Scorpios and casual sex

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Queenscorpio on Tuesday, November 13, 2007 and has 49 replies.
Which is more likely not to get attached during casual sex? Scorp male or female?
I vote scorp female. Males can get waaaayyyy attached, possessive and emotiional waaaayyyyy tooo soon.

Others?
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Females attach easier than the males .. however, since I'm not Scorpio, I have to take an observers angle.
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"Males can get waaaayyyy attached, possessive and emotiional waaaayyyyy tooo soon."
never known a guy to do any of the above becuase of sex.
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As usual, circumstances dictate everything.
If a casual hookup is with 1) a super-hot chick, or 2) someone the dude has been jonesing about for awhile, or 3) requires some serious effort to get, it's going to be tough on him to let go.
If it's with 1) a troll, 2) something he has low interest in, or 3) someone who just rolled onto his lap, it's going to be easy to let go.
QueenSco, your observation isn't really about Scorpios. It's about the male-female dynamic. If you wanted some tonight, you could easily get it. If a hetero man wanted some tonight, he'd have to either pay or wait. Given that, it's easier to be detached towards sex whenever suitable.
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Very good points, SR ..
From the female perspective, since she only has to click her fingers, it would appear as though men attach easier, since it is harder for him to get laid than a woman.
I'd warrant that if a woman had to suffer the rejection men do on as constant of a basis .. then she would indeed, attach to the man who would be willing to do her.
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However, since we're talking about "casual" sex .. I would still be inclined to say the female, for this reason ..
Men are used to walking away from a 'casual' sex partner, with no strings attached .. and second, Scorpio men appear to me as males who have very little regard for easy women, who present themselves as loose. So, it's not likely that he'll attach himself to her.
Whereas, the female Scorpion uses teasing, taunting, seductions .. as a way to keep their men on a string (even the ones they don't want and just want to toy with) ... so, with keeping this trait in mind, IF a guy just shagged her and tried to walk away .. she would be inclined to come on even stronger. Perhaps, this isn't becoming attached, to the sex, itself .. but, it is attaching to the man with intentions of keeping him dangling, coming back for more.
A female Scorpio will NOT BE IGNORED .. and if a man did this to her, then it's like super-gluing her to him.
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Someone forgot to mention the one thing, if it's mind-blowing sex then you might have a hard time dealing with the rug being pulled from underneath you. Scorpios make love when they have sex. So if QS made love to him and it was mind-blowing then that's what happened.
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"Scorpio men appear to me as males who have very little regard for easy women, who present themselves as loose. So, it's not likely that he'll attach himself to her."
Bingo.
I can't speak for other guys, but I'm not the type to expend a lot of effort to get a one-night stand. If it happens, great. If not, so it is. I don't necessarily look down on women for having one-night stands, I look down on them when they flaunt that power (as many so often do in a bar or club setting). I'd rather have my dignity intact and masturbate over groveling for sex.
A woman who flaunts that power is usually not going to be a good lay because she's going to demand that you please her, rather than mutual pleasure. Moreover, the odds of seducing this woman is low, as sometimes, she's just on an ego trip rather than wanting to get it on.
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"Scorpios make love when they have sex."
No, this is not true. Not all the time.

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Huh?
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***QueenSco, your observation isn't really about Scorpios. It's about the male-female dynamic.***
Uhhh no, I am speaking from envolvement experiences. Example: Libra man/Scorp man
Libra men can have casual sex with a woman he cares for deeply and totally detach himself.
Scopr man (one experience) can have casual sex with a woman he deeply cares for and get VERY attached.
Scopr women (not just myself but others I know) can have casual sex, which with us girls would have to be someone we have some type of chemistry and serious attraction to and not get emotionally attached for awhile.
Not being biased, just my personal experience, and I am curious about others...
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***Whereas, the female Scorpion uses teasing, taunting, seductions .. as a way to keep their men on a string (even the ones they don't want and just want to toy with) ... so, with keeping this trait in mind, IF a guy just shagged her and tried to walk away .. she would be inclined to come on even stronger. Perhaps, this isn't becoming attached, to the sex, itself .. but, it is attaching to the man with intentions of keeping him dangling, coming back for more.***
P-Angel, good point. I can see this in a way... We scorp women hate rejection. Although, I haven't quite had it happen to me yet, but I know I would hate and do the above more so to prove a point than to actually want to keep the person - challenge thing... I guess. I know that is pretty petty, but I could see me doing that. LOL!!!
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*** wouldnt have thought scorps were casual about sex at all - either gender. i'm certainly not! that implies that it's just a physical impulse whereas it's more of a religious experience to me in any case.***
Oh, I have... I really liked the person, but wasn't thinking of a relationship with them, you know... Sometimes needs have to be met.
But, yeah, most times at some point even with casual sex the guy gets attached, even the unattachable libra... Then we have to quit. This was when I was adomant about not wanting a relationship after divorce.
But then, I am very good at it as well Winking
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Roxi you have a point there...I have casual sex let him know that is what I want or not and move from there...
I think it has a lot to do with your emotional state. Some women give up the sex thinking that they are going to have a relationship with the man and then the man walk away and the women is thinking damn he just fucked me and walked away....then she starts tripping wondering why he did that...
Men are just as greedy as women...I believe if a women throw herself at a man and she turned him on in some way...he would fuck her and walk away because the the preceptions she gave him at the time was just wanted to get fucked by him.

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I have toys also but ain't nothing like the real thing....toys do nothing but make me mad...so why do I have them? some was giving as gifts, my men......lol
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"scorpionlady : the most beneficial part of having toys is that they don't speak!!!"
U are right they don't speak argue and you can put it away and get it when you like....its all the work that I don't like about....can I at least get a man to work it for me so I don't have to do the work.......LMAO
Oh I forget that is one of the reason why I have on those days when I am alone.....
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EG thats funny.......so once you tell him yall will start to have relationship sex? smile
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I don't understand casual sex at all. I think it's stupid and meaningless. It is supposed to be a representation of passion but no one will ever unerstand that these days. It has become an activity or a gesture that is just fun to do rather than something of importance. I'm pretty discusted of it all.
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I don't like casual sex...meaningless
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A woman told me that English girls were a bit slutty but I figured you would be well above the influence, morals. Probably because no man is good enough for you. Tongue Nothing's ever good enough for the English.
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Scorp man (one experience) can have casual sex with a woman he deeply cares for and get VERY attached." - huh?

Meaning, in my experience, compared to Libra men, Scorp men get very attached, but again, it was after persuing for awhile before given the chance. Then he got all emotional and ATTACHED. Shocking sometimes.
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***Since when does a Scorp man have "casual sex" with a woman he cares for???? Of course if he cares for her, he's going to get attached. Same as a Scorp woman...same as any other man or woman.***
I guess you can blame it on the air and fire in my chart but, unless I was looking for a "relationship" or something serious, I have had casual sex without an attachment, and I really liked the person. However, I didn't want a serious relationship at the time or thought we wouldn't be a good match. Yes, most men are capable of it. It just shocked me that a scorp man (same sign as I) who claimed he didn't want a relationship couldn't do the same. Was just a thought.
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Sometimes casual sex gets the needs met when one isn't looking for anything serious, however in my casual episodes. I was very selective and I did make things very clear that I didn't want it to get all emotional and attachable. Now things are different for me. I am out of that phase. Like Roxi said - a failed marriage can make a person unattachable, however we all get horny and yes I have toys as well, but sometimes you need that body heat and functions that a toy can't quite provide!!!
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"Meaning, in my experience, compared to Libra men, Scorp men get very attached, but again, it was after persuing for awhile before given the chance. Then he got all emotional and ATTACHED. Shocking sometimes."

Huh? I don't get it ... if it was after a period of time, before given a chance for sex, then doesn't that mean that an emotional bond was secured instead, so therefore an attachment?
That's shocking?
Maybe that's not what it meant Tongue
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QS, I personally think you're over-generalizing all Scorpio males based on your one experience.
Myself personally, I think casual sex can be great. What ruins it is when one person gets attached.
Of course, being into someone is the best of all worlds. But as many probably know, that grows stale with time as the relationship matures.
One night stands are somewhat overrated in my view. As a man, I never came in any of my one night stands. I did get hard and screwed, but just never came. Don't know why since I was horny.
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males.
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Eddie wanted desperately to have sex with this really cute, really hot girl in his office... but she was dating someone else.
One day Eddie got so frustrated that he went to her and said, "I'll give you $ 100 if you let me have sex with you..."The girl looked at him, and then said, "NO!"
Eddie said, "I'll be real fast. I'll throw the money on the floor, you bend down and I'll finish by the time you've picked it up."
She thought for a moment and said that she would consult with her boyfriend...so she called him and explained the situation. Her boyfriend says, "Ask him for $ 200, and pick up the money really fast. He won't even be able to get his pants down."
She agreed and accepts the proposal.
Over half an hour goes by and the boyfriend is still waiting for his girlfriend's call. Finally, after 45 minutes the boyfriend calls and asks what happened...?
Still breathing hard, she managed to reply,
"The bastard had all quarters!"
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***Huh? I don't get it ... if it was after a period of time, before given a chance for sex, then doesn't that mean that an emotional bond was secured instead, so therefore an attachment?
That's shocking?****

Uhhh no, it shouldn't mean and emotional bond was secured. NO relationship, no physical contact, I guess there should be no attachment. The guy not wanting anything serious either, then after sex - the attachment and emotions. That is what is shocking.
I guess I am agreeing with SR's statement:Myself personally, I think casual sex can be great. What ruins it is when one person gets attached.
I have heard woman attach quickly, but I have experienced a couple of guys do it when I am not. Not just a scorp guy, but I must admit, a scorp guy seems to do it quicker (in my one experience and in about two experience of other women with scorp mates that I know).

***QS, I personally think you're over-generalizing all Scorpio males based on your one experience.***
This is according to my one experience and experience of other women with scorp mates. That is why I posed this as a question not a statement. To get feed back preferably from a scorp male concept on males and female concept on female. So the posts are going as expected. Thanks guys.
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BTW, I have had only one one-night-stand that I can remember in my 20's. I was attracted to the guy he was attracted to me, we were both horny, we had protected sex. I never called him again, he called, but soon got the message. That is a one night stand to me. When you don't plan to see that person again after that night. Oh, and the sex was not the best, it got the job done though. smile
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*** The degree of connection may vary from person to person but it's never a pure physical act.***

It can be for some Libra men. It can be for a particular cancer girl I know as well.
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***Some ppl do one night stands to make themselves feel wanted or prove to themselves that they are still attracted. Some do it to dominate others. Some seeks attention. It's psychological.***
And some people do it just because they want to do it with the person that night. No hidden agendas.
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***huh??...yeah outwardly detach himself...thats what libras do....has nothing to do with emotions;;***
No, for Libra males, inwardly mostly unemotional, outwardly very touchy feely, stroking affectionate, but no inner emotional attachment. Unless it is with a scorp (in my experience) after awhile they might get emotional, but not initially.
Like you irishlibra, I have a Libran brother, but unlike you, I have been involved with mostly Librans, so there is a HUGE difference. Have been married to one also puts a lot of insight on the subject. smile
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I can agree that libra/scorp are similar in some aspects.
With Libra/Scorp males, sometimes when they feel they are getting emotional and they aren't ready - THEY RUN!!! - VERY SIMILAR
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Or should I say- THEY HIDE, only to reappear after they get their barings.
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***They require more than anything for someone to just 'get' them, never in a confrontational way, just be there and get them...THAT is why they stay...they run, as scorps do...because they are not assured that you will not shatter them, when you see through them***
Irish, this much I can believe.
Libra men can definitely have unemotional sex frequently. You would have to have been involved with a few to know this.
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It isn't about health. It is about what someones preference is. How healthy is it to think anyone you have sex with is in a relationship with you, when they never said they were?
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It is more healthy than assuming you are in a relationship and the man has no clue. Or do you prefer that irish?
I personally am open to it as well as women on this board and others, read sweety. When I have intentions of a relationship after I get to know the person then I make sure the communication is clear instead of assuming and getting hurt in the end. You shoud get out more.
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Irish, what arent' you getting? Are you slow? I am talking about the man now. We are only friends as of late. Did you not just read my post? He is fine with just being friens without benefits, but still wants to act like we are more. What is unclear. I never said he was insane?
You are one to speak... You might want to make sure a man actually wants to be with you before you THINK ONE SIDED that they actually want more than casual sex with you, before you become a stalker (calling and accusing him of doing something he has all the right to- like speaking to another woman) Like I have told you before. Love and respect yourself then maybe someone else will. Grow up or sit back and learn. Geez how old are you? You must be a very sheltered youngster...
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BTW, If there are two people having sex and are friends. The sex is the bene's per se. So one plus one is two. You do the math. There can be sex without a relationship.
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*** takes TWO for a relationship...and TWO for the fiends with bennies deal...just because you stated YOU wanted the friend/ deal didnt mean that HE did....and just because YOU said that you want to be 'friends..because you care about him'...doesnt mean that is what HE wants...get it....it cancels itself out....youre not anything with the guy***
Clearly you aren't comprehending. WE BOTH agreed on what we were or what the situation was before getting involved. Read!!! If I was nothing to him, he wouldn't be my friend now that WE decided to be friends, because He couldn't be more if I wasn't DO YOU GET IT??? We interact as friends. So yes I am his friend and he mine, sorry you can't have this because of your psycho ways after ending things with a man.
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***this is what im talking about....who decided that the sex was going to be casual....you?...what if he decided that it wasnt going to be casual for him..then that means it is a mexican standoff and no one is the determining factor....now do you get it?? or do you still think that you are the determing factor, since you determined that it is casual, even though he determined that it was not casual?***
Okay moron, If there are two people in a situationa and one wants to change. The other can't stay in it alone, so they either agree or neither are in it. He agreed so that he wouldn't lose me as atleast a friend, as the FWB situation was going too far for me. WE AGREED, as he wanted us to remain cool - his words not mine. Don't hate learn.
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Action speaks louder than words. I know what I have and what I am involved with. Never assume. You on the other hand are clueless and wind up bitter and hurt.
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What are ya'll arguing about?! Its like your trying to explain a Friends w/ Benefit thing that went wrong (the guy got attached) and IRishlibra is mad at you for even having sex with the guy because she thinks you knew he'd get attached. I think IrishLibra is really angry at the Scorpio men she been with that did the same thing to her (have sex with no intention of more). I think she's projecting that anger unto you. Either way it doesn't make sense arguing over casual sex unless you plan on having sex with each other. Tongue
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I see its all one big loving family on here as per usual..
Scorpius "A woman told me that English girls were a bit slutty but I figured"...lol..Was it an american woman who told you that? I can't speak for the majority but I think your english counterparts are more on the reserved side...
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***What are ya'll arguing about?! Its like your trying to explain a Friends w/ Benefit thing that went wrong (the guy got attached) and IRishlibra is mad at you for even having sex with the guy because she thinks you knew he'd get attached. I think IrishLibra is really angry at the Scorpio men she been with that did the same thing to her (have sex with no intention of more). I think she's projecting that anger unto you.***
Exactly my point. Maybe she will shut up since she sees I am not the only one who sees she is damaged.
***It doesn't make sense arguing over casual sex unless you plan on having sex with each other***
No dear strictly dickly over here!!!
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"Exactly my point. Maybe she will shut up since she sees I am not the only one who sees she is damaged."

Glad to see I didn't waste money on being a psych major lol.
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***Glad to see I didn't waste money on being a psych major lol.***
LMAO at CapAngel.
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CapAngel, do you give online free sessions? I could think of a person who might need one. LMAO!!!
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Hell, forget free, I will pay for it. It will be for a good cause... Winking
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