Posted by Arrius
My goodness, you do have a problem. Seriously. The pat answer when you are not being treated well is to swim away, but here you have gotten yourself involved with a Scorpio. Not so easy.
1. Scorps are manipulative, but so are we. I suspect that with Venus in Aries (and Cancer ascendant) you want to "lead" in the relationship and have him "follow." That's certainly not going to happen. Narcissistic? Hmmm. They're very self-absorbed. Usually not obnoxiously so, but it's there.
2. He's a man. He's a fixed sign. He's a Scorp.
3. Yes, and herein lies the problem. It's no excuse for his behavior, but because you are a Pisces I'm giving you the "slant eye," wondering what else is going on?
Posted by FrostAndBite
After all these years it still stupefies me when women come on here and list nothing but terrible qualities of a man and then ask for help in understanding them or affecting their behavior. Why do women waste time on dickbags?
Posted by Impulsv
Well u know the answer, walk away.
I've met men as u described in another sign
Posted by Rabbit
Should have led with the married part...
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by shortiiPosted by Impulsv
Well u know the answer, walk away.
I've met men as u described in another sign
Agreed. Im sure that it's not just this placement. But others too.
He has no Scorpio in his chart lolclick to expand
Posted by GetMistedPosted by shortiiPosted by Rabbit
Should have led with the married part...
correct , rabbit. I should have.
Didn't want that to skew the responses that I got.
That's exactly what leaving out information does.click to expand
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by shortiiPosted by ImpulsvPosted by shortiiPosted by Impulsv
Well u know the answer, walk away.
I've met men as u described in another sign
Agreed. Im sure that it's not just this placement. But others too.
He has no Scorpio in his chart lol
LOL
seriously, the other guy you know like this has no Scorp in his chart at all?
What is he? Lol what's in his chart? ???
Taurus
Cap moon
Venus Aries cancer Mars
Porn addition addiction as wellclick to expand
Posted by Wynter
I have two of those placements and I can relate with
1.
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sometimes
3.
Posted by FrostAndBite
After all these years it still stupefies me when women come on here and list nothing but terrible qualities of a man and then ask for help in understanding them or affecting their behavior. Why do women waste time on dickbags?
Posted by Nemilicious
it´s not fear - it´s pride. something you might want to read about.
Posted by busyeyes88Posted by ImpulsvPosted by shortiiPosted by ImpulsvPosted by shortiiPosted by Impulsv
Well u know the answer, walk away.
I've met men as u described in another sign
Agreed. Im sure that it's not just this placement. But others too.
He has no Scorpio in his chart lol
LOL
seriously, the other guy you know like this has no Scorp in his chart at all?
What is he? Lol what's in his chart? ???
Taurus
Cap moon
Venus Aries cancer Mars
Porn addition addiction as well
That sounds like taurus. Taurus love their porn.click to expand
Posted by Wynter
Stubborn pride.
Posted by TaniwhaPosted by shortii
And that is why he's lost me for good. Stubborn pride...can't see past self.
You'll be back, they always come back.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83
I know what it is.
Is he a mommy's boy?
Posted by Arielle83
I'm married to a scorp with Taurus rising and Venus scorp. He likes porn as well, but I prob watch just as much, if not more than him.
He's had his lazy moments and his self involved moments. I just see men as all being little boys and they expect wifey to think the moon shines out of their ass just like mommy did.
Posted by GetMistedPosted by shortiiPosted by Rabbit
Should have led with the married part...
correct , rabbit. I should have.
Didn't want that to skew the responses that I got.
That's exactly what leaving out information does.click to expand
Posted by shortii
@Arielle
Yes. He's been involved in porn since he was 14 or so. It's not the fact that he views it that bothers me. It's the reasons why.
Posted by LetltBPosted by shortii
@Arielle
Yes. He's been involved in porn since he was 14 or so. It's not the fact that he views it that bothers me. It's the reasons why.
....and YOU MARRIED HIM without bothering to find out why. Let's discuss that.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83
You don't learn all this shit on your wedding day.
It comes out months and years later when they know they've locked you down!!
Posted by shortiiPosted by LetltBPosted by shortii
@Arielle
Yes. He's been involved in porn since he was 14 or so. It's not the fact that he views it that bothers me. It's the reasons why.
....and YOU MARRIED HIM without bothering to find out why. Let's discuss that.
Hold on there.. Arielle is right. I wasn't aware of how deep his porn situation was until much later. MUCH MUCH later. Most of it was hidden away from me. Even after we were married. He didn't even give an honest reason for many years.click to expand
Posted by shortii
I usually just come across it doing things that I need to on our computer. And come across it. I think he leaves it discoverable to start a fight and then justify his reasons for going to it again.
Posted by Reincarnation
So am I the only Scorp man who dislikes pornography?
Posted by LetltBPosted by shortii
I usually just come across it doing things that I need to on our computer. And come across it. I think he leaves it discoverable to start a fight and then justify his reasons for going to it again.
Great...how many times have the kids "come across it"?click to expand
Posted by LetltBPosted by shortiiPosted by LetltBPosted by shortii
@Arielle
Yes. He's been involved in porn since he was 14 or so. It's not the fact that he views it that bothers me. It's the reasons why.
....and YOU MARRIED HIM without bothering to find out why. Let's discuss that.
Hold on there.. Arielle is right. I wasn't aware of how deep his porn situation was until much later. MUCH MUCH later. Most of it was hidden away from me. Even after we were married. He didn't even give an honest reason for many years.
So what are you saying? There are laws in your state that say you can't leave with the kids and divorce him? Or do you feel your kids seeing you miserable and being married to a pervert is the answer?click to expand
Posted by Arielle83
If he can't express his issues with mom, I'm guessing she's got a more dominant personality to him. Maybe she's emasculated him in some way. Maybe he needs to ascert his man hood by dominating you. Telling you what to do. Making you do the work. Slacking off makes him feel powerful because he's got other ppl running around for him. That's what these scorp boys want, some sort of power or feeling of being in control. If he's in shambles in his personal life and he can't control it, you'll be the one he tells what to do.
My husband has issues with his mom because she's a manipulator. I see it and ignore it but when she gives him shit he takes it out on me. The frustration is what he expresses. I just walk away and do my thing. 5 hours later he's all cool and respectful. You got to not give in no matter what the brat wants.
The porn thing is something that he's prob been into since he's 13 or whatever. He gets off on hiding it from you like he did with his mommy. That's part of the addiction. If you are more open about it and not look at it as disgusting and feral, he will be more open about it. He might feel shame about it and begin to resent you and then hide more.
You don't have to like it or watch it but he'll prob do it no matter what so better to just accept it cuz the more he hides this shit, the deeper it might go.
Posted by LetltB
Struck a cord with who? you? All I'm seeing here is you whining and playing victim. In fact you've displayed most of what your original post states with your responses. Especially the narcissistic part. One thing about narcissists...always the victim and looking for support. (supply)
You knock him down completely and suggest it's his birth chart, then his family. What aren't you sharing with us about you? What did you expect to gain from this thread other than sympathy I guess is my question.
Posted by shortii
And that is why he's lost me for good. Stubborn pride...can't see past self.
Posted by shortii
Lisa
It ok. Don't worry about it.
Thank you for your time.
Posted by shortii
And that is why he's lost me for good. Stubborn pride...can't see past self.