See heres the thing.....
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by missmorals on Tuesday, April 18, 2006 and has 21 replies.
When pursuing a person for a relationship are you interested in the "love will grow" concept or like me, do you need to feel red hot fiery passion straight away? See in my opinion, the red hot fiery passion is not the best way to start a relationship as passion dies down after a while (depending on who your with of course) and your left with a restless, empty feeling of how to pursue it further..that coupled with the fact that I get bored quite easily..
What do you guys reckon..how do you start your relationships..and what do you think is the best way to start one?..
What do you guys reckon..how do you start your relationships..and what do you think is the best way to start one?..
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Well if I know I'm not looking for anything deep then I'll definitely just go for the first thing I feel, and if it's red-hot then it's like that.
But for someone whom I suspect is going to last, or has a sort of survivability in my life, then I'm definitely the type of wait it out and let it grow. All my best relationships have been the slow to start, but deep in time.
But for someone whom I suspect is going to last, or has a sort of survivability in my life, then I'm definitely the type of wait it out and let it grow. All my best relationships have been the slow to start, but deep in time.
i cant say im one to go for the first thing i see or feel. thats not love thats lust. which is why the geminilover thing was just a compliment, you see.
or was it *evil laugh*
or was it *evil laugh*
True say Elliot..I started my relationship with a Leo the red hot fiery way, but that soon died, well after 2 years anyway..and I was left with the empty feeling that I didn't want him anymore. I tried for a year to make it better, thought maybe its just a phase I am going through but no it didn't return so I finished it...So now am treading carefully. Passion is very important to me but so is longevity..
Scorpius..so you go for the more deep and meaningful connection? How do you differentiate love and lust? for peeps like us who are so passionate..the two could easily be confused..Not one to blow my own trumpet (well only sometimes) but for someone who goes for "lust" supposedly, I must say I have immense self-control..only had 2 relationships..Scorpio & Leo..Scorpio was the best, goes without saying really..I don't feel the need to go from relationship to relationship, man to man..I lose my self worth..silly I know. I am quite traditional..
thats so true. exact same thing happened to me almost exact in everything.
didnt find my sweet heart, christina until after that was paradise with her. she was a cancer.
didnt find my sweet heart, christina until after that was paradise with her. she was a cancer.
i too follow your rules of tradition. I suppose in order to differenciate the two then id repeat what you said about the deep and meaningfulness. hope that makes sense, sometimes i dont talk right because im polish, heh.
I guess Im the one who'll wait for the "love to grow".. Im in a relationship with a Libra.. at first I just liked him there was nothing of that RED HOT FIERY PASSION thing.. now after these three months Im so crazy bout him.. we talk over the phone all the time.. well love at first sight is quite bookish. You can "like" a person at first sight but you can't fall in love with him. Love needs time and love increases as time passes by that is if the love is true.
Yeah thats a good way of thinking Ice princez...I know the difference between love and lust but the two from a scorpio perspective are quite close..I have left you a comment about your Libra male..we aren't meant to be compatible but hey, I am sure you'll make it work.
Scorpius - you have a lot of Capricorn in your chart..that may explain why you feel down a lot of time. They seem to be rather depressing folk..anyways..your a scorpio so all is great!...I am the firestarter, twisted firestarter...I will help u...
Scorpius - you have a lot of Capricorn in your chart..that may explain why you feel down a lot of time. They seem to be rather depressing folk..anyways..your a scorpio so all is great!...I am the firestarter, twisted firestarter...I will help u...
oh missmorals, your great, i always thought i had mostly scorpio in my chart but i guess you know better. anyway my little firestarter, thanks for your help offer. pleased to be friends.
Wooohooo..lets part?!
For me, it has got to start with a connection and attractiveness. Doesn't have to be hot and fiery. But there's got to be mutual desire from the both of us, but with in the first week, there's got to be that deep meaningful conversation with street smarts and intelligence at the same time. Added with the humor and sarcasm, im hooked.
That's how it was for me and my Cap. We talked since the first day we met, talked for hours on end every night, a week later had our first date and we were so hot for each other, but I wanted it to take it slow so that it wasnt just for lust. Its turns out that our personality is so similar, we love to do the same things and that's hard for me to find in a person. So its nice to find someone who we are both attracted to each other on the same level and have that deep emotional conversation and be able to talk on random spur of the moment things in our lives. Its wonderful to have both at the beginning of a relationship instead of one or the other.
That's how it was for me and my Cap. We talked since the first day we met, talked for hours on end every night, a week later had our first date and we were so hot for each other, but I wanted it to take it slow so that it wasnt just for lust. Its turns out that our personality is so similar, we love to do the same things and that's hard for me to find in a person. So its nice to find someone who we are both attracted to each other on the same level and have that deep emotional conversation and be able to talk on random spur of the moment things in our lives. Its wonderful to have both at the beginning of a relationship instead of one or the other.
Yeah Scorp and Capricorn personality is very similar...I love the earth signs and their sarcasm..its brilliant..
My cappie friend and I have been talking everyday for the last 7 months..imagine..all day every day..they are so godamn slow at admitting that they like u though..hell would freeze over before I admit I like them first..The scorp pride would not allow it..
My cappie friend and I have been talking everyday for the last 7 months..imagine..all day every day..they are so godamn slow at admitting that they like u though..hell would freeze over before I admit I like them first..The scorp pride would not allow it..
im affraid i dont fit the typical scorpio pride then
No its ok for others to admit it to me first..Just don't expect it back!..lol..
People me outta here...byeeeee
People me outta here...byeeeee
Relationships for me have to start with a connection as well as mutual attraction. I am more the "love will grow" type; as love grows the fiery red passion will too. My Scorp told me he liked me first before I told him; guess that doesn't fit the typical scorp pride either. Although afterwards, he told me he felt a bit vulnerable?! Mmmmmm!
well make him feel supirior and you two could go miles high.
Actually my Cap was the first to admit it. I am the old fashion type of not saying it tell I hear it first. I never make the first move, but once I know he feels that way for me, then I open up.
I am the one who wanted to take is slow. He was just waiting for me. He calls it "watching me". Like he's waiting for me to say ok im ready to go to the next level. I was always like hey why is it me who has to decide. he would say no its not that, its like im already there, im just waiting for you to be ok with it.
He says he's never like this with anyone. He doesnt open up but with me he instinctively feels like I'm everything he's looking for... and you now what? he is what I am looking for and I'm picky! But I guess for that mysterious thing, I do when I feel for someone that I feel if the "right one" for me, I'm an open book and the scorpio in me disappears and i'm all for the romance at heart. Call me a lush! this is the first relationship where I've gone so fast in opening up and deep and letting it happen on its own and not trying to control so much, tho to others im sure I'm still controlling, eh that'll never go away!
I am the one who wanted to take is slow. He was just waiting for me. He calls it "watching me". Like he's waiting for me to say ok im ready to go to the next level. I was always like hey why is it me who has to decide. he would say no its not that, its like im already there, im just waiting for you to be ok with it.
He says he's never like this with anyone. He doesnt open up but with me he instinctively feels like I'm everything he's looking for... and you now what? he is what I am looking for and I'm picky! But I guess for that mysterious thing, I do when I feel for someone that I feel if the "right one" for me, I'm an open book and the scorpio in me disappears and i'm all for the romance at heart. Call me a lush! this is the first relationship where I've gone so fast in opening up and deep and letting it happen on its own and not trying to control so much, tho to others im sure I'm still controlling, eh that'll never go away!
How long did it take your cap to say that to you Scorpiobabe?
well actually he said it pretty early with out saying it. I want to tell you something, but I dont want to scare you away. So I told him to take his time Cuz I dont want to be scared either, knewing what he was going to tell me. I think this was like 2 weeks after dating everyday of seeing each other. AFter a month he literally said it for real. I asked him if that is possible for it to be real love if he can say it that fast and not be lust, and he said its true becuase normally he doestn even last this long if it was just lust. Usually when he's dating, girls start to bother him and he ends things becuase they grow to bother him. With me, he didnt feel that way ever. It took me a week longer because I'm not the kind of person who just gives my heart and I dont say I love you back jsut becuase you say it to me. I know that people say it in the heat of the moment, or mix it up for really caring. I guess there's different levels of love. then the falling in love is completely different. You know? neither of us has ever said it so fast to anyone else. that's why i am in a whirlwind right now, becuase i never give my heart up so easily. But I'm trying to be different. Let fate be fate this time and not control so much. i realize that I value this relationship so much becuase we have so much in common (80% ) and what we dont we balance each other out (ying/yang). And if it doesnt work, I've cherished every minute of the day.
The marriage that I've been in for 10 yrs and seperated from my husband for almost 2 yrs now, it was best of friends first, Highschool sweetheart knew him for 4 yrs before I dated, we were attracted to each other, always hung in the same circles of friends but never dated until our senior year. he already joined the service and left after we graduated HS and then we went our own way. 3 yrs later, he contacted my family home and I called him back living on the other side of the states and we had a long distant relationship and saw him all the time on vacation when he came home to see me. We got married and the relationship grew. That's how I usually am. All about knowing and letting the relationship grow to be and then made the passiion happen since he's a scorpio as well. We had a rollercoaster of a ride. When it was great it was really great like 3 times great, when it was bad, its worst then wanting to die.Very high and lows. There was no middle ground for us. It was def friends first and make the relationship work and then we made the passion happen since we knew everything about each other, including our family lived like 6 blocks away from each other.
Where as my capricorn makes me stable and not so irrate and evens me out. We are building the hot fiery passion at the same time as the deep meaningful make this work out type as well so its an equal balance and I love it. I love living in the grays and not be so volitile good and bad.
The marriage that I've been in for 10 yrs and seperated from my husband for almost 2 yrs now, it was best of friends first, Highschool sweetheart knew him for 4 yrs before I dated, we were attracted to each other, always hung in the same circles of friends but never dated until our senior year. he already joined the service and left after we graduated HS and then we went our own way. 3 yrs later, he contacted my family home and I called him back living on the other side of the states and we had a long distant relationship and saw him all the time on vacation when he came home to see me. We got married and the relationship grew. That's how I usually am. All about knowing and letting the relationship grow to be and then made the passiion happen since he's a scorpio as well. We had a rollercoaster of a ride. When it was great it was really great like 3 times great, when it was bad, its worst then wanting to die.Very high and lows. There was no middle ground for us. It was def friends first and make the relationship work and then we made the passion happen since we knew everything about each other, including our family lived like 6 blocks away from each other.
Where as my capricorn makes me stable and not so irrate and evens me out. We are building the hot fiery passion at the same time as the deep meaningful make this work out type as well so its an equal balance and I love it. I love living in the grays and not be so volitile good and bad.
Awwww shweet...MM wipes a tear...lol
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