Scorpio woman situation - what could you advice me to do?

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by GeorgeNikolov on Monday, September 28, 2015 and has 11 replies.
Hello all! It is nice to find a forum like this, where I can ask for advice. The story is long, but I will try to make it shorter.

I am a pisces man and I have known this Scorpio woman for almost 2 years. She has a boyfriend and we are living in different cities, but through time we found that we really love to communicate with each other. So we were talking on a daily basis, sharing, almost constantly. Last week I said to her that I have feelings for her, basically I poured my heart out and it's not like she didn't know it already. Anyway, she said that she feels the same way and it has been like this since the beginning. She said that she have never felt so drawn to anyone else, she was thinking about me a lot, she was feeling bad when we were not able to talk and she found in me a soul mate. Everything sounds perfect, but then she started acting a little bitchy, I told her that there is no reason for that attitude and she said that she was doing it for herself, not for me. And that is how the conversation ended.

Now it's been almost a week since we have talked for the last time. She didn't call, text or anything. She has been posting a lot of things on Facebook - songs, some pictures (well, she was doing it before, but now it is even more). I said to myself - ok, there is nothing I can do now, lets give her space, may be she needs to think through all of this.

What could be behind her silence? She told me that when she was feeling this deep attraction for me previously, she decided to stop talking to me, so that the feeling would subside.

What could you advice me to do?
I am in a similar situation as you. I am a Libra guy and my female friend is an Scorpio. I find her personality and physically very attractive, and I met her as her customer in the department store she works at. I decided to ask her cell phone number, and was very nervous as I really want to meet her and go out on dates with her and looking for a long term relationship with her. To my suprise, she gave it to me and this is the first time I ask a random girl for her cell number. That night, we talked on Whatsapp and she told me she has a boyfriend. I felt disappointed but still want to chat with her at least as friends.

We have been talking for the past four months, and she is confusing. We have gone out together w/o her boyfriend, and once she lied to her boyfriend she was at work but she was with me eating out. She tells me her bf knows about me yet she does not want me to see me talking to her at work as her boss knows her boyfriend and could tell her. This sounds too complicated. She then told me it is our secret that we are talking and going out together. Personally, I do not want to be seen as that as either she choses him or she breaks up with him and chooses me.

Sometimes she is flirtatious with me like winking at me discreetly at work, telling me I am different from most men she has met (including her boyfriend), the reason she gave me her phone number to me was because I do not look like a womanizer which I am not, and in Whatsapp, she told me I am handsome and cool and we look good together. But at the same time, she loves her boyfriend. So she is a big contradiction.

So I feel you, mate. I personally want to be this Scorpio girl´s boyfriend and I already expressed my intentions at first of why I asked her phone number and she told me she could tell I am attracted to her.

Someone who is Scorpio woman might help here the best to your issue.

Cheers
I agree. She is being shady and I am starting to feel uncomfortable around her. I do not want to be seen as her sex toy as I had been always gentleman with her and a good friend most importantly.

So what you think she might see me as if it is not a friend?

Luckily, I have not kissed her or even less had sex with her as I do not want problems with her boyfriend not to mention it is against my morality. If she was single, yes, I would have kissed her passionately, but reality is different.
Infinite, now that you are pointing this about me making the first move , I remember she told me once I should be more extroverted with girls as one time I went to the department store and apparently some girls were near me, she asked me jockingly if I was looking at other women. I told her no which was the truth as I was looking for a new pair of sunglasses.

Anyway, I asked her why she wants me to be extroverted, and she told me that she likes guys who are flirty, daring, fun. I took that as an indirect way of telling me she wants me to be like this towards her, but I told her how can I be like this towards her if she has a boyfriend, it will be low of me to do that. She just nodded.

I am starting to suspect this girl is confused and deep inside, she is attracted to me, but the way she is doing it is completely wrong.

I see you are Scorpio sun Libra Ascendant. I am Libra Sun and have Scorpio Ascendant Big Grin
You have complete opposite to me. I have Scorpio venus and pluto. Scorpio is my dominant sign in my natal chart, second is Capricorn and third is Libra smile

How am I being dominated a bit? I do not think so as I have not kissed her or nothing like that. I will never do it no matter if I am very attracted to her as she already has a boyfriend. I am nice and honourable, but definitely not a doormat as I can have quite a strong temper if needed and can be prideful. Not to mention my Libra Sun and Libra Mars conjunct, which as you know, gives us Aries-like qualities.

I already did. I told her that if she becomes single again and I am also single, I want a long term romantic relationship with her as I was honest with her that I am very attracted to her. I was clear that I do not date women who are taken or married. She did not said nothing. I told her I deeply care about her, and s when you really like someone, you have to do the correct thing to do even if it hurts your heart inside. She agreed to what I said.

I thought Scorpio women are faithful women. But I see that this Scorpio girl specifically speaking, she is not. They say Libras are womanizers, but I am not and I have not flirted with her at all and tend to be more introverted and serious.

Posted by GeorgeNikolov

What could you advice me to do?

Find someone who is SINGLE and leave this guy's woman alone!!
Thank you all for the replies!

MlleFisk, I am 25, she is 24.

Infinite8, since we know each other for almost 2 years, I can say that we have developed a really good rhythm of communication between each other. Last month I started going out with one girl, we hooked up, there is really nothing serious, and that is when she got jealous (it was clear and she also said it afterwards). Then she was kind of pushing me to talk more personally and the conversations got a little more intense.. In the end I decided to say all these things to her. About her boyfriend - she told me recently that sometimes she feels like he forgets about their relationship. They have been together for 3 years and they are still not living together. Anyway, I am a person who doesn't like to touch other men's women.

Meanwhile, in the end we talked on the phone yesterday, it was a mature conversation. We agreed that we have a mutual attraction, but the situation is what it is. We will continue to communicate like before. We also agreed that we will meet when we are suppose to meet and if something has to happen - it will happen. So basically, we will see what will come out of all of this.
einrickpisces, I found out about the boyfriend 2-3 months after we started talking. There were no signs about that - no relationship status on Facebook, no visible pictures, not to mention her attitude. Then I felt stupid, kind of stopped talking so much, but we never lost touch. We knew what was happening with one another, sharing, being there for each other...
It is funny indeed we have opposites. Even in ascendants we are opposite as I have Scorpio ascendant and you have Libra ascendantLaughing Tongue

Yes, I am attracted to her, I am not going to deny it. However, she noticed I am very good at controlling my desires and not have kissed her, even less had sex with her and it seems to me that either confuses her or wants to continue until she gets a kiss from me, as most men would have fall easily as indeed she is a beautiful girl.

LOL, what you mean by not evolved?

She definitely is confusing. My friends think that yes, she is attracted to me as she told me this once that she finds me handsome and got a compliment from her two weeks ago as saying that I look thinner and good (in reality, I am still same weight as I weigh myself everyday). But at the same time, my friends think she is confused and she does not know who to choose if her current man or me, and is doing this mess not to mention she is quite mysterious in her behaviour. They do suggested me to have a serious talk with her. I am planning to do this as I do not want to be seen as her sex toy or something like that as I genuinely like the girl for who she is as a person, not just physically.

Personally, I am very attracted to Scorpio, Virgo, and Taurus women and the attraction towards me from women of these signs is also mutual in my experience.
I'm sitting here wondering where the banshees that beat up women for being with a taken man are...I mean, these were posted five days ago...plenty of time for the gang of women who are usually on here beating folks up to come in here and beat the shit out of y'all too.

I'm not saying that's what SHOULD be done, but I'm tired of people acting like I'm tripping because they do that shit to women who are having relationship issues. Bunch of titty socking Bitter Betty's. I'm FOR REAL. smh

I'm really tired of what whack ass group of women doing that shit...particularly to other women. Sorry.
Posted by exxtasyx
I feel like if these girls are talking to you guys while being in relationships, they will do the same to you once (or if) you guys ever get in a relationship.

I agree as there is a high possibility