Texting

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by taurusgirl9000 on Monday, January 14, 2019 and has 11 replies.
I'm involved with a Venus in Scorpio who is doing the hot and cold thing. I think it's worse because we are currently long distance and haven't had "the talk" where we define our status.

He is now doing this thing where he doesn't respond to my text for like a week at a time. He doesn't even open the chat app to read it, so there's no read receipts on them for a week. It feels like he doesn't care. I don't do follow up texts, I just let my text sit there and wait. Before he would reply every day. I can't tell if he's losing interest or playing games. Each time he replies like it's the same day and never acknowledges the lapse, and I also never say anything or allude to the time lapse.

I have a Scorpio rising, Mars, Pluto, and Saturn, so I am very familiar with Scorpio's energy in my own life. I personally think he is testing me and taking time away to sort out his own feelings...

My question is: Should I start to mirror his behavior?

I say hes done.

Id just stop initiating, give him space.
Posted by Jade_Alexander

I say hes done.

Id just stop initiating, give him space.
His last text ended with a question. So I'm just going to wait a couple of days and answer it and not try to continue the convo. Just give him space.
Posted by taurusgirl9000

Posted by Jade_Alexander

I say hes done.

Id just stop initiating, give him space.
His last text ended with a question. So I'm just going to wait a couple of days and answer it and not try to continue the convo. Just give him space.
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My ego wint allow me to keep trying. Like I just dont want to bother someone who isn’t interested.

Im a scorpio venus.... I can assure you I do not ignore those who catch my interest.
Posted by Biboroon

I’m kind of in the same boat just not dating. He’s on another continent and we have been talking through mails for two months. In the beginning he would reply at the same time a few times every day, and now he only replies once a day. It doesn’t bother me that much because we are not in a relationship but we are flirting heavily (we were fwbs before) and he was really hot in the beginning, well he is also hot now (his texts are still sexy and intense) just not so regular.

Well, what I did was start mirroring him. There are days when I don’t reply at all and wait until the next day to do so. I don’t know yet what it will accomplish but I’ll see.

Btw, his moon in also in scorpio.
Well when we first started talking, before we met, he didn't reply to me for a couple of days, and I mirrored him, and then suddenly he was hitting me back right away. I think it will work in the beginning stage but now we've established a lot of intimacy and I think he's afraid of what he's starting to feel for me. Our situation is so complex... I honestly think it's the complexity that is attracting the Scorpio energy in one another to each other...
I agree... I think it would be so much better if we were living in the same place. But this behaviour makes my Mars go red with rage... His Mars is in Libra... so there's a disconnect there...
Posted by rmactavish

Typical Scorpio behaviour when they've lost interest.

You mirror this they lose interest even more cuz they think you're unreliable, you be submissive to it and continue playing this game they think they have you in their palm.

Just break the ice and confront him on why he's doing it. The other two options will only end up with a bad result.


I feel exposed. Stop giving out my playbook.
Posted by tiziani

Do what you feel is right for you.
Ooooooooh this is such a good answer!!! But you also know, that as soon as we start asking shit like this, we are already too involved trying to figure out who he wants us to be so we can morph into that.
Erm if its long distance there is prolly a time change difference in play which is prolly why there are long lapse in his response time cause he is catching zzz'ssss
Posted by LadyNeptune

Erm if its long distance there is prolly a time change difference in play which is prolly why there are long lapse in his response time cause he is catching zzz'ssss
Gee whiz, never thought of that before... ya don't say... etc.
Posted by tiziani

Do what you feel is right for you.
Loving the Triggerani update.

Also loving the sweet but simple advice.

I agree.

Ghosting as a test has never made sense to me. A Scorpio guy did that to me a couple months ago...ish. Then I moved to Phoenix and when he finally did message me I was like “I decided to move to Phoenix.” It was a wrap. Don’t play along with other peoples’ games. It’s a waste of your time. It amazes me how they don’t see it as a waste of their own time either, but here we are.

I didn’t read the whole thread, but that’s my spiel. I got too distracted by Triggerani