Desperate for advice-will try to keep this as brief as possible.
Met Taurus man online now 1.5years ago. I am Scorp Female and can't seem to break-free from him. My feelings for him are deep-more than I have felt for anyone since my marriage ended.
He has been slow and hesitate from the start-seems to be a true Taurus.
Then first meeting was kinda planned (he has very little free time as he works shift work and when he's off he has his kids(2)) He said he may have time between sports and kids but wasn't sure. He messaged later and said he would have a short time-I had fallen asleep and missed his msg He was deeply upset by this and then refused to meet me for so long. I apologized so much and when it comes up I still mention how horrible I feel. He said it made him realize he should focus on work and kids and he had been looking for casual only but he liked me more than that but he doesn't have time for more.
For almost a year I tried to convince him to meet me-always a no and eventually maybes.
Then there was a couple times we almost did-miscommunication and limited time prevented it. Then breaks(break meaning not much to no texting) here and there-after a long break he was back and we did finally meet! For a quick coffee but it was great. We continued to talk and then fast forward 6mths-a couple breaks again and then a second meeting at my home. Was last minute and short. I had my kid but he was asleep-I would never and have never let any man into my home when my kid was there. We seem to be very comfotable with each other and it was a great time(short though) There was no sex but there was some nudity There was a slight convo about trying to find more time.
Then holiday season came and both busy etc. I didn't expect much-we have talked but not a ton and very brief.
Sometimes I love the slowness bc I need that!! And then sometimes I think I'm being played-but this is one hell of a long game if that is the case.
So I guess my question is - does he actually like me or what? I still live my life and do what I want to but how long should I continue to hold out hope for anything?
I may not be much help but so far no one has really responded so I'll take a stab at it. This combo is tough because communication is a problem with taurus/scorps. Soooo this cat and mouse game is pretty characteristic of dating a taurus in the beginning.
He's still assessing you and how you will fit into his life. He's focused on his work and his kids and as long as you understand those are priorities for him and he May dissappear from time to time to deal with stress or take care of things it can work.
He must still be deciding on you because he's still in contact so he may very well like you it's just they need to be around you. He needs to have his 5 senses engaged and it seems you guys are having trouble connecting (schedule conflicts) which is why he may take a step back to refocus himself.
If it's really worth it to you hang in there that window of opportunity will present itself again and if it's meant things will happen naturally and flow smoothly. If not take that as a sign and start taking a step back yourself so that you can move on.
If he's really interested he'll make the time to spend with you. Not sure if you have met his kids or if you guys are even at that point but maybe you could plan a outing that you all could enjoy. Maybe you could offer to come to the kids games show your support and leave. Next time you all could go for pizza afterward. Find ways to incorporate yourself in his life. If he's not ready or keeps you at a distance even after you've made the effort-- take that as your cue and exit stage left.
PhoenixRising: I wouldn't say I have wasted 2years - I have still been living my life and have dated as well.
I can't explain why I feel deeply for him - I know it seems crazy and half the time I think I am in fact crazy! Lol. I just feel a great connection to him like I have never before and I cannot understand it myself. I don't feel like it has always been one-sided but perhaps it has and I have not noticed nor cared.
No I don't think it should take this long for someone to decide - it is bc of what I have read about Taurus men that the slowness makes sense...kind of...even as I type I shake my head at myself bc I realize how insane it seems.
Sometimes I think it is him but then sometimes I see from his side and it could seem like I am the one giving 'scraps' - bc of the napping first time and then I don't say yes often - it is me a lot that says no bc I am busy. However I do have more time than he does. I also stopped asking him for time months ago - I no longer put forth much effort.
I really appreciate your response and the directness might be just what I need to either end it and move on or to be very clear with him as to what I want (that convo was so long ago that the answer has changed)
There is one other thing that I just don't understand - if just casual and I did offer that at one point why not act on it? Why continue with chatting with none of what he said he was looking for? Nudity just one time seems odd - casual isn't that hard to find so why is he wasting his time with me when there is so little time for even casual if that is what he wants from me.
Also side question - new to posting on here and wondering how do you paste and bold things others post and then add the comment on them?