scorpios i fvked up get your behinds in here

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Champagne on Saturday, May 9, 2015 and has 33 replies.
so backstory: i'm a scorpio woman dating a scorpio man. we're serious about each other and are currently living together cause my lease was over in may and he suggested i just pack my stuff and move to his apartment.
i fvcked up. yesterday came home wasted from a night out with friends and logged on fb (BAD decision) and wrote on my taurus ex page to wish him happy bday and this dude was so happy i remembered his bday he tried to keep the conversation going until i passed out. i didn't think it was inappropriate in the sense that i wasn't trying to meet up with him or anything like that.
soooo i wake up the next day (today) forgetting that i was talking to my ex on fb. i saw that my man was sleeping on the couch and not next to me in bed and knew something was wrong and since i was having blurry memories of what happened the night before i asked him if i did something wrong and YO HE KNEW I POSTED HAPPY BIRTHDAY ON MY EX PROFILE AND GOT SOOOOOO MAD ABOUT IT! I tried apologizing tried telling him i was just being drunk and saying happy birthday to everyone on fb but he wasn't hearing none of it! stormed out the house and now his phone goes straight to voicemail. haven't heard of him since
yoooo please what do i do to make it up to him? i've been feeling bad all day
im looking up places right now in case he comes back still mad and tells me to leave Sad
Posted by starlover
busy...it must be our Scorp/Tauro combinations Tongue


i am a scorp with taurus moon
Posted by busyeyes88
@starLover. So did i!!!lol lol I was expecting something a bit more exciting with that title!! Lol
@OP. Give him some space to 'wallow' and see this as a lesson learneD. Don't drink excessively so that you leave drunk messages to exes. Conduct yourself in a proper manner... Another reason why I don't stay in touch with exes.. The 'past' should stay in the past..



i dont talk to him anymore but i didnt want to be dramatic and delete him on fb since we have a lot of friends in common and sometimes see each other at functions.
Posted by Impulsv
Sorry ur Scorp probably knows ur not over Taurus. Damn are they hard to shake


thats what i was thinking. he probably thinks i wanna get back with the taurus but i really dont
Posted by beautifuldiaster
Posted by Champagne
Posted by Impulsv
Sorry ur Scorp probably knows ur not over Taurus. Damn are they hard to shake


thats what i was thinking. he probably thinks i wanna get back with the taurus but i really dont


You may not but you may be lacking something... needing something.. there is a subconscious thought there that needs an outlet. What gives?
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not at all. i think i was just being drunk and talking to everyone on fb LOL! The taurus tried getting back with me many times but i always politely declined his advances
Posted by TachiMichi
all i can say
is i hope for
the best for
you.

give him time
and no more
drunk writing
taurus. if he
loves you, he
will forgive
you. but he
will be a bit
suspicious of
you until he
knows in him
self that you
do not want
taurus ex.


thanks
Posted by Fox
http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/scorpio-women-are-you-friends-with-your-ex-bfs-5462460.asp?p=2#5478363

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how is this confusing??????????? I DON'T KEEP IN TOUCH WITH HIM BUT WE HAVE FRIENDS IN COMMON SO SOMETIMES WE SEE EACH OTHER AT FUNCTIONS. Im not worried abt his ass otherwise which is why last night me saying happy birthday was a huge wtf
Posted by Impulsv
I think if u want to work with Scorpio analyze why u felt the need to reach out to ex. It's ok if ur not over him completely but not fair to bf.
Figure out what u need to be over Taurus.
With alcohol well not truly an excuse that's when we do what we truly wanted to do.


i was over taurus like a year ago
Posted by Fox
btw does the scorp know the Taurus has tried getting back with you? because if that's the case, he's probably wondering why you're messaging him if you know he still has feelings for you.


no i never really told him because i never felt tempted to get back with taurus but him being my ex/ my man doesn't like him and keeps an eye out for him
Posted by Fox
it was confusing because you made it appear you didn't keep in touch, but you said happy birthday to him and somehow he can still make advances towards you(which means there is an open line of communication somewhere). Fb again?



you need to sit down. i can't stop him for still wanting me back,i don't entertain it and i don't even have his number saved. i never talk to him on fb or like his sh.it! this is why im shocked and made this thread. if it was normal behavior i wouldnt care
Posted by Impulsv

Was the communication from exe more like attempts to return or more like friendly. I think that would make a big difference for ur Scorpio



more flirty than friendly and he did ask to go out for drinks together but thank god my drunk ass didnt respond tooooo badly. i said 'aha yes with all the homies'
Posted by Fox
'you need to sit down' you're so defensive lmao. it was a simple question and I was explaining to you why it was confusing to me. You can't block him?


because you ask muddafukin dumbass questions and i got no time for your ass ho. blocking won't do sh.it and he's not harmful just bugs once in a blue moon when he gets in his feels
Posted by Impulsv
Ok at the time of contact what were u thinking or feeling. I know u said it out of ur nature so let's figure out the underline issue for u to feel the need to contact him.
Ok I loved ex Taurus n had not been over it . I've been wasted n thought of him yet I've never contacted him while wasted.
Why do u think u did subconsciously?



honestly nothing!like i explained i was drunk and posting a lot on what i was seeing on my timeline and just in bed laughing at everything til i passed out lol.
Posted by Champagne
i got no time for your ass ho.


You can be from LA, you can have an avatar with a champagne bottle, can even have it as your username..
..but you still can't have class, when you're trash.
Posted by Damnata
Posted by Champagne
i got no time for your ass ho.


You can be from LA, you can have an avatar with a champagne bottle, can even have it as your username..
..but you still can't have class, when you're trash.

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ho stop making assumptions and come out of your dusty bama basement
only dried up hos that haven't lived are impressed by champagne or la.
Posted by Champagne
Posted by Damnata
Posted by Champagne
i got no time for your ass ho.


You can be from LA, you can have an avatar with a champagne bottle, can even have it as your username..
..but you still can't have class, when you're trash.



ho stop making assumptions and come out of your dusty bama basement
only dried up hos that haven't lived are impressed by champagne or la.
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I agree, hence what I was stating.
You must have crippling insecurity complexes.
Posted by Damnata
Posted by Champagne
Posted by Damnata
Posted by Champagne
i got no time for your ass ho.


You can be from LA, you can have an avatar with a champagne bottle, can even have it as your username..
..but you still can't have class, when you're trash.



ho stop making assumptions and come out of your dusty bama basement
only dried up hos that haven't lived are impressed by champagne or la.


I agree, hence what I was stating.
You must have crippling insecurity complexes.
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i really dont. just because my location says LA or i put up champagne doesnt mean i think im bragging. matter fact didnt even speak to you so why you coming for my status ho? sounds like you're the one who's insecure ma. a lil fresh trip out the basement will do you good i promise
Posted by Impulsv
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Posted by Champagne
Posted by Fox
'you need to sit down' you're so defensive lmao. it was a simple question and I was explaining to you why it was confusing to me. You can't block him?


because you ask muddafukin dumbass questions and i got no time for your ass ho. blocking won't do sh.it and he's not harmful just bugs once in a blue moon when he gets in his feels


He is harmful. Your man is sleeping on the couch... I'm just saying.


The once in a blue moon when he gets his feels must be what keeps u chorded to him? Sometime our egos like to keep those that wants us when we don't.
Not saying that's what ur doing but it's a possibility.
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not the case at all
Posted by Rabbit
Shifty alcoholic skank.


bye you're a lame
Posted by Impulsv
so u are saying that the root of the problem is only alcohol.
All I am saying is as a Scorpio if u gave me that answer I wouldn't buy it.
I'd give more credit to someone who can introspect n really look at their behavior n knew were it came from. That's why I am asking because I sense that if you approach ur Scorpio from this area u would have more success.



why is it hard to believe? i was just drunk and kiki'ng with everyone on fb. fb notified it was his birthday and i holla'd to say happy bday. shouldnt have but my happy drunk ass did. if i wanted him back i could have him this minute.but i would never. i understand why my man is pissed just wish that he doesnt think the worst about my intentions cause im faithful to him
Posted by Champagne
Posted by Impulsv
so u are saying that the root of the problem is only alcohol.
All I am saying is as a Scorpio if u gave me that answer I wouldn't buy it.
I'd give more credit to someone who can introspect n really look at their behavior n knew were it came from. That's why I am asking because I sense that if you approach ur Scorpio from this area u would have more success.



why is it hard to believe? i was just drunk and kiki'ng with everyone on fb. fb notified it was his birthday and i holla'd to say happy bday. shouldnt have but my happy drunk ass did. if i wanted him back i could have him this minute.but i would never. i understand why my man is pissed just wish that he doesnt think the worst about my intentions cause im faithful to him
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Maybe your relationship issues are because the fact your a raging cu.nt.
Posted by FrostAndBite

Assuming the best of OP,


lmao.
i wub you elly. so adorable.

Lordt...
Posted by Champagne

i fvcked up. yesterday came home wasted from a night out with friends and logged on fb (BAD decision) and wrote on my taurus ex page to wish him happy bday and this dude was so happy i remembered his bday he tried to keep the conversation going until i passed out. i didn't think it was inappropriate in the sense that i wasn't trying to meet up with him or anything like that.
soooo i wake up the next day (today) forgetting that i was talking to my ex on fb. i saw that my man was sleeping on the couch and not next to me in bed and knew something was wrong and since i was having blurry memories of what happened the night before i asked him if i did something wrong and YO HE KNEW I POSTED HAPPY BIRTHDAY ON MY EX PROFILE AND GOT SOOOOOO MAD ABOUT IT! I tried apologizing tried telling him i was just being drunk and saying happy birthday to everyone on fb but he wasn't hearing none of it!


Saying a simple "happy birthday" and going to bed beside your man is one thing. Having a convo until you pass out is another. Did you have a conversation with "everyone on fb"? That response right there just made the issue worse imo because if you didn't have a conversation with "everyone on fb" than clearly your ex got special attention. See why he might have an issue? It's an insulting response because you were trying to downplay it or even hide your intentions in his eyes. I believe that is why he is so upset.
Not to mention your response to your ex's question for drinks. You're stating you are not in contact and you keep it moving, so the response should have been a simple, "no I don't think that would be appropriate", or "I'm sorry, I'll have to pass, but all the best. Happy birthday again. Good night." done. Your response and actions sounds like you are leaving the door open. That is an issue. How do you make it up to him? Address that. Not with a whole bunch of words. You know how this works with a Scorp. Your words mean sh*t when your trust is now being questioned.
Overall, you both have an issue with trust in this relationship as I've stated before. First with your secret drive by his mother's house and now this. Why is he reading your fb activities while you are sleeping? Does he usually invade your privacy? After this mess, I'm guessing it will simply get worse.
....anyway, good luck with this.
Has he eased up? I hoping for BF has calmed down by now. I have never met a Scorpio you could "whip." You're a Scorpio, you should understand this. They will do everything for you, share everything with you....but if they do that, you have to have some respect for them.
They won't be anyone's carpet.
If he has calmed down by now you might want to try telling him that you truly appreciated everything he's done for you and that you love him. He was on the verge of supporting you! That's a deep step. He was probably thinking you should have known not to cross that line with him. Stick with the reason that you were drunk, telling him you didn't know it would piss him off won't work.

Champagne,
I don't know how to give you advice. I made mistake 1 thing from an ex Scorpio - He burned me to the hell.
We were about to get marry that time. I cried harder for my mistake chatting a man - that man wasn't my ex.
wasn't even my friend. Just came along and was just asking.
Scorpio have a hard time of forgiving other mistakes.
so I think you just have to forgive yourself and keep moving even it's still painful.
Avoid too much drama and chasing after that Scorpio - He's Scorpio man and it takes time for him to forget.
Wish you all the best..

Gosh,

My ex taur bday- I don't forget it but no need to msg an ex. He sent me request to fb. I insulted him telling is he not ashamed of disguising his fb account and added me as friend? but I am not one of his kind. thank you.
Ex means Exit. lol
Posted by FrostAndBite
I'll be the one dissenting opinion here.
But what the fuck? This shit really gets my gem Mars and 11rh house stelliums going.
Dude should get over it. Certainly not sleep on the couch and leave their shared home moping over a drunken happy birthday Fb message.
Assuming the best of OP, that's she's clearly drawn a line with the ex that she will not date him or see him romantically and the ex has never pushed and threatened their relationship, who cares she send him a happy birthday message? The situation as it reads, OP's behavior was a bit socially irresponsible. But there are much worse trust threatening actions than a Fb message. It doesn't warrant pulling out al the emotional ice out stops.
A mature man would give someone the benefit of the doubt to apologize and then resolve the issue mutually. Not create more emotional turmoil.



Agreed.
Men.
Posted by e11e
stop coddling, she fucked up and she needs to own it.
op, put yourself in his shoes....exactly how would you feel if he was the one portraying that behaviour? Word for word, action for action....pretend it was *hime* who did this.
Would you be okay with it? Would you forgive in a snap?
not likely.
you are a scorpio and you know words of "I'm sorry" don't mean a damn thing. It's all about actions. It will take some time because he will most definitely be watching you and also will need to decide whether you have enough respect for him and yourself.
whether you are are really a skank or not, time will tell.
are you up for the challenge or are you just hiding and minding yourself to keep the relationship?
he'll figure it out soon enough.


As long as he is making the effort to see if she's for real, its good.
What happened to trust in relationships anyway?
Posted by e11e
Posted by 037
Posted by e11e
stop coddling, she fucked up and she needs to own it.
op, put yourself in his shoes....exactly how would you feel if he was the one portraying that behaviour? Word for word, action for action....pretend it was *hime* who did this.
Would you be okay with it? Would you forgive in a snap?
not likely.
you are a scorpio and you know words of "I'm sorry" don't mean a damn thing. It's all about actions. It will take some time because he will most definitely be watching you and also will need to decide whether you have enough respect for him and yourself.
whether you are are really a skank or not, time will tell.
are you up for the challenge or are you just hiding and minding yourself to keep the relationship?
he'll figure it out soon enough.


As long as he is making the effort to see if she's for real, its good.
What happened to trust in relationships anyway?


who are you?
if you are the op under a new username to help your case....that's been done before, you aren't that clever. it ends very badly, just so you know.
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No, I'm not the op.
She needs her case heard with her Scorpio anyway, not on a forum.
Posted by e11e
Posted by 037
Posted by e11e
stop coddling, she fucked up and she needs to own it.
op, put yourself in his shoes....exactly how would you feel if he was the one portraying that behaviour? Word for word, action for action....pretend it was *hime* who did this.
Would you be okay with it? Would you forgive in a snap?
not likely.
you are a scorpio and you know words of "I'm sorry" don't mean a damn thing. It's all about actions. It will take some time because he will most definitely be watching you and also will need to decide whether you have enough respect for him and yourself.
whether you are are really a skank or not, time will tell.
are you up for the challenge or are you just hiding and minding yourself to keep the relationship?
he'll figure it out soon enough.


As long as he is making the effort to see if she's for real, its good.
What happened to trust in relationships anyway?


who are you?
if you are the op under a new username to help your case....that's been done before, you aren't that clever. it ends very badly, just so you know.
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No, I'm not the op.
She needs her case heard with her Scorpio anyway, not on a forum.
Posted by e11e
what happened to trust in relationships?
you through it out with the bath water when you decided to get tipsy and snuggle up on fb with your ex.
next time.....come home and antagonize HIM with your tipsyness.....NOT the ex.


True.
But then that doesn't really challenge his trust in her, does it?
In any case, I'm really not invested. The situation simply caught my eye.