me even by a year or so, never the same age or younger but he has more going for himself than a lot of guys my age and older. He seems to be very mature for his age as well. We will see. I am supposed to see him tonight if I don't get stormed in. Chicago weather uggghhhh! Ariesgirl, keep things exciting don't let things get too boring with your scorp and he will always be there. They have amazing staying power even more so than us scorp girl!
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qs- date men younger then you are the older i get the more i realize that men should be younger because they get older and boring so much faster then women. i used to make fun of a friend of mine because she always has 10-15 years younger boyfriends. she's almost 40. i'm the one who almost always trying to keep things exciting. i call him boring one he's totally fine doing eating sleeping etc the same way all the time. i have gems as friends and find them a little too flakey for my taste. will take scorp any time as well have fun on your date. you two can have a snow fight if it snows!!!!
Signed Up: Nov 21, 2005 Comments: 0 ยท Posts: 3537 ยท Topics: 116
Well I love my Gem. I would not date and aries man because they embellish the truth to much for me. I will not date a Scorpio man because I would feel like I am dating myself, where will the excitement be? will you ever get something different from a scrop man that you would not already expect him to have, show or give? being a scropio yourself.. They are just not that challengeing to me. As for dating younger guys that is fine been there done that and after awhile they will start to play childish games with you. Just my opinion
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"I will not date a Scorpio man because I would feel like I am dating myself, where will the excitement be? will you ever get something different from a scrop man that you would not already expect him to have, show or give? being a scropio yourself.. They are just not that challengeing to me." No quite contrary in my experience. They intrigue me. They are so intelligent, fun and intense. They can be jealous and possessive but as long as you check them and call them out on it they will try to keep it at a minimum. I just think they are not their normal selves around me for some reason. A lot of things people say about them don't apply in my involvement with them. LOL!!! He just called and sang a song to me over the phone. He is the sweetest!
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"don't they all regardless of age try to "play childish games with you" Yup. All ages! By the way people, he is not that much younger than me. I am not quite a cougar... LOL!!! A couple years is all, okay, 3 years.
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after you both over 25yo 5 years either way is like being the same age in my opinion. i think every person regardless of a sign is different. i've always looked for more similarities in a partner then a challenging differences. was never a big fan of challenging stuff in a relationship. my life is challenging enough.
Signed Up: Nov 02, 2006 Comments: 0 ยท Posts: 792 ยท Topics: 22
QS!!!!!!!! Where have u been! Im following you haha! ..soo glad to be done with the libra! Im still good friends with my libra but OMG scorp has got me all over him. Anyway. You always give the BEST advice! So you have dealt with 2 scorps and lived to tell about it..OMG how insane..and I thought libra's were bad. Scorps play so many mind games. Everywhere I read they say that it is one of their pleasures to torture and test potential mates. Why is that?
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Hey Aquabrat!!!! How are you? I am soooooo glad you are done with the libra. They are charming men, but ugghhh just not quite right for me anyway... LOL!!! Yes, I have been envolved with 2 scorps and I can tell you I have never had a deeper connection! The first one is totally insane! The situation didn't allow us to be together fully, which wasn't good enough for me. So, he still checks up on me and claims to love me to death, but love is not enough... Ya know. The new one keeps me laughing and is so much fun. We have so much in common a little younger but soooo mature. He listens to all oldie music etc. So smart, he is definitely beyond his years. I really like him. I can see the possessive and a little jealousy popping up here and there, but he claims he isn't. I didn't see him last night. I fell asleep. But I did have a beautiful song on my phone when I woke up. Titled "Good Morning Love" which he has sent to me every morning since we met a couple weeks now. I luv being spoiled. However, I also like to spoil.
"So you have dealt with 2 scorps and lived to tell about it..OMG how insane..and I thought libra's were bad. Scorps play so many mind games. Everywhere I read they say that it is one of their pleasures to torture and test potential mates. Why is that?"
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"ugh! a scorpio man. why? broody, arrogant and untalkative, and a really bad one is angry all the time" Wow, when I hear comments like these I swear people are talking about another sign. In both experiences they can be the most loving and caring men. Very expressive and not hold back on their feelings. Moody at times - yes, but I know that is the scorp way because I am also moody. Angry? Even if they are they turn to putty once I am in their presence. I love that.Even the tough bad one. LOL!!! I don't know maybe they are different with different people. Or maybe it is just a scorp thing people don't understand. LOL!!!
Signed Up: Dec 08, 2008 Comments: 0 ยท Posts: 101 ยท Topics: 0
i'm currently in a scorpio-scorpio relationship myself. he's so sweet and i like that he's younger; i'm always into older guys, so its a good little change. i'm not used to his attentiveness and being treated so good. love it. not the typical guy for sure. i've also kinda done the scorpio thing before, but that didn't go anywhere. he had ex issues. i wasn't gonna go into that & then the interest just faded quickly. He just called and sang a song to me over the phone. He is the sweetest! The new one keeps me laughing and is so much fun. We have so much in common a little younger but soooo mature. I luv being spoiled. However, I also like to spoil.
hahaha mine sings when we're on the phone sometimes. & true for me too @ the 2nd and 3rd thing.
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justcurious, wait a minute... are we dating the same scorp??? LOL!!! I doubt it.. I hope not... Yeah, but he is soo refreshing!!! Yeah, I have never really dated anyone a few years younger than me. It is the best so far probably because he is a mature younger man.
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I had to add to this I met one Scrop about a year an a half ago and he was married but going thru problems and we began hanging out all the time he was so sweet and we connected on some many levels we just couldnt be together cause at the time we both were still in relationships so now a year later we are still great friends and I know he loves me and always will and he wants to be together but I dont want him to break up his home he has two young kids so i told he we can still be friends and I try not to let him know what I am doing in my personal life cause he still get jealous.
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Scorpio1114 the exact situation for me with the first scorp... If things were different and if he did decide to get a divorce, it would have been he and I definitely. I am not a number 2 although he has had a female in his past while he was with his wife. I am not the one. We met when we were both separated from our spouses except I divorced mine. He eventually went home to try again and has since left twice but hasn't given up because of his two children mostly.
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Also in July of 2008 i tried to date another Scorp we did not get alone everything was great at first he bought me flowers, cooked for me and he would bring my kids gifts all the time but he was too too jealous checking my phone calling the other Scorp which cause all kind of problems telling me he loved me so after 3mths I had to say lets be friends it was just too much too fast. but as far the other Scorp we will always love eachother but circumstances just dont allow for us to be together and thats where it stands right now but they other Scorp who was jealous we dont even talk anymore he calls me and I dont answer it seem like he was always depress. So now I met a Tarus and everything is good but the First Scorp I dont know he going to take it when I talk and spend less time with him, it shouldnt be a problem because we are just friends but it's hard for him to understand that
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justcurious, wait a minute... are we dating the same scorp??? LOL!!! I doubt it.. I hope not... Yeah, but he is soo refreshing!!! lmao. i was gonna say that in my original post! nah, my boy's here in california :]
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Like you queen I need to be number one and that what the first Scorp has to understand you can't have your cake and eat it too, sorry it doesnt work like that. My taurs no wife, no kids and he can give me everything I want and need.
Signed Up: Nov 02, 2006 Comments: 0 ยท Posts: 792 ยท Topics: 22
QS!! OMG my scorp is younger too by 10 yrs though.. he is very mature about some things and very out-of-control about others.. Why are scorp men so hard to leave alone? I have quit him soooo many times in the past 3 mos and he won't quit txt'n me and pleading with me..so I come back around only for him to turn cold again. WTF? Im guessing its all his game..but im too old for this! My scorp sings all the time too..he is an engineer, loves to cook, plays 4 instruments and makes his own furniture..nice stuff too. With the most sexy baby blue eyes and dimples you have ever seen..see why im in trouble? I don't know what to do. Why is my scorp like this? I've told him to leave me alone so many times..but then we talk at work and he will txt me later that night to come over. I don't, but OMG im nawing off my finger to keep from txt'n him back "im on my way" cuz wow a scorp in bed aint NO joke. I've turned him down for the past 5 weeks and its killing me. I want to see him but I don't know what to do..I can't keep going back or can I and not get hurt?
Signed Up: Dec 25, 2008 Comments: 0 ยท Posts: 40 ยท Topics: 5
QS, enjoy EVERY minute of it. scorp-scorp relationships can be hell or heaven, of course you know this. my first one was HELL. he played with my emotions until i was almost NUTS. he never let his ex go for years and years and strung me along for two years, it was so awful. now, i met a REAL man, an adoring scorpio who dotes on me, cooks for me, worries about me, so sweet and tender. i LOVE the fact that scorpios are a little possessive. who says thats a bad thing? i think it is flattering that they would give their time to possess YOU, it is a compliment in my book.
Signed Up: Oct 23, 2008 Comments: 0 ยท Posts: 129 ยท Topics: 3
my 1st love was a scorp, and im one too. He was too intense and wouldn't give me a moments peace. His hands were over me all the time it felt like. hahahahaa. I wasn't allowed to 'live' without him. i don't think I've met any nice ones I'd like to be with, even so I've got a couple of friends and I wouldn't go out with them if you paid me. they get moody and mad.
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"Why are scorp men so hard to leave alone? I have quit him soooo many times in the past 3 mos and he won't quit txt'n me and pleading with me..so I come back around only for him to turn cold again. WTF? Im guessing its all his game..but im too old for this! My scorp sings all the time too..he is an engineer, loves to cook, plays 4 instruments and makes his own furniture..nice stuff too. With the most sexy baby blue eyes and dimples you have ever seen..see why im in trouble?" Yeah, I know the feeling. Scorp number 1 still think there is a chance for us down the line. He never ever stoped contacting me or begging me to go out with him. They don't like rejection, it getsw them nervous! They LOVE to be desired and wanted and once you stop they panic. So he won't leave you alone as long as you respond to him, but wait, if you ignore him he will get angry and just pop up. LOL!!!! Just keep things cool and don't see him he will finally accept it. When I don't know. I know how hard it is to stay away though, I really do. "i LOVE the fact that scorpios are a little possessive. who says thats a bad thing? i think it is flattering that they would give their time to possess YOU, it is a compliment in my book." The way they possess can definitely be more flattering than not. They sort of "take care of you" emotionally and physically. They have a way of making you feel desired and protected. I love that. I got that from both... The new scorp is so sweet and extra sweet because he IS available.
Signed Up: Dec 25, 2008 Comments: 0 ยท Posts: 40 ยท Topics: 5
QS - I agree! What a difference when a scorpio is actually available emotionally! I used to get on this site and groan and moan and question wtf is up w/ scorpio men. The answer is so simple. The old one didn't love me. People on here used to tell me "when a scorpio is in love with you, you will know it. you will not have to ask." This is the TRUTH. Period.
Signed Up: Jan 15, 2009 Comments: 0 ยท Posts: 130 ยท Topics: 6
heeeeyyyy errbody Its arian la'tay!!! i erm....did sumn dumb so now I'm a new screen name. QS, you're feeling someone eh? Is he a gentleman?????????????
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"What a difference when a scorpio is actually available emotionally! I used to get on this site and groan and moan and question wtf is up w/ scorpio men. The answer is so simple. The old one didn't love me." The difference with me was the first scorpio did and still does love me, he claimed he wanted to work it out with his wife because he wanted to be a "present" father in his kids life. He and his wife have no "real" life together. They do nothing together and barely see eachother, which is a sad way to live if you ask me. Strangely enough it was like he wanted a "Woman" with a wife on the side rather than the other way around when a man has extra marital affairs. He and I both were separated from our spouses when we met, but like I said, I actually got divorced he decided to try again. He would put my needs first in front of hers all the time even when he was trying to work it out. I don't know maybe I actually have a contious to go along with my self respect. I didn't like it. The new scorp, dotes all his attention on me. Love that!
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hmmmmm 34 is not considered cougar just yet, 35+ and some say 40+ that usually date younger men under 30...if your dating a 20 year old at the age of 30 then yes that would be considered cougar but by definition she's still young sooo I'm on the fence with that analogy
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Well... As mentioned in the beginning of this thread, everything started out great with the new scorp but now??? Who knows. The story: He started off really intense and trying to move things along quickly (wich was unrealistic and scary for me to say the least). Like after 3 dates talking about future together, marriage, merging of families/daughters etc. He was like head over hills, told his whole family about me, coworkers, showing pics of me in his phone to everyone. The morning songs sent to my cell. I admit it was a little overwhelming but I liked the attention, it just didn't seem realistic, so, in so many words, I basically told him things probably won't happen this fast. I think I bruised his ego, he went from 100 to 5. Meaning He still called and sent songs, but was doubtful about everything as it related to us and when I asked what was going on, he said, " well I was basically told by you I was moving too fast so I have a mental block to slow things down." I explained that I didn't mean to hurt his feelings or for him to back off almost completely, but I didn't feel that it was possible (atleast for me) to know if I wanted to advance my life with someone to that point after 3 dates and a couple weeks of knowing them. Now here is the kicker, this past weekend he and I made plans to spend most of the weekend together (It is very hard for us to spene much time during the week). The previous weekend we both had our daughters (and we are not at the point where I am ready for him to meet my daughter or me meet his). Thursday we talk on the phone. I ask what he wanted to do this weekend. His response: " Probably nothing, I am going to see my daughter this weekend (she lives 3 hours away) and he normally only gets to see her one weekend per month. Then he has her 3 months out of the summer for summer break. Shocked and admittedly disappointed, but being an understanding parent, I said, okay, glad I asked. He stated he just decided to go that day. He called me when he got off work Friday, and said he would call back, during that conversation I told him how I felt about the way things were going, he said we should sit down and have a long talk about what we both wanted. He said nothing has changed regarding the way he felt about me etc. He said he still thinks we want the same things but we somehow are not on the same page. I agreed. He never called back. I called him later that night to see if he made it safetly. No response, no call
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se no call back. It is Monday. I haven't heard from him. I am really confused, but pissed. What kind of shit is this? I explained to him when we met that I have no tolerance for games and this, is either immature, or game to me. Seriously who does this as an adult? Maybe I am missing something. Suggestions?