Situation that is bugging me.... Please help.

Hey everyone.

give you a little information about this lady friend and me.

me: sun scorpio - moon aries - ascendant taurus - mercury - mars libra - venus scorpio - jupiter aries - saturn sag - uranus sag - neptune cap - pluto scorpio

her: sun capricorn - moon cancer - ascendant leo - mercury cap - venus aquarius - mars scorpio - jupiter aries - saturn sag - uranus sag - neptune cap - pluto scorpio

so here is the situation and i'm sorry if i start rambling.. i've had a little bit to drink -_-

basically i've known this girl since high school .. which was roughly from 2003-2006. We lost touch after we graduated and then i made the effort to get back in touch w/ her just recently probably about 2 months ago.

Her and I have a nice chemistry and a lot in common emotionally (basically can read each other, and know what each other is thinking and have the same interest and hobbies) same blunt and sarcastic humor as well.

We have hung out on several occasions.. went out to eat dinner.. movies.. clubs/lounges/bars you name it. And have had a good time.

My cousin who is a cancer (also has scorpio as either his moon or ascending, forgot which one...) has also been coming out with us a lot because he knows her as well (dates back to when we hung out in high school)

Scenario: today her and my cousin decided to go somewhere about 1.5 hrs away from here to visit a girl friend of hers he met recently and expressed interest in (last weekend) and they will be basically staying the night down them, just them 3. I was invited but explained i couldn't go because I have work in the morning and can't be drinking/ partying all night. I guess basically i'm quite jealous of what is going on here and wondering if it is a safe situation to be in or am i literally OVERTHINKING the whole thing. I've observed both my cousin and hers interaction and have noticed that she does seem to flirt a little w/ him...from time to time, whether it's subconsciously or not..and only when she drinks. (they will be drinking tonight.. for sure.)

He's a funny guy and has jokes he's quite outgoing.. and i'd even go to say he's a womanizer..to some extent..but he knows where I stand w/ this girl.
I'm more the reserved type, quite introverted, shy, quite blunt, and sarcastic, and tell it how it is type of person..which she gets and understands as she is like that as well...

So, this has been bugging me all day since i found out they were both gonna go down together to se

Posted by Impulsv
Well u can rack ur brain but ur not together, u haven't expressed ur interest in her n franky nothing maybe happening between them. they invited u n U opted out.
I'm a scorp n we can make ourselves sick making up scenarios. Yes they may hook up but she single right? If she likes him more then that is what it is.
If you don't like it then tell her u want more. It maybe the case of how ask
Or makes moves first.

guess i left out a little bit.. i've expressed my feelings a bit.. to the point where i don't want to over bear her with it. Subtle things here and there, holding her hand, crossing arms, cooking for her, little small things here and there. I don't want to scare her away as I know she doesn't like all that girly girl stuff and has told me she doesn't like guys that are overly attached and smother her. She is single... i'm afraid if i express my feelings towards her too early she may throw her guard up and I may push her away.. i've heard capricorns take a while to figure out if they truly like someone or not and weigh all options?

Is your cousin going to meet her girlfriend? Is that why he went with her or did cousin express interest in your girl? This part I didn't understand.

Posted by FUM
Is your cousin going to meet her girlfriend? Is that why he went with her or did cousin express interest in your girl? This part I didn't understand.

my cousin was going to meet her girlfriend. But.... she didn't want him to go down alone, her girlfriend, and the girl i'm talking to.
Anyway, they both got back today and everything is good. I was just trippin and this always happens... so many different things run through my head when i care about someone.

thank you though

Posted by ryu8

Posted by Impulsv
Well u can rack ur brain but u
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guess i left out a little bit.. i've expressed my feelings a bit.. to the point where i don't want to over bear her with it. Subtle things here and there, holding her hand, crossing arms, cooking for her, little small things here and there. I don't want to scare her away as I know she doesn't like all that girly girl stuff and has told me she doesn't like guys that are overly attached and smother her. She is single... i'm afraid if i express my feelings towards her too early she may throw her guard up and I may push her away.. i've heard capricorns take a while to figure out if they truly like someone or not and weigh all options?

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Since you and the scorp girl are friends,try bringing up 'dating' and 'relationships' in a casual sounding conversation so that you know whether she is open to dating as of now.Also,you could try saying stuff like "Hey you and me have known each other for quite some time and its fantastic to note how we've managed to stay 'just friends'."

See her reaction,you will have your answers about whether or not to proceed further.

Pardon me,I misread her as a 'scorp girl'.

What I suggested might work just as well on a cap girl too🙂

Good luck.