Scorps and their dark moods

Scorpio's I don't think I will ever for the life of me understand those dark moods of yours!

The only other really moody sign I've experienced is Cancer, although with them it's more of an incessant whinge/moan/woe is me. Scorps on the other hand seem to just retreat when in such a mood.

I just find it hard to understand. Not saying I'm not prone to dark moods just I tend to be easily jollied out of it.

I wonder........where do you guys go when such a mood hits?

It genuinely baffles me.

Lmao.

The thing is I get the need for space. Just I can't do too much of it because it bores the shit out of me. Must be the Gemini moon.

You Scorps though you take space to a whole new level. Even the Aqua wasn't this hard to get through to.

mp the "place" typically isn't physical just away...in my head or just within
kinda hard to explain in words

sorta somewhere shut where no one can reach no matter how hard they try & there really is no personal target unless it's myself...it's not punishment for another but more a solace for myself

& ur completely right cancers r kinda lk scorp light (or hard) depending on the mood...remember we r the shelled creatures of the zodiac...there r reasons for this.

don't take it personal if it's happening, it needs to.

good luck

grrr & bling u brought me back today to answer the question u asked me earlier :/ I'm doing it now

Posted by crazybeautiful1
mp the "place" typically isn't physical just away...in my head or just within
kinda hard to explain in words

sorta somewhere shut where no one can reach no matter how hard they try & there really is no personal target unless it's myself...it's not punishment for another but more a solace for myself

& ur completely right cancers r kinda lk scorp light (or hard) depending on the mood...remember we r the shelled creatures of the zodiac...there r reasons for this.

don't take it personal if it's happening, it needs to.

good luck

I know you lol welcome back. 😛

Posted by everevolvingepithet
What did you do ?

I did nothing. He's just so huffy and in a "shitty mood" so much. I like happy people that's all.

Maybe I'm just not cut out to be with a Scorp.

Pisces sun, Gem moon, Taurus rising, Aries venus, Aquarius Mercury and Mars.

I have a strong Jupiter influence in my chart though, mega strong, I'm like the easter bunny at Christmas on amphetamines most of the time. 🙂

Thing is I see a lot of Scorps on here who come across as life and soul, happy peeps etc. so maybe it's just him.

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What did you do ?

I did nothing. He's just so huffy and in a "shitty mood" so much. I like happy people that's all.

Maybe I'm just not cut out to be with a Scorp.

Right, and what's your sign again ?
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Bit slow tonight been on the wine this is a dig at Pisces ae? 😛

Fucking fuck!

@ Elle why is it so hard for you guys to just be happy though?

Just seems like such a struggle for most of the Scorps I know.

thank u mp 🙂

I'm an extremely happy person in life...prob cuz I live in my own head a lot

have a great weekend!

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thank u mp 🙂

I'm an extremely happy person in life...prob cuz I live in my own head a lot

have a great weekend!

Ditto.

And you too. 🙂

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What did you do ?

I did nothing. He's just so huffy and in a "shitty mood" so much. I like happy people that's all.

Maybe I'm just not cut out to be with a Scorp.

Right, and what's your sign again ?
🙂

Bit slow tonight been on the wine this is a dig at Pisces ae? 😛

Fucking fuck!

I was being dry, I remember yr a Pisces 🙂

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I got there eventually. Damn Libra/Scorp. My Scorp has a Libra moon pfffft!

I don't have a sun in scorpio, but my moon is in scorpio and I find it takes over periodically. Sometimes if I feel like I'm not being appreciated or ignored I will shut down (not talk, put my head down like I'm sleeping, distract myself with other things besides the people in the room). I can easilly fall into a depressed mood if I'm disappointed or feel discouraged. Sometimes I just get in dark moods because I just need to feel that feeling. Like when I'm listening to sad music and I start to think back on the bad times in my life and look off into the distance or just lay in bed, in the dark.
It was one of the things that really hurt one of my longest lasting relationships. Scorpio has a tendency to fall into relationships where dramatic things are occuring and there are hard times, but you can make it through because that will make the bond stronger. I actually sabotaged a good relationship because I felt this need to make things mishapened in some way so that if we got through it I knew for sure it was meant to be. Obviously we didn't get through it and I hate myself for doing it.
Those dark moods can really destroy a persons life if they don't learn to contain them within and not let them affect their relationships with people. I'm over it now...I mean I still listen to sad music and sit in the dark sometimes, but at least it's not hurting anyone.

Why do we get so dark? Hm good question. Because we FEEL things on such an intense level. There is always a very good (in our mind) reason for it. I definitely know the deepest, darkest a scorpio can go and recreate myself from the ashes (suicidal). At that time, it was a number of things. I felt abandoned (my father was murdered), betrayed (my sperm donor did it), both of those (my mom couldn't deal with it and was taking it out on me), unworthy, unwanted, ugly, and like I had no life left with my dad gone and my 1st love moved away at the same time. Like the people who WERE in my life were either lying or posing as my friend. Like they were talking about me behind my back. Like I wasn't deserving of true friends or love. Like no matter what I did it wasn't good enough.

I often come back to these same lines of thinking when I'm in my dark moods. Its like a cascade, one thing that makes me think along these lines (rejection, fe) and I am back here again. I've gotten MUCH better about controlling it (no more trips to the doctor to make sure I didn't OD too badly or to stitch up my arms) but the way of thinking remains. I have had to literally FORCE myself to realize it will pass. I repeat it to myself over and over. I usually go to sleep and wake up feeling somewhat better.

Posted by happykitsune
I don't have a sun in scorpio, but my moon is in scorpio and I find it takes over periodically. Sometimes if I feel like I'm not being appreciated or ignored I will shut down (not talk, put my head down like I'm sleeping, distract myself with other things besides the people in the room). I can easilly fall into a depressed mood if I'm disappointed or feel discouraged. Sometimes I just get in dark moods because I just need to feel that feeling. Like when I'm listening to sad music and I start to think back on the bad times in my life and look off into the distance or just lay in bed, in the dark.
It was one of the things that really hurt one of my longest lasting relationships. Scorpio has a tendency to fall into relationships where dramatic things are occuring and there are hard times, but you can make it through because that will make the bond stronger. I actually sabotaged a good relationship because I felt this need to make things mishapened in some way so that if we got through it I knew for sure it was meant to be. Obviously we didn't get through it and I hate myself for doing it.
Those dark moods can really destroy a persons life if they don't learn to contain them within and not let them affect their relationships with people. I'm over it now...I mean I still listen to sad music and sit in the dark sometimes, but at least it's not hurting anyone.

This is me too. Sometimes I hate being a water sign. But then I can't imagine not being emotional.

Posted by Scorporella
The two key words with scorpio are "passion" and "intensity". We feel everything soul deep. When we love, it's soul deep. When we're happy, it's soul deep. When we're in pain, it's soul deep. Why is it all soul deep? "Passion" and "Intensity". So when we go to that dark place, it's soul deep. As others said before me, it's somewhere within ourselves that we withdraw to. For me, I can close down emotionally in the blink of an eye. I have to when someone does something that hurts me, because otherwise that pain becomes soul deep. I can still function, communicate with you, continue to work, and on the outside, you won't have a clue about what I'm feeling on the inside. On the inside I'm being torn apart, ravaged by the emotional torrents, outside, I'm calm, if quiet. I look peaceful, if a little less exciteable. I seem to have it all under control, though a little emotionally distant. You may be able to tell something is wrong, but you won't know exactly how deeply, how gut wrenchingly bad, how soul tearingly painful, whatever it was that was said or done, has effected me. I have always said there is a place within me that no one can touch, no one can reach, no one can ever know. It's in there where all my tears are cried, where I beat the walls and lament my losses, and shred my heart. I guess I should say, no one is ever let in there at that depth, unless they find a way in. I've only had one person in my life that was ever patient enough, cared enough, trustworthy enough, to even want to try to reach that depth. And I will admit, it scares the crap out of me that he has gotten as deep as he has, because he's the one person who has the power to destroy me. If ever he were to betray me, hurt me in any way, I don't know that I would ever be able to find my way back, because he's gotten to some of the deepest places of me.

And it's not that we can't be happy, because we can be happy. It's just that we feel everything with such an intensity and passion, that when we hurt, it's with that same intensity and passion, and that comes across in all that we do, even in our experience of pain.

This. 100% . You said it so much better than I did.

And I have to add.. THIS is the reason I have a tattoo of an elvish rune that means 'that which will never be known or comprehended' anatomically over my heart. Nobody has ever gotten that deep except my dad (rip).

Well, no, its under my boob, I can't really see it. Unless I really try.

Its something that I feel very strongly on a daily basis anyway though, so what would it matter if I were?

Thanks for all your comments. Sounds like trust issues have a lot to do with it.

Mine clearly does not trust me then. Wednesday all was fine, sweetness and light things are better than ever then nothing Thursday so I let it be (I don't have to speak to him every day I like my space too) and just sent a quick text last night to ask how he was. He was abrupt and weird so I asked if everything was ok. He said sorry just in a shitty mood right now so I asked if I could help or whatever and got "no it's fine I'm just chilling" and then "nite" pretty much just shut me down on the spot.

I think my problem isn't with the fact he needed time to be pissed off or whatever it's how he puts it across. Like no thanks for caring or trying to help or whatever or not tonight but I'll give you a shout tomorrow anything. What I get though is a brick wall.

Such dramatic moodswings, never know what I'm going to get with him. Actually thought we were getting somewhere and now it's back to square one.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Get over your exes and stop reliving the leftovers in your current relationships ?
You don't always get the upper hand, no matter how you play it, maybe ?

I am over my ex. It's not bad to feel bad about the terrible things you've done in a relationship. That's how you learn and make the next relationship a better one. If you don't remember and analyze what you did wrong how are you ever going to grow from it. It's the reason why so many people's relationships fail because they keep doin the same shit over and over again and they wonder whats wrong...hello, take a step back and remember your last relationships. Obviously you're the one who's doing something wrong and you need to fix it or you'll never be in a happy relationship.

Well it's now Monday and still no word from him. I sent a text Saturday night just saying hi asked if he was feeling any better - no reply.

Have since been told he had a party at his Saturday night and was out drinking yesterday for the football.

So it's clearly just ME who is subject to this dark mood and is getting the silent treatment for some reason.

Starting to wonder if I've done something wrong, but for the life of me I can't think what. Up until Thursday everything was fine.

Starting to get a bit pissed off at this hot and cold act.

Dark moods, they strike us by surprise too! I need to be alone, locked in my room, my santuary..my alone time a necessity, I not only bark at any type of (during this time) what seems to be an intrusion, but I bite too and you feel it. I don't feel it necessary to punish innocent by-standers, so I will turn my music on, shut out the world and get lost in myself,my thoughts,my feelings,my reasons.I shut people out and then feel bad about it cause they have no idea why. I need to chew,swallow and digest the core of what's making me feel in such a mood. I ultimately(in most cases)I'm my own therapist too! Come to the concluusion although I may not have the control of when the mood strikes but I can cotrol its crossfire. And this too shall pass

Now Tuesday and still.........nothing.

Scorps, help? I have a bad feeling about this.

Can't be normal behaviour surely.

Thanks exo - sorry just it's frustrating and the longer it goes on the more I think fuck this can't be good lol.

Still find it weird though this whole disappear for days on end thing.

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lol. it is weird, but i've done it and my scorp has done it. the disappearing is us just hiding out for a while to analyze things, deal with problems, etc. we need a lot of alone time.

Oh thaat and eating brains/ swallowing souls no doubt.
Letting key secrets out her folks, quick before I hide it !

haha! and making voodoo dolls, sacrificing animals, raping small children...

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Lmao! Long as he's not making a voodoo doll of me fuck that shit.

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lol. it is weird, but i've done it and my scorp has done it. the disappearing is us just hiding out for a while to analyze things, deal with problems, etc. we need a lot of alone time.

I've done it since Friday. I'm just now communicating.

So, yeah, it's normal.

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Cool, feel a wee bit better now. Although I still think something is up.

My spidey senses are tingling...

i've been hiding for a few days. i like to unravel in the privacy of my own home lol. i just think it's an essential thing for us to do from time to time. in this case, i'm having an introspective period and indulging my passions cos i've neglected them in favour of obsessing over things which have no relevance or importance in my life.

i think it's cos i can handle things in my head when i'm alone. i can deal with the most horrible things in isolation but my biggest fear is if i come out of hiding and encounter the situation or person who put me there in the first place, i will completely lose control of my emotions and a meltdown in front of witnesses is something that scares me. i think i have an innate fear of being carted off to a loony bin or something.

it's like when you're cocooned in your comfort zone, you see things clearly and feel you can get to grips with what you're feeling. external stimulus of any kind during this process is not welcome.

Posted by MissPirate
Scorpio's I don't think I will ever for the life of me understand those dark moods of yours!

The only other really moody sign I've experienced is Cancer, although with them it's more of an incessant whinge/moan/woe is me. Scorps on the other hand seem to just retreat when in such a mood.

I just find it hard to understand. Not saying I'm not prone to dark moods just I tend to be easily jollied out of it.

I wonder........where do you guys go when such a mood hits?

It genuinely baffles me.

I'm trying to fully understand the post. Are you asking "where do we go when such a mood hits" in terms of what is on our mind/bothering us that is so "dark" or why do we get in the mood to begin with ? In either case, I think that's a hard thing to answer because it's always situational IMO.

Short answer: I live too much in my head. I over analyze situations, event and conversations, and these thoughts put me in a funk. Especially if I think the situation, event or conversation has not gone the way I would like (control freak here). I isolate myself to reflect on these things because 1)I just don't think most people I know (I only have one water sign in my close circle) would get it/me anyway or 2)the people that are close to me have something to do with the mood I am in and I have a very hot temper. Better to take space before I say something I regret--which is very likely .

"The two key words with scorpio are "passion" and "intensity". We feel everything soul deep. When we love, it's soul deep. When we're happy, it's soul deep. When we're in pain, it's soul deep. Why is it all soul deep? "Passion" and "Intensity". So when we go to that dark place, it's soul deep. As others said before me, it's somewhere within ourselves that we withdraw to. For me, I can close down emotionally in the blink of an eye. I have to when someone does something that hurts me, because otherwise that pain becomes soul deep. I can still function, communicate with you, continue to work, and on the outside, you won't have a clue about what I'm feeling on the inside. On the inside I'm being torn apart, ravaged by the emotional torrents, outside, I'm calm, if quiet. I look peaceful, if a little less exciteable. I seem to have it all under control, though a little emotionally distant. You may be able to tell something is wrong, but you won't know exactly how deeply, how gut wrenchingly bad, how soul tearingly painful, whatever it was that was said or done, has effected me. I have always said there is a place within me that no one can touch, no one can reach, no one can ever know. It's in there where all my tears are cried, where I beat the walls and lament my losses, and shred my heart. I guess I should say, no one is ever let in there at that depth, unless they find a way in. I've only had one person in my life that was ever patient enough, cared enough, trustworthy enough, to even want to try to reach that depth. And I will admit, it scares the crap out of me that he has gotten as deep as he has, because he's the one person who has the power to destroy me. If ever he were to betray me, hurt me in any way, I don't know that I would ever be able to find my way back, because he's gotten to some of the deepest places of me.

And it's not that we can't be happy, because we can be happy. It's just that we feel everything with such an intensity and passion, that when we hurt, it's with that same intensity and passion, and that comes across in all that we do, even in our experience of pain."

Yes, yes and YES!