Posted by FrostAndBite
It varies from situation to situation. Overall, I'm quieter and more reserved in new social situations, especially with groups, as I'm trying to read the tone of the group, looking for good entry points of conversation or what would help me get to know them better.
In very familiar territory I'm very bubbly, much more open and prone to jump in. Don't need the spotlight to tell a story but I wouldn't draw back. the smaller the group or one on one I'll be more likely to warmer and open quicker.
Posted by Vixen2
I know of one who just preferences to fly under the radar so to speak...keep to himself not socialize and sit off to himself in social situations/bars/gatherings. Even at family gatherings he was relatively quiet and never initiated conversation.
Then there are the other two I know...a female, and male, who are very outgoing, talkative, friendly, opinionated.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by Vixen2
I know of one who just preferences to fly under the radar so to speak...keep to himself not socialize and sit off to himself in social situations/bars/gatherings. Even at family gatherings he was relatively quiet and never initiated conversation.
Then there are the other two I know...a female, and male, who are very outgoing, talkative, friendly, opinionated.
sounds like a guy who lacks or has no air in his planets.click to expand
Posted by DeepWaterStingPosted by truecap
I guess everyone feels more comfortable in certain groups.
I have just noticed that some scorpios seem very quiet. Not in a standoffish sort of way, or in a rude sort of way, or an uncomfortable thing, just quiet. Was wondering how yall perceived yourselves.
Everything you're saying makes sense and kind of fits with what I was thinking.
And, gee, I hope they don't think I'm an idiot. lol!
I might question the idea that you asked our opinion though but if I know you are being sincere then I'd never think you were being an idiot....click to expand
Posted by ReincarnationPosted by Vixen2Posted by Reincarnation
I perceive most conversation as useless small talk, and small talk is a waste of time. This is how my mind thinks.
My gf hates it. Always says I need to be more social when she is talking with other people.
I don't really care. She's mutable. I tell her "let's go" and she follows - lol.
I think that was one thing that me and my Scorp complimented each other. He was as you stated above and me , the epitome of a Pisces sun but add the Leo moon in ...I did the talking for both of us. People would always kinda look at him like "what's this dudes problem" because he wouldn't contribute to conversations. He just thought they were banal and chit chat like, of no substance. So I just would conversate for the both of us that seemed to pacify any comments I would get after the fact from people. Even with his own family with exception of his mother...who is a Cancer.
Lol - that's basically how it goes.
But my Fish tells me I should smile more around people. So instead I put on a polite smile when we are out socializing. She always thanks me when I do that.click to expand
Posted by truecap
I have noticed about four scorpios that are very quiet in family and social situations. It's a comfortable, easy going quiet, they just don't seem to jump into conversations very readily. It's more like they sit and listen and observe. Then when they do speak up, everyone listens.
Now, I do two scorpios that are quite the gregarious story tellers, but I've known them all my life. So maybe in those cases, it's because they're comfortable.
So, scorpios, are you quiet or quite outspoken in social situations? Does it matter who the group is?
Posted by Infinite8Posted by truecap
How would someone go about making you more comfortable if you're around new people?
This question isn't why I created the post, but some of the comments helped me realize I should probably ask.
My aqua's son has a new girlfriend (they are 17,18 yo) whom I discovered is a very quiet scorpio. (I guess her sign, then looked it up on facebook). Now, obviously, they do their own thing, but sometimes we all go to dinner together. I'd like her to feel welcome and comfortable around us and the rest of his family. I feel like asking a lot of questions would be very comfortable for her. I've been just talking and trying to include her, like making sure she knows who/what we're talking about if it's something/someone she may not know (like, for example if we are talking about a home project that I've got going on, I'll add a little bit of detail so she doesn't feel left out of the conversation - not a good example, but it's a sample what I've been trying to do).
Don't talk to her in front of everyone for her to answer in front of all. Have more one on ones and don't ask too many questions at first. Just be more instinctual, let your body tell her you approve of her and are understanding of her - show that with facial expressions and putting your hand on her shoulders or back. More eye contact too. When you talk to her at first stay close to her and talk to her quietly. You will see she will trust you and then open up.
You already have an intimidating position so... Just be sensitive to that. Let her know you are disarmed and she will put down her weapons tooclick to expand
Posted by truecap
How would someone go about making you more comfortable if you're around new people?
This question isn't why I created the post, but some of the comments helped me realize I should probably ask.
Posted by truecap
My aqua's son has a new girlfriend (they are 17,18 yo) whom I discovered is a very quiet scorpio. (I guess her sign, then looked it up on facebook). Now, obviously, they do their own thing, but sometimes we all go to dinner together. I'd like her to feel welcome and comfortable around us and the rest of his family.click to expand
Posted by Infinite8Posted by truecap
How would someone go about making you more comfortable if you're around new people?
This question isn't why I created the post, but some of the comments helped me realize I should probably ask.
My aqua's son has a new girlfriend (they are 17,18 yo) whom I discovered is a very quiet scorpio. (I guess her sign, then looked it up on facebook). Now, obviously, they do their own thing, but sometimes we all go to dinner together. I'd like her to feel welcome and comfortable around us and the rest of his family. I feel like asking a lot of questions would be very comfortable for her. I've been just talking and trying to include her, like making sure she knows who/what we're talking about if it's something/someone she may not know (like, for example if we are talking about a home project that I've got going on, I'll add a little bit of detail so she doesn't feel left out of the conversation - not a good example, but it's a sample what I've been trying to do).
Don't talk to her in front of everyone for her to answer in front of all. Have more one on ones and don't ask too many questions at first. Just be more instinctual, let your body tell her you approve of her and are understanding of her - show that with facial expressions and putting your hand on her shoulders or back. More eye contact too. When you talk to her at first stay close to her and talk to her quietly. You will see she will trust you and then open up.
You already have an intimidating position so... Just be sensitive to that. Let her know you are disarmed and she will put down her weapons tooclick to expand
Posted by FrostAndBite
Yeah families are tough. Almost five years and I'm still not comfortable with my scorpios extended family. I get on great with his parents. His sister I'm alright with. Everyone past that I'm still a little uncomfortable around. PR is right tho, I get on best with his mother because she is the most genuine and sincere of them all.
You seem to be doing well though. What helped me the most was all the one on one time with his mom. It wasn't planned or anything. Normally we'd be over at her house on some afternoon and scorp was napping or busy and me and her would chat over lunch, impromptu sort of thing.
Posted by Infinite8
Hahahahaha.... I felt the same when I wrote it. I guess you don't do this right away - and it is all about right timing and amount of connection!! Hahahahaha... Omg - yeah, if you feel any hesitation here, maybe not a good idea!! Lol - just reminded me of some situations where it was NOT welcomed!! Hahahahaha... We are so complicated!
Posted by truecap
I have noticed about four scorpios that are very quiet in family and social situations. It's a comfortable, easy going quiet, they just don't seem to jump into conversations very readily. It's more like they sit and listen and observe. Then when they do speak up, everyone listens.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by truecap
I have noticed about four scorpios that are very quiet in family and social situations. It's a comfortable, easy going quiet, they just don't seem to jump into conversations very readily. It's more like they sit and listen and observe. Then when they do speak up, everyone listens.
Now, I do two scorpios that are quite the gregarious story tellers, but I've known them all my life. So maybe in those cases, it's because they're comfortable.
So, scorpios, are you quiet or quite outspoken in social situations? Does it matter who the group is?
Yeah I'm quiet and prefer to observe in social situations. I'm just not much of a talker and don't like small talk. Actually scratch that. I hate small talk. If we have nothing interesting to talk about I'd rather sit in silence and people watch. You learn a lot more about people doing that then conversations where they are putting on a front to seem....well whatever they feel like being that day.
The group does matter. When I'm with my girls I will talk openly and feel fine doing so. They get my sarcasm and dry humor and also understand my mood shifts, which can occur quite suddenly (think light switch). This is nice because they won't pester me to talk when I am quietly listening and reflecting on what is being said.click to expand
Posted by FrostAndBite
It varies from situation to situation. Overall, I'm quieter and more reserved in new social situations, especially with groups, as I'm trying to read the tone of the group, looking for good entry points of conversation or what would help me get to know them better.
In very familiar territory I'm very bubbly, much more open and prone to jump in. Don't need the spotlight to tell a story but I wouldn't draw back. the smaller the group or one on one I'll be more likely to warmer and open quicker.