Scorpio Sun / Venus...getting over someone?

Posted by LuckyLibra979
Well, I have a Venus conj. Pluto in Scorpio. I used to make a SCENE boy that shit would get ugly. Over time, I evolved. If someone wants out, I let em go and it hurts deeply, resounding and painfully. But I shift my focus because I know my love for that person will linger for a while, but I just focus that much harder on a goal. I basically throw myself completely into something constructive. Doesn't matter what as long as its not self destructive (I've been that also)

Over time, those hurricane waters subside and when my eyes are clear again, the pain is gone plus I've made progress on a new life.



So I basically used to implode, explode, self destruct and start a new. When I matured, I still have that episode but I let it go, focus on something new and throw myself into it until the pain is gone or the new life takes over which ever happens first tho they usually happen simultaneously

Posted by LuckyLibra979
Honestly, it did. At 27 I woke up n realized what hand I played in NY own demise with love

Posted by FrostAndBite
I actually have probably been dumped more than I did the dumping. Lol. In all truthfulness I think that's the easier pill to swallow too.

I used to flip my shit when younger. Not let things go. Be crazy. I still have the ability too now, I guess, I just try to temper and avoid that side of myself.

Now I just draw a solid boundary, the most important one to any kind of relationship in my life. If someone blatantly doesn't want me in their life, then I give em what they want.

Losing people still hurts. I still will miss them. But I will be able to let go enough to move forward.

As far as what happens to my feelings for them, over time they often fade into harmless nostalgia. Once that happens I've normally come to terms with the realities of that relationship and what it brought to my life. That can take months sometimes years though.

It's easier now than it used to be. I used to believe every connection that felt magnificent was meant to be permanent. Now I take each connection worth only what it is in that moment and try not to tarnish magic with worry, anxiety and insecurity.

Oh and Scorp Sun, Merc, Venus and Pluto

Posted by AlaniaB
Maybe this was a dumb question as no one dumps a Scorpio. Lol

Posted by LuckyLibra979
Well, I have a Venus conj. Pluto in Scorpio. I used to make a SCENE boy that shit would get ugly. Over time, I evolved. If someone wants out, I let em go and it hurts deeply, resounding and painfully. But I shift my focus because I know my love for that person will linger for a while, but I just focus that much harder on a goal. I basically throw myself completely into something constructive. Doesn't matter what as long as its not self destructive (I've been that also)

Over time, those hurricane waters subside and when my eyes are clear again, the pain is gone plus I've made progress on a new life.



So I basically used to implode, explode, self destruct and start a new. When I matured, I still have that episode but I let it go, focus on something new and throw myself into it until the pain is gone or the new life takes over which ever happens first tho they usually happen simultaneously