
BigGirlPanties
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Posted by cheekyfaerie
My placements are transposed and... well, I'm female, but that first description is not so far off.
It's horrible for relationships. Prolly killed my marriage. My lack of the communication skills stems from my focus on the job at hand. I can struggle with the best of em. Very Scarlett O'Hara. I'm your man in a crisis cause I get the job done, but for better or worse, you'll never see me the same way again. And vice versa.


Posted by BigGirlPanties
And yes, I can see the losing respect for passive people who allow themselves to be manipulated or taken advantage of.
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You instinctively respond to challenges or stress by suppressing any emotions you have which might interfere with the job at hand, taking control of the situation in an unsentimental, no-nonsense sort of way. You may become super responsible or throw yourself into your work - anything to keep feelings of helplessness or other 'unacceptable' emotions at bay.
Early in life you learned through circumstances not to expect others to take care of you, to rely on yourself emotionally, stifle or neglect your own needs for care and comfort, in order to survive. As a result, you developed a certain toughness and a disinclination to trust, an underlying cynicism, which can interfere with your ability to establish emotional rapport and intimacy with people. You want proof of another's love or good will, some tangible evidence of their loyalty and commitment and you may 'test' your friends or lover over a long period of time before you surrender your defenses and allow yourself to be truly close to them. Or you may care very much but, because your emotional self-control is so deeply ingrained, and may be unable to communicate and express it openly, directly, warmly, with feeling. You may substitute symbols of (affection, gifts, or even money), for the real thing (being with the person, touching, listening, sharing your feelings.