Scorpio´s chaos

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by pprincess on Tuesday, April 11, 2017 and has 42 replies.
I´m a pisces woman so I met an Scorpio guy and decided to exchange numbers and start talking. We have been doing this for 2-3 months and he ocasionally disappear for like 2 weeks, I was so confused at first and decided to let him know what I feel and he replied that he wanted something serious with me, and that I was so pretty and so worth it and blah blah blah; the second time he desappeared I confrnted him again and he answered pretty much the same, now I´m used to his desaperings but that doesn't mean that I'm ok with that because I still doesn´t know why he's desapearing.

Also he hadn't ask me out!!! Just once but when we were supossed to hang out he disappeared (again) I dind't push him because I dont want to look like a crazy bitch but I'm so confused and I don't know what to do because I like him a lot, he's single so that is not the problem

PScared Sorry for my spelling mistakes but english is not my language
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Posted by pprincess
I´m a pisces woman so I met an Scorpio guy and decided to exchange numbers and start talking. We have been doing this for 2-3 months and he ocasionally disappear for like 2 weeks, I was so confused at first and decided to let him know what I feel and he replied that he wanted something serious with me, and that I was so pretty and so worth it and blah blah blah; the second time he desappeared I confrnted him again and he answered pretty much the same, now I´m used to his desaperings but that doesn't mean that I'm ok with that because I still doesn´t know why he's desapearing.

Also he hadn't ask me out!!! Just once but when we were supossed to hang out he disappeared (again) I dind't push him because I dont want to look like a crazy bitch but I'm so confused and I don't know what to do because I like him a lot, he's single so that is not the problem

PScared Sorry for my spelling mistakes but english is not my language
Two scenarios IMO:

1) He is a Scorpio that likes to disappear to recharge.

or

2) He is just throwing lines out to you to keep you on the back burner.
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I MUST charge that battery or ill go ape shit...
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Don't listen to anyone telling you shit like "Oh they scurred of feelings" "Oh they need to recharge" etc etc.

2 weeks? Boy, bye.

Stop thinking about why he does it and look at the writing on the wall which is he does it therefore he could care less if something happened to you within 2 weeks.

It's like if someone stabbed you and you died and you'd stay there haunting them and asking why they did it.
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So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
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Don't be a fallback girl.
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Posted by Damnata
Don't listen to anyone telling you shit like "Oh they scurred of feelings" "Oh they need to recharge" etc etc.

2 weeks? Boy, bye.

Stop thinking about why he does it and look at the writing on the wall which is he does it therefore he could care less if something happened to you within 2 weeks.

It's like if someone stabbed you and you died and you'd stay there haunting them and asking why they did it.
Exactly right.
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Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?
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Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?
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disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

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Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

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My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it
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Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it
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again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

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Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
2 weeks of no contact isn't recharging.

You're making my whole point considering you said on these boards you are a cheater.

Life gets in the way, people are tired, a day, two, three go by. 2 weeks without knowing what your girl is doing? Please.

By all means, OP should go with the flow. But if the flow makes her worry, she expresses it hurts her and his attitude is "oh well sure let me go disappear again because I care about what you feel" then he's not into her the way she'd hope. Not making him into a bad guy...just obviously not into her.
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I "disappear" if I'm NOT that into you..
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Posted by Damnata
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
2 weeks of no contact isn't recharging.

You're making my whole point considering you said on these boards you are a cheater.

Life gets in the way, people are tired, a day, two, three go by. 2 weeks without knowing what your girl is doing? Please.

By all means, OP should go with the flow. But if the flow makes her worry, she expresses it hurts her and his attitude is "oh well sure let me go disappear again because I care about what you feel" then he's not into her the way she'd hope. Not making him into a bad guy...just obviously not into her.
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fawk yea I cheat,but I dont take 2 weeks off to cheat,,apples and oranges...and how u gonna tell another human what "re-charging" is? lol If I see the same girl for a month straight, good lord im taking two weeks to myself...Self indulge in something one week, then figure out what to do about that girl the following week.

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Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

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BAHAHAHAHA!!!

The matching is just too much!
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Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

The best time in relationships, for me, is when we live separate and then meet up occasionally. Its so fun to spend the night or have them over for the night....Everything is always new, different, exciting....Whenever I've lived with someone, it just seems to trend inevitably towards becoming boring/routine...Eventually you two are just wandering around doing your own thing in the same space, groaning inwardly about having to clean up after one another, almost unaware of each other's presence....Plus if you go through mood shifts, the other person has to ride that out and they can't help but take it personal. I dunno man...Its hard to see the romance and the passion in that kind of scenario. I like to have a chance to miss/crave that other person as was said. With kids its different I'm sure, because then its all about them anyway, but if we don't have kids, I prefer separate space. I think its better for the relationship.
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So if a chick you're dating tells you straight up your behavior hurts her...instead of explaining all that ^ eloquently so she understands you are in a phase that has nothing to do with her and you care and will soothe her worries by trying to at least do your best in that phase...

...your response instead is "You're pretty and I want something serious with you" followed up by disappearing again?

Come on.

She expressed it makes her feel a certain way. He disappeared again. What is there to investigate? He is not in a position to date then or he doesn't give a shit about her grievance.
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Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

BAHAHAHAHA!!!

The matching is just too much!
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I'm all about that matching clothes life.
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Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

The best time in relationships, for me, is when we live separate and then meet up occasionally. Its so fun to spend the night or have them over for the night....Everything is always new, different, exciting....Whenever I've lived with someone, it just seems to trend inevitably towards becoming boring/routine...Eventually you two are just wandering around doing your own thing in the same space, groaning inwardly about having to clean up after one another, almost unaware of each other's presence....Plus if you go through mood shifts, the other person has to ride that out and they can't help but take it personal. I dunno man...Its hard to see the romance and the passion in that kind of scenario. I like to have a chance to miss/crave that other person as was said. With kids its different I'm sure, because then its all about them anyway, but if we don't have kids, I prefer separate space. I think its better for the relationship.
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agree 100% ...couldnt have said it better

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Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

BAHAHAHAHA!!!

The matching is just too much!
I'm all about that matching clothes life.
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lol

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Posted by Damnata
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

BAHAHAHAHA!!!

The matching is just too much!
I'm all about that matching clothes life.




lol

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Just being sarcastic.
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Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

The best time in relationships, for me, is when we live separate and then meet up occasionally. Its so fun to spend the night or have them over for the night....Everything is always new, different, exciting....Whenever I've lived with someone, it just seems to trend inevitably towards becoming boring/routine...Eventually you two are just wandering around doing your own thing in the same space, groaning inwardly about having to clean up after one another, almost unaware of each other's presence....Plus if you go through mood shifts, the other person has to ride that out and they can't help but take it personal. I dunno man...Its hard to see the romance and the passion in that kind of scenario. I like to have a chance to miss/crave that other person as was said. With kids its different I'm sure, because then its all about them anyway, but if we don't have kids, I prefer separate space. I think its better for the relationship.
So if a chick you're dating tells you straight up your behavior hurts her...instead of explaining all that ^ eloquently so she understands you are in a phase that has nothing to do with her and you care and will soothe her worries by trying to at least do your best in that phase...

...your response instead is "You're pretty and I want something serious with you" followed up by disappearing again?

Come on.

She expressed it makes her feel a certain way. He disappeared again. What is there to investigate? He is not in a position to date then or he doesn't give a shit about her grievance.
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lol....i cant speak for him, I only agreed with nikkistar's first point...

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Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

BAHAHAHAHA!!!

The matching is just too much!
I'm all about that matching clothes life.
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You know that Virgo just has to coordinate
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Posted by Damnata
Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

The best time in relationships, for me, is when we live separate and then meet up occasionally. Its so fun to spend the night or have them over for the night....Everything is always new, different, exciting....Whenever I've lived with someone, it just seems to trend inevitably towards becoming boring/routine...Eventually you two are just wandering around doing your own thing in the same space, groaning inwardly about having to clean up after one another, almost unaware of each other's presence....Plus if you go through mood shifts, the other person has to ride that out and they can't help but take it personal. I dunno man...Its hard to see the romance and the passion in that kind of scenario. I like to have a chance to miss/crave that other person as was said. With kids its different I'm sure, because then its all about them anyway, but if we don't have kids, I prefer separate space. I think its better for the relationship.
So if a chick you're dating tells you straight up your behavior hurts her...instead of explaining all that ^ eloquently so she understands you are in a phase that has nothing to do with her and you care and will soothe her worries by trying to at least do your best in that phase...

...your response instead is "You're pretty and I want something serious with you" followed up by disappearing again?

Come on.

She expressed it makes her feel a certain way. He disappeared again. What is there to investigate? He is not in a position to date then or he doesn't give a shit about her grievance.
Its hard for me to both open up completely, and change my habits entirely, if I haven't known a person that long....really hard - especially if I'm feeling weird about how weird I'm feeling. Like I stopped communicating with people recently because I just felt super anxious, depressed, etc. out of nowhere. I can't put it into words, but what I was going through was very difficult. Sometimes, I feel I'm protecting people from my own overly sensitive/paranoid/cynical nature during times like this. When I re-emerged I texted people I keep in regular contact with, and to be honest, I didn't even realize it had been several weeks. I just am not a slave to phones like a lot of people. I put that thing down and won't even keep up with messages or calls coming in. So some were like "Man, I've missed you. Good to know you are still alive..." And while I was a little surprised a couple weeks had passed so fast when I was in my hole, I was also surprised at that response, like that is some long stretch of time or something....

I can't speak for this dude, maybe he's a cheater, but I would still want to know the reasons behind it as Scorps can be very private. Bottom line anyway - if she likes the guy I'm sure she won't drop him off some advice on a message board.

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You sound like my current Leeb-Scorp. He disappears for 2-3 days but since I'm doing my own thing and just letting him be he is now reaching out to me almost daily once again. I dunno it's like there's something weird going on with you stingers lately lol
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Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

The best time in relationships, for me, is when we live separate and then meet up occasionally. Its so fun to spend the night or have them over for the night....Everything is always new, different, exciting....Whenever I've lived with someone, it just seems to trend inevitably towards becoming boring/routine...Eventually you two are just wandering around doing your own thing in the same space, groaning inwardly about having to clean up after one another, almost unaware of each other's presence....Plus if you go through mood shifts, the other person has to ride that out and they can't help but take it personal. I dunno man...Its hard to see the romance and the passion in that kind of scenario. I like to have a chance to miss/crave that other person as was said. With kids its different I'm sure, because then its all about them anyway, but if we don't have kids, I prefer separate space. I think its better for the relationship.
So if a chick you're dating tells you straight up your behavior hurts her...instead of explaining all that ^ eloquently so she understands you are in a phase that has nothing to do with her and you care and will soothe her worries by trying to at least do your best in that phase...

...your response instead is "You're pretty and I want something serious with you" followed up by disappearing again?

Come on.

She expressed it makes her feel a certain way. He disappeared again. What is there to investigate? He is not in a position to date then or he doesn't give a shit about her grievance.
Its hard for me to both open up completely, and change my habits entirely, if I haven't known a person that long....really hard - especially if I'm feeling weird about how weird I'm feeling. Like I stopped communicating with people recently because I just felt super anxious, depressed, etc. out of nowhere. I can't put it into words, but what I was going through was very difficult. Sometimes, I feel I'm protecting people from my own overly sensitive/paranoid/cynical nature during times like this. When I re-emerged I texted people I keep in regular contact with, and to be honest, I didn't even realize it had been several weeks. I just am not a slave to phones like a lot of people. I put that thing down and won't even keep up with messages or calls coming in. So some were like "Man, I've missed you. Good to know you are still alive..." And while I was a little surprised a couple weeks had passed so fast when I was in my hole, I was also surprised at that response, like that is some long stretch of time or something....

I can't speak for this dude, maybe he's a cheater, but I would still want to know the reasons behind it as Scorps can be very private. Bottom line anyway - if she likes the guy I'm sure she won't drop him off some advice on a message board.

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Idk man...what you are saying in this topic and what you were saying about your behavior when you pursue someone could not be more different. I know the moods you're talking about and even within those moods you'd reach out to someone if they were important. Doesn't have to be a full blown conversation but unless you're in a coma or dead or president of the galaxy so way too busy...you seriously wouldn't reach out to see what they are doing? I don't believe you. Unless it's bad timing aka the part about not being into dating atm.

I do the same thing you mentioned when weeks go by and even months with some friends. Someone I am into? No.

It's not even about the disappearance as much as it is about his reaction when she verbalized how it makes her feel. Which it was..let me disappear again. The way he handled that is more telling of his interest than his disappearing.

I agree with your last line, whatever we are discussing/debating.
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the OP probably calls this poor soul every other day,,,doesnt even give the guy time to miss her ....just my guy feeling...as for u "virgo", scorp men are a walking contradiction ....that comment is a response to u telling "wise" about his behavior being any more different.
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*gut feeling....
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the OP probably calls this poor soul every other day,,,doesnt even give the guy time to miss her ....just my guy feeling...as for u "virgo", scorp men are a walking contradiction ....that comment is a response to u telling "wise" about his behavior being any more different.
Never met one who was a walking contradiction so I guess our realities differ. If they were all over the place...they were all over the place. If they were into someone, they were into someone.

Men are men, are we forgetting this on account of astrology?

I'm not saying you're wrong btw. Enough space under the sun for gut feelings and logic.

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Scorpios, what are you recharging?

Also, to the OP, let him come to you. From my experience with Scorpios, it's best to let them go at their own pace and for you to be yourself and live your life. Be understanding of him--when the time comes for you to be emotionally obscure, he will remember how you treated him.
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Scorpios do need time to recharge, my Scorpio is the same way however I wouldn't tolerate disappearing for 2 weeks or even a week. 1-2 days sure and even then I better be informed of your whereabouts from family or friends and there's no way my Scorpio would not want to know what I'm doing for days at a time.

Also during the short stint that he's recharged, he always tells me what he was doing and it can be verified from other sources so I know he isn't lying.

However my Scorpio and I are in a relationship so that makes me one of his priorities and he treats me as such. If he and I were just dating and he disappeared for weeks at a time and he did it again after I expressed my feelings about it. I would move on because if he really cared about you, after you expressed your disappointment he wouldn't have done it again.

So now you should know where you stand cos when a Scorpio is really into you, he is all in and will find a way to include you in someway so you don't ever feel neglected and uncared for. If he's acting like he doesn't care, it's because he doesn't period.

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I've been in this mode lately where I literally just can't handle being around anyone and go off grid for 1-2 weeks at a time. Don't know what it is, but it definitely is about recharging as was said. When I'm around people I feel irritable, vulnerable, paranoid, etc. I know at least one other Scorp going through the same thing...maybe its an astro-thing. Its frightening how anti-social I can be for certain periods, and then I just change at some point, and get very social...
This.

I know I do the same. But I have noticed that most people whom aren't Scorpios, usually can't relate to this need.
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I've been in this mode lately where I literally just can't handle being around anyone and go off grid for 1-2 weeks at a time. Don't know what it is, but it definitely is about recharging as was said. When I'm around people I feel irritable, vulnerable, paranoid, etc. I know at least one other Scorp going through the same thing...maybe its an astro-thing. Its frightening how anti-social I can be for certain periods, and then I just change at some point, and get very social...
This.

I know I do the same. But I have noticed that most people whom aren't Scorpios, usually can't relate to this need.
My Aries bff is still getting used to this from me, and we've been friends 10+ years now.

He knows that if I don't pick up a call or text.. that I've probably secluded myself for a bit and will get back in touch when I come out of whatever dark hole I've crawled into.

It is what it is. You can either deal with it.. or peace out. Those that are close to me have learned to deal.
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Yea, my Aqua bff of 16+ years still sometimes gets annoyed with me for doing the same. But overall, she doesn't really get personally offended when I do it, because she knows it's not about her, but about me.

I find that the people whom don't understand the need for us to do this, usually make it out as if disappearing is somehow personally attacking them. And if someone thinks that, then I usually don't need them in my life. Accept me for my flaws, as I accept you for yours.
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What are you recharging, Scorpios?
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I´m a pisces woman so I met an Scorpio guy and decided to exchange numbers and start talking. We have been doing this for 2-3 months and he ocasionally disappear for like 2 weeks, I was so confused at first and decided to let him know what I feel and he replied that he wanted something serious with me, and that I was so pretty and so worth it and blah blah blah; the second time he desappeared I confrnted him again and he answered pretty much the same, now I´m used to his desaperings but that doesn't mean that I'm ok with that because I still doesn´t know why he's desapearing.

Also he hadn't ask me out!!! Just once but when we were supossed to hang out he disappeared (again) I dind't push him because I dont want to look like a crazy bitch but I'm so confused and I don't know what to do because I like him a lot, he's single so that is not the problem

PScared Sorry for my spelling mistakes but english is not my language
Two scenarios IMO:

1) He is a Scorpio that likes to disappear to recharge.

or

2) He is just throwing lines out to you to keep you on the back burner.
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This.

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So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

The best time in relationships, for me, is when we live separate and then meet up occasionally. Its so fun to spend the night or have them over for the night....Everything is always new, different, exciting....Whenever I've lived with someone, it just seems to trend inevitably towards becoming boring/routine...Eventually you two are just wandering around doing your own thing in the same space, groaning inwardly about having to clean up after one another, almost unaware of each other's presence....Plus if you go through mood shifts, the other person has to ride that out and they can't help but take it personal. I dunno man...Its hard to see the romance and the passion in that kind of scenario. I like to have a chance to miss/crave that other person as was said. With kids its different I'm sure, because then its all about them anyway, but if we don't have kids, I prefer separate space. I think its better for the relationship.
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Agreed. I love my own space and I understand taking time apart to 'miss' each other. 2 weeks at a time though... sheesh... give a little explanation. "Hey, I need to recharge" would go miles. I still don't understand abrupt, cease of communication for that period of time. No phone call, or text. I don't get it. AND I personally don't want to go through that ever again!
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What are you recharging exactly, Scorpios?
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I used to be pushed to the limit of 1 month disappearance.

Thought it was something I could tolerate. 2 weeks or more I was left 'hanging'. It was ocassional but still prominent nontheless.

Then someone snapped me out of it.

And I came to a realization that when someone actually was into you, he would be willing to invest more time with you.

So, my advice to you, forget him.

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So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

The best time in relationships, for me, is when we live separate and then meet up occasionally. Its so fun to spend the night or have them over for the night....Everything is always new, different, exciting....Whenever I've lived with someone, it just seems to trend inevitably towards becoming boring/routine...Eventually you two are just wandering around doing your own thing in the same space, groaning inwardly about having to clean up after one another, almost unaware of each other's presence....Plus if you go through mood shifts, the other person has to ride that out and they can't help but take it personal. I dunno man...Its hard to see the romance and the passion in that kind of scenario. I like to have a chance to miss/crave that other person as was said. With kids its different I'm sure, because then its all about them anyway, but if we don't have kids, I prefer separate space. I think its better for the relationship.
So if a chick you're dating tells you straight up your behavior hurts her...instead of explaining all that ^ eloquently so she understands you are in a phase that has nothing to do with her and you care and will soothe her worries by trying to at least do your best in that phase...

...your response instead is "You're pretty and I want something serious with you" followed up by disappearing again?

Come on.

She expressed it makes her feel a certain way. He disappeared again. What is there to investigate? He is not in a position to date then or he doesn't give a shit about her grievance.
Its hard for me to both open up completely, and change my habits entirely, if I haven't known a person that long....really hard - especially if I'm feeling weird about how weird I'm feeling. Like I stopped communicating with people recently because I just felt super anxious, depressed, etc. out of nowhere. I can't put it into words, but what I was going through was very difficult. Sometimes, I feel I'm protecting people from my own overly sensitive/paranoid/cynical nature during times like this. When I re-emerged I texted people I keep in regular contact with, and to be honest, I didn't even realize it had been several weeks. I just am not a slave to phones like a lot of people. I put that thing down and won't even keep up with messages or calls coming in. So some were like "Man, I've missed you. Good to know you are still alive..." And while I was a little surprised a couple weeks had passed so fast when I was in my hole, I was also surprised at that response, like that is some long stretch of time or something....

I can't speak for this dude, maybe he's a cheater, but I would still want to know the reasons behind it as Scorps can be very private. Bottom line anyway - if she likes the guy I'm sure she won't drop him off some advice on a message board.

Idk man...what you are saying in this topic and what you were saying about your behavior when you pursue someone could not be more different. I know the moods you're talking about and even within those moods you'd reach out to someone if they were important. Doesn't have to be a full blown conversation but unless you're in a coma or dead or president of the galaxy so way too busy...you seriously wouldn't reach out to see what they are doing? I don't believe you. Unless it's bad timing aka the part about not being into dating atm.

I do the same thing you mentioned when weeks go by and even months with some friends. Someone I am into? No.

It's not even about the disappearance as much as it is about his reaction when she verbalized how it makes her feel. Which it was..let me disappear again. The way he handled that is more telling of his interest than his disappearing.

I agree with your last line, whatever we are discussing/debating.
I completely agree with you and also see Enoch's need to disconnect (not in relationships though).

What I'd really want to know more about is; what exactly did OP say to her Scorpio?

The only reason I insist is because there have been MANY occasions where I am having a convo with a Pisces and they have their complaints and say how they feel about a situation, and they make it sound as if everything was communicated. It only comes out when you dig and dig that they really didn't communicate anything clearly. They say it with behavior or hint around the subject or have a passive - aggressive approach.

I'm not saying that is what OP did... but she does leave a lot of details out and it just makes me wonder...

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I appreciate all your answers, we haven´t had sex and when he stops talking to me I don´t chese him, I continue with doing my things but all of this makes me wonder what it´s wrong with him. About what I said to him, I texted him and directly ask him " What are you looking in me?. Cause you dessapear and I don´t know...if you want to be friends we can be but if you want smething else, I need to know, cause I don´t want to think this is something when it isn´t.

He talked to me last week and let me in seen again so I don´t know if ignored him when he look for me again or try to talk to him about what is happening with him or just answering him like nothing it´s wrong

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the OP probably calls this poor soul every other day,,,doesnt even give the guy time to miss her ....just my guy feeling...as for u "virgo", scorp men are a walking contradiction ....that comment is a response to u telling "wise" about his behavior being any more different.
I actually don´t chase him and let him be. When he eaves me in seen I don´t stalk him or something like that just wait til he talks to me again while I do my stuff
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Posted by 13th
Posted by Ssuperman
Posted by 13th
So u telling me I dont need to recharge? why? cause u dont need to?
You disappear from work too?



disappear from work? apples and oranges...U talking about sumthin I dont care about...I cant be with a girl I really like ALL THE TIME..I love alone time...two weeks is just fine.. Im not saying thats what the scorp is doing, im responding to Nikkistar saying sumthing about recharging his battery, I totally relate..demantia or whatever her name is was wayyyy off base

My point was.......if it's important to you, you don't neglect it




again, not talking for this scorp or all scorps, I personally need my own space....Plain and simple..I cant talk my girl all the time, I cant..lol let me miss u a lil at least, fawk..U and that other girl probably the type to show affection in public, matching suits with your mate, smh, yuck

The best time in relationships, for me, is when we live separate and then meet up occasionally. Its so fun to spend the night or have them over for the night....Everything is always new, different, exciting....Whenever I've lived with someone, it just seems to trend inevitably towards becoming boring/routine...Eventually you two are just wandering around doing your own thing in the same space, groaning inwardly about having to clean up after one another, almost unaware of each other's presence....Plus if you go through mood shifts, the other person has to ride that out and they can't help but take it personal. I dunno man...Its hard to see the romance and the passion in that kind of scenario. I like to have a chance to miss/crave that other person as was said. With kids its different I'm sure, because then its all about them anyway, but if we don't have kids, I prefer separate space. I think its better for the relationship.
So if a chick you're dating tells you straight up your behavior hurts her...instead of explaining all that ^ eloquently so she understands you are in a phase that has nothing to do with her and you care and will soothe her worries by trying to at least do your best in that phase...

...your response instead is "You're pretty and I want something serious with you" followed up by disappearing again?

Come on.

She expressed it makes her feel a certain way. He disappeared again. What is there to investigate? He is not in a position to date then or he doesn't give a shit about her grievance.
Its hard for me to both open up completely, and change my habits entirely, if I haven't known a person that long....really hard - especially if I'm feeling weird about how weird I'm feeling. Like I stopped communicating with people recently because I just felt super anxious, depressed, etc. out of nowhere. I can't put it into words, but what I was going through was very difficult. Sometimes, I feel I'm protecting people from my own overly sensitive/paranoid/cynical nature during times like this. When I re-emerged I texted people I keep in regular contact with, and to be honest, I didn't even realize it had been several weeks. I just am not a slave to phones like a lot of people. I put that thing down and won't even keep up with messages or calls coming in. So some were like "Man, I've missed you. Good to know you are still alive..." And while I was a little surprised a couple weeks had passed so fast when I was in my hole, I was also surprised at that response, like that is some long stretch of time or something....

I can't speak for this dude, maybe he's a cheater, but I would still want to know the reasons behind it as Scorps can be very private. Bottom line anyway - if she likes the guy I'm sure she won't drop him off some advice on a message board.

Idk man...what you are saying in this topic and what you were saying about your behavior when you pursue someone could not be more different. I know the moods you're talking about and even within those moods you'd reach out to someone if they were important. Doesn't have to be a full blown conversation but unless you're in a coma or dead or president of the galaxy so way too busy...you seriously wouldn't reach out to see what they are doing? I don't believe you. Unless it's bad timing aka the part about not being into dating atm.

I do the same thing you mentioned when weeks go by and even months with some friends. Someone I am into? No.

It's not even about the disappearance as much as it is about his reaction when she verbalized how it makes her feel. Which it was..let me disappear again. The way he handled that is more telling of his interest than his disappearing.

I agree with your last line, whatever we are discussing/debating.
I completely agree with you and also see Enoch's need to disconnect (not in relationships though).

What I'd really want to know more about is; what exactly did OP say to her Scorpio?

The only reason I insist is because there have been MANY occasions where I am having a convo with a Pisces and they have their complaints and say how they feel about a situation, and they make it sound as if everything was communicated. It only comes out when you dig and dig that they really didn't communicate anything clearly. They say it with behavior or hint around the subject or have a passive - aggressive approach.

I'm not saying that is what OP did... but she does leave a lot of details out and it just makes me wonder...

I appreciate all your answers, we haven´t had sex and when he stops talking to me I don´t chese him, I continue with doing my things but all of this makes me wonder what it´s wrong with him. About what I said to him, I texted him and directly ask him " What are you looking in me?. Cause you dessapear and I don´t know...if you want to be friends we can be but if you want smething else, I need to know, cause I don´t want to think this is something when it isn´t.

He talked to me last week and let me in seen again so I don´t know if ignored him when he look for me again or try to talk to him about what is happening with him or just answering him like nothing it´s wrong

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It´s difficult for a Pisces to be clear but this time I tried because this guy is what I want (when he is talking to me) that´s why I´m still holding into this but it hurts me the way he acts.

Also I don´t know if the fact that his ex girlfriend for 6 years who cheated on him is affecting the way he trust on girls? Or I don´t know, maybe I just making up excuses for him

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Depends on how young he is. In his 20's, 30's? Probably chance of other choices of females.

The disappearing 2 weeks might mean other female(s) he's pursuing.

Being a challenge, not available makes a Scorpio MORE interested in you.

They want MORE what they can't have.

The continuous need to recharge battery sounds like bullsh*t.

Exactly what is "draining" all his energy??? Hmmmm? Sex marathon???

Surely typing a text doesn't not drain energy that much and come on, he doesn't need a 2 week "recharge" if all he is doing is texting you.

Ignore HIM for 2 weeks!!! See how he likes it!
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I´m a pisces woman so I met an Scorpio guy and decided to exchange numbers and start talking. We have been doing this for 2-3 months and he ocasionally disappear for like 2 weeks, I was so confused at first and decided to let him know what I feel and he replied that he wanted something serious with me, and that I was so pretty and so worth it and blah blah blah; the second time he desappeared I confrnted him again and he answered pretty much the same, now I´m used to his desaperings but that doesn't mean that I'm ok with that because I still doesn´t know why he's desapearing.

Also he hadn't ask me out!!! Just once but when we were supossed to hang out he disappeared (again) I dind't push him because I dont want to look like a crazy bitch but I'm so confused and I don't know what to do because I like him a lot, he's single so that is not the problem

PScared Sorry for my spelling mistakes but english is not my language
If he's a relatively good looking Scorpio then he's talking to at least two other girls.

He's not disappearing

he's entertaining other women.

you're #3 in his queue.

He knows he can get away with not talking for various periods of time because you are clearly more into him.

Scorpios like challenges.

How old are you?



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Most of the Scorps I know will tell you when they need space and often why they need it...and will tell you when they'll be back around. None of this ghosting crap. If they do that, they don't care about you.
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