Scorpio women, am I pretty much screwed?

So I cancer'd my scorpio gf to hell. Showed too much affection did too many nice things to early. We were sleeping together (not sexual only but actually spending the night cuddling) after 3 weeks of dating and it only lasted about 2 months. I did what cancers do best and showed insane amounts of affection, way too much and she broke it off saying she could see dating me in the short term but not in the long term. I am stupid enough to still have hope.

Normally with scorpios its, we are broken up get out of here. But she says she cares about me and feels connected to me in a way she can't just say goodbye and wants to be friends and still have me in her life, just not as a boyfriend. That is a pretty good sign right? I'm wondering if now that there is no pressure of a label of being a girlfriend or us dating, if I just keep things casual but still be the usual sweet and caring cancer, will the feelings eventually come and she will think maybe this guy is something I can be more with. Or will she only think, hey this feels good but if I let anything happen I'm gonna get smothered again. I know you socrps are very stubborn and once you think something that is it, just wondering if the fact that she is keeping me around at all is a good sign of hope.

To be honest, and this is just my opinion, but it's over.

I had an ex girlfriend who was a cancer and did the exact same thing you're describing. I left and didn't look back (for some other reasons as well). I still wanted to be friends though because I liked her a lot, but her feelings got in the way. She still had that 'hope' you seem to have, so I ended up cutting contact. Still miss her as a friend.

Find someone who will appreciate your smothering 🙂

I know scorpios are pretty set in their ways, when they decide something they decide it. The way I see it she made a very valid point, we both made a pretty big impact in each others lives for the better, I just wasn't right for her. I have to agree with her I don't want to do something to make myself happy that will make someone else uncomfy. I'll always have a thing for her, she was hot, fun and genuinely caring. We both agreed that saying good-bye completely is a pretty bad call since we both do miss each other, just not on a totally romantic level, kind of on a level where we knew things felt good but not perfect. So I am going to cautiously be her friend, not all cancers are crazy and manipulators. I know a good person when I see one and I can't have enough of those in my life, I know I don't have a second chance with her on both ends. She kinda shelled me up hard so I won't be able to let her get close to me, dunno if that will affect the friendship but I'm not worried about either of us catching feelings I know I won't let myself 😛. Sorry you guys have had bad luck with cancers I have to agree a lot of them will have a back up plan but when we get shelled up all plans kind of go out the window 😛.

thanks lovelyscorp 🙂. Ya came on a bit too strong cause she was a very exciting, energizing person and I let that affect me too much. Oh well that's life 🙂. And get out there and hang out with a cancer we are a ton of fun and really easy to get along with, just make sure to give him/her a little bop on the head if they get carried away 😛

I'd just like to make a point that I knwo where you're coming from aujra. While I'm not a scorpio (I do have my moon in scorpio), I understand that sort of feeling where, while you want to let go romantically, you don't want to let go of the person because they generally bring joy to your life in some way. This is how I feel about the cancer I was seeing. I'm ready to let go of him romantically (for practical reasons, not because I no longer like him), but I can't let go of him altogether. I like him too much as a person to have him walk out of my life.

While I understand that you have some hope, I still say go for the friendship, especially if you feel that you can do it and she is that important to you. While relationships dissolve, people can still come out being great friends. However, if things do heat up, you have to be careful. Getting involved with her intimately with no ties can only bring more heartache. So do watch yourself. And all the best of luck to you. 🙂

Thanks for all of the positive input. I'm a little wary of her catching feels though since lately she has been up and down lately, she's been acting like a damn cancer. It's probably cause she is always concerned about what people think about her ect, but if I do feel she is catch feelings I'll just have to explain to her that I won't be able to let her in like she wants just like she has been telling me or at least was telling me that I couldn't get in with her.