Scorpio Men... Please enlighten me... :)
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by AwesomeAries on Tuesday, October 27, 2009 and has 6 replies.
I dated this Scorpio last spring and I'm still sprung. He chased me and chased me until I gave in. I wasn't attracted to him at first. I became attracted to him chasing me. Once I surrendered, it just continued to get better and better. We spent every extra minute together. I don't do that, I like my space. But with him it was different.
I disappointed him once when I ditched him for dinner. My best friend was going through a breakup and the Aries I am... I just chose to deal with it later instead of being respectful and telling him my change of plans.
He withdrew, built walls, became cold, completely changed his behavior and hasn't been the same since.
I tried discussing my concerns and mentioned solutions. I took his harshness and closed off behavior as him no longer being interested So, the Aries in me started acting out and sought attention else where.
We are not together, barely see each other, but still talk often. He's the only guy that I feel, I have been completely into. He told me the same. His harshness hurts my feelings so in order to maintain myself emotionally, I avoid him. I am really trying to get over him and move on. I just can't.I tried avoiding him for about a month. I recently started talking to him again, (almost every day) and he asked why I wasn't talking to him. I told him the reason and he laughed it off.
I've told him how I feel, what my needs are, and all he says is just give it time.
Now talking, almost everyday, we make plans to hangout but they always seem to fall thru, (usually because of him). I don't know if he is just over me or if he is fearful of my intentions. What confuses me is why he continues to communicate with me. Is it because he wants to open himself up to me again?
He asked me to watch a movie with him last night but never followed through with even a call. I sent him a text a few minutes past the time we were suppose to hang that said, OK, maybe tomorrow? He didn't reply. I couldn't sleep last night because I sat awake analyzing our entire relationship. I came to the conclusion that I have hurt him and needed to apologize. So I sent him a text saying sorry for EVERYTHING that could have hurt him.
I truly love him but am at the point of my life that I want more from someone. I don't want to move on if there is still hope but I don't want to continue to wait either. I think if he opened up to the idea of hanging out... things could go back to how they once was. Is he protecting himself
I disappointed him once when I ditched him for dinner. My best friend was going through a breakup and the Aries I am... I just chose to deal with it later instead of being respectful and telling him my change of plans.
He withdrew, built walls, became cold, completely changed his behavior and hasn't been the same since.
I tried discussing my concerns and mentioned solutions. I took his harshness and closed off behavior as him no longer being interested So, the Aries in me started acting out and sought attention else where.
We are not together, barely see each other, but still talk often. He's the only guy that I feel, I have been completely into. He told me the same. His harshness hurts my feelings so in order to maintain myself emotionally, I avoid him. I am really trying to get over him and move on. I just can't.I tried avoiding him for about a month. I recently started talking to him again, (almost every day) and he asked why I wasn't talking to him. I told him the reason and he laughed it off.
I've told him how I feel, what my needs are, and all he says is just give it time.
Now talking, almost everyday, we make plans to hangout but they always seem to fall thru, (usually because of him). I don't know if he is just over me or if he is fearful of my intentions. What confuses me is why he continues to communicate with me. Is it because he wants to open himself up to me again?
He asked me to watch a movie with him last night but never followed through with even a call. I sent him a text a few minutes past the time we were suppose to hang that said, OK, maybe tomorrow? He didn't reply. I couldn't sleep last night because I sat awake analyzing our entire relationship. I came to the conclusion that I have hurt him and needed to apologize. So I sent him a text saying sorry for EVERYTHING that could have hurt him.
I truly love him but am at the point of my life that I want more from someone. I don't want to move on if there is still hope but I don't want to continue to wait either. I think if he opened up to the idea of hanging out... things could go back to how they once was. Is he protecting himself
You, disappointed him???? Don't give yourself that much credit. It's much more than disappointment. Your actions told him that your gf meant more to you than him. Ditching him without an explanation is disrespectful. And you wonder why he is acting the way he is? He lost trust in you and I doubt you can ever earn that back...and throw in the fact that you said you started acting out and looking for attention elsewhere. What more can I say?
Yeah, once I started to think he didn't like me anymore, you betcha! I don't feed off attention, but reassurance. By his actions, I felt assured he wanted nothing more to do with me. So I walked ahead.
When he started to show interest again... I stopped. I would rather be with him and if that means being in solitude in waiting forever so be it. Before, I didn't know him, how to read him... I still don't. But I do know now that when he began getting distant and sarcastic it was because I hurt him not because he didn't care... which is what I use to think.
I don't really know. I just no I am impatient, straight-forward, and in love with him. I can go over and over the things I have done but there is a reason he hasn't closed the line of communication with me. right? Please tell me if i'm wrong.
When he started to show interest again... I stopped. I would rather be with him and if that means being in solitude in waiting forever so be it. Before, I didn't know him, how to read him... I still don't. But I do know now that when he began getting distant and sarcastic it was because I hurt him not because he didn't care... which is what I use to think.
I don't really know. I just no I am impatient, straight-forward, and in love with him. I can go over and over the things I have done but there is a reason he hasn't closed the line of communication with me. right? Please tell me if i'm wrong.
I have a aries for 5 years or so he wanted to go deeper and I was not ready and I told out right. Well sorry to say he will never get the chance. He tried to make me feel obligated by doing something I asked him not to do and know I have distance myself for him not to teach him a listen it moreso, if I say I am not ready I AM NOT READY!!!! I have a new number and have not called to give yet. Not sure if I want to talk to him again.
He said give it time just give him space. Remember if he does talk to or hangout with you will have to prove you are worthy. Hard job is all I can sat
ScorpionLady- Thanks for the ensight... you're right!
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