Scorpio men & females I need you!!!!!

Posted by tooba
I thought you posted something similar before... It seems he's hurt that you broke up with him (and it may seem suddenly or randomly done if you never told him you found those texts hinting he was distancing himself from you and becoming closer to others), and he's confused about getting back together because it's a I-don't-want-this-to-happen-again thing... since you're the one who broke up with him, he doesn't want to hurt his ego and wants you to initiate getting back together and work really hard for him. Seems like a matter of sizing up words with actions and seeing where your loyalty is. Childish on his part but I guess financial pressure will do that to you. His finances were already a hit, and I guess you breaking up with him was the cherry on top for him.


180's are done when people are confused and don't know how to cope, and they reach out to you in this state of confusion, whether or not they're aware of it.


Or at least that's what it looks like to me.

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Posted by tooba
I thought you posted something similar before... It seems he's hurt that you broke up with him (and it may seem suddenly or randomly done if you never told him you found those texts hinting he was distancing himself from you and becoming closer to others), and he's confused about getting back together because it's a I-don't-want-this-to-happen-again thing... since you're the one who broke up with him, he doesn't want to hurt his ego and wants you to initiate getting back together and work really hard for him. Seems like a matter of sizing up words with actions and seeing where your loyalty is. Childish on his part but I guess financial pressure will do that to you. His finances were already a hit, and I guess you breaking up with him was the cherry on top for him.


180's are done when people are confused and don't know how to cope, and they reach out to you in this state of confusion, whether or not they're aware of it.


Or at least that's what it looks like to me.

So are you saying its most likely he doesn't want to get back with me? I did so much for this guy that i don't regret because i did it because i loved him but right now I dont want to be a fool either because i wasn't the one with the contradicting actions. Through everything i was there and the one moment i stand up for myself and actually commit to a consequence I should be kissing "HIS" ass to make things work again!?? and he is testing my loyalty?? pretty fucking backwards

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Posted by tooba
I thought you posted something similar before... It seems he's hurt that you broke up with him (and it may seem suddenly or randomly done if you never told him you found those texts hinting he was distancing himself from you and becoming closer to others), and he's confused about getting back together because it's a I-don't-want-this-to-happen-again thing... since you're the one who broke up with him, he doesn't want to hurt his ego and wants you to initiate getting back together and work really hard for him. Seems like a matter of sizing up words with actions and seeing where your loyalty is. Childish on his part but I guess financial pressure will do that to you. His finances were already a hit, and I guess you breaking up with him was the cherry on top for him.


180's are done when people are confused and don't know how to cope, and they reach out to you in this state of confusion, whether or not they're aware of it.


Or at least that's what it looks like to me.

So are you saying its most likely he doesn't want to get back with me? I did so much for this guy that i don't regret because i did it because i loved him but right now I dont want to be a fool either because i wasn't the one with the contradicting actions. Through everything i was there and the one moment i stand up for myself and actually commit to a consequence I should be kissing "HIS" ass to make things work again!?? and he is testing my loyalty?? pretty fucking backwards

Love doesn't just die, it dies slowly. Very slowly for us scorpios. And because he clearly loved you, I can't imagine that he's over you after a breakup. So, no, I am not saying that he doesn't want to get back with you. Where did you read that? I am saying, he loves you but is confused. Scorpios need someone who pull through thick and thin. I am saying that he probably felt even worse after your guys' breakup since it occurred after his financial pitfall, which perhaps made him associate you leaving with him with his financial issues (i.e., running when things got hard).


Yeah, scorpios are pretty fucking backwards. Mine left me to go back to a gemini who had a boyfriend when all I needed was more time to really become comfortable with him. He cheated, and yet expected the utmost honesty and openness from me. From where I stand, you have the upperhand because yours still loves you.


No, you don't and shouldn't kiss his ass. Looking back on my own experience now, I would have never called mine again after the first breakup, but sadly I only realized after he deleted his email account how desperate and pathetic I looked - chasing after a boy who cheated on me through and through - when I should have tested his grounds and his loyalty. I am saying, be encouraging and open with him and welcoming to take him back (if that's what you truly want), but he needs to work for you. Not the other way around.

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Posted by tooba
I thought you posted something similar before... It seems he's hurt that you broke up with him (and it may seem suddenly or randomly done if you never told him you found those texts hinting he was distancing himself from you and becoming closer to others), and he's confused about getting back together because it's a I-don't-want-this-to-happen-again thing... since you're the one who broke up with him, he doesn't want to hurt his ego and wants you to initiate getting back together and work really hard for him. Seems like a matter of sizing up words with actions and seeing where your loyalty is. Childish on his part but I guess financial pressure will do that to you. His finances were already a hit, and I guess you breaking up with him was the cherry on top for him.


180's are done when people are confused and don't know how to cope, and they reach out to you in this state of confusion, whether or not they're aware of it.


Or at least that's what it looks like to me.

So are you saying its most likely he doesn't want to get back with me? I did so much for this guy that i don't regret because i did it because i loved him but right now I dont want to be a fool either because i wasn't the one with the contradicting actions. Through everything i was there and the one moment i stand up for myself and actually commit to a consequence I should be kissing "HIS" ass to make things work again!?? and he is testing my loyalty?? pretty fucking backwards

Love doesn't just die, it dies slowly. Very slowly for us scorpios. And because he clearly loved you, I can't imagine that he's over you after a breakup. So, no, I am not saying that he doesn't want to get back with you. Where did you read that? I am saying, he loves you but is confused. Scorpios need someone who pull through thick and thin. I am saying that he probably felt even worse after your guys' breakup since it occurred after his financial pitfall, which perhaps made him associate you leaving with him with his financial issues (i.e., running when things got hard).


Yeah, scorpios are pretty fucking backwards. Mine left me to go back to a gemini who had a boyfriend when all I needed was more time to really become comfortable with him. He cheated, and yet expected the utmost honesty and openness from me. From where I stand, you have the upperhand because yours still loves you.


No, you don't and shouldn't kiss his ass. Looking back on my own experience now, I would have never called mine again after the first breakup, but sadly I only realized after he deleted his email account how desperate and pathetic I looked - chasing after a boy who cheated on me through and through - when I should have tested his grounds and his loyalty. I am saying, be encouraging and open with him and welcoming to take him back (if that's what you truly want), but he needs to work for you. Not the other way around.

Yes I understand that. I did pull through thick or thin. The financial struggles weren't new. He was going through this for going on a good 3 years and i never thought to leave him. Although it did get under my skin that majority of the time everything always fell on me but like i said i love him and was willing to go through it with him until he got back on his feet and i believed in him that he would.

Im sorry you went through what you went through. Im happy you are sharing your experience because it does help me. I agree i honestly haven't spokent to him in a week and although i do want to call im fighting it because ive always allowed my emotions to carry me and i need him to step up. Initiating contact was a big step for him and im happy he did but after i expressed being open to working on us he disappears and i feel that that was so foul on so many levels.. it confused me like did this scare him off?

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Posted by Gemitati
@treatherbetter89

You said financial issues happened year 5-7. So I am assuming for about 2 years you 2 coped with it?


However everyone saying he felt being left on the top of financial struggle - it didn't stopped him from being a 'ladies man'!

Everyone overlooked that point...

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Posted by treatherbetter89
Okay i am going to sum this up as simple as possible.. I was with a Scorpio guy for 7 years.. year 1 through 5 good.. End of year 5 through 7 were rough.. financial issues on his end caused issues between us to the point where he became distant emotionally and physically! After struggling with the fact that we were no longer intimate made me wonder where he was mentally because it obviously wasn't with me. I ended up looking through his phone, never done before and found innocent but very flirty text messages with female co workers.. innocent but unprofessional.( keep in mind over the years he was quite serious about me not entertaining mail friends at all which I didn't agree with but ended up doing to make him comfortable.) so the text messages were icing on the cake.. well I broke up with him.. no contact from him for 4 months but then out the blue he calls me..initiated contact twice in a 2 day span,conversation lasting 4+ hours a piece and full of us expressing our feelings and love for one another.


Anyways I take this as us working towards relinking but when I initiate the 3rd call and tell him he still has my heart and let's work towards something slowly verses jumping back in to a relationship fast because we both haven't healed from the hurt of it all,he plays it off as if he doesn't know if he wants to even be in a relationship again and switches it on me as this was your choice to break up and I didn't want too..and then I haven't heard from him in a week so far... is he playing mind games with me? And why!? It's a totally 180 from how he originally expressed his self, now it's as if I gave him his juice back and he's chilling! This has really hurt my feelings.. I'm a aqua btw


Btw I was always loyal to him.. I was so overwhelmed by the distance,no intimacy and lack of support as I was stressed from the FInacial responsibility and not having emotional support of love he use to shower me with.. I felt so alone guys and it was like he wasn't respecting my feelings?.. I'd never do anything to be spiteful.. I just needed space to love myself again.

So what was the real reason you actually broke it off with him?


Financial reasons and intimate disconnect? Or the texts?

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Posted by tooba
I thought you posted something similar before... It seems he's hurt that you broke up with him (and it may seem suddenly or randomly done if you never told him you found those texts hinting he was distancing himself from you and becoming closer to others), and he's confused about getting back together because it's a I-don't-want-this-to-happen-again thing... since you're the one who broke up with him, he doesn't want to hurt his ego and wants you to initiate getting back together and work really hard for him. Seems like a matter of sizing up words with actions and seeing where your loyalty is. Childish on his part but I guess financial pressure will do that to you. His finances were already a hit, and I guess you breaking up with him was the cherry on top for him.


180's are done when people are confused and don't know how to cope, and they reach out to you in this state of confusion, whether or not they're aware of it.


Or at least that's what it looks like to me.

So are you saying its most likely he doesn't want to get back with me? I did so much for this guy that i don't regret because i did it because i loved him but right now I dont want to be a fool either because i wasn't the one with the contradicting actions. Through everything i was there and the one moment i stand up for myself and actually commit to a consequence I should be kissing "HIS" ass to make things work again!?? and he is testing my loyalty?? pretty fucking backwards

BTW, he knew why i broke up with him regarding those text messages and when he finally listened he was away we had deeper issues revolving around the miscommunication and emotional/pysical disconnect. As a women you need this from your part and when they step away from that selfishly it leaves the partner all alone

The disconnect was due to him feeling not worthy. He was in a shitty place, and he did shitty things... it's the human condition, unfortunately. We all have that kind of habit, except we do it differently. Some people cheat, some people become aggressive, some people drink to death and some fall into drugs...it's a means of coping. It does not mean he didn't or doesn't love you. At least, if I introspect, this is what it seems like to me. He's a mess.


After the break up though, he did call you, did he not? And you guys talked about getting back together, but he's hesitant... it's a pride thing. He's already in a shitty place, he's trying to hold onto whatever dignity he has left.


If I were you, I'd just remain patient and see what he does. If he consistently calls, not for hookups and anything physically affectionate, not even as an emotional crutch, but because he wants to see you, then it would be a green light to actually initiate getting back together... He probably doesn't want to take it slow because, as scorpios, we just want to be with the person we love again and not feel like anything damaging happened to begin with. In that sense, perhaps it's a kind of mind game, because he's reluctant to ask you to get back with him because he knows you'll want to go slow, but at the same time he wants everything to just be alright again and not feel like any breakup or hurt happened... But that's his issue to fix and work through, i.e., you guys broke up even if it's not what he wanted and because you were loyal then he should work through it to get back with you...


I hope this helps.

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Posted by bmoon8
Stick to your guns - you broke up with him. Stay broken up and block him from contacting you.

Posted by treatherbetter89
.. I just needed space to love myself again.

Posted by PhoenixRising
I'm curious as to whether or not he know you violated his privacy...

Posted by treatherbetter89
.. I just needed space to love myself again.

Anyway, may I ask why you didn't just say this^^, talk it out instead of breaking up with him?


You're both jerking each other around.

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Posted by PhoenixRising
I'm curious as to whether or not he know you violated his privacy...

Posted by treatherbetter89
.. I just needed space to love myself again.

Anyway, may I ask why you didn't just say this^^, talk it out instead of breaking up with him?


You're both jerking each other around.

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Posted by exo
you broke up with him and you're wondering why he's playing it cool (safe)?

Posted by treatherbetter89

Posted by PhoenixRising
I'm curious as to whether or not he know you violated his privacy...

Posted by treatherbetter89
.. I just needed space to love myself again.

Anyway, may I ask why you didn't just say this^^, talk it out instead of breaking up with him?


You're both jerking each other around.

Because many times prior to this all happening I would ask for space.. he never respected the idea because he wanted us to work things out and stay together. He never fully would try to under he always held so much control and it is always his way.. it became suffocating so I guess I just blew up.. I do wish I could've just stepped away and locked myself in a room before I made that decision but I needed him to finally take my demands of respect seriously and no matter how often I ask him to respect me or there will be consequences, me not standing firm allowed him to walk all over me

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