Stages of Dating (Page 2)

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SouthernT
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18 Years

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"Instead of asking to buy the girl a drink ... he tells the hot chic that he comes with papers, and then a big grin, hoping to get his ears rubbed (or something else)"

It's sad, but it may end up being this way one day. Too much sexual promiscuity going on to not demand papers these days. (but that was funny P-Angel 🙂 )


"Papers? like what the AKC do? my sister bought a yellow lab and he came with papers. What? huh?"

LMAO...!!
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SouthernT
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18 Years

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"Seriously though, Southern .. no offense, but, why would a mother tell her daughter to be a Bad Girl? Did she really say that?"

It was my birthday and a perfect oppurtunity for her to bring up the fact that I am now 28 years old and still not married. She's also going through a this thing were she wants grandkids. So we went round and round about me being single and I told her about the guy that I like. And that's when she said what she said about sleeping with him. And I told her that it wasnt smart or safe health wise these days to use sex to try catch a guy. And she was like "well you can try to be a good girl if you want. But he's getting it from somebody and whoever she is, SHE'S the one that's going to end up winning him"

But needless to say, I never had any quidance when it came to guys. I'm out here like everybody else learning through trial and error.
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P-Angel
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"She's also going through a this thing were she wants grandkids."


lol .. she wants grandkids .. hahahahaha

Well, I get her point, even if it came out wrong.

What I think she's saying is that being sexually active with your man is something he NEEDS to feel complete with his woman. As we all know .. women are emotional, men are physical.

So, though, I understand where you feel like by being a good girl is the way to secure an emotional attachment with the man .. the other side of the coin is, he HAS to have the physical also. If not, then he will never be able to secure an attachment with you because since he's male .. his love is expressed in the physical form.


And she's probably right .. he will hook up with the woman who satisfies his physical needs. It's alright to withhold sex, and a woman should do this if she wants him to respect her .. but, NOT indefinitely. He can only get so far with loving woman, then it stops from evolving any further ... he HAS to have sexual compatibility also.
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SouthernT
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18 Years

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"And she's probably right .. he will hook up with the woman who satisfies his physical needs. It's alright to withhold sex, and a woman should do this if she wants him to respect her .. but, NOT indefinitely. He can only get so far with loving woman, then it stops from evolving any further ... he HAS to have sexual compatibility also."

Yeah she wants grandkids BAD right now. 🙂 So she's trying to really push me out there.

And yeah your right. Not indefinitley. And I dont think any woman (including myself) would have any problems giving the sex. But all a girl wants to know is if he actually cares about her and her well being. That's all. Simple. And at the same time, a guy usually knows if he cares about a girl regardless of if they have had sex or not. Right?
mmmm......new thread.
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Queenscorpio
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19 Years5,000+ PostsScorpio

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***queeny, you are so obviously bitter and covering it up with false confidence, that it is rather amusing***

Sorry you don't have the natural confidence I have, I am a scorp... You know confident and can pretty much intimidate you. Or even abuse you in some instances. Don't write a check your money can't cash sweety. As you can see, you are unable to stand up to a scorp on any level. Keep your misery to yourself... Not a bitter bone in my body or soul. I am very well loved and respected. Start respecting yourself and maybe someone else will... Cio!!!
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Queenscorpio
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19 Years5,000+ PostsScorpio

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Hmmm, there have been quite different dating occurances for me... They were all different actually.

Meet, hang out, kiss, shag, then learn last names.

email for a while, find out all about eachother (family children etc.) meet in person, then go on a trip together for first meet, then shag. (Long distance relationship)

Meet, hang out, make him wait a while (because you know he is a playa) then give him a taste. Then his heart is in the palm of your hand when you lay it on him, date, move in, then marriage, then divorce. LOL!!!

Go on a date, kiss, talk on the phone, finally shag, go on a couple dates, find out it isn't compatible and remain friends.

Talk on the phone off and on for awhile, go on a date, lose contact for a year, reconnect, still talk on the phone, really like eachother, haven't met in person, but for some strange reason, can't wait to meet and be around eachother. Oh, my bad I don't think this counts as dating yet.... LOL!!!

But ofcourse these were all libras accept for one. 😉
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Scorpionlady
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"Seriously, I have been told that I intimidate men when they are interested, until they actually have a conversation with me. I have asked several interested parties why they were intimidated initially (clearly they found a way to approach me, or I approached them- If I thought it was worth it ) - they say I have an unapproachable look, not mean or anuything just very confident. This kind of bothers me, because I am not purposely doing this... However, I really respect the men who approach me anyway. Confidence is attractive to confident women."

I have been told the same thing

If I see something I like then I am going to go get it...If I want to see what you have in your pants I am going to get it....if I want to see how you kiss I am going to get it...

I think all that wait wait wait is for the birds to me...what are you really waiting for?

How many dates do it take to decide if you want to be in a relationship....if the feeling hit you and you feel you are ready then approach the person with the idea and see how that goes...if they say no they are not ready then you need to respect that and either move on or continue the frendship but don't start complaining when the guy stops calling you because because yall are only friends remember.

I am going to let you know what I want expect and need from the begining and all during the friendship/relationship/fuck buddy etc.... if I have to wait on a man I may never get answer so I just put it out there, it's called taking a risk/chance.

I also believe that you should never pressure a man into doing something he does not want to do. I believe that when a man is ready for a relationship he will tell you in so many words and I believe that the relationship will last longer because it is something that he wants.

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Queenscorpio
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19 Years5,000+ PostsScorpio

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***How many dates do it take to decide if you want to be in a relationship....if the feeling hit you and you feel you are ready then approach the person with the idea and see how that goes...if they say no they are not ready then you need to respect that and either move on or continue the frendship but don't start complaining when the guy stops calling you because because yall are only friends remember.

I am going to let you know what I want expect and need from the begining and all during the friendship/relationship/ buddy etc.... if I have to wait on a man I may never get answer so I just put it out there, it's called taking a risk/chance.

I also believe that you should never pressure a man into doing something he does not want to do. I believe that when a man is ready for a relationship he will tell you in so many words and I believe that the relationship will last longer because it is something that he wants.****

Exactly... Scorplady are we twins separated at birth?
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MsAristocracy
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18 Years500+ PostsVirgo

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I will admit I am dysfunctional when it comes to relating to the opposite sex. 😢

If I were to give a few of those guys who sincerely wanted to get to know me the opportunity and try to be sincere back perhaps I would know the route of a healthy relationship.

But, that's just not my cup of tea. 😛

I pretty much am shocked whenever a relationship comes out of my sexual escapades. Which is rare because I usually get involved with men who have about as much of an effed up idea about relationships as I do. They're like me, perfect on the outside, needing work on the inside.

Can't help you much SouthernT however I will say that there is a healthy way and there is a normal way (how most of the world does it). It's difficult when you have to weed out the guys who want to relate healthily from the ones that are perfect on the outside and needing work on the inside.

I did Google if no one previously posted a link. >> http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=Stages+of+a+healthy+relationship