Scorpio Man Told Me It's Over

Hi All,

I am kindly requesting understanding into this Scorpio man. First I want to explain, please. I am a Gemini Woman, He's a Scorpio Man

When he met me I was going through some personal stuff, where he was the most understanding, caring, supportive man who listened to me and gave me great advice.. He kept on asking If i ever saw myself with him..

Anywhere he went he would message me and told me he wished I was there with him. We soon became an item. He would say all those most beautiful things to me. But texting has always seem to break communication between him and I, and it's almost always resolved when we talked on the phone..

Recently I told him my ex asked to be in a relationship again, he asked me if i was going back to him, I said NO i have grown to love you.

Two days later, he told me we weren't compatible, and i should go back to my ex, he wants me no more 😭 that was on Sunday night

Today, there has been no contact from him. I told him before he broke up with me that I love him. His fb page looks like he's all happy, I am here, broken, wanting him back. I have never felt love like his before.

Please tell me that he will be back.

Okay, the problem here is the ex that came back into the picture. He might be jealous, insecure, and also... could be testing you.

What is his venus and moon?

I can't say he will be back. But it's possible.

Can you point me ito gather his venus and moon?

I remember once, he told me that I have passed all his tests, before he ended it with me he said We aren't compatible, I asked my woman for something and she can't give it to me.. Go back to your ex. He's birthday is on Oct 31st, does this help?

I think he's just being a big manipulative to make you prove yourself to him. Honestly. I doubt he's really done with you. If the story really went how you say it did. That's not enough for him to just leave you. I think he wants you to prove that it all him and no one else. Don't bring up other men anymore, I feel like Scorpios don't like that.

Also, the "grown to love you" was no bueno. I wouldn't want to hear that ish.

Hi, When he met me I was trying to get over the hurt of my ex, and I would always ask him whether he thinks my ex will return, which he said no. My ex and I are in battle with some money and he started pouring out his feelings.

I only told him about my ex because I wanted him to know, which he is aware of, that i have been asking my ex for money all the time and he's now throwing in he wants me back. HOnestly when I told him I have grown to love him he did respond, awww thank you, that's nice to know.He asked me how i thought about my ex, I told him I haven't even give him any thought.

I think it wasn't for me to hurt him. I will never hurt him. I love this scorpio man soo much.

Posted by GeminLibra

Please tell me that he will be back.

If anyone can tell you this then also ask them to purchase you a lottery ticket.

What I can tell you is how I would read this statement and you can figure out from there where you might have gone wrong:

Posted by GeminLibra

Recently I told him my ex asked to be in a relationship again, he asked me if i was going back to him, I said NO i have grown to love you.

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The first thing is the fact that your ex Scorp had to ask you what you were going to do says you were not clear in your reaction to your ex when you were conveying this story to him. I would now doubt if you are being honest about your feelings.

Second, conversations such as "I want you back" do not come out of the blue, so that tells me you have been conversing with your ex. The fact that this information is being brought to my attention now would be an issue for me.

Last, no where in the OP did you indicate that he stated he loved you, so if I haven't said this to you and you tell me your ex wants you back would lead me wonder if you're trying to test the waters or putting a forced scenario out there to make me believe I should be able to trust you. It smells like a game and I don't like games.

Btw, I think a few more details about this ex and what you said is being left out. So my answer is based on what you've provided.

October 31st, okay. What year?

Also, it really depends on the scorpio. If we like you enough we will stick around for eternity. If we feel you have wronged us so bad it cannot be fixed, we will shut the door on you.

You didn't do anything that badly. What you did was set up competition, but it's not like you said "I am still in love with my ex, I don't know what to do..." If you had said something along those lines he would DROP YOU within minutes. You have let him know you are still in contact with your ex, which lets him know you are still involved with him, and that is one of the big no-no's... Scorpios want all of you, we are not someone you can leave and come back to, we are not okay with that. We don't share.

This can be fixed. But what were you looking to hear from him when you told him about your ex? Do you still have feelings for your ex?

He has a pet name for me, and I am pouring out how much I miss him and Love him as my status, not directly messaging him, but he's not even responding, not saying hi how are you. This makes me soo sick 😢 I honestly love him and I really feel scared. I never once wanted him to feel as though I was going to leave him. But i can agree maybe he does feel as though I may leave and he's trying to protect himself??

Well the 1st red flag is you communicating with the ex about getting back together. (Sparks jealous)
Then you telling him the ex wants back in is another red flag. (Insecurity, him thinking you want other guy.) What were you hoping to accomplish, an emotional display of love with him begging you to pick him?

He's offended, he already communicated how he felt for you, then you tell him you have been talking with the ex and that he wants you back. Think long and hard, do you want to get back with the ex?

I know Gems like to talk but there is such a thing as verbal diarrhea, next time know your man.
He is not a fellow air sign who will consider it friendly competition and up his game. He is a sensitive water sign with insecurities.

Posted by GeminLibra
He has a pet name for me, and I am pouring out how much I miss him and Love him as my status, not directly messaging him, but he's not even responding, not saying hi how are you. This makes me soo sick 😢 I honestly love him and I really feel scared. I never once wanted him to feel as though I was going to leave him. But i can agree maybe he does feel as though I may leave and he's trying to protect himself??

Do you really love this man or is he just a challenge to conquer?

Birth year 1967. My ex and I are still in contact because of monies owed. Infact when my ex e-mails I let him see the e-mails, so it's no surprise to him. My Scorpio always tells me he loves me and he wants no one else. I don't know exactly how i wanted him to respond to be honest. Maybe I wanted to prove him wrong, when he said my ex will never return, and show him he did. I don't know.. Loving a Scorpio has been tough, his moods, but yet i love him 😭 and miss him..

Posted by GeminLibra
When he met me I was trying to get over the hurt of my ex, and I would always ask him whether he thinks my ex will return...

Lol. That right there did it. One thing people don't realize (well most people) is Scorps store information. We are watching, listening, observing the hell out of you and tucking info away. I can retrieve something a potential love interest has told me on our first date 2 years later. You were hurt by your ex and kept hoping he'd come back. You even asked the man his thoughts on the matter. He has now told you he wants you back and couple that with "I've grown to love you" says dude, you're runner up.

Gems over share. Gets them into trouble all the time.

I did not communicate with my ex to get back together. My ex has been owing me money for almost a year and I needed it for health reasons, that's the only reason why we needed to communicate, other than that we don't communicate, I think he was only being mushy on me was to get away from paying the money. But i have no feelings for him...

I agree, Gemini's talk alot!!!! 😢 He met me when I was dealing with the hurt of my bf and he was my shelter, my security. He started feeling for me and wanted a relationship, and I after a while grew to love him and NOT once have I ever looked back at getting back with my ex.

Posted by GeminLibra
Birth year 1967. My ex and I are still in contact because of monies owed. Infact when my ex e-mails I let him see the e-mails, so it's no surprise to him. My Scorpio always tells me he loves me and he wants no one else. I don't know exactly how i wanted him to respond to be honest. Maybe I wanted to prove him wrong, when he said my ex will never return, and show him he did. I don't know.. Loving a Scorpio has been tough, his moods, but yet i love him 😭 and miss him..

October 31st, 1967. Now all I need is the birthplace.
Oh, you let the scorpio see the emails? And he never freaks out? He must have trust in you, then.
But if he can close you off with that one little statement you made then he must not have enough trust in you, or you broke it.
He is insecure. It was definitely not the right thing to do to go tell him about it.
I'm guessing you wanted him to step up more after you told him, you wanted to hear how much he loves you. That is NOT, I repeat, NOOOT the way to do it. If you wanted to hear from him how much he cares for you and loves you, there are plenty of other ways. Making him jealous or proving him wrong is not one.

I am the 28th May

Does me you no good for me to echo whats are already been said. I agree.

If you want him back, you have to wait to see if his love is strong enough to get over whatever he has to get over.

i understand 😭 and you are right, I wanted him to step up more 😭 but not loose him

Sorry, I'm not laughing at your hurt, just the glaringly obvious "foot in the mouth" detail you failed to mention in the OP.

Sadly, that should not have been used against you. I am assuming at the time when you were opening up about your ex you had no intentions of getting with the Scorp. However, the bit of info was probably stored away. If he recognizes that and he's willing to see past his ego, he may be willing to hear you out on the matter and you might be able to work it out. Give him time and reach out. He may be open to it.

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Posted by GeminLibra
When he met me I was trying to get over the hurt of my ex, and I would always ask him whether he thinks my ex will return...

Lol. That right there did it. One thing people don't realize (well most people) is Scorps store information. We are watching, listening, observing the hell out of you and tucking info away. I can retrieve something a potential love interest has told me on our first date 2 years later. You were hurt by your ex and kept hoping he'd come back. You even asked the man his thoughts on the matter. He has now told you he wants you back and couple that with "I've grown to love you" says dude, you're runner up.

Gems over share. Gets them into trouble all the time.

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This is exactly right. Not be be rude, but he sees this as competition now.. He does NOT want to share you.

You have to make your mind up and choose one.

Posted by GeminLibra
i understand 😭 and you are right, I wanted him to step up more 😭 but not loose him

Aaah.. okay. It is possible this can be fixed, but the damage is already done, and he will have a harder time trusting you now. You've got to let him know that HE IS THE ONLY ONE FOR YOU.
And cut off the ex!

When he said good night, after our last chat. I told him please stop testing me, I love you (because he previously said i had past all his tests) I told him stop trying to break up with me, because when he does he comes back.. but we have never gone soo long without talking to each other. I think this time, the break-up is more so about the ex. Because he always says we are not compatible. But yet he always fight for us.

Place of Birth Trinidad

Posted by Impulsv
Not sure can be fixed. Relationship started with op asking scorp
If ex would want back. He put up
With that but now that his nightmare came true , if scorp is in love, I'd remove myself out of the equation even more so with a washy grown to love u.

Lol. You're really stuck on that huh? I agree with you though. That would get multiple "what the f*cks?" from me too.

Tell me about this Scorpio man? Are they always looking for love, or re-assurance, because I ask him too and he gets defensive, but when he asks me I always tell him all the beautiful things to assure him he's all i want

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Posted by GeminLibra
When he met me I was trying to get over the hurt of my ex, and I would always ask him whether he thinks my ex will return...

Lol. That right there did it. One thing people don't realize (well most people) is Scorps store information. We are watching, listening, observing the hell out of you and tucking info away. I can retrieve something a potential love interest has told me on our first date 2 years later. You were hurt by your ex and kept hoping he'd come back. You even asked the man his thoughts on the matter. He has now told you he wants you back and couple that with "I've grown to love you" says dude, you're runner up.

Gems over share. Gets them into trouble all the time.

This is exactly right. Never...EVER...say anything to Scorpio that you don't want coming back around to you. My wife still hasn't learned that -_-

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Virgos are quick on their feet though 😄

Posted by Impulsv
Not sure can be fixed. Relationship started with op asking scorp
If ex would want back. He put up
With that but now that his nightmare came true , if scorp is in love, I'd remove myself out of the equation even more so with a washy grown to love u.

damn

When the scorpio man came in, I was definitely NOT looking for a relationship and he knew that. I was hurting and he wanted to be there for me. I opened up to him like any girl will do to a friend when she wants to talk. After a while I started to feel for him, and we spent some beautiful times, trying times, but we always loved each other and said it

I don't think i understand the Scorpio man, are we really not compatible?

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Posted by Impulsv
Not sure can be fixed. Relationship started with op asking scorp
If ex would want back. He put up
With that but now that his nightmare came true , if scorp is in love, I'd remove myself out of the equation even more so with a washy grown to love u.

Lol. You're really stuck on that huh? I agree with you though. That would get multiple "what the f*cks?" from me too.

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ditto

Are you sure you even want him back? He may never be the same man..

Okay, so that's that. You all read it all, you know where I stand. What happens now?

Aww girl you made a mistake but I don't think your heart was in the wrong place. It's just us scorpios don't like to feel like we are being fools with our emotions we would rather be alone than be someone's rebound. I think your best shot at getting him back is to apologize let him know how you truly feel about him AND block that ex from your life. Good luck hun

^ sorry didn't mean to put that emoticon lol

I think he has trust issues, but i do love him.. why would u think he will be different? we talk alot. I feel as though he doesn't care about me anymore..maybe he has moved on.

Posted by GeminLibra
I don't know exactly how i wanted him to respond to be honest. Maybe I wanted to prove him wrong, when he said my ex will never return, and show him he did. I don't know..

Hmph. I was on your side Gemmy. You're playing games.

Why the hell would you need to prove this to him if you have in fact moved on and didn't care about your ex? How did that little lesson in needing your self esteem stroked work out for you? Smh.

So based on everything you told me, here is his birth chart. You didn't tell me the town so I used Scarborough.
I'm not too great on virgo venus, but I know they love the routines of relationships and that they have a lot of trust issues burried in their analytical minds. Also, if you do not have what they are looking for, they will tell you to be a certain way. They can be people pleasers and often like to serve their woman, but expect the same in return.

Rising Sign is in 02 Degrees Aquarius

Sun is in 07 Degrees Scorpio.

Moon is in 15 Degrees Libra.

Mercury is in 09 Degrees Scorpio.

Venus is in 21 Degrees Virgo.

Mars is in 06 Degrees Capricorn.

Jupiter is in 01 Degrees Virgo.

Saturn is in 06 Degrees Aries.

Uranus is in 27 Degrees Virgo.

Neptune is in 23 Degrees Scorpio.

Pluto is in 22 Degrees Virgo.

N. Node is in 27 Degrees Aries.

I can't block my ex until i get my money.. but i have decided to contact a lawyer more so than to speak to him. the last thing i told him was that i loved him and he hasn't said a word to me, I just don't know my next move. I would love for him to give me the opportunity to explain and lets move on from this nightmare.. 😢 I didn't know I was "wrong" honestly. Maybe I am too honest and talk too much... 😢 I said I am wrong because he is really stinging me with being open and honest.

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Posted by GeminLibra
I don't know exactly how i wanted him to respond to be honest. Maybe I wanted to prove him wrong, when he said my ex will never return, and show him he did. I don't know..

Hmph. I was on your side Gemmy. You're playing games.

Why the hell would you need to prove this to him if you have in fact moved on and didn't care about your ex? How did that little lesson in needing your self esteem stroked work out for you? Smh.

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Awwww sh it I didn't read that part. Yeah op you created a mess why would you try to make him jealous with your ex...? Lawdddd

Thank you HEARTLOCKET

I DIDNOT make him jealous, it was NOT to make him jealous. Y'all are reading me wrong. I wanted him to show me i guess, but no way did i say I am inlove with my ex. I told him I loved him

I guess we are just too different, yes I would have been scared too if i knew someone wanted him.. 😢

Posted by GeminLibra
i understand 😭 and you are right, I wanted him to step up more 😭 but not loose him

Now the truth all comes out. If he does come back be upfront and honest:

"I'd like to know where we stand" don't manipulate it with "so my ex wants me back 😈"

Scorps smell manipulation a mile away and (depends the Scorp) you may never see them again.

Everyone is pointing out all i did wrong, I know what i did. Never did i admit I was right, I am just trying to understand everything.. typing it all up is painful, reading your comments is even more 😭 I am thinking you all have been on forums understanding the Scorpion man, tell me what you think is going on with him, or remind me all the wrong I have done. But tell me the way forward, I know no one knows what he's feeling or the truth whether he will ever return.. But i wish he would 😢 I have been crying days out, no fault of any of you, but i am just looking for answers from ppl who knows the Scorpio Man.. 😢

Maybe he's just enjoying seeing me hurt with all my status :/

Posted by GeminLibra
Thank you HEARTLOCKET

No problem. But it's very important you don't mention your ex or any other guys that come at you ever again. If some dude messages you, asking you out, DONT EVER SHOW HIM, be respectful and delete any of them, jealousy is definitely an evil thing for scorps... keep that in mind...

Posted by GeminLibra
When he said good night, after our last chat. I told him please stop testing me, I love you (because he previously said i had past all his tests) I told him stop trying to break up with me, because when he does he comes back.. but we have never gone soo long without talking to each other. I think this time, the break-up is more so about the ex. Because he always says we are not compatible. But yet he always fight for us.

You're both playing games.

right now i feel as though i won't see him again. This is the first time ever we haven't spoken in dayss and the most we haven't was 1 day, and i usually don't push him, but when he returns he just says I have been busy, how are you?