Scorpio Woman on a 'break'

Hello people I've following this blog since I got involved with the girl I am with right now. I always thought I was gonna post here one day. I am a Taurus/Bull.

So my story with my lovely girlfriend has been going for far more than I year and recently we been getting in to a lot of arguments. Last one made us go in to a little break the one we are now.

Our relationship was going perfect till the point I started feeling a bit suffocated. We would spent from 200 days 180 of them together! She is a woman that has helped me a lot, but due to my life right sometimes I feel that I have to much to be focused on work, university, career and girlfriend. I think all that and my bad time management has been affecting our relationship. She feels that I haven't been that devoted to our world, that I am never there for her, and we should always be there for each other. Sometimes I feel that it is a bit much, she says thatI don't pay attention to little stuff she does, but I do, I'm just not a good person with words or give complements. I might say something is good, and someone say is super amazing, she will attack me for not Been the one saying it is amazing.

Indeed I think this whole situation started when I started getting more work in my career, and spending more time on my phone arranging meeting, reading emails, and not really paying attention to her, as probably I should have done but at the same time I am always with her, we basically live together.

I'm going through a period were I don't know what to focus on, and have things popping out all the time.

And recently we argued 2 days in the row, once because we were meant to go to a event were the tickets were sold out, and a couples of guys jumped the queue and I got so angry over it, and she said I embarrassed her, I shouldn't react that way, when the reason I got angry was because we had a big group and they tried to do that, to all of us. When the argument was done I asked her to join me in the queue she refused because she doesn't want to be associated with this type of things, I felt sad and hurt because I'd give myself for her at anytime and any situation, and she said she would never back me up, on this. I'm not a aggressive person till I get pushed or some one steps on my girlfriend I am very protective over my people that's why I reacted the way I did.

Next day she was supposed to go to the hospital, and I didn't go with her thanks to the lack of planning we had, and she threw all at me, for not been supports tive, that I am not there for her when she needs it, I am more to my work than to her, that I am always on my phone. And I speak to other girls but it doesn't go past bussiness talk, she sees me speaking to one specific girl and gets jealous over it.

I think I made her feel insecure, she said maybe if I'd lose her, he'd be less on my phone and appreciate her more, and it would be the best if we'd be on break and figure out were stand and see what's the best for u

And now I feel like I lost her, I was upset by her decision to go on break but now I understand and I figured out what I've done wrong and Im willing to change but now she wants to treat me like a dog, leave my stuff outside her door house. I told her I don't deserve that treatment no matter what happened. She wanted us to speak I said we should do it when we have something to speak about since her decision was to go on the break that would be right way in my opinion.

But now I just want to see her and hug her, and kiss her like. But at the same time I don't want rush things. I miss her a lot. But just fear not getting her back at all.

Posted by EnochtheWise
My Taurus bro's biggest problem is that he takes his women for granted. They treat him like a king and make their world about him, and he just kinda lounges and eats the grapes they dangle in his mouth. If she's putting in more effort than you, and you aren't at least SUPER appreciative in some way - verbally, sexually, doing special things from time to time for her that are ALL about her, to show her you care, she's going to feel unappreciated and overlooked.

I would say that you should take this time on break to think about how much you really care about her, and do something creative. Maybe write it out in a letter to her. Don't get caught up in the issues of who is right or wrong in the letter. With this pairing you will get nowhere with right/wrong. Just express the great things you see in her, and how appreciative you truly are for these things. Be specific. Talk about your vision for the future with her, and be apologetic for taking her for granted, talk about what you want to change in how you care for her. Maybe drop this off, no pressure or expectations, with an extravagant bouquet of flowers, or something she really loves - a type of baked food or chocolate that she really enjoys. If things work out, show your appreciation in some tangible way more often. Light some candles, pour her favorite drink, give her a massage, with her favorite relaxing music playing. Taurus is good with showing love through the senses, but you are too lazy and don't initiate it, because you think you don't have to. You need to set aside regular time to do things like this. You need to learn to express love in deed, and not just in how you feel about someone from the standpoint of loyalty, and always wanting them around in the background. Repeat this mantra throughout the day: "People are not furniture".

All the little fights that have been happening lately, jealousies, disagreements. They grow out of the background state of emotional discontent in the relationship. You have to get back to a place of emotional healing and stability, then the reactions to these smaller issues won't be so severe.

Best piece of advice! Definitely do that, I think I just got to comfortable in my position. And that made me treat her the way I did, unconsciously, but it is no excuse in my opinion, it's just something I should work on. Don't take her for granted and appreciate the fact that I have her right now, and show that I don't to lose her at anytime. Not only now that feel that actually I might lose what I've got

Posted by Impulsv
How do you show her u love her if u don't say it or complement ?
Just curious

I'll take her out, massage her, give her gifts. And she is the only woman I ever introduced to my family and me vice versa.

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Posted by Wagan
Best piece of advice! Definitely do that, I think I just got to comfortable in my position. And that made me treat her the way I did, unconsciously, but it is no excuse in my opinion, it's just something I should work on. Don't take her for granted and appreciate the fact that I have her right now, and show that I don't to lose her at anytime. Not only now that feel that actually I might lose what I've got

I feel like its easy, as a man, to feel like a woman does so much for you, how can you keep up? Worst thing you can do is give up though, or start to just think of it as the norm. In that case, I try to make it about quality over quantity. I may not be able to do AS much, but I can really learn what makes her tick, and take that time to really make things special and focused on her. I've learned that massage and long sessions of oral sex goes a long way.

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Given up, was never my option. It took me so long to get her, it would feel stupid to give up now. I'm glad that she can't complain that much about oral sex and massage I love giving to her. 😋

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Posted by Wagan

Posted by EnochtheWise
My Taurus bro's biggest problem is that he takes his women for granted. They treat him like a king and make their world about him, and he just kinda lounges and eats the grapes they dangle in his mouth. If she's putting in more effort than you, and you aren't at least SUPER appreciative in some way - verbally, sexually, doing special things from time to time for her that are ALL about her, to show her you care, she's going to feel unappreciated and overlooked.

I would say that you should take this time on break to think about how much you really care about her, and do something creative. Maybe write it out in a letter to her. Don't get caught up in the issues of who is right or wrong in the letter. With this pairing you will get nowhere with right/wrong. Just express the great things you see in her, and how appreciative you truly are for these things. Be specific. Talk about your vision for the future with her, and be apologetic for taking her for granted, talk about what you want to change in how you care for her. Maybe drop this off, no pressure or expectations, with an extravagant bouquet of flowers, or something she really loves - a type of baked food or chocolate that she really enjoys. If things work out, show your appreciation in some tangible way more often. Light some candles, pour her favorite drink, give her a massage, with her favorite relaxing music playing. Taurus is good with showing love through the senses, but you are too lazy and don't initiate it, because you think you don't have to. You need to set aside regular time to do things like this. You need to learn to express love in deed, and not just in how you feel about someone from the standpoint of loyalty, and always wanting them around in the background. Repeat this mantra throughout the day: "People are not furniture".

All the little fights that have been happening lately, jealousies, disagreements. They grow out of the background state of emotional discontent in the relationship. You have to get back to a place of emotional healing and stability, then the reactions to these smaller issues won't be so severe.

Best piece of advice! Definitely do that, I think I just got to comfortable in my position. And that made me treat her the way I did, unconsciously, but it is no excuse in my opinion, it's just something I should work on. Don't take her for granted and appreciate the fact that I have her right now, and show that I don't to lose her at anytime. Not only now that feel that actually I might lose what I've got

That's nice that you decided to do that. She will be very happy 🙂

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Ill give a couple

Posted by EnochtheWise
One thing I think you have to realize with most Scorpios is we don't want a mediocre romance. Speaking for myself, if I'm in a serious relationship and its supposed to be love, I want to feel like that love is real, and it is paramount. As much as I am into you, if I get wind of you being more into your job than you are into me? I will lose interest so fast. Now I won't just get a hint of that, or a feeling of that. I'll give you every chance to show me that's not the case....but....

It can be shocking how into you, dedicated to you, and about you I can be, and then how instantly cold, uninterested, and over you I can be, if I feel like I am second place in your life. That's not so much about me even being needy of self-centered, but more about the importance of what we're doing building a relationship together, my very idea of what love between two people should be, and the direction we're going in. If its hard to preserve the passion, as you go on, 20 or 30 years into marriage, and you're showing me that you're not that passionate about me, only a few years on? I'm going to cut out now and spare us both the misery.

My relationship has had periods, but it comes from both parties that we have to deal with so much work that we won't really interact with eachother, or in the best case scenario we will just do work together. As She does graphic design and I am videographer/photographer sometimes we end up working as a team, asking tips to one or the others.

I crave the bond That we have, never had a relationship like this, girlfriend and best friend,

Sometimes I just get to much work and my time management gets to me, and all ends up on her, suffering. But she knows that it is important for me as most of the money I make its from my career. That's how I pay my rent, that's how I can afford to go out. But sometimes I need to invest in my job, to earn more money and I stay with 0 pennies. At the same time We were brought up differently to the world of money, and career. In order for us to be able to get where we both want, to have a family, travel the world, I need to work and get the stability to be able to have that and do that as well.

Posted by Infinite8
@Wagan - sorry I didn't understand your comment.

Sorry I meant I'll give it a couple more days, let the water settle and slow talking and I'll do what I have to. When she less expect it to happen

Posted by EnochtheWise

Posted by Wagan

Posted by EnochtheWise
One thing I think you have to realize with most Scorpios is we don't want a mediocre romance. Speaking for myself, if I'm in a serious relationship and its supposed to be love, I want to feel like that love is real, and it is paramount. As much as I am into you, if I get wind of you being more into your job than you are into me? I will lose interest so fast. Now I won't just get a hint of that, or a feeling of that. I'll give you every chance to show me that's not the case....but....

It can be shocking how into you, dedicated to you, and about you I can be, and then how instantly cold, uninterested, and over you I can be, if I feel like I am second place in your life. That's not so much about me even being needy of self-centered, but more about the importance of what we're doing building a relationship together, my very idea of what love between two people should be, and the direction we're going in. If its hard to preserve the passion, as you go on, 20 or 30 years into marriage, and you're showing me that you're not that passionate about me, only a few years on? I'm going to cut out now and spare us both the misery.

My relationship has had periods, but it comes from both parties that we have to deal with so much work that we won't really interact with eachother, or in the best case scenario we will just do work together. As She does graphic design and I am videographer/photographer sometimes we end up working as a team, asking tips to one or the others.

I crave the bond That we have, never had a relationship like this, girlfriend and best friend,

Sometimes I just get to much work and my time management gets to me, and all ends up on her, suffering. But she knows that it is important for me as most of the money I make its from my career. That's how I pay my rent, that's how I can afford to go out. But sometimes I need to invest in my job, to earn more money and I stay with 0 pennies. At the same time We were brought up differently to the world of money, and career. In order for us to be able to get where we both want, to have a family, travel the world, I need to work and get the stability to be able to have that and do that as well.

Sounds like a really cool relationship actually. Just don't screw it up by being too one-track with the work/money. You'll be fine. Taurus/Scorpio is supposed to be a power couple, and with the way you two can support each other and play off each other creatively, the success will come. Just make sure the relationship is solid at the foundation.

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Really appreciate your words, they been saved and graved. It takes time fo

Posted by tiziani
I just think respect factors far more into passion. And if you cannot respect yourself or the look of yourself inside a relationship anymore then that is far more fatal than just agreeing to continue on with repeat arguments.

Also if you base your actions on just "the fear of losing her" you will never be acting from a place of passion, but fear. And it's insincere.

Scorpios do not want to go out with a coward. Treat her right by all means, but no - the fact she said "I feel you would act better if you saw that you could lose me" is not something you want to encourage, either of you. Eventually she will pull that threat on the wrong week and she will just become opportunistic in your weak moments. I had a very similar experience with opposite Taurus just recently. I invested everything I had to give, so did she - maybe even more than I so I've nothing bad to say about it but just how it is - you give absolutely all of your thought and time that you can give and then you go through a week where you've got family pressures, health pressures, working to cover everything and the only little piece of free time you get to yourself - she decides now you can't have your time alone either because she wants that too. She wants it on her terms, or else. She tells you "if you can't give me this, we go our separate ways". That's when you will really lose some respect for yourself because you should have never let it get that far with each other.

There are a lot of points in your story where you have to have the awareness to raise the boundaries, say "this is the line". Explain your motivations and that your intent is that you do want to be together above all else - if you don't or your intentions are different then be honest and call it quits. But don't put up with the idea that you have to keep a relationship out of fear. That's bs and toxic. It will just turn the biggest strengths of your relationship against you.

You should be able to have enough respect for each other to give it time and make real changes that put an end to the repeat arguments, otherwise you'll spoil each other and you won't learn how to communicate - which is the biggest ingredient to passion long-term in my honest (but limited) experience so far.

I get what you mean.

We both had chats about the fact that we still need to have our own personal lifes even doe with spent most of our free time together. We should be able to see our friends and engage with other people. Me myself I like to have my freedom even when I am in a relationship(this is my third), be able to watch my football in peace. Or see a couple of mates for drinks. But in the end, the relationship was going in to a path, if I tried to spend time alone, or with someone, I would need to explain why I wanted to. I just never wanted her to be so controlli

Posted by tiziani
I just think respect factors far more into passion. And if you cannot respect yourself or the look of yourself inside a relationship anymore then that is far more fatal than just agreeing to continue on with repeat arguments.

Also if you base your actions on just "the fear of losing her" you will never be acting from a place of passion, but fear. And it's insincere.

Scorpios do not want to go out with a coward. Treat her right by all means, but no - the fact she said "I feel you would act better if you saw that you could lose me" is not something you want to encourage, either of you. Eventually she will pull that threat on the wrong week and she will just become opportunistic in your weak moments. I had a very similar experience with opposite Taurus just recently. I invested everything I had to give, so did she - maybe even more than I so I've nothing bad to say about it but just how it is - you give absolutely all of your thought and time that you can give and then you go through a week where you've got family pressures, health pressures, working to cover everything and the only little piece of free time you get to yourself - she decides now you can't have your time alone either because she wants that too. She wants it on her terms, or else. She tells you "if you can't give me this, we go our separate ways". That's when you will really lose some respect for yourself because you should have never let it get that far with each other.

There are a lot of points in your story where you have to have the awareness to raise the boundaries, say "this is the line". Explain your motivations and that your intent is that you do want to be together above all else - if you don't or your intentions are different then be honest and call it quits. But don't put up with the idea that you have to keep a relationship out of fear. That's bs and toxic. It will just turn the biggest strengths of your relationship against you.

You should be able to have enough respect for each other to give it time and make real changes that put an end to the repeat arguments, otherwise you'll spoil each other and you won't learn how to communicate - which is the biggest ingredient to passion long-term in my honest (but limited) experience so far.

I get what you mean.

We both had chats about the fact that we still need to have our own personal lifes even doe with spent most of our free time together. We should be able to see our friends and engage with other people. Me myself I like to have my freedom even when I am in a relationship(this is my third), be able to watch my football in peace. Or see a couple of mates for drinks. But in the end, the relationship was going in to a path, if I tried to spend time alone, or with someone, I would need to explain why I wanted to. I just never wanted her to be so controlli

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Posted by Impulsv
Yeah but u forget
He was not there for her at the hospital
That is a big deal given I e experienced it
So I can see why her ultimatum

I totally agree with this.

@OP No one goes to the hospital for anything minor. Whether or not she forewarned you that she was going to be at the hospital doesn't (in my opinion) excuse you from not being at her side.

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I said I was gonna come. She told the time the appointment was. But before that she had to go somewhere else early in the morning. We never spoke about ok where should We meet?Or what time she would be done in the morning with her stuff for us to meet. Fact I've never been to that hospital neither know its location.

I was awake straight after she left in the morning, I texted her couple of hours after asking where was she, she said she was already in the hospital 40min before the appointment. And she got angry, I could have gone to the hospital still had time, but she was pissed. I told her we lacked communication because I'm not meant figure out stuff. And I blame me for not been there. But it could have been solved in a easy way without arguing.

I hope it's not too late. Being a Scorpio myself. I don't go back an ex. I just hate this. But This is how my mind works.

Maybe due to sag rising but not all scorpio. I dont know. When a Scorpio call it quits that is really serious.