Scorpio men out there, help me out here please..

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by ScorpioRising81 on Tuesday, November 16, 2010 and has 22 replies.
oh my goodness....that scorp is up to something

haha yeah good advice...if he stares at you, stare right back.
pins and needles
Posted by TG
Eww at this entire thread. You shold not be interested in what is up with your brother in law, you are a discusting little thing.


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Hi everyone, thanks for your opinions.
I would like to make my stance a little more clearer, since there seems to be a confusion as to why
I would even bring this up. Basically, I wanted to write about this to get things off my chest. It's
something that has been bothering me for sometime because I can't place this scorpio brother in law. Do not get me wrong, I love my guy. We are very close and discuss everything with eachother, and he's the one that brought up the fact that he feels that his brother may have a secret crush on me. I think it's disgusting, and would NEVER play my guy for any other guy. Especially not his own brother. However, we both wanted to see what the opinions of other scorpios out there would be on this matter.
The reason why this has even become an issues is because it's uncomfortable for us to even be around his brother when we all have to meet for family functions. My boyfriend doesn't want to start a family rift , so we haven't adressed the matter with his brother. He causes problems sometimes ( the brother) by either being cold and excluding us and at other times really nice and inviting.
1. I do NOT have a crush on the brother in law.
2. I want to know if any other male scorpios out there understand what this brother in law is up to.
3. How should we go about this matter to make things more comfortable for everyone in the family?
Hope this is a bit clearer. I'm not a disgusting little thing.
Sorry for some of the spelling errors, just saw them smile
Hi, your guy, what's his sign if you're inclined to reveal?

2. I want to know if any other male scorpios out there understand what this brother in law is up to.
I'm not a male Scorpio but he probably likes you. And wants your attention. He has not been able to control the outward manifestations of his sexual feelings (sorry for getting so explicit, but I'm candid)

3. How should we go about this matter to make things more comfortable for everyone in the family?
Ignore him. If he is well adjusted, he will take the hint.
My guy is an aquarius smile
Thanks for your advice Big Grin
I have some good news and some bad news.
First: The Good News!
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The Scorpio brother is ... confused with his attraction/allure to you.
Please don't interpret "attraction" as anything more than
"an force compelling to individuals together" because
a baby is attracted to its mother ... but it's not "sexual".
The baby just wants to be near the mother, two of a kind,
safe there, can learn a lot, etc.
He does not know how to, without risking REJECTION or MISINTERPRETATION/FEAR on your part
or the part of his brother,
... he does not know how to EXPRESS his admiration - INFATUATION with
YOUR BALANCE ( which he envies and wishes he could have - and wants to LEARN by observing you.
See ... he lives in EXTREMES ... and wishes he could find balance ... and sees you doing it. )
YOUR SCORPIOSITY ( he senses your Scorpio traits - feels kinderence with you/them - somewhere
between a twin sister and soul-mate lover ...and THAT is f'n confusing to him
because he does not understand these feelings - they are NEW to him
so the confusing part is that it manifests to him as a SEXUAL interest
...and he is familiar with "that" feeling.
...but this one he knows is off-limits.
So ... this is even worse for him ... and you ... and his brother ... because he doesn't know it.)
So ... he is playing a game because he doesn't know how to deal with it.
Just talk to him.
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This will help you make a friend of him:
Tell him your frustration with always trying to be balanced
( such as you are doing NOW with this thread lol )
and how you wish you could be ok with extremes like he is
- how you feel totally uneasy when you can't see both sides of
a situation - such like how he is sometimes nice to you
but then gives you a cold shoulder - since you don't know why
it drives you batty.
Tell him also that he has certain mannerisms that remind you of you.
( PICK some and know what they are for when he asks "Like what?"
or he will suspect your motives and be very angered. )
Best also print out what I wrote, from START to END
so if you blow it, you can at least show him
- what's going on - for real
- that you put out great effort to be friends with him
PS. Shut -up. You are "attracted" to him too - in the very same way.
The problem is, when we say "attraction" - everyone assumes that means
you must want to jump into bed with him. It doesn't.
Let me know when you are ready for ...The "Bad" News.
Thank you scorpiopics for that wonderful, indept message. I truly appreciate it and I'm glad you can give me
your insight smile
Ok...I'm ready for the bad news. Give it to me! =)
When thinking about it more, we share a lot of the same interests. Music, sense of humor, books, the paranormal,astrology.
I've told him before that I see him as my little brother and really like that we can be open with one another, when he's
being nice. But then the mood swings happen and it's always me that gets shut out. hmmmm...
Posted by ScorpioRising81
Thank you scorpiopics for that wonderful, indept message. I truly appreciate it and I'm glad you can give me
your insight smile
Ok...I'm ready for the bad news. Give it to me! =)



I wanna f**k my Aquarius brother's Libra girlfriend REAL BAD.
I think I'm the guy you're talking about. Wanna come over?
Haha - just kidding! ( haha - OMG I'm funny! )
( There really is no bad news - just a set-up for that joke. lol )
Posted by scorpiopics
Posted by ScorpioRising81
Thank you scorpiopics for that wonderful, indept message. I truly appreciate it and I'm glad you can give me
your insight smile
Ok...I'm ready for the bad news. Give it to me! =)



I wanna f**k my Aquarius brother's Libra girlfriend REAL BAD.
I think I'm the guy you're talking about.
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You should have just left it at that for at least an hour!
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Posted by scorpiopics
Posted by ScorpioRising81
Thank you scorpiopics for that wonderful, indept message. I truly appreciate it and I'm glad you can give me
your insight smile
Ok...I'm ready for the bad news. Give it to me! =)



I wanna f**k my Aquarius brother's Libra girlfriend REAL BAD.
I think I'm the guy you're talking about.


You should have just left it at that for at least an hour!
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I like this person and I was in a good mood today. lol
I was actually too wondering if your scorp brother-in-law and your husband have some kind of underlying competition thing going on. Were they competitive with each other growing up?
haha scorpiopics! you made my day! =D
well, I think there is. The thing is, my boyfriend has never been the type of guy that goes out, hooks up
with a lot of girls ( when he was single of course, haha),and has 1,000 friends. His scorpio brother is. My boyfriend has always managed his money well, but has always had trouble in love, until we met and everything changed. His scorpio brother splurges everything on going out in the clubs, trips with his best friends. Those are the only major differences I see in these brothers. But it comes back to my questions, " Why the resentment with me?"
Ah! asked my guy about when they were growing up and he says that his little brother got away with everything ( the family puts him on a pedestal..I've seen it too). My BF has just had to deal with it his whole life and has never complained. He is still an incredibly positive person
Posted by ScorpioRising81
Ah! asked my guy about when they were growing up and he says that his little brother got away with everything ( the family puts him on a pedestal..I've seen it too). My BF has just had to deal with it his whole life and has never complained. He is still an incredibly positive person


Maybe the brother-in-law is used to getting what he wants, and maybe he wants to be in a love or have a relationship...something his brother has but he doesn't. It might not be necessarily about you or an attraction to you...but more so what you and his brother represent, something he desires but hasn't found.
Not to sound rude, but he sounds like a jealous self-centered cocky ass...lol.If your hubby is reading, tellem no disrespect to his brother but seriously. Enough is enough already. Girl, take a bow if u want to but this has nothing to do with you. This is a quietly kept ego battle between two brothers and your just caught in the cross fires. Your man is the good son the goes unrecognized because he's blocked by the huge ego of the boasting scorpio brother. He's used to everyone's attention being on him. But now that everyone is older, the shit he's doing is getting old, and people are used to him now. Your guy on the other hand is just now starting to shine...bringing home the hot gf, stepping up to responsibilty and marrying the girl of his dreams instead of treating women like trophy's like his brother. "GROWN" people might actually appreciate that more. The scorp is jus mad that your guy has finally taken him to school and for once its time for HIM to take notes for a change! AHH HA!LOL
@dapperdon.....oh sorry boo...i chose it because im a necessary evil...im the DMV
Posted by ScorpioRising81
haha scorpiopics! you made my day! =D


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