Scorpio needs some advice about a Virgo...ugh

Ok......I'm a Scorpio, at 37 I'm trying to let my guard/wall down a bit. After 5 hot and heavy dates w/ Virgo...he has gone completely cold.

Was with Virgo Wed. night into Thursday AM, saw him Friday night while he was at his bar working (he was a bit distant and aloof, I was with friends... then at midnight he vanished)...he has not called me.

So instead of waiting around,letting it eat me up I called him last night and Left a short "Hey, hope you had a great weekend, was just thinking about you, give me a buzz". No word yet. Thats the only call I will make, and that one was hard for me. My ego.

How long till these guys come out of their "analyzing mode" if thats what he is doing (thanks virgogotme). Girlfriends say I am too much for him, I scare him.

He is so insecure thats why I wanted to call him to give him warm and fuzzy. Maybe an ego boost?

Trying to figure out what happened!

On the other hand..this could possibly be it as well....my friend said something to him in front of all of us that may have scared him. Before I left for overseas, I got a major whisker burn on my chin (I was VERY upset and he knew it) All my friends saw and only 2 knew what really happened. Well, I was with the girls who knew it was form him and they brought it up laughing about it. Although he was laughing as well, I think he was mortified as we were at his bar and he is a very private person and shy. The girl who brought it up knows him so they are friendly, but still. .When he saw my chin he said "Oh...just tell everyone your dating a hairy Italian guy and you needed a good exfoliant" so he made light of it as well...

Could this have put the nail in the coffin or is there recovery here with the Virgo?

Any other feedback?

Well...I certainly wouldnt be embarressed but I guess a shy Virgo may take that as his personal crap being talked about at his work place maybe....

I'm not waiting around...just trying to figure it out like all of us Scorps do...

Hi Brahn~~
Are you saying drop him or don't think about it for now? :-)
I heard you were one of the experts here....
Thanks..I really like this guy

Well, I think it might be a few weeks till you hear from him. I think he is embarrassed and feels he now looks bad infront of everyone. Plus, if he is shy and private, he probably doesn't want people knowing about his private life. He probably would have liked your discretion.

I find virgos can be very insecure and critical about their looks. He might be feeling like you made him a laughing stock.

The only thing you could do is apologize. What did you say in your message?

If he has gone to cold because of a comment or incident like that, then I would not consider him worthy of my affection and would inturn FREEZE

He thought it was pretty funny that he had given me whisker burn in the first place and said to say it was from "my Italian guy" . What it has to do with his looks ...nothing...it was about MY LOOKS on MY WAY TO AN overseas conference with me having a huge burn on my chin. I did not make him look like a laughing stock but maybe more "manly" that he is a hairy faced Italian who knows how to kiss. Just a thought.

He would just be embarrassed about her bringing up the fact I had chin burn from him...she was with me on the trip (he knew it) anyways so how would she not know when her and I were trying to cover it up w/ tons of makeup for my meetings? Him and I were still laughing about it when I got back about how I made excuses for what happend to my face.

Weeks huh? Oh boy.

What I said in the message was

" Just calling to say hi , see how your weekend was, was thinking about you...give me a call"

To be honest, I would break-up with someone for lack of discretion ... and have. Privacy is very important to me and I don't like people knowing my businesses. I have no idea if that is playing a factor for him or not.

I agree with Branh et all. Just stay still and do nothing. Let's see if he resurfaces on his own.

Well...I have over reacted once again!
VIRGO JUST CALLED.
Said he said Goodbye to me 4x Friday night and I really wasn't listening (too busy laughing with the girls...and a little buzzed) or not paying attention.
Asked what my schedule was like this week and he said "Well How about tomorrow night, because I'm not working"
I asked him "So you're taking me on an actual date?" (only been drinks and at my house)and he said absolutely.
So there ya go my Virgo friends....Scorp freaks once again

Sophie

I am so glad it worked out for you!

Have fun on your date! 🙂

Thanks all!
I'm very excited but embaressed I freaked out so bad...maybe w/ the "new job" stress and all I overeacted....I can't even spell I'm trying to type here and do work...so sorry for typos

Any thoughts about the date/ suggestions.

And Virgogotme...your right...breaking up w/ someone over that is childish/12ish.

Thanks for all your help!

No it wasn't when I was 12. I dumped someone in October for being indiscreet about my affairs and would do so again.

I was speculating. He may not have liked her telling her friend. Maybe he hadn't told people at his work they were seeing each other. Who knows? As I said, it was speculation on my part, but damn straight I have dumped someone for lack of discretion and would do so again. It is a betrayal of trust in my eyes. (This is a non-negotiable to me. The last Virgo I dated was the same.)

VIRGOTOME....You are AWESOME!!!
xoxoxoxxoxo

lITTLE SPARROW...I hear what you are saying...you make a valid point. If he wasnt joking about it in the first place I would have thought the same.
Thanks for your support LS...;-p

Either way, I am just glad it all worked out. Yay! 🙂