Scorpios do you stay friends with your exes after?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by happykitsune on Friday, April 29, 2011 and has 35 replies.
After a break up do you still remain friends with your exes?
I am personally not able to remain friends with an ex, although I haven't had the most healthy relationships per say. I would rather end things completely and not look back...although I do sometimes think of past relationships.
Side note-I read somewhere that for Scorpio's the opposite of love is hate, whereas for Cancer's it is indifference. I wonder if that goes for all other signs in general? hmm
Side note-I read somewhere that for Scorpio's the opposite of love is hate, whereas for Cancer's it is indifference. I wonder if that goes for all other signs in general? hmm
Thanks guys, good insight 
Posted by dreamer23
I am friends with my Virgo ex. He was so close w/ my family it was hard to totally cut ties w/ him. Of course we went a while w/o talking and almost got back together. It was crazy. But 10 years later he is one of my closest friends. I cant imagine him not in my life. We have come full circle because now he talks to me about his current girlfriend. At first I was like WOA. haha..we went to dinner a few months ago. He was giving me the googly eyes so I dont think we should do dinner again. LOL.
Haha yeah sounds like he might have gotten the wrong idea
I agree with everyone... Friends with ex's is a no go. :/ it's just too difficult and I'd rather cut ties completely.
I've never witnessed a Scorpio being able to do this ...
control because they have trust issues seems to be the Scorpio theme
So, because of that ^^^^ when I see a Scorpio break up with someone, it's doneso to a very bitter end .. I've yet to see one gracefully bow out of a relationship due to incompatibilities or because of any kind of mutual understanding.
Nope ... an end with them equals a betrayal, since they think to relate means to control, so since it's a betrayal, then that means it has to be a war.
Since it ends in war .... how can a Scorpio possibly take a mature position in the matter and lower themselves to be a friend, because that would mean they would lose control ..... and heaven forbid that they would actually want to have an equal.
control because they have trust issues seems to be the Scorpio theme
So, because of that ^^^^ when I see a Scorpio break up with someone, it's doneso to a very bitter end .. I've yet to see one gracefully bow out of a relationship due to incompatibilities or because of any kind of mutual understanding.
Nope ... an end with them equals a betrayal, since they think to relate means to control, so since it's a betrayal, then that means it has to be a war.
Since it ends in war .... how can a Scorpio possibly take a mature position in the matter and lower themselves to be a friend, because that would mean they would lose control ..... and heaven forbid that they would actually want to have an equal.
See I swear sometimes I do not act like a typical Scorp. Lol.. I am friends with my ex libra and was friends with my ex Pisces but we just lost touch. I was also friends with my ex cancer but he got married a few yrs after I broke up with him. I really have had no problem being friends with my ex's bc most of them were good people and actually made good friends. I would even ask them for advice about new men I was dating. Lol. Some didn't like that, that much, others didn't care. I think I kind of get over shit kind of quick and I don't hold grudges unless someone does something completely ridiculous. Once I lose romantic feelings for a person, it's a wrap. I will never look at them like that again so it's either friendship or nothing. Somehow a friendship materializes down the road.
Posted by natural25
See I swear sometimes I do not act like a typical Scorp. Lol.. I am friends with my ex ...
You are rare, a typical Scorpio would never consider a friendship after a break. They either possess in the entirity for emotional control purposes, or the completely ignore.
You are the exception to the rule .... good for you.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by natural25
See I swear sometimes I do not act like a typical Scorp. Lol.. I am friends with my ex ...
You are rare, a typical Scorpio would never consider a friendship after a break. They either possess in the entirity for emotional control purposes, or the completely ignore.
You are the exception to the rule .... good for you.click to expand
Actually a lot of what you said did make since P. I think it's just a hard concept for my to grasp because I'm a sag and we're the complete opposite. We like to be on equal ground and don't like burning bridges. Our lovers are our best friends and we don't like cutting off ties with someone we share stuff with. Honestly I've found that being able to be friends with someone after all comes down to maturity. I'm not saying that you should be friends with the person after. But if you ended on good terms and they still want to be friends it would just be immature to cut them off. I mean if the relationship was a good one and it was based on more than just sexual stuff (take that away) and you had a friendship. Why destroy that? Idk, just something that confuses me
Posted by P-Angel
I've never witnessed a Scorpio being able to do this ...
control because they have trust issues seems to be the Scorpio theme
So, because of that ^^^^ when I see a Scorpio break up with someone, it's doneso to a very bitter end .. I've yet to see one gracefully bow out of a relationship due to incompatibilities or because of any kind of mutual understanding.
Nope ... an end with them equals a betrayal, since they think to relate means to control, so since it's a betrayal, then that means it has to be a war.
Since it ends in war .... how can a Scorpio possibly take a mature position in the matter and lower themselves to be a friend, because that would mean they would lose control ..... and heaven forbid that they would actually want to have an equal.
i def see your logic here.
Posted by DazedScorp
I'm still friends with all my ex'x except one. Hell, I just met up with my ex the other day after not talking for a month. Stupid yes, because all those feelings came back, ended up having sex, blah blah. Plus I'm fixing to move in with another ex. We're just really good friends now though. I'm fucked up, I know.
wow lol
It depends. if we were friends for the whole time and then decided to try going together but it didnt work, i'd still be the person's friend. because that's what we had first. if we stop the relationship before we end up hating each other, then definitely yeah. but if we got together as a couple and dont have any strong background with each other, then no, keep going cos nothing is over here for you anymore. no ex is my friend.
Posted by DazedScorp
I'm not really making too much sense right now because I haven't slept in 30 hours, plus massive amounts of booze, and mdma last night. But read the thread about the aries ex and what happen last night. It's even more fucked up DMV.
I said I wouldn't talk to the aries again, but damn, the pooosy is good. As bling would say, I want my cakey.
your post is important. goes to show people that scorps dont always come back hoping to renew some love affair...some just go back for the pussy
i read this quote once, curious how it would relate to scorps:
"If you can still be friends with your ex, you are either still in love or never were."
Thoughts?
"If you can still be friends with your ex, you are either still in love or never were."
Thoughts?
No...it is impossible for me. I have tried that...I have learned that I have to completely cut the ties to move on.
It just does not make any sense to keep an ex as a friend for me too much past baggage.
It just does not make any sense to keep an ex as a friend for me too much past baggage.
I just had to sign up to tell you all what a load of rubbish is written here.
My Scorp boyfriend is best friends with his ex wife who is now married again. We split up 10yrs ago and over the past 12 months have got back together and are getting married in October. We remained friends throughout the split and dated other people. Not all Scorps are bitter nutcases incapable of sensible friendship.
My Scorp boyfriend is best friends with his ex wife who is now married again. We split up 10yrs ago and over the past 12 months have got back together and are getting married in October. We remained friends throughout the split and dated other people. Not all Scorps are bitter nutcases incapable of sensible friendship.
he probably wants to keep you around for the cookies.
Yes oddly enough
I have stayed friends with my gemini ex and have occassionally had contact with my scorpio ex
I have stayed friends with my gemini ex and have occassionally had contact with my scorpio ex
Yes but not right away, after some time..like a year or so from the break up date
Yes but not right away, after some time..like a year or so from the break up date
No, I kiss it goobye and sail on.
After my break with 2 very LTR...which I ended after countless attempts to stay and make work...for a very long time, no I was friends with either one of them...it hurt to much to be...I too remained cordial with my ex after 13yrs, we have a child together and did not want to subject her to any animosity between the two of us on top of what she was already goin through because we couldn't make it work...I realized by holding on to my anger & resentment made me ugly inside,it didn't make me feel good and served to be a complete waste of me...I let go of those negative feelings & I forgave..which I know was the most positive & best thing I could do...the negative feelings I harbored weighed me down...I forgive but never forget....I can say I have a good relationship with both not that we hang out or talk even...but they still call for my bday, mothers day special occasions and I appreciate it =)and I in turn can do the same...all romantic feelings gone since the day I left both...but my feelings for them as the people I choose to spend yrs of my life with remain the same....no regrets just great experiences..I am who I am today for having both these men be a part of my life
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I'm a Scorpio and no. I can't stay friends with my exes. When it's done, it's done.
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I wanna be a Aquarius cause they can stay friend I hear is that true?
Yes with some of the people I have dated I can, but only after a lot of time has passed.
My romantic relationships have usually had a strong friendship as a base, and they developed gradually so I got to know the person quite well before the relationship turned romantic.
I'm good friends with someone I was involved with for close to a decade. We don't have romantic feelings for each other now. He's met people I've dated and I've met people he's dated. Everyone likes him. He's that kind of person.
My romantic relationships have usually had a strong friendship as a base, and they developed gradually so I got to know the person quite well before the relationship turned romantic.
I'm good friends with someone I was involved with for close to a decade. We don't have romantic feelings for each other now. He's met people I've dated and I've met people he's dated. Everyone likes him. He's that kind of person.
Yes I am friends with my ex'es... we were mature enough to know when things weren't working out for us in the relationship. we don't hang out but we check up on each other regularly. My ex'es are...
2 Sag's
1 Cancer
2 Pisce's
2 Sag's
1 Cancer
2 Pisce's
^^^^ oh also 1 Aquarius
Posted by CapnScorp
I just had to sign up to tell you all what a load of rubbish is written here.
My Scorp boyfriend is best friends with his ex wife who is now married again. We split up 10yrs ago and over the past 12 months have got back together and are getting married in October. We remained friends throughout the split and dated other people. Not all Scorps are bitter nutcases incapable of sensible friendship.
+ 1 I agree
My romantic relationships have usually had a strong friendship as a base, and they developed gradually so I got to know the person quite well before the relationship turned romantic.
^^^^ This was most important in my relationships thats why we are still friends
Posted by AquariusaTheEleventhHouse
I wanna be a Aquarius cause they can stay friend I hear is that true?
lol no.
i won't even respect a man who keeps ex's as friends. i dont care what anyone says.
Posted by happykitsune
After a break up do you still remain friends with your exes?
is this a trick question????
No :/
For me, I think the level the relationship starts at usually dictates how things are afterwards.
For example, I'm friends with three ex's although one has just cut me off which he felt he needed to do. He's a Scorp with a shit load of Scorp planets. We were more friends and platonic really but I think he always had a candle burning hence the cut off which was a shame. It was easier to remain friends afterwards as the feelings were not deep and intense at all. I still cried though!
I am friends with an ex Pisces from years back. He's married now. We worked in the same industries for years. Again, it became more platonic so it as easier to remain friends. Nice fella, just not a match at all.
The third is Virgo and very hard as I do contract work for him. Half the time I want to hug him and the other half I want to smash his face in! This relationship was deep and intense, and it ended badly. Bitter was an understatement! However, I cut him off for a few months but we had to discuss work stuff again. We are very good friends and have a good bond but it is tough to deal with. Very tough. There's still feelings there but the situation is a complete no go.
I think as a Scorp we can do all the negative stuff but people focus so much on how 'bad' we are that they forget how well we can rise above things and see the good in situations or putting things aside to focus on a higher purpose or value.
For example, I'm friends with three ex's although one has just cut me off which he felt he needed to do. He's a Scorp with a shit load of Scorp planets. We were more friends and platonic really but I think he always had a candle burning hence the cut off which was a shame. It was easier to remain friends afterwards as the feelings were not deep and intense at all. I still cried though!
I am friends with an ex Pisces from years back. He's married now. We worked in the same industries for years. Again, it became more platonic so it as easier to remain friends. Nice fella, just not a match at all.
The third is Virgo and very hard as I do contract work for him. Half the time I want to hug him and the other half I want to smash his face in! This relationship was deep and intense, and it ended badly. Bitter was an understatement! However, I cut him off for a few months but we had to discuss work stuff again. We are very good friends and have a good bond but it is tough to deal with. Very tough. There's still feelings there but the situation is a complete no go.
I think as a Scorp we can do all the negative stuff but people focus so much on how 'bad' we are that they forget how well we can rise above things and see the good in situations or putting things aside to focus on a higher purpose or value.
I'm distant friends with two exes...
It's not a goal, but I have remained friend with two exes that are are actually my best friends now.
One I love(d) very deeply, but he just couldn't love me in a way I needed---or maybe it's the other way around *shrug*
The other, we really shouldn't have been more than friends. Luckily we were mature enough to see that and maintain the friendship without drama.
One I love(d) very deeply, but he just couldn't love me in a way I needed---or maybe it's the other way around *shrug*
The other, we really shouldn't have been more than friends. Luckily we were mature enough to see that and maintain the friendship without drama.
*friendships
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