Scorpio Women

How normal is it for Scorpio women to spend every waking moment with someone they’re.... dating, but simultaneously be interested in their ex? (Almost positive shes still in love with him but she refuses to admit it). Her and her ex have made me uncomfortable enough to want to walk away from the situation, but I’m afraid of walking away and possibly hurting her feelings and/or being wrong about her and her ex.

Did she jump in quick before letting go of the last bloke?

Posted by MareInfame

Posted by Capwiththean

How normal is it for Scorpio women to spend every waking moment with someone they’re.... dating, but simultaneously be interested in their ex? (Almost positive shes still in love with him but she refuses to admit it). Her and her ex have made me uncomfortable enough to want to walk away from the situation, but I’m afraid of walking away and possibly hurting her feelings and/or being wrong about her and her ex.

Can’t speak for all Scorpios - but I’ve never done that and most Scorpio women I know would also rather be alone than in a relationship to numb any type of pain; Not so needy of being in a relationship.

As far as you and your Scorpio - you have nothing if you don’t have trust. If something bothers you, you should talk to her about it. If there is a behavioral pattern she has that makes you feel insecure, talking to her rather than assuming the worst and leaving is the mature route... and speaks volumes of YOUR character.

It’s up to you how you want to handle that...

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100% accurate. 🦂🤗

Sounds like you are already looking for an out...

Most people still have love for their ex's. Even if things end badly or you know their not the right one for you, hard to spend time and energy on someone and not care about them. But don't get it twisted, having love for someone =/= being in love with them. She's giving you all her time... thats a good start.

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Posted by sagaciouscorp

Mmmm what are the red flags you are seeing?

@capwiththean

Is she communicating a lot with ex

Does she talk about the ex a lot

Do you see her eyes longing for ex

What is it that gives u this sense that something is going on

Yeah, we need more details. Is there true reason to believe she’s still in love with her ex or are you just being a typical cynical cap? Lol 🤨

Usually scorpios are pretty forthright if we still have feelings for an ex. And if she’s spending every waking moment with you and not with him, I’m going to assume you are wrong about her. Because I bet money if she wanted to be with him, she could and would be.

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So when her and I first started.... talking, I was doing everything I could to show her I liked her and that I was pursuing her. She made me chase her for a few months before finally starting to see some results, but once we started gettin somewhere, she makes it known she has this ex in the picture... and that it’s a pretty complicated situation. From what I’ve gathered they’ve been together on and off for many years, she’s ready to settle down, marriage, kids, etc, in the near future, she wanted it to be with him but she knows she can’t trust him, and he stays in a different city, and he seems to pick and choose when he wants to put forth the effort to make it work and when he doesn’t. He’s seeing other people, and from my perspective just kinda stringing her along until HE decides he’s ready to settle down. So my problem is that she kinda concerns herself too much with him. Whether it’s stories about him, her comparing me to him, him coming to town and her inviting him to a party she was having (yes I was invited too and no I did not attend) we’ve just had more conversations and arguments about this guy than I feel we should have to if we’re building something. I’ve went as far as to try to cut this situation off because I just didn’t wanna risk goin any further with someone so entangled with someone else, but in response she pops up at my house unannounced to smooth things over, or blows up my phone until I answer. So I’m left feeling confused a lot of days because we’re basically inseparable, we’re getting to the point where we’re meeting each other’s friends and families, but I guess it concerns me that she still loves him so much, and I don’t feel so confident in the fact that if he came back to town and seriously pursued her, that she wouldn’t go back.



NOW, we did have a convo this morning that was a pretty big deal, I feel like she addressed every concern I’ve had the last couple months and painted a pretty clear picture of how she feels (which I don’t feel like she does very often) she told me for the first time “I really like you” and that she understands my concerns, but she assured me she’s not in the business of leading people on, she’d stay single before using someone to pass time or using someone to get over someone else. She said he does know about me, and that he’s been trying to pursue her and make things right with her, but she really likes what the two of us have going, she wants to see what life has to offer with me and she will not hurt me. But she ended it saying I have to trust her and I ended it saying ehhhhh.... as trusting isn’t my strong suit. But it’s the first time she’s opened up to me this way, and I needed that assurance so I’m gonna put my best foot forward in trusting her. She also agreed to stop bringing him up so much, sometimes she does it as a joke just to kinda see me get all disgruntled but I keep tellin her it’s really not cute or funny, so she says she’s gonna change that, we will see.

Why would you trust someone who is clearly obsessed with another man?

She is most likely using you, to get what she wants from that man. She even arranged for him to meet you..... Don't you have friends who confessed that they decided to live with their girlfriends, because another guy came strongly into the picture....?

She asked for trust....you should reply "I trust you with everything but this man". Ask her to choose between you and your rival, right here, right now. If she chooses you, she should go "no contact" with the other man.