Posted by GetMisted
Did you have coitus with him?
Posted by Vixen2
I find it odd that his friend is texting you & telling you things he said...
Posted by GetMistedPosted by Jes8744Posted by GetMisted
Did you have coitus with him?
Did it once.. Two days before this occurred and it was awful. I kind of think maybe that was the breaking point. He told me he's not very experienced and it showed and after he kept critiquing himself and it was just awful.
There's your answer.click to expand
Posted by GetMistedPosted by Jes8744Posted by GetMistedPosted by Jes8744Posted by GetMisted
Did you have coitus with him?
Did it once.. Two days before this occurred and it was awful. I kind of think maybe that was the breaking point. He told me he's not very experienced and it showed and after he kept critiquing himself and it was just awful.
There's your answer.
But what I don't get is the "too nice" part that he told his friend.
It's a bullshit excuse.
Either his goal was to hit it and quit it.. Or he is ashamed of his performance and too embarrassed to face you again.click to expand
Posted by thestruggle
did he find the magic bean?
Posted by munchykin
Were you maybe being overly clingy or overbearing somehow? Maybe that's what he told his friend, who tried to paraphrase that in a gentle way.
Posted by munchykinPosted by Jes8744
I was truly just going with the flow. I see myself as a nice person but never knew that being nice would push someone away.
There's something seriously wrong with someone who is actively repelled by nice people.
If that's really his reason, then you've probably dodged a bullet.click to expand
Posted by MlleFisk
Oh God, darling. Don't Mistress Save-a-(scorp)HO... that's how Pisces usually get "stuck" with shitty ass partners
Posted by BlackMamba
Dude can't even fuk? I'm out
Posted by starlover
It's not you, it's him
He seems to be projecting his lack of love for himself onto you
Seen that happen a few times with relationships
Lucky escape!
Posted by starlover
....but i don't think she should fvck him
Posted by Arielle83
Maybe you're too nice because he wants someone to take the reigns sexually.
He obviously doesn't know what he's doing.
Either way, if he can't tell you to your face, there's no point.
Posted by Vixen2Posted by Jes8744
I was truly just going with the flow. I see myself as a nice person but never knew that being nice would push someone away.
I read your other thread...IMO, I don't think it has to do with you being nice, despite what his friend said, he may have told his friend that but it's probably what you said before...the whole sex debacle and how it wasn't that great because of his inexperience...I'm betting on that. He's really embarrassed about it and/or he was expecting something else himself...
In my experience, they like "nice girls" salt of the earth type of people. The saying "lady in the street freak in the sheets" comes to mind. Maybe the chemistry was just not there on both sides. Who knows...but keep on going, there is nothing wrong with you. You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince...even though he was a Scorp and You a Pisces and the chemistry is supposed to be legendary, and in my case it is... he just isn't the right Scorpio.click to expand
Posted by TinxyPosted by starlover
It's not you, it's him
He seems to be projecting his lack of love for himself onto you
Seen that happen a few times with relationships
Lucky escape!
He wants one of those nasty bitches who belittle him and make him feel stoopid he'd prob fall in love in a nano second.
Fcuking douche bags like this are what turn nice gals into bitter women.
Fcuk himclick to expand
Posted by Octoberbaby91
^
Because a lot of men are insecure and prefer that treatment. Now n days men/boys have a difficult time being raised properly. They have grown to be lazy and searching for their moms in women they date. They are not the manly man who have they butter together. It now takes them longer to discover who they are and they self esteem. Society plays a part due to expectations and governmental corruption. More women are even graduating from college and having better careers then the men today. Males have fragile egos and don't have true role models on what it is to be a self assured man.
As for OP yes he is embarrassed and you doged a bullet because he has childhood issues he needs to resolve he is extremely insecure.
Posted by LexPosted by Arielle83
Maybe you're too nice because he wants someone to take the reigns sexually.
He obviously doesn't know what he's doing.
Either way, if he can't tell you to your face, there's no point.
I agree with most of what people are saying, but this one stuck out because it sounds like the culmination of issues he might have in a nutshell. You have a guy with a "rough" background that might find comfort in more controlling people, Weak sex skills might show a past with partners more dominant/controlling attributes.
In my experience, I read the man and learn what kind of personality he is to easily determine the type of woman he needs. I also ask myself if I am that type of woman. More times than not I am not for them and I know it before wasting too much time *aries venus?*. Best luck to ya, because tbh his reason doesn't matter if he couldn't even tell you to your face, I call that feminine behavior and he might have needed a woman with more masculine qualities who would be more direct with him about that.
You seem like a go with the flow kind of person, you too might do better with a more masculine guy. Not in the macho man way, but like someone mentioned, a "salt of the earth" kind of guy.click to expand
Posted by Jes8744Posted by TinxyPosted by starlover
It's not you, it's him
He seems to be projecting his lack of love for himself onto you
Seen that happen a few times with relationships
Lucky escape!
He wants one of those nasty bitches who belittle him and make him feel stoopid he'd prob fall in love in a nano second.
Fcuking douche bags like this are what turn nice gals into bitter women.
Fcuk him
Agree!!! I was second guessing myself at first but decided no. Not going to change how I treat people because I'm "too nice". Much rather be nice than rude!click to expand