Scorpio man used me?

Not about the 3 days it about how someone who goes from pursuing so much till after that day disappearing with no contac for 3 days. As I hear they usually obsessive if they like someone this seem the opposite. Also hear many stories of their tests and games. Something is telling me in my gut he got what he wanted the first date could be me being paranoid. I am confused the sudden change from texting everyday to no contact all.

"Should I just except he got what he wanted and move on?"

Answer: Yep...

This isn't really sign specific is it, but it is playa specific.
No one is that busy they cannot send a quick reply....

Posted by Rabbit
In all seriousness though...

Life happens. He might be busy. Give it a little time.

Also, Scorpios are just as vulnerable to those "live life in the moment" type of things as everyone else. It honestly could have just been two people caught up in a moment and nothing else more.

Don't project your expectations on the relationship on him

I not projecting anything just seems odd the sudden change like I said I give him till Thursday. I seen men when they like someone they don't just disappear like a ghost for days. I beginning to think your right about the live for the moment thing. I know it not serious or anything only been one date but we seemed to get along so well.

Pretty common for scorpios to withdraw...I wouldnt assume anything, maybe he's just confused about his feelings for u and is taking time to think and reflect...tell him how u feel without sounding too desperate and if hes into u, he'll reciprocate...just dont try to rush anything as he'll know hes got u wrapped around his pinkie and thats when the mind games begin...

Mind game. Scorpios are notorious for playing them. Mirror him.

Sorry to say this but he got what he wanted pretty easily and now he's off to his next conquest/challenge. Theres an old cliche saying "men need a challenge". It's corny but true, THEY DO. When you give it up on the first date you haven't "challenged" him enough. Most females have made this mistake and we all live and learn. Your mistakes will empower you and hopefully teach you a lesson. In time you will learn to control your urges and make him wait. He will respect you and hold you in high regard if you make it hard for him....

Rabbit may have a point

Even with his doughnut showing, Muahahahaha

Let's attempt to bring clarity into emotions.
Firstly, you don't really know this guy very well.
2ndly, you had sex on 1st date.
3rd he is 30 and still a bachelor and they usually are at that age.
Age is not a guarantee that a guy is mature and not playing the field.
4th, you established no ground rules or goals. i.e. Dating without sex until you know him better or no sex with guy unless a commitment is established. Or just having sex, no commitment.
5th, lacking self-control. You admitted not wanting to have sex but did it anyway.

Knowing all this you are in a wait and see mode. Which means calm yourself and cool your heart valves.
He is not your man, all that stuff you did was apart of a date. Nothing more.
And we all know how things go after a date, whether sex is involved or not; wait to see if he is interested enough to call for another date.
You actually have a week or two for him to show further interest, depending on your patience.
In the meantime, I recommend you continue dating other guys instead of getting hung up on one.

If he doesn't call you, the beauty of it all is the ability to do it all over again with another guy.

What do you want exactly from this guy and what are your relationship goals?
I.e long-term relationship, short-term, FWB or one night stands?

Just incase I was wrong (which I doubt) like I said a week is long enough. Well if he has moved on if I tell him how I feel that would make me look silly. Yeah next time I going to not give in so quick. I usually don't but I did this time so I guess can't be changed. He seemed nice could of been a act who knows. One thing I will say after Thursday I will be moving on just incase he is still 'Busy'.

Uhh. I don't even..

All I can say, from my own experience and observations, is that guys usually aren't the ones acting differently after sex - women are. Which may or may not trigger a reaction from the guy. Which the woman will then interprete as "withdrawing" or "head games" or him "being an asshole"... All the while failing to realize the possibility that maybe *they* started ACTING clingy or presumptuous, so the guy started REACTING aloofly.

That being said, follow rabbits advice. Give it time and concentrate on other things.

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Rabbit may have a point

Even with his doughnut showing, Muahahahaha

Stop eyeing my donut...

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Sorry I was blinded by your frosting, won't happen again

Posted by Confused214
............ Something is telling me in my gut he got what he wanted the first date could be me being paranoid. I am confused the sudden change from texting everyday to no contact all.

Girl, take back your power. He didn't take anything from you that you didn't give.
It's your body, your mind and you CHOSE to have sex with a man you are attracted to on the first date.
Full Stop.

You focused on sex, so sex came on the fist date.
If you wanted a meaningful relationship that lead to marriage or long-term commitment; that should have been your focus. Meaning, sex comes later.
But that still does not mean guys won't go MIA after the first date, without sex.

Dating can be a crap shoot sometimes.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Personally, I think most scorp men are closet prudes. The ones they can get in the sack the first night with their c, d or e game--not even their best effort--kind of don't stand a chance. They want their women PURE or at least pretty hard to get in the sack. IMHO

And why should he?

Some men want a challenge and would like to earn your trust and affection.

And some men are very lazy, if they have to work for it, they move on too.
These are the guys who tell you to call AAA when your car breaks down and you are in need of a lift to work. 😛

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Posted by Confused214
............ Something is telling me in my gut he got what he wanted the first date could be me being paranoid. I am confused the sudden change from texting everyday to no contact all.

Girl, take back your power. He didn't take anything from you that you didn't give.
It's your body, your mind and you CHOSE to have sex with a man you are attracted to on the first date.
Full Stop.

You focused on sex, so sex came on the fist date.
If you wanted a meaningful relationship that lead to marriage or long-term commitment; that should have been your focus. Meaning, sex comes later.
But that still does not mean guys won't go MIA after the first date, without sex.

Dating can be a crap shoot sometimes.

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Ok your points are valid and dating does suck sometimes. Maybe he is a player maybe he lost respect who's knows seemed so nice though. Guess next time I will hold off like I usually do just was very attracted to him.

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you even started out your OP with an expectation.....

"I met this Scorpio man who was surprisingly very funny and laid back for a Scorpio."

Scorpios are naturally funny and very laid back. At least all the ones I know are??_ No surprises about it.

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Well I used to know two that was moodier then me sometimes Cancer! So I think it not a natural thing for all of them.

Posted by Confused214
Ok your points are valid and dating does suck sometimes. Maybe he is a player maybe he lost respect who's knows seemed so nice though. Guess next time I will hold off like I usually do just was very attracted to him.

I'm curious-- did he make any promises that he has failed to keep?

To my understanding, "players" lead women on, and that doesn't sound like what happened.

Maybe he thought you were both just doing what you both wanted-- no harm, no foul.

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Posted by Confused214
Ok your points are valid and dating does suck sometimes. Maybe he is a player maybe he lost respect who's knows seemed so nice though. Guess next time I will hold off like I usually do just was very attracted to him.

I'm curious-- did he make any promises that he has failed to keep?

To my understanding, "players" lead women on, and that doesn't sound like what happened.

Maybe he thought you were both just doing what you both wanted-- no harm, no foul.

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I agree with this, it sounds like both just went with it.

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Posted by Confused214
............ Something is telling me in my gut he got what he wanted the first date could be me being paranoid. I am confused the sudden change from texting everyday to no contact all.

Girl, take back your power. He didn't take anything from you that you didn't give.
It's your body, your mind and you CHOSE to have sex with a man you are attracted to on the first date.
Full Stop.

You focused on sex, so sex came on the fist date.
If you wanted a meaningful relationship that lead to marriage or long-term commitment; that should have been your focus. Meaning, sex comes later.
But that still does not mean guys won't go MIA after the first date, without sex.

Dating can be a crap shoot sometimes.

Ok your points are valid and dating does suck sometimes. Maybe he is a player maybe he lost respect who's knows seemed so nice though. Guess next time I will hold off like I usually do just was very attracted to him.

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I understand your attraction, I have been in this situation.
But it was me who went MIA on the Scorpio.

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Ok so he spent the whole afternoon with me talking about things and we seemed to get along. As it got late he invites me to watch a film and make me dinner at his place. He makes me a nice dinner we watch the film. After (drink influenced) even though I never initially aimed to sleep with him on the first date but things got a bit passionate. It was strange like every time we kissed we connected emotionally I did feel his passion, won't go into full details but it was good anyway. Did not stay the night I left as I had work next day. He told me to text him when I get home............................

Just for future reference, here is the turning point.
You spent the entire afternoon, that's a good first date.
Should have cut it off there, and politely declined the dinner offer at night at his home.
He pretty much hit all 3 bases in one whole day.
This is way too much time to spend for a first date.
It's good to leave a little something for you to go back too.
But more importantly, you want to know more about the guy before you emotionally invest yourself.
Let yourself be courted as you get to know him.

One thing you should understand, you are not a bad person; you like this guy.
There is nothing wrong with that.

Yeah I have seen that happen with a friend of mine. She met a scorp through friends & they had sex right away. The guy only sent her texts to like, complain about not having time to himself, having the flu, or being plain too busy to see her. So much for great sex.

This is a guy vs girl thing.
I don't see it as sign specific.

Posted by Sublimitas
Yeah I have seen that happen with a friend of mine. She met a scorp through friends & they had sex right away. The guy only sent her texts to like, complain about not having time to himself, having the flu, or being plain too busy to see her. So much for great sex.

Typical selfish male Scorpio behaviour. They do this craziness with women they like too.

I understand your attraction, I have been in this situation.
But it was me who went MIA on the Scorpio.

It them eyes seriously he was staring me out but it was not even creepy. Even though this one went MIA I want to find another one as we are supposed to be very compatible!

Posted by Sublimitas
Yeah I have seen that happen with a friend of mine. She met a scorp through friends & they had sex right away. The guy only sent her texts to like, complain about not having time to himself, having the flu, or being plain too busy to see her. So much for great sex.

Typical selfish male Scorpio behaviour. They do this craziness with women they like too.

Posted by Confused214
I understand your attraction, I have been in this situation.
But it was me who went MIA on the Scorpio.

It them eyes seriously he was staring me out but it was not even creepy. Even though this one went MIA I want to find another one as we are supposed to be very compatible!

You are also compatible with Taurus, Cancer, Pisces Virgo and Leo.
Don't let them pass you by...........

LOL. Scorpio men are fucking cray cray.

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Posted by Confused214
I understand your attraction, I have been in this situation.
But it was me who went MIA on the Scorpio.

It them eyes seriously he was staring me out but it was not even creepy. Even though this one went MIA I want to find another one as we are supposed to be very compatible!

You are also compatible with Taurus, Cancer, Pisces Virgo and Leo.
Don't let them pass you by...........

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Don't tell me about Leos and their egos I know that's for another topic. Have dated one was so selfish I will never touch Leos again attention had to be only on him. I have dated a Pisces he was fine we got along for a couple of years. Guess I get along with Pisces best so far.

I know of a Scorp guy who slept with a Pisces chick and now they been together for 5 years. What worked? She left his room abruptly, half naked, and cursed him in the street, waking up the whole neighborhood, for no reason...

The Scorp fell in love with her badass attitude right away.

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I know of a Scorp guy who slept with a Pisces chick and now they been together for 5 years. What worked? She left his room abruptly, half naked, and cursed him in the street, waking up the whole neighborhood, for no reason...

The Scorp fell in love with her badass attitude right away.

Damn what did he do? Golden shower without her consent?

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Personally, I think most scorp men are closet prudes. The ones they can get in the sack the first night with their c, d or e game--not even their best effort--kind of don't stand a chance. They want their women PURE or at least pretty hard to get in the sack. IMHO

Please explain...I'm having trouble understanding what you're saying.

Really...I'm confused 😕



Are you saying we're lazy with women we don't deem fit?

I think that's what she is saying. The keepers are the women we have to use our A game on. All the rest are toss aways.

Okay that's what I was leaning towards.

I have no game, though...explain that.

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You don't need game, you just need to show respect and instead of McDonalds a classy restaurant.

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Posted by Sublimitas
I know of a Scorp guy who slept with a Pisces chick and now they been together for 5 years. What worked? She left his room abruptly, half naked, and cursed him in the street, waking up the whole neighborhood, for no reason...

The Scorp fell in love with her badass attitude right away.

Damn what did he do? Golden shower without her consent?

*snickers*

It was in the shower. And I had shampoo in my eyes. I didn't know she had gotten in!

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Pfft, like you didn't hear her fins flopping against the shower walls as she entered.

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Posted by Sublimitas
I know of a Scorp guy who slept with a Pisces chick and now they been together for 5 years. What worked? She left his room abruptly, half naked, and cursed him in the street, waking up the whole neighborhood, for no reason...

The Scorp fell in love with her badass attitude right away.

Damn what did he do? Golden shower without her consent?

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She never told me about what happened, but I'll ask her tomorrow, right after she's had her coffee...

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Posted by Sublimitas
I know of a Scorp guy who slept with a Pisces chick and now they been together for 5 years. What worked? She left his room abruptly, half naked, and cursed him in the street, waking up the whole neighborhood, for no reason...

The Scorp fell in love with her badass attitude right away.

Damn what did he do? Golden shower without her consent?

She never told me about what happened, but I'll ask her tomorrow, right after she's had her coffee...

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Ok I am Cancer I met this Scorpio man who was surprisingly very funny and laid back for a Scorpio.
At first he pursued me very fast was at least texting/calling every day or night. He did flirt a bit I flirted too but not to the same extent as him. So now we meet last Thursday for a few drinks he was very probing asking a lot of question about my family, job ect seemed interested and listened to me. He even told me about a problem he had with a friend and even asked for advice (thought this was strange for a Scorpio) are they not very private?

Ok so he spent the whole afternoon with me talking about things and we seemed to get along. As it got late he invites me to watch a film and make me dinner at his place. He makes me a nice dinner we watch the film. After (drink influenced) even though I never initially aimed to sleep with him on the first date but things got a bit passionate. It was strange like every time we kissed we connected emotionally I did feel his passion, won't go into full details but it was good anyway. Did not stay the night I left as I had work next day. He told me to text him when I get home.

Now here the part that I am confused about I texted him saying thanks for the nice day I am home now he texts back the following morning you too, glad your home safe with kisses. We had a very brief chat about random stuff then all of sudden he ignores me. I did not hound him or anything (trust me I resisted) just did not text him after he ignored my last so I don't seem clingy or needy. Now he is M.I.A for 3 days no contact big difference from when he was pursuing me. Does he want me to contact him, as he had done most of the contacting when he was chasing me? Should I just except he got what he wanted and move on? Or is this the start of the mind games? do I contact or will he come to me if I carry on just doing my thing?

Any Scorpios can help? Is this normal behavior for a Scorpio Male? I have also heard they can be players but he is a older Scorpio 30.

I am thinking I should move on (even though I liked him) I am giving him till this Thursday as I feel one week is long enough. Me being a Sensitive Cancer wants to know where I stand but I hear Scorpios will never tell you if you try make them tell you. Especially if they playing mind games.

smh....REASON #1,553,449 why you don't fuck a man you don't know and ask questi

smh....REASON #1,553,449 why you don't fuck a man you don't know and ask questions later.

He's not playing mind games & he's clearly a typical horny male...he wanted to get laid, and you gave yourself up on a silver platter for a cheap afternoon/evening and didn't charge him money for it. Blame yourself and find some self respect.

And here comes the home from work crowd...........

Ouch! Holy shit have some compassion for the girl every one makes mistakes is part of being human😢

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Personally, I think most scorp men are closet prudes. The ones they can get in the sack the first night with their c, d or e game--not even their best effort--kind of don't stand a chance. They want their women PURE or at least pretty hard to get in the sack. IMHO

Please explain...I'm having trouble understanding what you're saying.

Really...I'm confused 😕



Are you saying we're lazy with women we don't deem fit?

I think that's what she is saying. The keepers are the women we have to use our A game on. All the rest are toss aways.

Okay that's what I was leaning towards.

I have no game, though...explain that.

You don't need game, you just need to show respect and instead of McDonalds a classy restaurant.

You make it sound so easy 😄

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It is easy. Let me show you.
In these simple words here is what you repeat 10x in mirror thrice a day:
I will not be a lazy, disrespectful, sloppy donut eating cheap bastard.
See, easy peazy rich and cheezy. 😄
Woooosaaaaa

Lol LM I do get a lot of laughter out of the scorpio forum

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Lol LM I do get a lot of laughter out of the scorpio forum

Meh it's alright......

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Ouch! Holy shit have some compassion for the girl every one makes mistakes is part of being human😢

WAs the SEx good atleast? Use him for sex! Stop blowing up his phone and just make him into a fuk buddy. The whole relationship thing is a dud. He will never trust you.

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I don't think that's a good idea she should just let it go and move on playing with fire will only get her burnt, well in this case ice will freeze her lol idk but not a good idea

HOME FROM WORK CROW😱 The day time fantasy is over...enter REALITY & TRUTH. 😉

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HOME FROM WORK CROW😱 The day time fantasy is over...enter REALITY & TRUTH. 😉

Ohhhh shit! Fuck wait let me get the popcorn lol...don't be too harsh take it easy on the poor girl

*wipe tears* This thread though....I'm dyin'........

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Personally, I think most scorp men are closet prudes. The ones they can get in the sack the first night with their c, d or e game--not even their best effort--kind of don't stand a chance. They want their women PURE or at least pretty hard to get in the sack. IMHO

Please explain...I'm having trouble understanding what you're saying.

Really...I'm confused 😕



Are you saying we're lazy with women we don't deem fit?

I think that's what she is saying. The keepers are the women we have to use our A game on. All the rest are toss aways.

Okay that's what I was leaning towards.

I have no game, though...explain that.

You don't need game, you just need to show respect and instead of McDonalds a classy restaurant.

You make it sound so easy 😄

It is easy. Let me show you.
In these simple words here is what you repeat 10x in mirror thrice a day:
I will not be a lazy, disrespectful, sloppy donut eating cheap bastard.
See, easy peazy rich and cheezy. 😄
Woooosaaaaa

The donut thing ain't happening.

I needs my donuts

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You could try donut holes.

lol..*CROWD

I like Crow better. :::Giggle-snort::

Take it from a fellow cancer you should of been mysterious and not gave in to him too soon. Should not of been hard for a cancer to do haha. I got my Scorpio girl because I left mystery as well as she made me earn the prize scorps are so damn good at what they do. Yes the girls love mystery the guys are no diffrent my friend who is a male scorp too told me this. You fell for his charms too soon (that could of been his test) to see if your easy or not. You have failed if it was and now what does he need from you? Sorry to be harsh to a fellow cancer but that's the facts move on. By the way my Scorpio girl used to test me but that was later in the relationship she never gave me her body first date. See if she did I would of gone mia too it not because he a Scorpio that happened anyway. First date come on you did everything in one afternoon/evening! Your doing that clingy thing we do and never letting go please relax and let him go now do wait on one guy after first date. I learned to control my clingy tendencies and my Scorpio ends up being clingy but I like it makes me feel secure she wants me. Please if he comes back it be a booty call only IMO. Just learn he not in the wrong nor are you some would say your lucky to have had him let you go haha. Trust me my girl can even annoy me clingy cancer yes she does go mia but i learned to respect her space. But your guy probably found another challege sorry. You just expected more and should of held back if that's the case. Don't worry plenty more out there if your ready for the ride when they do love you!

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Posted by Sublimitas
I know of a Scorp guy who slept with a Pisces chick and now they been together for 5 years. What worked? She left his room abruptly, half naked, and cursed him in the street, waking up the whole neighborhood, for no reason...

The Scorp fell in love with her badass attitude right away.

I don't approve of that behavior.

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Most Scorps respect strength, are you attracted to weaklings?