Scorpio women & emotional connection.
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by truthseeker_10 on Monday, December 21, 2009 and has 4 replies.
Just surfing through the web...came to find this place and wanted to ask a simple yet important question...
How can someone build/create more emotional connection with a scorpio woman without disclosing too much of oneself?
Background:
I've been seeing/dating this scorpio lady for over a month now. We felt this magnetism and drawing from day one that we just couldn't resist. I'm a Virgo, she is the one in tune with all these astrological things, me, not so much, but willing to learn.
We have kept things light and simple, inspite of the strong passion we feel, this is something new for me since I have never dated someone who ignited that in me this fast and in this way (so intense). She says she respects me a lot and I feel the same way. We decided to wait instead of rushing in the physical dept. (inspite of the high levels of attraction!) and so far I've been holding still and am willing to work things out the best way possible. The truth is, I want that level intimacy very much...and with her, but I also need to feel safe and secure before that...so I go back and forth with the thoughts of what I should do and when.
One thing she did mentioned that left me perplexed is that...she believes one day we will share all that we want...but that she needs to have more emotional connection...and I have yet to understand what she could have meant by that...
We can talk for hours, have spent lots of time together, and I've slowly shared more of who I am with her. It just takes time with me and also I just don't like disclosing all things, plus I found out recently that it is not good to open up too much or completely with scorpios you like because then you lose that sense of mystery...is that true?
If that is true, then how can I connect with her more in the emotional area without disclosing too much of me? The goal is to connect...not to ever lose each other...so now I'm perplexed and also unsure as to what to do and how to do it.
Any help would be greatly appreciated!I really like this girl.
How can someone build/create more emotional connection with a scorpio woman without disclosing too much of oneself?
Background:
I've been seeing/dating this scorpio lady for over a month now. We felt this magnetism and drawing from day one that we just couldn't resist. I'm a Virgo, she is the one in tune with all these astrological things, me, not so much, but willing to learn.
We have kept things light and simple, inspite of the strong passion we feel, this is something new for me since I have never dated someone who ignited that in me this fast and in this way (so intense). She says she respects me a lot and I feel the same way. We decided to wait instead of rushing in the physical dept. (inspite of the high levels of attraction!) and so far I've been holding still and am willing to work things out the best way possible. The truth is, I want that level intimacy very much...and with her, but I also need to feel safe and secure before that...so I go back and forth with the thoughts of what I should do and when.
One thing she did mentioned that left me perplexed is that...she believes one day we will share all that we want...but that she needs to have more emotional connection...and I have yet to understand what she could have meant by that...
We can talk for hours, have spent lots of time together, and I've slowly shared more of who I am with her. It just takes time with me and also I just don't like disclosing all things, plus I found out recently that it is not good to open up too much or completely with scorpios you like because then you lose that sense of mystery...is that true?
If that is true, then how can I connect with her more in the emotional area without disclosing too much of me? The goal is to connect...not to ever lose each other...so now I'm perplexed and also unsure as to what to do and how to do it.
Any help would be greatly appreciated!I really like this girl.
Very well said eden!!!!!
Eden, Scorpio_chic, Let it Be, Scorpion_lady...
Thank you for all the inputs!
Eden,
One quick question...when you recommend that I should make sure she knows I desire her even though we are taking things slow...do you mean, like notes that I miss her and things like that....or rather pushing a bit further into naughtyness?
I think she knows that I like her...I just go back and forth with my thoughts about my behavior because I have been rather intense with her lately but I respect her...I want her to know that I want her and yet that I respect her...
Also, when you said that you appreciate silence....you mean moments when you just lay with this person and not talk for a while yet feel connected? I have yet to try that since we are both talkers thanks for all your help this far!
Scorpio_chic,
I think you are right...I need to slow down in the feelings department or at least show it a bit less. I think i have expressed both verbally and through actions how much I like her...so I will leave things there and take things back a bit (slow down) so that she doesn't feel overwhelmed. She says things that blow my mind sometimes (thinks she wants to share with me) but then she makes comments about how she wants something different this time...who knows.
What brings a sense of familiarity/home in you? Is it spending time and talking only? Eden said that you guys do value someone who is honest and who does open up, but at the same time you mentioned how someone shouldn't give too much too soon...I think that is what is hard...because I am not sure what 'too much' is for an scorpio...when it comes to 'giving' something...any examples?
I, as a Virgo, take my time...especially in the emotional and physical area....but when I like someone the way I do like her then it changes. She instigateS me to move a bit faster YET acts like she wants things to go slower when the time arrives ah, it leaves me a bit confused.
I will try to slow down my intensity (so new to me) and take slow steps with her....and she how she reacts
It is an exciting yet complex time....
Letitbe,
Are you scorpio too? I will repost this on the virgo side, as you and others suggested. I can't wait to hear the story of that guy and his adventures with his scorpio lady..and new twins! Thank you.
Thank you for all the inputs!
Eden,
One quick question...when you recommend that I should make sure she knows I desire her even though we are taking things slow...do you mean, like notes that I miss her and things like that....or rather pushing a bit further into naughtyness?
I think she knows that I like her...I just go back and forth with my thoughts about my behavior because I have been rather intense with her lately but I respect her...I want her to know that I want her and yet that I respect her...Also, when you said that you appreciate silence....you mean moments when you just lay with this person and not talk for a while yet feel connected? I have yet to try that since we are both talkers
thanks for all your help this far!Scorpio_chic,
I think you are right...I need to slow down in the feelings department or at least show it a bit less. I think i have expressed both verbally and through actions how much I like her...so I will leave things there and take things back a bit (slow down) so that she doesn't feel overwhelmed. She says things that blow my mind sometimes (thinks she wants to share with me) but then she makes comments about how she wants something different this time...who knows.
What brings a sense of familiarity/home in you? Is it spending time and talking only? Eden said that you guys do value someone who is honest and who does open up, but at the same time you mentioned how someone shouldn't give too much too soon...I think that is what is hard...because I am not sure what 'too much' is for an scorpio...when it comes to 'giving' something...any examples?
I, as a Virgo, take my time...especially in the emotional and physical area....but when I like someone the way I do like her then it changes. She instigateS me to move a bit faster YET acts like she wants things to go slower when the time arrives ah, it leaves me a bit confused.
I will try to slow down my intensity (so new to me) and take slow steps with her....and she how she reacts
It is an exciting yet complex time....
Letitbe,
Are you scorpio too? I will repost this on the virgo side, as you and others suggested. I can't wait to hear the story of that guy and his adventures with his scorpio lady..and new twins!
Thank you.
She sounds too demanding. Like, emotions? What are they good for? That's right.
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