Scorpios, could you forgive a girl following you by car?

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Hi,

I have a question to you Scorpios:

Imagine you have a co-worker and you know she is into you. You quite like her and especially the mutual physical attraction is remarkable. You are really drawn to her. But you (Scorpio) have a bereavement ongoing that makes you still unable to begin a relationship with this co-worker.



You treat her badly although you like her, that means you give her hot and cold moments and ignore her oftentimes. You have made her hot some time ago and have said you would like to meet her privately but you never realized that. You give her the opportunity to approach you but she is scared in that moment and stays away - what you can’t understand. She is going mad over the time and tries to speak to you later - but then you don’t respond and ignore her vice versa. It goes on like that for weeks and months.

One day she can't stand it any longer and is following you with her car after work, but you are not aware of that. You go shopping and on the parking lot you see her approaching. You can’t believe your eyes. She comes to you and blames you that you ignore her. She is angry. You can’t believe she was following you and you are so taken aback by her behaviour. You think this is a no-go, you can’t accept such a person as your friend/gf even when you have considered that before. She is apologizing the next day, but you don't accept her apology. She did this only once and promises to never do it again.

Can you, Scorpios, imagine that you could be able to forgive such a behaviour, I mean the following? You have lost control in this situation for a moment – is that very bad for you?
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Hi all,

She's a cancer, so congrats Leo from Australia.

HE finds her very attractive that's obvious ...and she is getting a lot of attention from other men. So her looks can't be that bad.

With his unhealthy mind games he has brought her in an mental state of, let's say, emotional addiction. And he knows that, he did it on purpose. But - he is a reflective person so sooner or later he should be able to conclude that HE has also a share to her following him by car.

@Taniwha

Love your comment with the paragraphing 😉
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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Is this a Gone Girl fan fic?

I love the double standard some women have that men are creeps / creepy / creepers for looking at a woman in a way she doesn’t like but her following him in a car is ok.

To answer the OP - it is not ok. Nobody would like this.
I didn't say the following was ok. I asked if a scorpio man could forgive this behaviour and like her despite she did that.

And besides...I am no woman who likes how that ongoing debate about sexual harrassment is progressing. It is not ok when a person uses their position of power to get sex with a dependant person!!!

But I have no problem when a man looks at my body for a short moment and I perceive he likes what he sees.
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Posted by Kassiopeia
Hi all,

She's a cancer, so congrats Leo from Australia.

HE finds her very attractive that's obvious ...and she is getting a lot of attention from other men. So her looks can't be that bad.

With his unhealthy mind games he has brought her in an mental state of, let's say, emotional addiction. And he knows that, he did it on purpose. But - he is a reflective person so sooner or later he should be able to conclude that HE has also a share to her following him by car.

@Taniwha

Love your comment with the paragraphing 😉

Oh you were “asking for a friend”

Got it
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Posted by Kassiopeia
Hi,

I have a question to you Scorpios:

Imagine you have a co-worker and you know she is into you. You quite like her and especially the mutual physical attraction is remarkable. You are really drawn to her. But you (Scorpio) have a bereavement ongoing that makes you still unable to begin a relationship with this co-worker.



You treat her badly although you like her, that means you give her hot and cold moments and ignore her oftentimes. You have made her hot some time ago and have said you would like to meet her privately but you never realized that. You give her the opportunity to approach you but she is scared in that moment and stays away - what you can’t understand. She is going mad over the time and tries to speak to you later - but then you don’t respond and ignore her vice versa.

Then she is following you with her car after work, but you are not aware of that. You go shopping and on the parking lot you see her approaching. You can’t believe your eyes. She comes to you and blames you that you ignore her. She is angry. You can’t believe she was following you and you are so taken aback by her behaviour. You think this is a no-go, you can’t accept such a person as your friend/gf even when you have considered that before. She is apologizing the next day, but you don't accept her apology. She did this only once and promises to never do it again.

Can you, Scorpios, imagine that you could be able to forgive such a behaviour, I mean the following? You have lost control in this situation for a moment – is that very bad for you?



Depends on how physically attractive you are.
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lol that's what my husband jokes. gorgeous women it's an exception. smh.



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No, of course not (lol). I wanted to tell it like a story.

I am as normal and psychologically stable as one can be.

The chase happened because he kept me on the back burner for so long and I was condemned to waiting only. I have the impression he wanted to keep me caught in his net motionless. I did it to regain some control. Normally I don't do such things.
This is rather interesting.

What did you think the consequences of your actions would be? Did you even consider consequences?

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Not in this very moment, I was only emotion. There was a tiny voice somewhere back in my mind that said: "You don't have to do this...and ...he probably might not like it."

I needed to have a quick solution because I was sort of torn apart internally. Needed either a yes or no to the question "Will we come in contact again?" I had the impression he was caught in a state of indecisiveness for months and therefore I was caught there too.

As I was approaching him on the parking lot, I just wanted to talk calmly and tell him that I feel something mutual and strong between us. But seeing me coming he pretended not to know what I want and that made me angry. The result of this is that I don't feel like having a solution now and I feel worse than ever.

He's so different now, his face turns to stone when he is seeing me. I feel I have to explain myself towards him but will he ever again accept a request for a talk...? I know I've made a terrible mistake.

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No, of course not (lol). I wanted to tell it like a story.

I am as normal and psychologically stable as one can be.

The chase happened because he kept me on the back burner for so long and I was condemned to waiting only. I have the impression he wanted to keep me caught in his net motionless. I did it to regain some control. Normally I don't do such things.
You should try talking 3rd person in the bedroom because its hot af.
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😈😈😈

You would forgive me running you over due to the way I am paragraphing. And talking in the 3rd person singular turns you on? Very interesting!
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Posted by Taniwha
I am about 114% sure that OP is the woman in question and she is talking in third person...
😂 which also makes her questionable....



This is a NO.... if he forgives this he’s just as crazy as the Cancer and they deserve to be together. Don’t pop up on me for shyt! And let’s just say I was going on a date instead of shopping... then what would you do? What could you do? We are coworkers not lovers! I never gave you an official title regardless of what kind of hot/ cold games I’m playing so don’t officially follow me.... hell no.
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Posted by Bottabing
Never cool to stalk
Stalking is defined as a repeated action of observation or following (or whatever). Not only by ONE incident. That is not stalking.

I see that a good share of all you people (60-70% ) who posted are disapproving the event of a car chase heavily. They have no understanding for an intensive loving feeling that causes us to react irrational sometimes. Some people understand it, because he was really not behaving in a fair way. On the other hand I think I know why he was so indecisive, I pointed that out in my first post.

Don't bother too much about the 3rd person singular thing. As I already said I wanted to write it like a story. And I continued a bit because some of you were amusing yourself with guessing who the OP is actually 😇

I would really appreciate to read some constructive feedback and maybe some advice of scorpios. Thank you!
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Posted by Kassiopeia
Posted by Bottabing
Never cool to stalk
Stalking is defined as a repeated action of observation or following (or whatever). Not only by ONE incident. That is not stalking.

I see that a good share of all you people (60-70% ) who posted are disapproving the event of a car chase heavily. They have no understanding for an intensive loving feeling that causes us to react irrational sometimes. Some people understand it, because he was really not behaving in a fair way. On the other hand I think I know why he was so indecisive, I pointed that out in my first post.

Don't bother too much about the 3rd person singular thing. As I already said I wanted to write it like a story. And I continued a bit because some of you were amusing yourself with guessing who the OP is actually 😇

I would really appreciate to read some constructive feedback and maybe some advice of scorpios. Thank you!
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You continue to justify your actions, and direct some of the blame towards this man as well.



Every post you have made, continues to minimalizes what you did. From you guys who call me crazy, just don't understand. To, he put me in emotional limbo for months.

You couldn't get the signs he wasn't interested by putting You on a proverbial, back burner. You refused to see it for what it was, because your emotions were what mattered. Your mind selfishly demanded it from him.

Then you come here, posting this stupid thread, talking yourself up in a 3rd person style . And passive aggressively want validation and a scorpio to tell you it's gonna be fine.

Guess what? I'm a Scorpio, Elle is too, so are many others that are saying your nuts. You got criticism from us.

Take accountability and stop deflecting. He will never view you as anything but the crazy lady that followed him around in a car and cornered him.
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Posted by Bottabing
Never cool to stalk
Stalking is defined as a repeated action of observation or following (or whatever). Not only by ONE incident. That is not stalking.

I see that a good share of all you people (60-70% ) who posted are disapproving the event of a car chase heavily. They have no understanding for an intensive loving feeling that causes us to react irrational sometimes. Some people understand it, because he was really not behaving in a fair way. On the other hand I think I know why he was so indecisive, I pointed that out in my first post.

Don't bother too much about the 3rd person singular thing. As I already said I wanted to write it like a story. And I continued a bit because some of you were amusing yourself with guessing who the OP is actually 😇

I would really appreciate to read some constructive feedback and maybe some advice of scorpios. Thank you!
You continue to justify your actions, and direct some of the blame towards this man as well.



Every post you have made, continues to minimalizes what you did. From you guys who call me crazy, just don't understand. To, he put me in emotional limbo for months.

You couldn't get the signs he wasn't interested by putting You on a proverbial, back burner. You refused to see it for what it was, because your emotions were what mattered. Your mind selfishly demanded it from him.

Then you come here, posting this stupid thread, talking yourself up in a 3rd person style . And passive aggressively want validation and a scorpio to tell you it's gonna be fine.

Guess what? I'm a Scorpio, Elle is too, so are many others that are saying your nuts. You got criticism from us.

Take accountability and stop deflecting. He will never view you as anything but the crazy lady that followed him around in a car and cornered him.
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Your opinion, why not.

Who writes like that has not read the first post carefully and has no understanding for human actions. You read too much into my posts that is not there. You can't react adequately to a rational statement.

You blame me to be passive-aggressive what I never was in this thread. But your recent post above is very passive-aggressive! But what to expect from a woman who considers herself a Troll.



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No, of course not (lol). I wanted to tell it like a story.

I am as normal and psychologically stable as one can be.

The chase happened because he kept me on the back burner for so long and I was condemned to waiting only. I have the impression he wanted to keep me caught in his net motionless. I did it to regain some control. Normally I don't do such things.
You should try talking 3rd person in the bedroom because its hot af.
😈😈😈

You would forgive me running you over due to the way I am paragraphing. And talking in the 3rd person singular turns you on? Very interesting!
Yeah, I just realized 3rd person dirty talk is my thing.
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Unfortunately I can't be of service because we might live on different continents 😉

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Posted by Kassiopeia
Hi,

One day she can't stand it any longer and is following you with her car after work, but you are not aware of that. You go shopping and on the parking lot you see her approaching. You can’t believe your eyes. She comes to you and blames you that you ignore her. She is angry
It was at this moment that Kassiopeia realized she had fucked up.
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Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Kassiopeia
Posted by Bottabing
Never cool to stalk
Stalking is defined as a repeated action of observation or following (or whatever). Not only by ONE incident. That is not stalking.

I see that a good share of all you people (60-70% ) who posted are disapproving the event of a car chase heavily. They have no understanding for an intensive loving feeling that causes us to react irrational sometimes. Some people understand it, because he was really not behaving in a fair way. On the other hand I think I know why he was so indecisive, I pointed that out in my first post.

Don't bother too much about the 3rd person singular thing. As I already said I wanted to write it like a story. And I continued a bit because some of you were amusing yourself with guessing who the OP is actually 😇

I would really appreciate to read some constructive feedback and maybe some advice of scorpios. Thank you!
You continue to justify your actions, and direct some of the blame towards this man as well.



Every post you have made, continues to minimalizes what you did. From you guys who call me crazy, just don't understand. To, he put me in emotional limbo for months.

You couldn't get the signs he wasn't interested by putting You on a proverbial, back burner. You refused to see it for what it was, because your emotions were what mattered. Your mind selfishly demanded it from him.

Then you come here, posting this stupid thread, talking yourself up in a 3rd person style . And passive aggressively want validation and a scorpio to tell you it's gonna be fine.

Guess what? I'm a Scorpio, Elle is too, so are many others that are saying your nuts. You got criticism from us.

Take accountability and stop deflecting. He will never view you as anything but the crazy lady that followed him around in a car and cornered him.
Your opinion, why not.

Who writes like that has not read the first post carefully and has no understanding for human actions. You read too much into my posts that is not there. You can't react adequately to a rational statement.

You blame me to be passive-aggressive what I never was in this thread. But your recent post above is very passive-aggressive! But what to expect from a woman who considers herself a Troll.



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One of the reasons why I am a successful troll, is my ability to read and decipher a person's intent in their statements.

There is nothing rational about any of your statements. You perpetually excuse yourself. And you do so again, in this very statement.

"YOU can't read, herp derp!"

Same thing, new day.
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Fuck no.

Following by a car, is WAYYYYY into psycho/slashingtires/sugaringastank/petbunnyinboilingpot territory.

If you did this shit, you need mental help.
What's petbunny in boiling pot? Is that literal or like a codename for something
It's an iconic scene from a movie.
I'm gonna YouTube it in a bit. Ellesbelles mentioned the movie title
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It is about a dude who has an affair, and the chick goes ape shit nuts that he sleeps with. She is hyper delusional and believes he loves her. When she finally realizes he doesn't she goes on a rampage doing crazy shit.
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You did act irrational, you do know that so I’ll reply seriously.

If I interacted with you for months as you have told it here, I would at least allow you the opportunity to explain yourself. If after that I decide you had a momentary lapse of judgement and you were indeed wife/unicorn zone I may engage with you again. If you have read me and the situation wrong and you are Tiffany crazy, you’d receive the treatment how you describe the scorp here.

Only you, the scorp and the third person knows the truth about the situation. We can’t help you but you asked a direct question and I like giving answers based on my own experience (which can’t be trusted) Good luck
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You did act irrational, you do know that so I’ll reply seriously.

If I interacted with you for months as you have told it here, I would at least allow you the opportunity to explain yourself. If after that I decide you had a momentary lapse of judgement and you were indeed wife/unicorn zone I may engage with you again. If you have read me and the situation wrong and you are Tiffany crazy, you’d receive the treatment how you describe the scorp here.

Only you, the scorp and the third person knows the truth about the situation. We can’t help you but you asked a direct question and I like giving answers based on my own experience (which can’t be trusted) Good luck
Thanks a lot, Vampscorp! That is an answer that helps.

I know I did act irrationally and am not proud of this action! But I was at the end of my tether, had, as you said, "a lapse of judgement".

After the car incident his behaviour has a completely different quality now. He is so cold now, understandably enough.

He acts so different now that I can conclude he was really interested before - but I was reluctant to interprete his subtle signs. But I am always sceptic to the bones and I did not believe this behaviour to be of meaning. It seems he is much more sensitive than I thought him to be.

This is so sad - I have blown up my own chances. As I said in a post before I am normally quite calm and collected.

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Posted by Kassiopeia
Hi,

I have a question to you Scorpios:

Imagine you have a co-worker and you know she is into you. You quite like her and especially the mutual physical attraction is remarkable. You are really drawn to her. But you (Scorpio) have a bereavement ongoing that makes you still unable to begin a relationship with this co-worker.



You treat her badly although you like her, that means you give her hot and cold moments and ignore her oftentimes. You have made her hot some time ago and have said you would like to meet her privately but you never realized that. You give her the opportunity to approach you but she is scared in that moment and stays away - what you can’t understand. She is going mad over the time and tries to speak to you later - but then you don’t respond and ignore her vice versa.

Then she is following you with her car after work, but you are not aware of that. You go shopping and on the parking lot you see her approaching. You can’t believe your eyes. She comes to you and blames you that you ignore her. She is angry. You can’t believe she was following you and you are so taken aback by her behaviour. You think this is a no-go, you can’t accept such a person as your friend/gf even when you have considered that before. She is apologizing the next day, but you don't accept her apology. She did this only once and promises to never do it again.

Can you, Scorpios, imagine that you could be able to forgive such a behaviour, I mean the following? You have lost control in this situation for a moment – is that very bad for you?



Depends on how physically attractive you are.
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yup
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Wow, you must really be crazy about this guy. Thats rather scorpio behaviour not cancers.

So I do think, he COULD have understanding for your behaviour in the end because scorps are sometimes even more obsessive and crazy in relation what you did.

I knew a scorpio man who observed me secretly all the time and appeared out of the blue to see me. So I asked myself how he could know where I am.
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You did act irrational, you do know that so I’ll reply seriously.

If I interacted with you for months as you have told it here, I would at least allow you the opportunity to explain yourself. If after that I decide you had a momentary lapse of judgement and you were indeed wife/unicorn zone I may engage with you again. If you have read me and the situation wrong and you are Tiffany crazy, you’d receive the treatment how you describe the scorp here.

Only you, the scorp and the third person knows the truth about the situation. We can’t help you but you asked a direct question and I like giving answers based on my own experience (which can’t be trusted) Good luck
Thanks a lot, Vampscorp! That is an answer that helps.

I know I did act irrationally and am not proud of this action! But I was at the end of my tether, had, as you said, "a lapse of judgement".

After the car incident his behaviour has a completely different quality now. He is so cold now, understandably enough.

He acts so different now that I can conclude he was really interested before - but I was reluctant to interprete his subtle signs. But I am always sceptic to the bones and I did not believe this behaviour to be of meaning. It seems he is much more sensitive than I thought him to be.

This is so sad - I have blown up my own chances. As I said in a post before I am normally quite calm and collected.

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I don’t have the energy to judge people, especially those online so I take what you say as it is.

I believe the coldness you are feeling is the retaliation of him being cornered. Not only did you corner him, you yourself admit to going on ‘attack mode’ when his natural defences of ‘what the fuck are you doing here?’ presented itself in his reaction to your presence. I’m referring to the car park scene. Does that make sense?

It’s an unfortunate misunderstanding that you’ll have to learn and grow from. We’re not all the same. His sun sign does not define him. For example I like closure and balance, but I have several libra placements so I might be a little more accomdating than the stereotypical, orthodox, unforgiving, no going back scorpions out there. Sorry. Sounds like he’s done, so put distance and let him make the next move, if there is to be one.

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You did act irrational, you do know that so I’ll reply seriously.

If I interacted with you for months as you have told it here, I would at least allow you the opportunity to explain yourself. If after that I decide you had a momentary lapse of judgement and you were indeed wife/unicorn zone I may engage with you again. If you have read me and the situation wrong and you are Tiffany crazy, you’d receive the treatment how you describe the scorp here.

Only you, the scorp and the third person knows the truth about the situation. We can’t help you but you asked a direct question and I like giving answers based on my own experience (which can’t be trusted) Good luck
Thanks a lot, Vampscorp! That is an answer that helps.

I know I did act irrationally and am not proud of this action! But I was at the end of my tether, had, as you said, "a lapse of judgement".

After the car incident his behaviour has a completely different quality now. He is so cold now, understandably enough.

He acts so different now that I can conclude he was really interested before - but I was reluctant to interprete his subtle signs. But I am always sceptic to the bones and I did not believe this behaviour to be of meaning. It seems he is much more sensitive than I thought him to be.

This is so sad - I have blown up my own chances. As I said in a post before I am normally quite calm and collected.


I don’t have the energy to judge people, especially those online so I take what you say as it is.

I believe the coldness you are feeling is the retaliation of him being cornered. Not only did you corner him, you yourself admit to going on ‘attack mode’ when his natural defences of ‘what the fuck are you doing here?’ presented itself in his reaction to your presence. I’m referring to the car park scene. Does that make sense?

It’s an unfortunate misunderstanding that you’ll have to learn and grow from. We’re not all the same. His sun sign does not define him. For example I like closure and balance, but I have several libra placements so I might be a little more accomdating than the stereotypical, orthodox, unforgiving, no going back scorpions out there. Sorry. Sounds like he’s done, so put distance and let him make the next move, if there is to be one.



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Thank you again for your thoughts. They do make sense to me!