Scorpio Mom Bragging Rights....

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by LetltB on Wednesday, September 3, 2014 and has 28 replies.
So...I spent the weekend getting my son settled into college (3 hours away). He recently updated me on everything and he is quite excited and content and loving the college life. He is in an apartment/suite with 3 other roommates which has a common living room with a flat screen tv, kitchen two bathrooms and individual bedrooms..cool place I didn't want to leave!!! I had a great time decorating and getting him settled. Shed a few tears when I got home, but again, he's only 3 hours away, I'm over it. He'll be home a lot for breaks and 4 day weekends. One of his 3 roommates is a cook...thank God! My son is a Libra sun, Taurus moon, Leo Rising and yep..has Scorpio in Venus. Quite the personality, a good kid and considering he's not been away from me for more than 2 weeks of his life, I feel I did something right for him to have the independent attitude he is showing and to hear his excitement assures me of that.
Now my life begins...again. Noone to answer to (well human anyway), no more scribbles in the calendars, no more clock watching and scheduling around his schedule, no last minute panicked texts of what this Libra forgot (lol), noone blowing sunshine up my butt for a few extra bucks to go out with etc... I even had a hard time grocery shopping this evening...lol. Don't get me wrong..I'm gonna miss the shit out of all that, and I miss his presence!!!
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The following is some 8th house stuff I tend to experience and have throughout my life that builds strength each and every time...what astrologers misinterpret as the "dark side of 8th house"..they just don't get it..and it pisses me off that they ~think~ they do.
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What all of you do not know, is last summer I almost lost my son. He had a near fatal car accident and was in the hospital for a month. Took the fire dept. 1 hour and 10 mins. to get him out of the car and to the helicopter, and flew him an hour away. Two state troopers showed up at my door after. He's got my Scorpio instinct...he told his girlfriend and friend he was with all day, he knew something was wrong or was going to happen..and it did. The last text the troopers saw in his phone was me asking "where are you??"..I had dinner ready. They do that in NY..they check for sobriety and cell phones. He simply fell asleep. He was knocked out when the three men who ran to help him got to him. He was pinned in the car real bad, almost lost a leg and an arm. Then he woke up to the jaws of life..he spooks the shit out of me when he talks about that. He worked til midnight the night before at his job (bus boy), and got up at 5:30am the next morning to take his girlfriend to work. They swam all afternoon..Sent me a text @ 6 told me he was on his way home for dinner. Never arrived.
The state troopers showed up though and they almost arrested me to keep me from getting in the car until I called someone to go with me or drive me, I mean they had one wrist cuffed and tried to fight them lol... He should not have lived is what I was told over and over, and when I saw the car I understood what they meant. The good news is as miraculously as he survived that accident, so did his healing. He broke his back, left fumor, ruptured his left lung, liver, kidneys and spleen, (hence the 72 hour watch) God knows how many staples for his wounds & lacerations and was on morphine, oxy & percosett for the first two weeks.
The pain management as time went on he was off all three after four weeks. I didn't leave his side until the head nurse threatened me to take a 24 hour break. He had an excellent orthopedic surgeon from NYC, and the best care any mother could hope for. He finished rehab this past January, and to look at him you'd never know this happened. The scars tell a story though...His will and determination to heal was admirable. He started school in a wheel chair, and by January it was like it never happened. I recognize that same determination for his future dreams and just know he's here for a reason and will reach his goals. He was blessed and will always be my miracle.
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What?? You didn't think the 8th house mishaps was over did you?
So..last week, I'm doing all the shopping, packing and getting ready for this past weekend move for college. I mean everytime I completed a list, damn if there wasn't another one filled right after..ugh. It was madness. The day before we left, I get home had a final bag in my hand, missed a step flew into a 4 x 4 post to my deck cracked my head open, broke my nose cut the side of my nose open, lol...my son, his girlfriend and friend came running out after they heard the thump. Was covered in blood. Didn't knock myself out, but was VERY stunned. I got up, they walked me in and helped me clean up. My son wanted to take me to the hospital...(pfft..) then he said "Oh my God Mom your nose"..lol. I go into the bathroom, and holy shit..Scared What the fuck is that????
I told them I could fix it...Three shots of southern comfort and twenty minutes later I put my nose back into place, the kids screamed from the sound of it..they couldn't believe it. I saw this done before, and although I have never broken my nose, I knew what to do. I think my son found a new sense of respect after that, lol..he was beside himself. The gashes weren't deep, more like flapped skin over gashes if you know what I mean. My forehead had an extra forehead lump. That concerned me. I iced that and my head throughout the afternoon and night...and oddly enough I had no pain...NONE. Before I whacked my nose back into place there was a lot of pressure, but no pain. I promised my son I'd go if I started getting headaches, nausea...(the usual symptoms for concussion). Nothing was going to ruin my sons big weekend move in...NOTHING. I pampered my face throughout with ice and fresh bandages and dressings on the cuts. Was real awkward wearing sunglasses all day moving him in since it was raining buckets all day...My eyes were as black and blue as can be and if I can find an eyeshadow in those colors, I'd be ecstatic as my green eyes were highly complimented by the colors! Finally got to the doctor yesterday. continued...
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Got a tetanus shot didn't matter what arm because both are bruised in the upper arm area, and some x-rays. Apparently I did a fine job lining the nose back up. Hell, it's not even swollen and my eyes are already clearing up. (found a real good chinese remedy online 1 part cayenne pepper mixed with 5 parts vaseline)..the difference in the bruising each day is amazing. Good shit...I highly recommend it.
I still have to go see an ear, nose and throat doc to make sure my sinus cavity is all good. It feels fine. My thoughts? This happened for a reason...I stayed home to go to the doctor yesterday and after returning home found out that had I gone to a work appointment I had made and postponed, I would have been blown to smithereens from a gas leak in the kitchen at the very time of the appointment. Crazy shit right? Nobody was there. The client was at her neighbors home. So in essence I saved both our lives perhaps...I dunno..I probably would have lived through that too. My mantra until the day I die will always be..everything happens for reason. It's gospel.
I'm an extremely healthy individual, but when I have a mishap it's usually like above. The gift of mind over matter is strong, I've experienced many things on the level of what my son went through, how I felt that night, and have always maintained by keeping my shit together without concentrated effort. The adrenaline is my friend...and so is Southern Comfort for the minor issues..lol. Anyway....hope you enjoyed some 8th house rambling. I embrace it because I have no choice but to do so. I'm good for a couple of years..that seems to be the pattern.. smile
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...and some of you probably wonder why bullshit bounces off of people like me like one of those spunky little superballs. lol..
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*memories of my dad the last night before going to college*
He would come in my room every hour to ask me if I packed everything and if I need anything more.
There was a lot of crying, then he waved at me, then he ran into the house to get the guitar out and sing me some songs and then crying again.
Beautiful memories.
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Wow Lib, I had no idea and am happy to hear of your son's recovery as well as your own. I am sure the news on the explosion brought all the little hairs on the back of your neck to attention. Lol
Good you missed out on that too even if you probably would have survived it.
Your motto "everything happens for a reason' is a great motto, I agree totally.
Thanks for the Story, it was enlightening in many ways and a good reminder to be thankful for all the moments.
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Posted by Damnata
*memories of my dad the last night before going to college*
He would come in my room every hour to ask me if I packed everything and if I need anything more.
There was a lot of crying, then he waved at me, then he ran into the house to get the guitar out and sing me some songs and then crying again.
Beautiful memories.


I had to laugh (not maliciously..) because that is how I planned our last night, peaceful, shooting the breeze, maybe a movie, some tears. Nope, not exactly...but I do know this..he will forever remember his night before college for a very long time! lol...
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Posted by FixedWater
Wow Lib, I had no idea and am happy to hear of your son's recovery as well as your own. I am sure the news on the explosion brought all the little hairs on the back of your neck to attention. Lol
Good you missed out on that too even if you probably would have survived it.
Your motto "everything happens for a reason' is a great motto, I agree totally.
Thanks for the Story, it was enlightening in many ways and a good reminder to be thankful for all the moments.


Yes...those hairs on the back of the neck thing is common. I'm actually very happy for the woman who I was suppose to sit down with. She's had an awful, not so very good couple of years according to her background. She was also on the fence about moving out of state. I think she got her answer. No matter how bad things can get in anyone's life, there is ALWAYS someone out there so much worse off, I always remind myself of that. I am very thankful...you have no idea. smile
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Posted by LetltB
Posted by Damnata
*memories of my dad the last night before going to college*
He would come in my room every hour to ask me if I packed everything and if I need anything more.
There was a lot of crying, then he waved at me, then he ran into the house to get the guitar out and sing me some songs and then crying again.
Beautiful memories.


I had to laugh (not maliciously..) because that is how I planned our last night, peaceful, shooting the breeze, maybe a movie, some tears. Nope, not exactly...but I do know this..he will forever remember his night before college for a very long time! lol...
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Exactly. This topic literally conjured the memory..like it was yesterday.
"Don't forget about your old man, ok?"
He was more nervous/excited than I was.
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Posted by LetltB
He should not have lived is what I was told ... and to look at him you'd never know this happened.


Posted by LetltB
... after returning home found out that had I gone to a work appointment I had made and postponed,I would have been blown to smithereens from a gas leak in the kitchen at the very time of the appointment. Crazy shit right?



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(that's for me; not you)

Posted by LetltB
The following is some 8th house stuff I tend to experience and have throughout my life that builds strength each and every time...
what astrologers misinterpret as the "dark side of 8th house"..they just don't get it..and it pisses me off that they ~think~ they do....


Posted by LetltB
I embrace it because I have no choice but to do so....
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... if you want to survive, yeah.
Damn, lady.
I just smh
Words escape me-- but I'm glad you shared this with us.
Grateful, rather.
Thanks smile


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The Woman you were supposed to sit down with is also very lucky.
I have closed off to some of that stuff, if you know what I mean. I needed to focus on school/living etc. myself and found that while I was open to all of those hair raising experiences I was forever in research mode or thinking mode looking for answers.
Now I need quiet. Lol
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It is so nice to read a story of success in here, rather than the usual ones = self destruction due to being emotionally weak and insecure.
Your son is very fortunate to have someone like you as his influence.
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Posted by Whatu
Thank you for your beautiful story, My mum flew to china this week to visit/rescue my sister. Who was on an OE with her boyfriend, They had a hideous relationship and she ended up by herself in china and to broke to afford tickets or even rent and about to get deported. So Mumsy is off to get her.
Of course we knew none of this as the Capricorn woman would not say anything about money or her emotional state until she hit rock bottom one week before mums planned trip. My sister has been working as a "model" in china, God knows what that means. we know she gets treated like dirt. I so happy that it worked put that mum was going to see her at this time to sort her out. Its like it was all planned out, And she gets a brand new home to move into when she gets back. 52 year old successful woman has lived in some rather hard conditions for the past 4 years since dad left. Proud of her.
You have the best years of looking after your son ahead of you, and Saturn is gone in 4 months! Thanks for being an awesome mum to your son!


Wow...I wish your sister the very best of luck. Yep, I'd do the same thing if it were my son. Her Mom is what she needs right now. I sure hope your mom can talk her into coming back with her, it would be the best thing she could do for herself. It sounds like she needs to exit the area she is currently in to start fresh. Thanks for sharing that. Makes me smile. smile
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Thanks for all the kind words here. I normally don't share my personal life here. Experiences, yes to help others. Although I come across harsh and "too serious" as many have commented to me...I truly do mean well and try to get people to look in the mirror to better themselves. I'm not perfect by any means, hell no. When it comes to things that matter in life, I do take it seriously. I'm a thinker and will analyze the shit out of the big stuff. I can't dwell on things for long, I do what I have to in order to eliminate the negative and happen to be good at it. I've learned shit happens when we least expect it...better to have the path cleared for whatever else may come up instead of a mountain of shit staring you in the face. Winking
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Posted by starlover
*crying*
so glad your son is okay ~ i so felt the pain, emotionally, involved in this story




Thank you smile This ^^^ has prompted me to start another 8th house thread on pain when I get the chance. Emotional pain. (hopefully those who study astrology are taking notes..)
When this happened to my son, I was able to shelf that for a MONTH, and be a cheerleader so to speak to help keep his spirits up. It wasn't until I went to the garage his car was towed to and saw the car when the emotional load I had held back burst out of me like a volcano and brought me to my knees. (very rare) Fire dept had to cut the roof of the car and extricate him vertically through the top. It was his seat (what was left of it) that blew my mind and until the day I die, will wonder how and why he is walking/running today, let alone alive.
Anyway..thanks again for the good vibes. smile
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What an a traumatic event and such a heart wretching experience! You and your son are very blessed. I'm sure he's destined to do great things with his life! After all that, I can only imagine how hard it is to send him off away from home. I tear up just thinking about it.
I'll be sending my son off to college next year. Any tips for the transition would be appreciated.
Hope your nose heals quickly.
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Wow....I really have no words. Your story LetltB gave me goosebumps. You are a very strong individual and very lucky as well. I'm happy that your son has made a full recovery....with you by his side, I dont think you would have given him any other choice lol No but seriously...I'm happy you both are ok and doing good smile
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Posted by truecap
I'll be sending my son off to college next year. Any tips for the transition would be appreciated.
Hope your nose heals quickly.


Excellent question! Obviously this time last year I was helping him get his health back. I would say by Feb/March I was wondering what it was going to be like without him here. I wasn't anxious, but he did make a comment to me after he got out of the hospital.."what am I going to do not being home while in college???" He was so homesick in the hospital. Made me scared for him and was hoping he'd get past it. He has smile
He did work all summer again, and when he wasn't working he was with his girlfriend. Not seeing him for 3-4 days straight I got used to it if he stayed at her house. They both worked together this summer, so it was convenient regarding saving money for gas and they worked closer to where she lives. So I guess it was that and also his father took him on vacation in mid August for a week. We eased into it I think. Not to mention I have his college schedule and they really do get a lot of breaks. A whole month in January, and three or so four day weekends prior and he's out in May. He's only 3 hours away too so that helps. One mom I know, has a son who went to ALASKA of all places for college. She was a bit of a wreck when he left. I can understand that. I believe the hardest for me is that Scorpio thing...changing up the routine and schedules from what it always has been. I need to fill in the blanks. I'm sure you will too. smile
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Posted by LetltB
Posted by truecap
I'll be sending my son off to college next year. Any tips for the transition would be appreciated.
Hope your nose heals quickly.


Excellent question! Obviously this time last year I was helping him get his health back. I would say by Feb/March I was wondering what it was going to be like without him here. I wasn't anxious, but he did make a comment to me after he got out of the hospital.."what am I going to do not being home while in college???" He was so homesick in the hospital. Made me scared for him and was hoping he'd get past it. He has smile
He did work all summer again, and when he wasn't working he was with his girlfriend. Not seeing him for 3-4 days straight I got used to it if he stayed at her house. They both worked together this summer, so it was convenient regarding saving money for gas and they worked closer to where she lives. So I guess it was that and also his father took him on vacation in mid August for a week. We eased into it I think. Not to mention I have his college schedule and they really do get a lot of breaks. A whole month in January, and three or so four day weekends prior and he's out in May. He's only 3 hours away too so that helps. One mom I know, has a son who went to ALASKA of all places for college. She was a bit of a wreck when he left. I can understand that. I believe the hardest for me is that Scorpio thing...changing up the routine and schedules from what it always has been. I need to fill in the blanks. I'm sure you will too. smile
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I have a feeling, he's going to be coming home a lot. smile
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What's he going to major in LIB?
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Posted by tiziani
I wish you a speedy recovery LIB. Leebs in the family eh? Nice.


Thank you...and yesss tiz a leeb for sure. Here's his whole chart...he's got his father's Taurus moon and a nice mix of me in there too smile I somehow over the years taught him how to make up his mind. My gosh did he hate having to make a decision or choosing. I can honestly say that was the only issue the kid had. However..when his mind was made up, that Taurus moon solidified it.
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Libra 17.34
Moon Taurus 18.59
Mercury Libra 5.39 R
Venus Scorpio 1.18
Mars Scorpio 23.15
Jupiter Sagittarius 12.09
Saturn Pisces 19.24 R
Uranus Capricorn 26.32
Neptune Capricorn 22.48
Pluto Scorpio 28.56
Lilith Cancer 1.26
Asc node Libra 26.23 XII Cancer 18.09
Ascendant Leo 17.32
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Posted by truecap
What's he going to major in LIB?


oh oh...you opened the door for more bragging smile
From age 5 to about 13 he was determined to be in the Marines or an Air Force Pilot. I was relieved when that changed just because of the conundrum and political b.s. going on in the Middle East. So instead he got involved throughout jr high and high school one of the most cut throat, dog eat dog careers one can get into ~ musical theater. His dream is to be on Broadway, his back up dream is to become another Tom Hanks. He's not only done a number of school productions, but has been in summer theater productions as well. The pros there have told me..don't let him stop. I've paid for voice lessons, and before he began driving drove him to and from all of his rehearsals. To watch him on the stage just blows me away. He also was in an Acappella group for five years.
This past Spring Deke Sharon (Pitch Perfect & Sing Off) came to our area, selected kids from various schools choreographed an a capella concert. It was phenomenal. He then selected my son to be in Carnegie Hall next March to perform in a special concert with other hand picked kids. (damn...I apologize..I'm bragging like a bitch aren't I??? Can't help it..lol)
The school he is in now is a transfer school. His goal is to get transferred into Purchase College in Long Island or Princeton's Westminster School of Performing Arts in New Jersey. When he called me yesterday his Acting Professor already asked him to audition for their spring production. Sounds like another good teacher too, he just returned from England after a summer of teaching theater to local actors there. Now, I say it's a dog eat dog career ONLY based off of what I've read, biographies/documentaries I've seen. His personality is what I would describe as proud. He will not watch his own video's with me..says it's "weird". lol Gets all embarrassed after a show when everyone comes up to him and congratulates him or when our relatives call after they've viewed the flash drive I sent with his performances. He was an extremely shy kid back in the day and this is the last thing I imagined him going after. No matter what he wants to be, he's got me backing him 150% . Ok..no more bragging. lol
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That's awesome! You have every right to be proud.
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@Starlover & Fixedwater....
(from the other thread about Scorp offspring...)
So...do you both have the same experience, that when your son/daughter got pissed off about something allowed them to vent and you decide to give them the deep philosophy or explain why something happened (possibilities of it) and they look at you with amazement like a light goes off resulting in instant relief? Then all of a sudden the flood gates open and they share more angst to get your opinion on? Please...share some examples of that or anything else.
OR....no matter what face we both put on while we were working out whatever issue it was internally...we both knew something was bothering each other. ALWAYS. k..your turn
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Posted by LetltB
I still have to go see an ear, nose and throat doc to make sure my sinus cavity is all good.


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The Nose...Knows? lol
So..after the x-ray results from family doc and them cheering me on that I did good knocking nose back into place, I had to follow up with an ENT. Never been to one...hate doctors, and anything medical.. Hold a gun up to me?, I'm all good..put me in a medical situation forget it!
I was expecting his take on the x-rays and then I'm off and outta there. Very confident of this.
I healed miraculously (yesterday was 10 days since trip, fall and smash) bruises gone..all good.
Just some minor healing left of the cuts.
He comes in after looking at the x-rays and says he doesn't trust the x-ray and want's to do
"A PROCEDURE"..and has the nurse give me paper to sign (you know the kind you fill out for bungi jumping?) Eyebrow goes up..."what procedure"? Starts to get warm in there, and I start to break into a sweat. "Don't worry" he says "I'm going to numb you, you won't feel a thing" I repeat "WHAT PROCEDURE"? Mind you many of my friends told me stories upon stories about broken noses, and what happens to fix it..I laugh with them, because afterall my family doc tells me I did good fixing it on my own.
He wants to take his own pictures which will be internal and he'll see everything like whether or not I lined it up or if the sinus cavity is blocked. With that, I sign the paper, he takes a small rod and sprays both nostrils, tells me he'll be back in five to let the numbing agent go it's course. He and the nurse come in I'm numbed up pretty good, can't tell if there's snot running or not..lol Then I see the "TRAY" and just about passed the fuck out!! Scared I mean I'm squirming in that chair. He's gloving up and I start to shake. Metal rod about 6" long laying there with a black ball on the end of it. Tells me to take deep breaths and I will hear him say "click" He's going to say "click" 4 times (nurse hitting the button for the pics). Didn't do me any justice, sweat was an all out pour at that point. I did feel a sting on the side that hit the post..but it was quick.
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So...surgery Thursday morning. I googled the shit out of it after I made him explain that this was necessary. I really should not have googled it. ugh..
My sinus cavity is about 50% blocked. I knocked the fracture into place, but the cartilage needs to be shaved and put into place. Not a pleasant experience to age with at all if I don't get it done. We are within the 20 day range from the fall..the procedure is called a "closed reduction" with the possibility of an "open reduction" if necessary. 20 minute surgery. He's gonna valium me up and knock me out. Good enough. I get to wear a stylish splint for five days afterwards. I'm hoping the "open reduction" does not have to take place. It shouldn't since I'm within the time line. I asked this poor guy a shit ton of questions. I have at least 100 more!!!
With this said...I cannot believe or understand for the life of me how people voluntarily go under the knife to alter their bodies. I just can't!!! I like my nose...A LOT. I told him that too. Yet I sensed confidence ooze from this guy and the smirk on his face spoke volumes. That's when he told me he's giving me valium before they bring me in, they don't offer whiskey (haha) and also said.."it's going to be ok" with the smirk. My son's Orthopedic surgeon had that same smirk. I remembered. Never had surgery in my life..I didn't realize how careful they are about surgery either, I have to do an EKG, CHEST X-RAY, BLOOD & URINE tomorrow to make sure I'm all good. BP is going to be off the charts..this I do know. So in essence I'll be getting legally stoned on Thursday...hope I behave myself and keep my mouth shut and not embarrass myself! lol...what an adventure this has been. Life goes on when you suck it up! Winking
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